feeling nothing...

**Aezur** · 02-09-2011, 08:26 AM

Today I made an effort to speak with a girl from my class, and invited her to go out tomorrow, she said she would be busy and we might do it another time...meaning there's no chance at all ^^

Anyway we then parted ways, and when I walked back home I didn't feel a thing, not even the smallest hint of pain for being turned down...don't know if this is a good or bad thing...

Getting so insensible to pain can probably make me insesible towards others pain, and maybe love itself...what do you think?

**BlackFlames** · 02-09-2011, 11:21 AM

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Today I made an effort to speak with a girl from my class, and invited her to go out tomorrow, she said she would be busy and we might do it another time...meaning there's no chance at all ^^

Anyway we then parted ways, and when I walked back home I didn't feel a thing, not even the smallest hint of pain for being turned down...don't know if this is a good or bad thing...

Getting so insensible to pain can probably make me insesible towards others pain, and maybe love itself...what do you think?

hmmm I guess its normal...I dont ask girls out as much as I would like to but if I get turned down then I would be the same. Idk me personally I think dating and relationships are pointless and is another repsonsibility...But ask her again maybe and if she denies again than yeah she doesnt want to go. I hate when people do that! Just fucking give me a straight answer! I dont care yes or no? and were done...

**jkatra** · 02-09-2011, 01:03 PM

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	Anyway we then parted ways, and when I walked back home I didn't feel a thing, not even the smallest hint of pain for being turned down...don't know if this is a good or bad thing...

I think in this specific case it can be a sign of healthy self-esteem... you don't think it's the end of the world, and you're not desperate (and you can try again later).

**iamthewalrus** · 02-10-2011, 12:48 AM

I've been having that feeling of nothing lately too when things haven't gone my way, but I used to be really sensitive. Last year I had this stupid crush on someone and for months I was so stressed that it wasn't going anywhere... then, I started to realize that if something was meant to be, it would be. Now little things don't get to me much anymore. It doesn't necessarily mean that you'll become insensible to others or to love if you don't always feel pain after a rejection or anything like that. I think it's a maturity thing.

**Autumnleaf** · 02-10-2011, 04:18 AM

She wasn't all that important to you. She probably saved you $20 by turning you down. Good for you.

**Ad Infinitum** · 02-10-2011, 04:43 AM

Feeling nothing can be a good thing. It just means that you aren't overly concerned with what could be insignificant events. People come and go, but your sanity is a constant. Don't let that fade away.

**Nonexistence** · 02-10-2011, 06:01 PM

Being uncaring is a good strategy if you want to be a self contained little island of independent personality. If you make a lifestyle out of it, however, it will prove to be a huge hurdle in relating to others and vice versa. People can easily perceive if they mean nothing to you, and they probably won't bother being hurt/wasting their time by sticking around if that's the case.

02-09-2011, 08:26 AM	#1
Aezur Member [25%] MBTI: ENTJ Join Date: Feb 2011 Posts: 1,017	Today I made an effort to speak with a girl from my class, and invited her to go out tomorrow, she said she would be busy and we might do it another time...meaning there's no chance at all ^^ Anyway we then parted ways, and when I walked back home I didn't feel a thing, not even the smallest hint of pain for being turned down...don't know if this is a good or bad thing... Getting so insensible to pain can probably make me insesible towards others pain, and maybe love itself...what do you think?
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02-10-2011, 12:48 AM	#4
iamthewalrus New Member [01%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Jan 2011 Posts: 5	I've been having that feeling of nothing lately too when things haven't gone my way, but I used to be really sensitive. Last year I had this stupid crush on someone and for months I was so stressed that it wasn't going anywhere... then, I started to realize that if something was meant to be, it would be. Now little things don't get to me much anymore. It doesn't necessarily mean that you'll become insensible to others or to love if you don't always feel pain after a rejection or anything like that. I think it's a maturity thing.
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02-10-2011, 04:18 AM	#5
Autumnleaf Core Member [227%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Apr 2010 Posts: 9,102	She wasn't all that important to you. She probably saved you $20 by turning you down. Good for you.
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02-10-2011, 04:43 AM	#6
Ad Infinitum Member [07%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Jan 2011 Posts: 285	Feeling nothing can be a good thing. It just means that you aren't overly concerned with what could be insignificant events. People come and go, but your sanity is a constant. Don't let that fade away.
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02-10-2011, 06:01 PM	#7
Nonexistence New Member [01%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Jan 2011 Posts: 17	Being uncaring is a good strategy if you want to be a self contained little island of independent personality. If you make a lifestyle out of it, however, it will prove to be a huge hurdle in relating to others and vice versa. People can easily perceive if they mean nothing to you, and they probably won't bother being hurt/wasting their time by sticking around if that's the case.
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