[Fishy]

Once an INTJ has his or her eyes set on something, that's the way its going to go. People who try to mold an INTJ to their own way, are committing a major mistake. You can't bend an INTJ. This puts an INTJ under great stress and frustration.

Once upon a time, long ago, I decided I wanted to do something in aviation or aerospace engineering. Living in Florida for my entire life, since the age of 8, I loved the space shuttle culture, studying about the universe, aviation technology, and astronomy. As a plus, I loved physics, chemistry, and math. I was really good at it and enjoyed the complex problem solving.

My Asian parents however, pushed me into becoming a Doctor. It was only until recently that I rebelled against them, and decided to pursue something else. Unfortunately I rebelled at the age of 24 (specifically, a couple months ago). I was miserable doing medicine, and I sucked at it. It made me feel stupid, when I knew I wasn't stupid.

I feel a great amount of frustration because of this. I actually felt really incapable, and thought something was seriously wrong with me. That's when I started researching temperaments, and took the test several times. I got INTJ, and decided to look up the description just to better understand myself.

Though, I still have an interest for aerospace and aviation. My interest area switched and grew towards Economics/Business/and Finance, and I find that entire field intriguing. I am now taking classes Microeconomics, Financial Accounting, Statistics, being a few and have found them to be very interesting.

It feels great to have control over what I want to do in life, finally.

[Fryman58]

Not sure if you have control yet, but clearly you are on the right path.

A journey of a thousand miles begins with one step

So good luck and never give up! I experience 10 miserable failures before I get 1 glorious success.

[Chameleon]

Be weary of our undoing. If it has perceived answer we will forever grow to the challenge. However, if we see the end drawing near our minds will reject it and boredom will sink our ship. I believe you have chosen a great path that is ever changing. Stay true to it and remember that we love to prove others wrong; use your parents as the fuel you need. Show the world what you're 'made of'.

[Tactical Panda]

	Originally Posted by Fishy To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	It feels great to have control over what I want to do in life, finally.

You always knew what you wanted
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Like others suggested, it was setting out in that direction that made you happy.

[Foxodi]

It would be interesting to see a study done on the economic/wellbeing costs associated with asian parents forcing their children to go into some arbitrary field. My accounting/finance degree is full of asians, and such a high percentage of them are doing it solely for their parents - even though many already plan to do something completely unrelated after they get their degree.

Besides from the obvious (and HUGE) wellbeing costs, there would be other huge costs involved such as lower workforce productivity (due to many skilled people not actually enjoying their field) and a distortion of the supply of skilled labor (to arbitrary high prestige/stable jobs like doctors, accountants or lawyers)

[Hellraiser]

"Never Say Never" - And usually the wishes of your parents have very little to do in your success in life but more so in their lives.

[Autumnleaf]

Good for you. Never give up.

[Nickator]

Yeah i compromised with my parents, just do 2 degrees in college then off to law school

[searcheagle]

	Originally Posted by Fishy To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	Once an INTJ has his or her eyes set on something, that's the way its going to go. People who try to mold an INTJ to their own way, are committing a major mistake. You can't bend an INTJ. This puts an INTJ under great stress and frustration.

I've found this too but in a different area. (My parents were supportive of my career choices, fortunately.)

For me, I've found this to be true when it came to alcohol. For me, I never saw the point in alcohol. When parties came, people would try to push me into it. Yet, the harder they pushed, the more I refused to even consider it. I will not be rushed into decisions, unless there is a true reason for the urgency. If you rush me, I suspect bad things and will be looking for the trap.

[Moniker9]

Good on ya mate. It's very important to have that direction. I think to INTJs it's a feeling comparable to finding a partner, you know "the one". The thing that completes you, for intjs anyway.

[JackCY]

	Originally Posted by Fishy To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	Once an INTJ has his or her eyes set on something, that's the way its going to go. People who try to mold an INTJ to their own way, are committing a major mistake. You can't bend an INTJ. This puts an INTJ under great stress and frustration. ...

Tell me about it... I want to do something else, but I can't, so I want to solve the problem anyway but I look at it up-down but my supervisor down-up without specific needs, so I'm f***ed, in stress for a half a year and completely down as I never was.

Never ever let anybody tell you what to do, if you feel like it. Just set your course and go for it, do what you wanna do, the way you like to do it.

Studying something you don't like, don't want, is a no go.
Good for you, finally a good change, enjoy it
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[Wongette]

Totally understand. Rebelled at age 15 against being the dutiful Asian math & science student and went into the defense field rather than science/engineering/medicine. Have never regretted it.

[Strange]

"Everyonce in awhile it really hits someone that they don't have to experience life the way they have been told to." ~Anon

[benr3600]

	Originally Posted by Hellraiser To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	"Never Say Never" - And usually the wishes of your parents have very little to do in your success in life but more so in their lives.

This is very true. When I was in HS a friend of a friend was a state record-breaking distance runner. I always wondered why she was dangerously skinny, noticeable even among her rail-like competition. Turns out her dad was running her into the ground, literally; she had stress fractures in her feet and she was either anorexic or bulimic. She died because of malnourishment issues at the age of 20. Her parents pushed her into IB this, AP that in school, and she was eventually found cheating. But her parents wouldn't accept anything less than an elite school.
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[manutdman]

How far are you into med school?

If you hate it, DEFINITELY don't continue.

[sunlover]

Originally Posted by Fishy To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.

Once an INTJ has his or her eyes set on something, that's the way its going to go. People who try to mold an INTJ to their own way, are committing a major mistake. You can't bend an INTJ. This puts an INTJ under great stress and frustration. Once upon a time, long ago, I decided I wanted to do something in aviation or aerospace engineering. Living in Florida for my entire life, since the age of 8, I loved the space shuttle culture, studying about the universe, aviation technology, and astronomy. As a plus, I loved physics, chemistry, and math. I was really good at it and enjoyed the complex problem solving. My Asian parents however, pushed me into becoming a Doctor. It was only until recently that I rebelled against them, and decided to pursue something else. Unfortunately I rebelled at the age of 24 (specifically, a couple months ago). I was miserable doing medicine, and I sucked at it. It made me feel stupid, when I knew I wasn't stupid. I feel a great amount of frustration because of this. I actually felt really incapable, and thought something was seriously wrong with me. That's when I started researching temperaments, and took the test several times. I got INTJ, and decided to look up the description just to better understand myself. Though, I still have an interest for aerospace and aviation. My interest area switched and grew towards Economics/Business/and Finance, and I find that entire field intriguing. I am now taking classes Microeconomics, Financial Accounting, Statistics, being a few and have found them to be very interesting. It feels great to have control over what I want to do in life, finally.

Well,INTJ or not in another 20 years or so you'll look back and realize you should've listened to your parents. LOL