So an INTJ woman likes me...

**Pandemonium** · 03-01-2011, 02:19 AM

Anyway a INTJ woman and I awkwardly became interested in each other. She has gone off to study in another town. It has been two weeks since I last spoke to her; when is the right time to call?

P.S. I can't call in the next week or so. I was in a minor car accident and manage to bite off a small proportion of the side of the back my tongue in the process. It really hurts!!

P.S.S. She told me she was an INTJ. She could be a member on this site. I'm now paranoid.

**Ultimawepun** · 03-01-2011, 02:49 AM

Sorry bud, I don't like you...
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Seriously, just call her when you have time.

**Pandemonium** · 03-01-2011, 02:50 AM

	Originally Posted by Ultimawepun To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	Sorry bud, I don't like you... To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts. Seriously, just call her when you have time.

lol

Yeah, I was thinking along the lines of your advice. I think I'm just procrastinating.

**BellaBianca** · 03-01-2011, 03:51 AM

I have lost people to procrastination.

**Pandemonium** · 03-01-2011, 04:14 AM

	Originally Posted by BellaBianca To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	I have lost people to procrastination.

Yeah, same here. I think the last time I was interested in a woman (2 years ago) it took me quite a while before I actually got around to asking her on date. She responded with 'you're 6 months too late'. I was quite amused. Though, during the period I was horribly depressed, stressed and sleep deprived. Not a good recipe for interpreting reality.

These days I have a hair cut and a job; makes the 'asking girls out' so much easier. I took a girl I met in a lecture last Monday out to dinner. That was a fun night.

**Minerva** · 03-01-2011, 05:04 AM

I think that it is time to contact her. If you can't talk then send her a text message and say that you would like to call but you can't speak right now (because of the same reason you told us), but you wanted to touch base with her.

Seriously, stop procrastinating and LIVE your life. It is not like this is a rehearsal. You don't have another chance when this life is over, unless reincarnation is fact. Are you unsure whether she is interested in you or not? She has not contacted you? Maybe she is waiting for you to make contact. Text and see what happens! She may be having the same misgivings as you.

Don't worry if she is a member of this site. If she is and is also interested in you, she will probably smile at the fact that you are asking for advice on her. If she is not interested in you then the worse she will think is that you need to ask for help and then she can contact you here and say that she does not feel the same way. Either way it is a win for you. She will either be tickled or you will know for sure if she likes you. Don't sweat the small stuff.

And above all... Good Luck and waiting for an update.

**Wongette** · 03-01-2011, 05:17 AM

Well you know, it's going to be far more entertaining for us if you DO try to go after her than not. So I'm sure we're all for it on this forum.

**plotthickens** · 03-01-2011, 05:20 AM

If she's in another town, you have absolutely nothing to lose if she says no. So think of it as good practice for you to try chatting up a femme.

**Autumnleaf** · 03-01-2011, 09:21 AM

Email her. Tell her you'd call but you bit off part of your tongue.

**LadyArchitect** · 03-01-2011, 09:32 AM

Contact her. As an INTJ, with the delay in response, I would assume a) you are not interested or b) not worth my time because you cannot make up your mind and take action.

**InsipidPariah** · 03-01-2011, 09:40 AM

As a guy who is currently pursuing an INTJ female: JUST DO IT ALREADY.

You do not need to wait x amount of days to contact her, social norms do not apply. If anything the fact that it's been two weeks since you contacted her is going to make her think you are not interested.

Send her a text, tell her you would call but you bit off your tongue, ask for her email, make it aware without explicitly saying that you are interested in her. If she feels the name she will reciprocate and you can make a gushy thread like the one I have going haha

**Reddkatz** · 03-01-2011, 12:05 PM

Yes I will reiterate what the above posters have said. Just ask her out already. If you would like to get with me, and INTJ female, just say it.
If you are worried that she may not like you, her behavior would be the complete opposite. We generally don't give men the time of day if we have no interest in them.

**registered** · 03-01-2011, 12:07 PM

	Originally Posted by Minerva To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	It is not like this is a rehearsal. You don't have another chance when this life is over, unless reincarnation is fact.

Oh god, imagine going through the awkward learning phases all over again. What a thought.

**Pandemonium** · 03-01-2011, 02:35 PM

I love it on this forum in regards to people just telling you what to do. It's brilliant.

