[maru]

I often hear a friend's friend tell me this. I could understand it about others, but I never saw myself as a person who would be talked about a lot. How do you take this?

[Mogura]

Are Extroverts involved in the Jimbob equation by any chance?

[maru]

Always.

[True Rune]

Me either. I like to keep thinking I'm not a topic of discussion..

[Mogura]

Oh, well. In that case they're probably just spreading good will via conversation. Don't take it as if they're having secret meetings to plot your demise. Just counter with something like, "Oh, please send Bob my regards... I've been remiss..." and move on to the next conversation topic without a second thought to it...

[DeaconSyre]

	Originally Posted by Mogura To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	Oh, well. In that case they're probably just spreading good will via conversation. Don't take it as if they're having secret meetings to plot your demise. Just counter with something like, "Oh, please send Bob my regards... I've been remiss..." and move on to the next conversation topic without a second thought to it...

Good idea. Plus you'll get bonus points for using 'remiss'.

[Metaphor]

I would immediately assume that Bob is trying to plot my magnificent downfall by subliminally coercing my co-workers. Later that day I would find Bob's place of residence and seek out his cat so that I may train it to become my undead minion. Together Cat and I would strike the heart of Bob and his followers so that I may work in harmony and peace for all the days of my life.

[Eye on Earth]

	Originally Posted by maru To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	I often hear a friend's friend tell me this. I could understand it about others, but I never saw myself as a person who would be talked about a lot. How do you take this?

Not too surprisingly, people talk about people all the time. Sometimes it is good and sometimes it is bad. I read a book recently that suggested people are more prone to talk about bad stuff, but I don't know if that is the case here. I hope it isn't.

The funny thing about any personality with an "I" in it is that we don't often put ourselves in the limelight and because of this we often forget that everyone, whether they are an "I" or an "E" is always in the limelight. Our own actions are seen by everybody, even though we may not want them to be. "I" doesn't equal invisible!

I guess in a way you should feel kind of lucky that someone is interested in you. If no one was interested that would be unfortunate.

[maru]

	Originally Posted by Eye on Earth To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	*snip* I guess in a way you should feel kind of lucky that someone is interested in you. If no one was interested that would be unfortunate.

True. I do feel lucky (hey it's a small thing but it's something), because I never expect that kind of attention. I don't talk about others beyond mentioning them in context, unless I really like them.

[Eye on Earth]

Perhaps this is a good thing then!
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[Vagrant]

Usually when I show up as a topic of conversation, it's because an extrovert doesn't understand me.

[Eye on Earth]

	Originally Posted by Vagrant To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	Usually when I show up as a topic of conversation, it's because an extrovert doesn't understand me.

Same here. I just got a comment like that yesterday.

[JustMel]

I figure if they're talking about me they're leaving someone else alone.

[ya lyublyu tebya]

Yeah, I've gotten that. I've also gotten, "(Name/s here) hate(s) you!" Strangely, it's always people that I've never even heard of. o_O Like, am I supposed to break down and weep in shame and self-loathing that some stranger has nothing better to do than talk about me?

	Originally Posted by JustMel To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	I figure if they're talking about me they're leaving someone else alone.

Same. Better me than someone who'd get really hurt by it. Well, better no one than anyone, but that's unrealistic.

[karenann33]

I get talked about a lot. I'm kind of the guru/go to gal for information. I've started whole trends here just by telling ONE person what I do or what they should do. I'm so good at what I do that before I know it all these people took what I learned to do and now have groups to copy it. Seriously. It's mind boggling considering I don't talk to that many people but my ideas are far reaching.

My best friend is an extrovert. She benefits from my research and the fact that I've read hundreds of self-help books. My name comes up a lot. At first I found it unnerving but now I see it as my purpose in life. It's kinda unique that I can touch so many people without even leaving my house. LOL!!

[unnamedfeeling]

	"Great people talk about ideas. Average people talk about things. Small people talk about other people."

I like this quote by an uncertain author.

[Nonsuch]

Does Bob know you enjoy female clothes and make-up ?

[rara avis]

I love to hear what people say about me behind my back, good or bad. I find it fascinating to an unseemly degree.
I'm kind of embarrassed by this, but it's true.

[Vai]

I hear this all the time. I simply pretend I didn't hear anything until Bob talks about it to me personally.

[maru]

	Originally Posted by unnamedfeeling To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	I like this quote by an uncertain author.

Me too. Although I think it's unfair to call them "small".

	Originally Posted by Nonsuch To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	Does Bob know you enjoy female clothes and make-up ?

Haha. It's not as bad as it sounds... I swear. To clarify, I don't want to wear make-up that makes me look like a girl in any way. I would like to be a make-up artist, and like to sew.

	Originally Posted by rara avis To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	I love to hear what people say about me behind my back, good or bad. I find it fascinating to an unseemly degree. I'm kind of embarrassed by this, but it's true.

Basically this. I'm not one to care, but at the same time I'm really curious about what they could possibly be saying.

[vulcanhuman]

	Originally Posted by ya lyublyu tebya To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	Yeah, I've gotten that. I've also gotten, "(Name/s here) hate(s) you!" Strangely, it's always people that I've never even heard of. o_O Like, am I supposed to break down and weep in shame and self-loathing that some stranger has nothing better to do than talk about me?

^^This happens to me all the time! I have one extrovert friend that loves to tell me when people "Hate me." And inevitably, like you said, it's someone I barely even know. Mostly, i've had no conversation with ever.

Back to the main topic. People do tell me when people are talking about me good or bad. I just find it kind of awkward really. I just don't know what to say when someone says this. Like do I say "Thanks." or "I figured." or "Naturally." Generally I just say "Why?" and it's always some unsatisfying reason. I think people are just fascinated by introverts because we have an unintentional air of mystery.

[snater]

It's merely the sharing of social knowledge. My grad program has several seminars that are negotiation simulations and I would often get feedback along the lines of 'so and so' told me you would be very 'insert-adjective-here'.

Others in your environment are just doing what people do. I wouldn't take it personally.

[JustMel]

I find out so many things about myself that I didn't know when listening to other people....

[thref23]

Just to add, it's not impossible that Jim is simply trying to pick up Jane by using Bob, who may or may not talk about Jane. I've seen that scenario in play quite a bit and as a relatively shy easily enough misunderstood guy and what not I've had friends tell girls I was really into them and what not when I was really somewhat indifferent.

[unnamedfeeling]

	Originally Posted by maru To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	Me too. Although I think it's unfair to call them "small".

Perhaps, but I don't think it's meant necessarily as a pejorative. Mostly I believe it refers to the idea that people that spend all their time gossiping are unlikely to contribute to the world in any significant way.