[BlackFlames]

Unless your at work, are you annoyed when asked to look for something? My mom would say "Hey go look in my car and see if I left my phone in there" and when I come back and say "I didnt see it" she has the nerve to get an attitude or annoyed with me for not seeing it. That is mostly part of my irritation the fact that people have the nerve to have an attitude when you don't bring back whats expected. I feel like being asked to look for something is cutting into my alone time. I've never asked anyone can they help me look for anything because I think I'll be cutting into their time as well. I might say "have you seen so and so" but I won't expect them to get up and search for something I misplaced.

[MrSoloDolo]

Sounds like yo mama's a bitch! Your mom and my mom should meet so they can be irrational and emotional together!!!

[MaybeThanh]

I don't mind getting asked for help.

If it's something I know I can do and they can't, I'll gladly lend a hand. If it's something they're able to do, but they're too lazy, I'll give them no second thought.

For friends, though, I'd do nearly anything.

[Paul Siraisi]

Depends on whether I know the asker to be a life-long slob who can't get off her stupid ass to find her infantile social toy that she lost in her self-indulgent vehicle or not.

Lucky for me, that kind of repulsive laziness is rare in my life, and I generally consider looking for lost things a fun challenge. I pretty much never lose anything myself, though, so that probably influences my attitude even then.

[Monte314]

Yes, to my shame I must admit that this really annoys me. My wife knows this, of course, so she doesn't ask me to do this unless it's really essential.

But she is also clever enough to know that if I *know* she and my daughters are looking for something, I'll start looking, too, in an effort to find it first and amaze them with my "hunting skills".

She always makes a big deal out of it when I find something first. Yeah, it's one of those dumb "guy" things... but hey... I'm a dumb guy!

[jennkaye73]

Depends on who it is. If it is someone who has a tendency to half-ass look for things then yes.

[chalice]

'help' look for something is ok.

if it's something urgent, then i'll help, no problem. if it's something not so important and the person is perfectly capable of handling it on his/her own, then i won't bother.

the key word here is 'help'. help someone find something is ok, finding something for a lazy someone is out of the question. i don't value other's personal/free time more than my own. my mother knows that and she'd ask me to find something for her only if it was me who last saw/used the object in question or if she is busy/in a hurry.
it's my sister that gets on my nerves. she's an extremely lazy person and would always make someone do/find her things for her. aw, i despise this.

i don't like asking people to find things for me, i'm sure i'm perfectly capable of doing it on my own. of course the occasional 'have you seen this ?' is ok.

[pff]

	Originally Posted by Monte314 To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	But she is also clever enough to know that if I *know* she and my daughters are looking for something, I'll start looking, too, in an effort to find it first and amaze them with my "hunting skills". She always makes a big deal out of it when I find something first. Yeah, it's one of those dumb "guy" things... but hey... I'm a dumb guy!

This made me laugh.....you have some very crafty women in your life
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I don't mind helping people who ask me but if they get irritated with me while I'm helping them then all bets are off, that's just plain rude.

[Autumnleaf]

	Originally Posted by jennkaye73 To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	Depends on who it is. If it is someone who has a tendency to half-ass look for things then yes.

This^. If someone who I know could do it asks me to I say, 'Sure.' and ignore them. At work when this happens I try to help if I'm not doing something important. If I am I finish what I'm doing and then help them.

[jennkaye73]

	Originally Posted by Autumnleaf To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	This^. If someone who I know could do it asks me to I say, 'Sure.' and ignore them. At work when this happens I try to help if I'm not doing something important. If I am I finish what I'm doing and then help them.

I meant yes it irritates me if it is someone I know is the type to be careless and lazy and asks for my help. I won't do it, did it before and it turned into a habit for that person so now I just say no.

[zibber]

No. I'm not.

Calm down.

[karenann33]

Sounds like you have an irritating mom. I rarely ask my kids or husband to help me look for something unless I'm running late or it's an emergency.

I live in a house with two males (son and a husband). Neither of them can find anything and yes sometimes it's annoying. They couldn't find a 2 liter of soda in the fridge...seriously.

[jadefalcon]

I would be irritated in that situation. One thing that I have trouble doing is saying "no". Tactfully, you could state that you are busy. I think about it like this: why sacrifice your introspective time to satisfy someone's laziness? I am impressed if your mother understands that concept.

If vehement disagreements arise when introducing this concept, like in the case of my father, then other problems are a foot.

[Marcus Septim]

Usually im irked,especialy when they want me to give directions
But it depends whos asking too

[True Rune]

Yes, if they're whiny about it. Otherwise I keep an eye out.

[ZerroDefex]

If you ask me to help you find something you better hope it actually is hard to find, 'cause if it turns out to be lying right out in the open where anyone could see it the resulting mockery will be severe.

[1superkawaii]

Drives me insane. I have a place for everything and keep things organized. It seems people cant find what is in front of them and cant take care of their own stuff. I have no interest in keeping track of what someone else is responsible for, but I guess that's my job.

[Darth Revan]

Personally; it matters what it is I am looking for.

[SnakeMXIM]

It depends on,
1) What I am doing at that moment,
2) Who is asking,
3) What it is that needs to be found,
4) The urgency factor, and
5) My general mood can also influence my reaction.

[Savvysavy]

Yes. My mom and sister always ask for me to look for things they lost. It really irks me. Especially when I ask them where they last had it and they don't know.

[Sazeriel]

I enjoy being helpful, but it bothers me when people don't accept that you can't find something.

'Hey can you look for ____?'
*can't find it*
'What do you mean you can't find it!!!? You're useless! I'll go look for it myself!!!'
... you DID ask me...

Often times I'll decline to help look for things. You can never really trust people to look for something thoroughly, you know? Might as well just give them the chance to do it themselves.

[CaptainAwesome]

Yes. My bro is like "Help me find (insert item)" and I'm like "Grrrrrrr......" but silently, and I do it anyway

[ElstonGunn]

It bothers me if it's something that I think shouldn't have been lost. If it's something you haven't used in a year and you can't remember where it is, that's one thing. But if it's something you use every day, like your keys or your phone or your wallet, then I'm annoyed. I subscribe to the unreasonably stringent opinion that there's no reason to lose those kinds of things, ever.

[jraider66]

I know what you mean. I'm usually as helpful as I can be but my mother used to act like some kind of quest giver at times. "Could you run to the store for me and get some beef?", "Could you take my car and get it washed and vacuumed?". I would usually give in but eventually I would just try and stay the hell out of her way when she was a motivated quest giver, lol. I would hear her assigning quests to my stepdad. Occasionally she would come and find me to do these things when it was my time and that's when I always put my foot down.

It's just really disruptive in general, lol. Like you said, I don't ask other people to do things for me unless they owe me for doing something for them. I think that's fair. I'm never the one that owes someone else for some reason. hmmm
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[BlackFlames]

	Originally Posted by ElstonGunn To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	It bothers me if it's something that I think shouldn't have been lost. If it's something you haven't used in a year and you can't remember where it is, that's one thing. But if it's something you use every day, like your keys or your phone or your wallet, then I'm annoyed. I subscribe to the unreasonably stringent opinion that there's no reason to lose those kinds of things, ever.

EXACTLY. "Can you go see if I left my phone in the care"
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YOU JUST FUCKING HAD IT!