	Originally Posted by LadyArchitect To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	Contact her. As an INTJ, with the delay in response, I would assume a) you are not interested or b) not worth my time because you cannot make up your mind and take action.

This is an interesting topic. I normally become disinterested when the woman that I know who is interested and does not act, provokes disinterest in me. There are always those awkward dates where one asks the woman questions and they give extremely vague answers and nothing progresses other than provoking monologue. They maybe having fun time, discernible by their reactions but behind my façade I am extremely bored.

I am slowly regaining my ability to speak without a slur. Once able to speak fluently I will call.

**SelfMadeBum** · 03-01-2011, 04:08 PM

	Originally Posted by Pandemonium To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	I love it on this forum in regards to people just telling you what to do. It's brilliant.

I pointed that out once in the MBTI subforum... Ps give you possibilities... Js give directives.

**Cisco Skywalker** · 03-01-2011, 05:53 PM

Hi X, hope you are well, I'm texting (SMSing) because I damaged my tongue in a minor accident so here's my email address. Hope to hear from you soon. Y

or

Hi X, hope u r well, am txting coz hurt tongue! btw my email is [insert email address] eg
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talk soon. Y

**AltoidaMintera** · 03-02-2011, 06:55 AM

	Originally Posted by Minerva To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	I think that it is time to contact her. If you can't talk then send her a text message and say that you would like to call but you can't speak right now (because of the same reason you told us), but you wanted to touch base with her.

Agree.

Text her, if nothing else. Procrastination doesn't translate well on the other end.

**Pandemonium** · 03-02-2011, 02:56 PM

	Originally Posted by AltoidaMintera To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	Procrastination doesn't translate well on the other end.

I know! She must not be interested in me if she has not called. *sarcasm*

To believe both genders are not subjected to the same rules is nonsensical. I removed a brief outline of events preceding the posting of the OP. She was the one who was doing the chasing. Though, her moving away for a semester and I replying with 'enjoy your time at uni' probably altered the dynamics of the situation. I speculate in my last conversation with her I gave her the impression that I would cease communication. In reality everything occurring according to the expected. This is validated by my feeling of confidence.

**Exodus** · 03-02-2011, 07:06 PM

You're INTP, which means you are likely to wait longer than most types. This point is corroborated by the other INTP in this thread. INTJs tend to act quickly when they've made up their mind. If you've decided that you're going to call her but you just have not decided upon when, then that time needs to be now.

I love INTPs, but you guys do tend to procrastinate. I'm almost certain Treebeard from LOTR was INTP:

"You must understand, young Hobbit, it takes a long time to say anything in ~~Old Entish~~ INTP. And we never say anything unless it is worth taking a long... time... to say."

**Pandemonium** · 03-06-2011, 02:48 AM

I called her! Even though I am terrible with phones there was only one hiccup. I ran out of phone credit. Anyway, its all good. We had a lengthy conversation. What people concluded in the 'how can you tell an INTJ woman likes you thread', when an INTJ woman talks to you, she likes you. I'm in!

**coupdhaha** · 03-06-2011, 06:17 AM

I think you should wait on it.

I think since this is a significant relationship, you don't want to screw it up.

Get married with another person and then have a few kids. After a few years of unhappy marriage, then start to entertain the idea of calling her.

By then you'll have lots of experience and you'll be less likely to screw up the all important The Call.

