Do you sometimes "forget" your cellphone?

**BellaBianca** · 03-17-2011, 09:35 AM

Do you turn off your phone or leave it behind often?

Do you feel like it's better to not always be so easy to find - and it's annoying that people expect you to be available on the phone?

**True Rune** · 03-17-2011, 09:40 AM

I really forget it.. I don't really need it that much honestly.

**Warrior** · 03-17-2011, 09:41 AM

I'd rather leave the house without my pants than without my phone. Being easy to find doesn't matter. All I have to do is turn the phone off or just let voicemail pick up if I don't want to talk to someone. It's because my calendar, contacts, and other items that I find useful (and entertaining, if I have the chance to look) are on my phone.

**roninpro** · 03-17-2011, 09:43 AM

I feel the exact same way. I hate that people want to be able to reach me at any hour of the day. Humans are not built to treated in this manner. I either leave my phone at home, turn it off, or just don't answer it. I often tell people that it is better to write me a letter or send me an email. (And it is true - sometimes it takes me days to return a phone call.)

**themuzicman** · 03-17-2011, 09:46 AM

I keep it with me, but answering it isn't top priority.

**peppersasen** · 03-17-2011, 10:06 AM

Yes! I feel this way too. There are times when I'll switch my BlackBerry off (because all my personal messages and emails get pushed there too). But to be professional, I do check my work email on a computer and keep my work phone on. Just personal messages can't come through. And if I'm out during work hours, I keep my BlackBerry on just in case my boss contacts me about an emergency.

I think it's because non-work phone calls drain me and I feel "nagged" when talking on the phone (because you can only express yourself verbally on the phone and have to consistently maintain continuity to avoid awkward silences). There are only a number of minutes I can stand and "chat" with them. But usually after five minutes, I start getting short-breathed and suffocate (I mean that literally) because I feel "trapped". When I'm communicating it writing, I can still take my time and breath. Sometimes I just want to physically hurt myself while I bear with the phone call to lessen the frustration. My phone call hatred is neurotic and dramatic. Non-work phone calls are just such a waste, there's something really dirty, "loose", and inefficient about them.

Then there are the irrational fears: fear of starting something (composing an email) in fear that I won't be able to complete it or do it correctly. And then fear of reading what may be in my inbox that may hurt my feelings. And then paradoxically afraid of finding someone hasn't sent me a reply I have been expecting. I have my rationalizations.

Also, the more I like someone and/or if I'm getting too close to someone too quickly, the longer I take to reply. Which is why my vriend's been complaining about my late email replies. He probably thinks I'm not investing as much as he is, but that's really not true. A lot of people I get bond too quickly with think I've lost interest, but it's just an irrational fear.

Other times, it's just because I want to get off-the-grid and... disappear and be invisible.

**Reddkatz** · 03-17-2011, 10:26 AM

I don't always forget my cell phone as I use it for other things than call people. But I have to turn it on silent at work and forget to turn the ringer back on when I leave.

**JDFP** · 03-17-2011, 10:28 AM

With my cell phone I have the ability to dial 7-10 digits and speak with someone. That's my only purpose for my phone and I'm not interested in internet, .txt, or any of this information on a phone. I guess I'm turning partially into a Luddite at my ancient age of 30, but I just don't have any concern for all this stuff. A telephone is for speaking with someone, a computer is for the internet. I don't like mixing things up and confusing their purposes.

With that said, sometimes I forget my cell phone and sometimes I don't. I usually keep it around just for emergency purposes if a family member needs to contact me. When I see people in their cell phones in public yakking away on them in their own world trying to converse with me as well as someone on the phone I'll just stand there and stare at them without saying a word until they get off the phone and ask them: "Oh, are you ready to speak with me as a human now?".

People should be required in high school/colleges to take a course on "Cell phone etiquette". I can't tell you the number of times I've snapped at cousins at family get togethers being extremely rude by fiddling with their cell phones while family is around them.

**mediumpace** · 03-17-2011, 11:21 AM

My phone is always turned off, people tell me off but I like it
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**Taryuna** · 03-17-2011, 11:32 AM

I always make it very clear that my phone is only turned on when I'm expecting a call or calling someone, when I give someone my number.
Some people are irritated by that, but they have to live with it.

**froyo** · 03-17-2011, 02:06 PM

I authentically forget my cell phone all the time. It's a crappy old flip phone anyways. So old school compared to those smart phones.

