the most messed up relationship / societal happenings you are aware of

**Tactical Panda** · 04-01-2011, 09:19 PM

Hello INTJf,

What are the most messed up relationship and societal occurances and situations you are aware of that are happening to people you know?

I wish to know because I like to think that

knowing of the problem is the first step to understanding a problem and fixing it,
ignorance sucks, and
I like to quietly prevent problems before they may happen.

This thread may become a depressing list of bad relationships, power struggles, manipulation, lies and explanations of the general dynamics of specific forms of abuse.

Please feel free to post possible practical solutions to solving these problems, otherwise it may become too depressing and hopeless.

**Cake** · 04-02-2011, 01:19 AM

that story of the guy who locked up and raped his own daughter in germany for many years.

incest-rape i pretty bad.

**Tactical Panda** · 04-02-2011, 05:38 AM

	Originally Posted by Cake To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	that story of the guy who locked up and raped his own daughter in germany for many years. incest-rape i pretty bad.

Is that sort of thing widespread or likely to be encountered?
I'd like to think not, yet I wouldn't really know at this moment.

**ZincLysine** · 04-02-2011, 06:57 AM

These are just some my observations really, rather than anything famous.

Either minority women women judging minority men of the same background harsher than other groups or the lack of socialsation between cetain groups in society (educated people from small towns with low ethnic diversity come to mind) and thus having a lot of erroneous pre-judgments and sterotypes about these people before they have even spoken. I guess girls who try to justify their actions by the terms "how comes its okay if a guy does it," is something messed up too. Its the idea that everyone else is doing it, so low standards is alright for me too. If that's how they want to live, go for it, except you'll get exactly what you deserve that way.

I wish more people should think like this: most people are harmless and you've never even spoken to them or had a chance to get to know them. Yet many people make an assessment of someone based on a few superficialities. Try not to judge people too quickly.

**Reddkatz** · 04-04-2011, 10:54 AM

Stories where teenage girls are pregnant and are too scared to tell their parents and end up throwing their newborns in dumpster/toilet/etc because of that. I really wish parents would educate their kids more than just being abstinent. They are going to have sex regardless of you knowing or not and whether you want them to or not. It's human nature to do so.

**MortalWombat** · 04-04-2011, 12:35 PM

	Originally Posted by Tactical Panda To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	Is that sort of thing widespread or likely to be encountered? I'd like to think not, yet I wouldn't really know at this moment.

My psychologist claims 1 in every 4 women have been sexually abused, and it is most common within families.

**Darth Revan** · 04-04-2011, 12:41 PM

All of this is news to me; haven't been paying attention to the world for a while.

**Beric** · 04-04-2011, 12:52 PM

Well, I've been in college 2 quarters now as a junior transfer. Been to a community college, and was homeschooled before that. The copious amounts of alcohol consumed simply due to peer pressure and feelings of the moment is astounding here at a 4-year university. If no college students drank alcohol, no college students would begin drinking. The mob rule, peer pressure, etc. mentality is almost depressing. Everyone wants to be different than everyone by being the same as everyone else. I see artificial or poor relationships that won't last, and upon breaking, will cause more pain than they gave. A focus on pleasure now, rather than any future outlooks whatsoever. An insistence on excessive swearing (even by professors) for no gain, but simply to seek attention and focus on what someone is saying, for comedic effect. An ignoring of rules whenever there is something to be gained.

Yes, that sounds elitist. But hey, I'll be out of here in 4 quarters and onto the working world.

04-01-2011, 09:19 PM	#1
Tactical Panda Core Member [133%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Oct 2009 Posts: 5,328	Hello INTJf, What are the most messed up relationship and societal occurances and situations you are aware of that are happening to people you know? I wish to know because I like to think that knowing of the problem is the first step to understanding a problem and fixing it, ignorance sucks, and I like to quietly prevent problems before they may happen. This thread may become a depressing list of bad relationships, power struggles, manipulation, lies and explanations of the general dynamics of specific forms of abuse. Please feel free to post possible practical solutions to solving these problems, otherwise it may become too depressing and hopeless.
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04-02-2011, 01:19 AM	#2
Cake Member [04%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Apr 2008 Posts: 197	that story of the guy who locked up and raped his own daughter in germany for many years. incest-rape i pretty bad.
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04-02-2011, 06:57 AM	#4
ZincLysine Member [27%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Oct 2009 Posts: 1,111	These are just some my observations really, rather than anything famous. Either minority women women judging minority men of the same background harsher than other groups or the lack of socialsation between cetain groups in society (educated people from small towns with low ethnic diversity come to mind) and thus having a lot of erroneous pre-judgments and sterotypes about these people before they have even spoken. I guess girls who try to justify their actions by the terms "how comes its okay if a guy does it," is something messed up too. Its the idea that everyone else is doing it, so low standards is alright for me too. If that's how they want to live, go for it, except you'll get exactly what you deserve that way. I wish more people should think like this: most people are harmless and you've never even spoken to them or had a chance to get to know them. Yet many people make an assessment of someone based on a few superficialities. Try not to judge people too quickly.
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04-04-2011, 10:54 AM	#5
Reddkatz Core Member [184%] MBTI: InTJ Join Date: Feb 2011 Posts: 7,383	Stories where teenage girls are pregnant and are too scared to tell their parents and end up throwing their newborns in dumpster/toilet/etc because of that. I really wish parents would educate their kids more than just being abstinent. They are going to have sex regardless of you knowing or not and whether you want them to or not. It's human nature to do so.
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04-04-2011, 12:41 PM	#7
Darth Revan Banned MBTI: INTP Join Date: Mar 2011 Posts: 99	All of this is news to me; haven't been paying attention to the world for a while.
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04-04-2011, 12:52 PM	#8
Beric Member [33%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Jan 2011 Posts: 1,331	Well, I've been in college 2 quarters now as a junior transfer. Been to a community college, and was homeschooled before that. The copious amounts of alcohol consumed simply due to peer pressure and feelings of the moment is astounding here at a 4-year university. If no college students drank alcohol, no college students would begin drinking. The mob rule, peer pressure, etc. mentality is almost depressing. Everyone wants to be different than everyone by being the same as everyone else. I see artificial or poor relationships that won't last, and upon breaking, will cause more pain than they gave. A focus on pleasure now, rather than any future outlooks whatsoever. An insistence on excessive swearing (even by professors) for no gain, but simply to seek attention and focus on what someone is saying, for comedic effect. An ignoring of rules whenever there is something to be gained. Yes, that sounds elitist. But hey, I'll be out of here in 4 quarters and onto the working world.
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