[Chr0n0s]

*venting:ON*

So I would like to express some frustrations and hear your opinion. I'm a HS senior and will graduate with about 60 credits worth of community college credit and I feel slightly burned out. I'm taking calc-based physics right now along with calc 3 and i think I will fail physics considering that so far I've gotten 60% on my 2 tests; my only chance is the final exam which has the opportunity to replace my all of my other test scores and be my grade. I am very scared, because this class has a great opportunity to completely mutilate my gpa (3.9), and most likely kill the opportunity to transfer to a really good university. I don't know whether I should take a brake.. but I'm honestly scared to take one.

On top of this.. I have my mother who is on my neck about my decisions to change my *Future* college major. I went from being a doctor>pharmacist>chemist>electrical engineer>computer scientist... yesterday when she heard that I want to do CS she had a semi-nervous brake down and she said she will *get back at me*... presumably for choosing an easier route, or "wasting" my potential.

Now, If the chance were given to me, I would take a programming/IT job and just move as far away as possible from my mother. The problem is that I wasn't even able to program much in my spare time because my spare time is inexistent, or constantly being used on stressing out about all of this crap.

I wish i haven't gone to college at all and just put up and done well in HS. -_- Now she thinks im some kind of prodigy kid and wants me to make as much money as possible; and the knack is that she constantly contradicts herself. One day it seems it is noble to do mathematics, the other she wants me to be a manger straight out of school and be super sociable. She wants me to learn German, because she hated German. She seems to want me to be the best at what she was the worst, as if to make herself feel better by telling other people "My son is a engineer/doctor/lawyer ".

I don't know why but im constantly feeling like I'm being degraded for liking computers and programming. I just feel like if I really tell her what im thinking, she will kick me out of the house; seriously.

I don't know what to do. Time just seems to be flying by and there seems to be no time to think!?.

[Megalomania]

Do what you want to do. You don't exist for the purpose of remedying your mother's insecurities.

[Chr0n0s]

I will do that anyway... I just hope she wont do something crazy -_-.

[sunshinekisses]

Your mother is already living her own life and currently wants to live yours too. Run! Just kidding. She just loves you, cares about you and wants what she thinks is the best for you, but she also wants to brag about you to other people which can be annoying. She's seems controlling but she's still your mother. Still, no matter how much your mother wants to takeover your life, it's still yours. Take good care of it!

[Gameboob]

Wow dude, I'm impressed. 60 credits and you haven't even graduated High School!? You're way ahead of most people. There's no sense in rushing if you miss out on your life. Slow down dude, otherwise you'll look back at all the normal things you missed while you were trying to do too much and feel like you missed out on the more meaningful things. You need to spend time with yourself meditating on things, don't always be doing.

Your mother sounds like she has her own issues that need resolving. I don't know your relationship with her, but if it's any good I suggest you work things out. Like I mean sit down with the intent of setting her straight about your want for authenticity and autonomy. I suggest looking up Marshall Rosenberg and his "non-violent communication" to do this effectively, but it's not necessary (though, NVC is good thing to know anyways, so I suggest you take a look into it once you've made time for yourself).

So just remember that it's your life and you need to take things at a proper pace and remember to enjoy things. I suggest you study a little existentialism as well, that stuff is gold.

Anyways, I hope you work things out =]

[Autumnleaf]

Tell her what she wants to hear and do whatever you want.

[coupdhaha]

I think she loves you and wants you to be everything that she never could be, or failed to be. Perhaps she is concerned you'll fall into the same holes that she did.

[lisakki]

Well if your goal is to make as much money as possible she's probably right, because a doctor/surgeon in a nice specialty will pretty much always beat a computer science salary in the long run unless you have a successful start up or something.

Why don't you just tell her you feel sick doing dissections or looking at pictures of people with diseases? My mom actually went to med school and her pathology textbook was really nasty: you had pictures of mutilated people, pus, sores, and other stuff. Most of the really high paying specialties are incredibly disgusting, like GI doctors. You can't help it if you can't stand putting in long hours looking up old people's anuses everyday.

[childofprodigy]

	Originally Posted by Chr0n0s To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	*venting:ON* So I would like to express some frustrations and hear your opinion. I'm a HS senior and will graduate with about 60 credits worth of community college credit and I feel slightly burned out. I'm taking calc-based physics right now along with calc 3 and i think I will fail physics...etc etc etc

Dude, are you like Asian or something....It's your life, not your mom's.....make a decision that will make you happy not your mom (unless your mom is so evil that she won't pay your college tuition if you don't do what she says)

But to be honest, health care is a good choice since someone's gonna have to take care of those retiring boomers so you probably won't be cash strapped if you're in health care (if you manage to get your foot in the door)....but on the other side of that health care has lots of painful requirements (residency, internship, etc) that will consume $$$ and time and energy and torture so keep that in mind....

Also dissecting dead people is not exactly fun

[PRBori]

You have to do what your heart desires. My mom was the same way, she wanted to rule my life and I packed up my things and head out my way at 16. I worked at McDonalds making the minimum wage and rented rooms while I went to school and work. You will need this type of survival skills in the event you decided to go your way.

This is a personal choice that you and only you can make. It should not be based on what your parents want you to do, but what you yourself want to do.

Take it from experience. I love my mom and there is nothing in the world I wouldn't do for her, but for my own sake, I had to do things on my own. That said, had I stayed and taken her route I wouln't be who I am today. I'm not perfect, but I'm certainly doing a whole lot better than my old peers.

If you are interested in IT, I highly recommend a Technical School which is 6m to 2yrs, depending on th course. This will allow you to get a good paying job and in turn can help you with paying for college, as most companies will be more than happy to pay for your classes while you work for them.