**Muumeh** · 03-17-2011, 02:07 PM

I frequently forget it to home if I've removed it from my bag for some reason. My friends know I'm horrible to answer to text messages or sometimes even calls on timely manner so they rarely call, which has resulted that the battery might've been dead for two or three days before I notice the phone is not on...

**rbc** · 03-17-2011, 02:34 PM

I simply stopped having a cellphone. I carried one with me everywhere between 2000 and 2004, but I haven't had one at all since then.

**fwiffo** · 03-17-2011, 03:37 PM

It's gotten to the point where people will simply call my bf if they want to talk to me.

**ZerroDefex** · 03-17-2011, 04:09 PM

If I ever forget it at home it will end up being the time I really need it.

Anyhow, it's not like you have to answer every call. If I don't recognize the number or it's not on caller ID I just let it go to voicemail, if the caller doesn't leave a message then it was not important.

**Shadizar** · 03-17-2011, 04:22 PM

I hate phones with a passion. I have a cell phone, but I barely use it. The wife and oldest daughter text me; I managed to train the shop I work for to text too. If the damn thing rings, it better be the family with an emergency, otherwise it just sits there and continues to ring; you'll be lucky if I remember to check the messages later. I often forget to charge it; I actually lost the charger, so now I have to rely on the car charger. I hate phones, means people can find me.

**HeeHee23** · 03-17-2011, 05:15 PM

My cell has been "broken" for the past 7 months. I wouldnt have to tell people it's broken if said people didn't feel th eneed to know what I'm doing 18 hours out of the day and get angry when i don't answer.

**karenann33** · 03-17-2011, 05:20 PM

I've got kids so yes my phone is always with me in case of emergency. Doesn't mean I answer it though. I love assigning personal ring tones so I know who it is without even looking.

**CoolHand24** · 03-17-2011, 05:43 PM

I haven't owned one in years.

**Asocialkat** · 03-17-2011, 05:54 PM

I don't "forget" my phone. I'm upfront with people that I abhor all phones, it's always on silent/off, I rarely pick up and/or return calls, and I'm lucky to check my voicemail on a weekly basis.

The only exception is if I'm in a relationship because they expect you to talk to them occasionally.

**vampyremage** · 03-17-2011, 07:24 PM

I usually keep my cell phone with me but I rarely actually use it. Its pretty normal for me not to answer it until such a time as I feel like talking to someone.

**RedOrange823** · 03-17-2011, 08:05 PM

My life is on my phone; I could not live with out it. I broke my phone last month and spent $800 the next day to replace it because of the withdrawal. But I do rarely use it for vocal conversations, just texting, internet, calendar, news updates, etc.

**PRBori** · 03-17-2011, 08:56 PM

I do forget my phone quite often, in specific where I had it last, but gladly enough I got 2 others I can use to call it; that is IF the battery is not dead. Outside of my work, I have one for my son so that he has one while he is with me since his father doesn't let him bring over his.

Phones are important for me, I don't use them all the time for calling, but I use the internet quite often. Also, I like to know I have a way to communicate in the event a need arises.

Being able to communicate in the event something happens is important for me as a mother and of course SO.

**TheOverman** · 03-18-2011, 03:24 AM

I hate feeling constantly connected and obligated to be available. I often have people get angry with me if I haven't been accessible which can be an irritation.

**RulersBite** · 03-18-2011, 06:24 AM

I genuinely do forget my phone 99% of the time. Besides, it's usually not charged because I honestly prefer emails rather than actually speaking to people I don't like.