03-01-2011, 02:19 AM	#1
Pandemonium Veteran Member [53%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Oct 2008 Posts: 2,120	Anyway a INTJ woman and I awkwardly became interested in each other. She has gone off to study in another town. It has been two weeks since I last spoke to her; when is the right time to call? P.S. I can't call in the next week or so. I was in a minor car accident and manage to bite off a small proportion of the side of the back my tongue in the process. It really hurts!! P.S.S. She told me she was an INTJ. She could be a member on this site. I'm now paranoid.
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03-01-2011, 02:49 AM	#2
Ultimawepun Member [06%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Oct 2010 Posts: 265	Sorry bud, I don't like you... To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts. Seriously, just call her when you have time.
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03-01-2011, 03:51 AM	#4
BellaBianca Veteran Member [66%] MBTI: INTP Join Date: May 2010 Posts: 2,675	I have lost people to procrastination.
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03-01-2011, 05:04 AM	#6
Minerva Core Member [234%] MBTI: ISFJ Join Date: Mar 2008 Posts: 9,391	I think that it is time to contact her. If you can't talk then send her a text message and say that you would like to call but you can't speak right now (because of the same reason you told us), but you wanted to touch base with her. Seriously, stop procrastinating and LIVE your life. It is not like this is a rehearsal. You don't have another chance when this life is over, unless reincarnation is fact. Are you unsure whether she is interested in you or not? She has not contacted you? Maybe she is waiting for you to make contact. Text and see what happens! She may be having the same misgivings as you. Don't worry if she is a member of this site. If she is and is also interested in you, she will probably smile at the fact that you are asking for advice on her. If she is not interested in you then the worse she will think is that you need to ask for help and then she can contact you here and say that she does not feel the same way. Either way it is a win for you. She will either be tickled or you will know for sure if she likes you. Don't sweat the small stuff. And above all... Good Luck and waiting for an update.
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03-01-2011, 05:17 AM	#7
Wongette Member [13%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Feb 2011 Posts: 540	Well you know, it's going to be far more entertaining for us if you DO try to go after her than not. So I'm sure we're all for it on this forum.
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03-01-2011, 05:20 AM	#8
plotthickens Core Member [677%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Nov 2009 Posts: 27,112	If she's in another town, you have absolutely nothing to lose if she says no. So think of it as good practice for you to try chatting up a femme.
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03-01-2011, 09:21 AM	#9
Autumnleaf Core Member [234%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Apr 2010 Posts: 9,399	Email her. Tell her you'd call but you bit off part of your tongue.
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03-01-2011, 09:32 AM	#10
LadyArchitect New Member [01%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Feb 2011 Posts: 65	Contact her. As an INTJ, with the delay in response, I would assume a) you are not interested or b) not worth my time because you cannot make up your mind and take action.
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03-01-2011, 09:40 AM	#11
InsipidPariah Member [03%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Dec 2010 Posts: 128	As a guy who is currently pursuing an INTJ female: JUST DO IT ALREADY. You do not need to wait x amount of days to contact her, social norms do not apply. If anything the fact that it's been two weeks since you contacted her is going to make her think you are not interested. Send her a text, tell her you would call but you bit off your tongue, ask for her email, make it aware without explicitly saying that you are interested in her. If she feels the name she will reciprocate and you can make a gushy thread like the one I have going haha
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03-01-2011, 12:05 PM	#12
Reddkatz Core Member [188%] MBTI: InTJ Join Date: Feb 2011 Posts: 7,555	Yes I will reiterate what the above posters have said. Just ask her out already. If you would like to get with me, and INTJ female, just say it. If you are worried that she may not like you, her behavior would be the complete opposite. We generally don't give men the time of day if we have no interest in them.
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03-01-2011, 05:53 PM	#16
Cisco Skywalker Member [08%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Jun 2009 Posts: 353	Hi X, hope you are well, I'm texting (SMSing) because I damaged my tongue in a minor accident so here's my email address. Hope to hear from you soon. Y or Hi X, hope u r well, am txting coz hurt tongue! btw my email is [insert email address] eg To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts. talk soon. Y
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03-02-2011, 07:06 PM	#19
Exodus Member [07%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Sep 2009 Posts: 291	You're INTP, which means you are likely to wait longer than most types. This point is corroborated by the other INTP in this thread. INTJs tend to act quickly when they've made up their mind. If you've decided that you're going to call her but you just have not decided upon when, then that time needs to be now. I love INTPs, but you guys do tend to procrastinate. I'm almost certain Treebeard from LOTR was INTP: "You must understand, young Hobbit, it takes a long time to say anything in ~~Old Entish~~ INTP. And we never say anything unless it is worth taking a long... time... to say."
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03-06-2011, 02:48 AM	#20
Pandemonium Veteran Member [53%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Oct 2008 Posts: 2,120	I called her! Even though I am terrible with phones there was only one hiccup. I ran out of phone credit. Anyway, its all good. We had a lengthy conversation. What people concluded in the 'how can you tell an INTJ woman likes you thread', when an INTJ woman talks to you, she likes you. I'm in!
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03-06-2011, 06:17 AM	#21
coupdhaha Member [03%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Mar 2011 Posts: 126	I think you should wait on it. I think since this is a significant relationship, you don't want to screw it up. Get married with another person and then have a few kids. After a few years of unhappy marriage, then start to entertain the idea of calling her. By then you'll have lots of experience and you'll be less likely to screw up the all important The Call.
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