I don't have any college or anything like that. I'm in IT and I make really good money, but I also have lots of experience and a very diverse set of skills that are not normally found. I went to a technical school and took off from there. It's not hard once you enter the field. Just remember that is a never ending field, meaning you will have to keep up with technology changes every 3 to 6 months in order to survive, and the more diverse you are, the better.

Programming is good; however cyber security is a hot area to be in, not only because it is a good paying job, but because it will offer you job stability hardly found on any other field in this economy.

Either way, that's just my two cents. At the end you have to do what's best for you. Good Luck!!

[Tactical Panda]

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	the other she wants me to be a manger straight out of school and be super sociable.

It sounds like she doesn't really get what you would be good at, what sort of job you could stand working in for an entire career, and how to get your potential to effectively work.

If she didn't make good decisions in these areas in her own life and didn't learn from her mistakes... how competent can she really be in these areas, and how valuable and accurate is her opinions on these matters?

Just an opinion.

[chaostheory]

Don't miss out on life.

You'll do fine.

[plotthickens]

Micro-managing self-contradicting Mom sounds like a terror, to herself and you. Therapy! Yes! PLEASE!

And: take a freakin' break. Take a semester off. Colleges actually like such folks better. Really: do the research.
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[static]

Many people I went to school with biff physics 1, especially at the college I was attending. This included many 4.0 students.

Try your hardest and see what happens. If it doesn't go so well it is not a door closer, it is a character builder.

If you want to do a comp sci degree, go for it! Plenty of opportunities with that degree.

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oh btw, How is calc 3 going?

Multi-variable??

[astrolite]

Some times I think I'm one of the few people alive that puts more focus on learning at my own pace vs. memorizing shit to pass a test to simply move on to the next.

If you want to be successful, slow down and actually learn what you will need to know. If you burn yourself out and forget what you learned in a few months, what is the point?

[JEP]

Ever thought about finding some middle ground and going into computer engineering. You still get to learn about many of the things CS majors do, but you also get to learn the basics of EE and learn how to write code on a very low level, i.e. assembly. I'm EE and have a bunch of friends in CompE. They get to learn about programming algorithms, write their own operating system, design their own processors, and loads of other cool stuff. CompEs and EEs tend to deal with lower level languages such as assembly while CS majors tend to deal with higher level languages. The same principles apply to both high and lower level, but it's much more difficult to teach yourself low level languages.

Most of the networking companies higher a lot of CompEs, but you could easily change your mind and work for places like Google, Intel, Nvidia, or Microsoft/Apple.

My parents stressed me out, too. I just kept telling myself to separate everything into things that were in my control and things that were outside of my control. That way, no matter what my parent's said, I wouldn't beat myself up about things I had no influence over. In other words, do your due diligence and after that, it's out of your hands.

I wouldn't stress too much about the physics class. When applying to universities, they'll be happy to see you're so far ahead, and that you can handle coursework beyond the high school level. My junior year in high school I was taking 7 AP courses and the most difficult course my school offered (an IB course). I had straight A's until about two weeks before Christmas break and I just fell apart. Too many all nighters, too much work, too much stress.

Stories like that, and like your problems with the physics class, turn into great anecdotes in job/internship interviews. They love asking questions like "So give me an example of when you failed, and how did you handle it?" Then you can tell them the story about how you found your limitations, how you adjusted to it, and how you picked yourself back up afterwards.

This time next year, none of this will matter. No one cares about high school once you're in college.

[Nickator]

I too am a HS senior, also taking calc based physics, fun isn't it?

File for emancipation then file your FAFSA to colleges saying your income is $0?

Otherwise I recommend getting into a big fight with your parents if you have too, I hate emotions but sometimes communicating through shouting/emotions tells people you are serious.

I actually have to fake emotions to get people to take me serious at times.

[Antares]

I'm a high school senior, and while I don't have this problem, I know several who do. I told them to take the "radical" way and of course, try to pay for as much of their own education as possible. I don't think it's doable or even wise to conceal things from your parents so as much as I would like to go through four years and graduate with a degree of my own choosing, it's just highly stupid. I don't think she will /really/ kick you out of the house.

Anyway. I guess that if it comes to me, nothing my mother can say or do will keep me from pursuing my own interests. I will accumulate debt and work 20 hours a week if that's what it takes.

[Reddkatz]

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	Also dissecting dead people is not exactly fun

I look forward to dissecting dead people
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Originally Posted by Chr0n0s To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.

*venting:ON* So I would like to express some frustrations and hear your opinion. I'm a HS senior and will graduate with about 60 credits worth of community college credit and I feel slightly burned out. I'm taking calc-based physics right now along with calc 3 and i think I will fail physics considering that so far I've gotten 60% on my 2 tests; my only chance is the final exam which has the opportunity to replace my all of my other test scores and be my grade. I am very scared, because this class has a great opportunity to completely mutilate my gpa (3.9), and most likely kill the opportunity to transfer to a really good university. I don't know whether I should take a brake.. but I'm honestly scared to take one.

Have you told your mother that you burning out from school? You may actually need to take that break after high school to recover, it also lets you figure out what you want to do.

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On top of this.. I have my mother who is on my neck about my decisions to change my *Future* college major. I went from being a doctor>pharmacist>chemist>electrical engineer>computer scientist... yesterday when she heard that I want to do CS she had a semi-nervous brake down and she said she will *get back at me*... presumably for choosing an easier route, or "wasting" my potential. I don't know what to do. Time just seems to be flying by and there seems to be no time to think!?.

Parents like to have this thing in their head where all of their kids will be the one that cures cancer or be the first one on Mars. It is your life, you are the one that can see yourself be successful and happy in your career choice. The nagging will be hard to hear, but do what you think will make you happy, and if she sees you happy instead of stressed out as you are right now, maybe she will come around.