People have just learnt not to call me because they know I never answer, which is possibly the best thing that has ever happened to me in a while.
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03-17-2011, 09:35 AM	#1
BellaBianca Veteran Member [66%] MBTI: INTP Join Date: May 2010 Posts: 2,675	Do you turn off your phone or leave it behind often? Do you feel like it's better to not always be so easy to find - and it's annoying that people expect you to be available on the phone?
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03-17-2011, 09:40 AM	#2
True Rune Core Member [201%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Apr 2008 Posts: 8,062	I really forget it.. I don't really need it that much honestly.
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03-17-2011, 09:41 AM	#3
Warrior Core Member [236%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Aug 2009 Posts: 9,449	I'd rather leave the house without my pants than without my phone. Being easy to find doesn't matter. All I have to do is turn the phone off or just let voicemail pick up if I don't want to talk to someone. It's because my calendar, contacts, and other items that I find useful (and entertaining, if I have the chance to look) are on my phone.
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03-17-2011, 09:43 AM	#4
roninpro Member [12%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Apr 2010 Posts: 496	I feel the exact same way. I hate that people want to be able to reach me at any hour of the day. Humans are not built to treated in this manner. I either leave my phone at home, turn it off, or just don't answer it. I often tell people that it is better to write me a letter or send me an email. (And it is true - sometimes it takes me days to return a phone call.)
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03-17-2011, 09:46 AM	#5
themuzicman Core Member [288%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Jun 2009 Posts: 11,532	I keep it with me, but answering it isn't top priority.
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03-17-2011, 10:06 AM	#6
peppersasen Veteran Member [63%] MBTI: INxx Join Date: Feb 2011 Posts: 2,555	Yes! I feel this way too. There are times when I'll switch my BlackBerry off (because all my personal messages and emails get pushed there too). But to be professional, I do check my work email on a computer and keep my work phone on. Just personal messages can't come through. And if I'm out during work hours, I keep my BlackBerry on just in case my boss contacts me about an emergency. I think it's because non-work phone calls drain me and I feel "nagged" when talking on the phone (because you can only express yourself verbally on the phone and have to consistently maintain continuity to avoid awkward silences). There are only a number of minutes I can stand and "chat" with them. But usually after five minutes, I start getting short-breathed and suffocate (I mean that literally) because I feel "trapped". When I'm communicating it writing, I can still take my time and breath. Sometimes I just want to physically hurt myself while I bear with the phone call to lessen the frustration. My phone call hatred is neurotic and dramatic. Non-work phone calls are just such a waste, there's something really dirty, "loose", and inefficient about them. Then there are the irrational fears: fear of starting something (composing an email) in fear that I won't be able to complete it or do it correctly. And then fear of reading what may be in my inbox that may hurt my feelings. And then paradoxically afraid of finding someone hasn't sent me a reply I have been expecting. I have my rationalizations. Also, the more I like someone and/or if I'm getting too close to someone too quickly, the longer I take to reply. Which is why my vriend's been complaining about my late email replies. He probably thinks I'm not investing as much as he is, but that's really not true. A lot of people I get bond too quickly with think I've lost interest, but it's just an irrational fear. Other times, it's just because I want to get off-the-grid and... disappear and be invisible.
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03-17-2011, 10:26 AM	#7
Reddkatz Core Member [188%] MBTI: InTJ Join Date: Feb 2011 Posts: 7,554	I don't always forget my cell phone as I use it for other things than call people. But I have to turn it on silent at work and forget to turn the ringer back on when I leave.
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03-17-2011, 10:28 AM	#8
JDFP Member [05%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Feb 2011 Posts: 226	With my cell phone I have the ability to dial 7-10 digits and speak with someone. That's my only purpose for my phone and I'm not interested in internet, .txt, or any of this information on a phone. I guess I'm turning partially into a Luddite at my ancient age of 30, but I just don't have any concern for all this stuff. A telephone is for speaking with someone, a computer is for the internet. I don't like mixing things up and confusing their purposes. With that said, sometimes I forget my cell phone and sometimes I don't. I usually keep it around just for emergency purposes if a family member needs to contact me. When I see people in their cell phones in public yakking away on them in their own world trying to converse with me as well as someone on the phone I'll just stand there and stare at them without saying a word until they get off the phone and ask them: "Oh, are you ready to speak with me as a human now?". People should be required in high school/colleges to take a course on "Cell phone etiquette". I can't tell you the number of times I've snapped at cousins at family get togethers being extremely rude by fiddling with their cell phones while family is around them.
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03-17-2011, 11:21 AM	#9
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03-17-2011, 11:32 AM	#10
Taryuna Member [04%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Feb 2011 Posts: 166	I always make it very clear that my phone is only turned on when I'm expecting a call or calling someone, when I give someone my number. Some people are irritated by that, but they have to live with it.
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03-17-2011, 02:06 PM	#11
froyo Member [28%] MBTI: INTj Join Date: Jan 2011 Posts: 1,149	I authentically forget my cell phone all the time. It's a crappy old flip phone anyways. So old school compared to those smart phones.
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03-17-2011, 02:07 PM	#12
Muumeh Veteran Member [87%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Dec 2008 Posts: 3,513	I frequently forget it to home if I've removed it from my bag for some reason. My friends know I'm horrible to answer to text messages or sometimes even calls on timely manner so they rarely call, which has resulted that the battery might've been dead for two or three days before I notice the phone is not on...
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03-17-2011, 02:34 PM	#13
rbc Veteran Member [55%] MBTI: INTx Join Date: Apr 2010 Posts: 2,210	I simply stopped having a cellphone. I carried one with me everywhere between 2000 and 2004, but I haven't had one at all since then.
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03-17-2011, 03:37 PM	#14
fwiffo Member [32%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Feb 2010 Posts: 1,284	It's gotten to the point where people will simply call my bf if they want to talk to me.
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03-17-2011, 04:09 PM	#15
ZerroDefex Member [17%] MBTI: ISTP Join Date: Oct 2010 Posts: 719	If I ever forget it at home it will end up being the time I really need it. Anyhow, it's not like you have to answer every call. If I don't recognize the number or it's not on caller ID I just let it go to voicemail, if the caller doesn't leave a message then it was not important.
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03-17-2011, 04:22 PM	#16
Shadizar Core Member [171%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Feb 2011 Posts: 6,879	I hate phones with a passion. I have a cell phone, but I barely use it. The wife and oldest daughter text me; I managed to train the shop I work for to text too. If the damn thing rings, it better be the family with an emergency, otherwise it just sits there and continues to ring; you'll be lucky if I remember to check the messages later. I often forget to charge it; I actually lost the charger, so now I have to rely on the car charger. I hate phones, means people can find me.
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03-17-2011, 05:15 PM	#17
HeeHee23 New Member [01%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Jan 2011 Posts: 47	My cell has been "broken" for the past 7 months. I wouldnt have to tell people it's broken if said people didn't feel th eneed to know what I'm doing 18 hours out of the day and get angry when i don't answer.
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03-17-2011, 05:20 PM	#18
karenann33 Member [31%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Aug 2009 Posts: 1,278	I've got kids so yes my phone is always with me in case of emergency. Doesn't mean I answer it though. I love assigning personal ring tones so I know who it is without even looking.
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03-17-2011, 05:43 PM	#19
CoolHand24 Banned MBTI: xxxx Join Date: Nov 2010 Posts: 579	I haven't owned one in years.
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03-17-2011, 05:54 PM	#20
Asocialkat Member [16%] MBTI: INTx Join Date: Nov 2010 Posts: 647	I don't "forget" my phone. I'm upfront with people that I abhor all phones, it's always on silent/off, I rarely pick up and/or return calls, and I'm lucky to check my voicemail on a weekly basis. The only exception is if I'm in a relationship because they expect you to talk to them occasionally.
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03-17-2011, 07:24 PM	#21
vampyremage Member [09%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Nov 2010 Posts: 387	I usually keep my cell phone with me but I rarely actually use it. Its pretty normal for me not to answer it until such a time as I feel like talking to someone.
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03-17-2011, 08:05 PM	#22
RedOrange823 Core Member [569%] MBTI: INTP Join Date: May 2010 Posts: 22,790	My life is on my phone; I could not live with out it. I broke my phone last month and spent $800 the next day to replace it because of the withdrawal. But I do rarely use it for vocal conversations, just texting, internet, calendar, news updates, etc.
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03-17-2011, 08:56 PM	#23
PRBori Core Member [111%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Feb 2008 Posts: 4,457	I do forget my phone quite often, in specific where I had it last, but gladly enough I got 2 others I can use to call it; that is IF the battery is not dead. Outside of my work, I have one for my son so that he has one while he is with me since his father doesn't let him bring over his. Phones are important for me, I don't use them all the time for calling, but I use the internet quite often. Also, I like to know I have a way to communicate in the event a need arises. Being able to communicate in the event something happens is important for me as a mother and of course SO.
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03-18-2011, 03:24 AM	#24
TheOverman Member [03%] MBTI: INTP Join Date: Dec 2010 Posts: 136	I hate feeling constantly connected and obligated to be available. I often have people get angry with me if I haven't been accessible which can be an irritation.
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03-18-2011, 06:24 AM	#25
RulersBite New Member [01%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Sep 2010 Posts: 43	I genuinely do forget my phone 99% of the time. Besides, it's usually not charged because I honestly prefer emails rather than actually speaking to people I don't like. People have just learnt not to call me because they know I never answer, which is possibly the best thing that has ever happened to me in a while. To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
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