Insomnia: A way to get more time to myself? - Page 2

**sircockburn** · 01-31-2011, 04:54 AM

	Originally Posted by suzib To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	Sorry you are suffering, SCB. Even extroverts need time to themselves.

lol, it's just a good thing I'm not an I. They'd really be pissed.

it's 4:46 am and I just got home a few minutes ago, from my boyfriend who doesn't get that right now, I'm exhausted from being "on" all the time. This forum (and other activities) is a nice way to spend precious ME time.

oh and if you're the OP, I didn't mean to be a bitch, lol. I just lose it when going on 1-2 hours of slrep a night for weeks.

**True Rune** · 01-31-2011, 05:45 AM

When I was a kid, my parents were often out.. me and my siblings became used to that freedom and came to resent when our parent was home and we are all "night owls" save one.. so the night was freedom and well, you know our types absolutely love that sort of thing. Even if it's social freedom to browse the internet.

**Uriel** · 01-31-2011, 06:10 AM

I love the hours past midnight. Everything is quiet, people are dead-asleep, and there is no traffic noise from the outside. Peace.

Question: Are you doing something to let your husband know that you still care for the family? Set the table? Cook breakfast? Or are you completely avoiding contact with them altogether?

**pip** · 01-31-2011, 07:40 AM

To stay awake all night adds another day to your life.

**sircockburn** · 01-31-2011, 02:19 PM

	Originally Posted by pip To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	To stay awake all night adds another day to your life.

No. It adds half a "day".

(Normally awake 16 hours, asleep for 8...eliminate the 8 and you get 50% more than normal per 24 hours.

This of course doesn't factor in the number of days lost later on due to dying earlier.)

**suzib** · 01-31-2011, 03:30 PM

SCB, yeah, I got that. I know what you mean about being less than sweet at that point. And you are right, it is much harder if you are an "I" to be surrounded by people, especially when those people always want something from you. Also, you are right that you are likely to die sooner if you do not get enough sleep.

Uriel, you were addressing me, the OP? Oh yes, I'm still the one who cooks, cleans, and makes sure the household runs well. I just don't feel particularly sociable. And as everybody here are adults, they are perfectly capable of getting their own breakfast. (They do generally leave the mess for me to clean up, but that's another thread).

I have been making an effort to suggest activities for the 2 of us to get away from the house together. He needs away from his mother as much as I do. It's true that you must work harder on your marriage if there are lots of people in the house.

**plotthickens** · 01-31-2011, 07:11 PM

	Originally Posted by suzib To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	My biggest question is this a problem? I could rather happily keep living this way, but it may cause issues, especially in my marriage.

"Sweetie, I want you to know that I'm going to continue my deliberately-weird-sleeping as a way to cope with having this many goddam people in the house, including your mother. However, as soon as it starts being a problem for me, you, or us together, tell me. Tell me immediately. I will work to do it differently so that it isn't a problem. You and 'we' are very important to me, and there must be other solutions that could work.

Okay?"

01-31-2011, 05:45 AM	#27
True Rune Core Member [200%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Apr 2008 Posts: 8,028	When I was a kid, my parents were often out.. me and my siblings became used to that freedom and came to resent when our parent was home and we are all "night owls" save one.. so the night was freedom and well, you know our types absolutely love that sort of thing. Even if it's social freedom to browse the internet.
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01-31-2011, 06:10 AM	#28
Uriel Core Member [139%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Nov 2010 Posts: 5,582	I love the hours past midnight. Everything is quiet, people are dead-asleep, and there is no traffic noise from the outside. Peace. Question: Are you doing something to let your husband know that you still care for the family? Set the table? Cook breakfast? Or are you completely avoiding contact with them altogether?
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01-31-2011, 07:40 AM	#29
pip Veteran Member [55%] MBTI: INTj Join Date: May 2009 Posts: 2,233	To stay awake all night adds another day to your life.
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01-31-2011, 03:30 PM	#31
suzib Member [02%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Oct 2010 Posts: 107	SCB, yeah, I got that. I know what you mean about being less than sweet at that point. And you are right, it is much harder if you are an "I" to be surrounded by people, especially when those people always want something from you. Also, you are right that you are likely to die sooner if you do not get enough sleep. Uriel, you were addressing me, the OP? Oh yes, I'm still the one who cooks, cleans, and makes sure the household runs well. I just don't feel particularly sociable. And as everybody here are adults, they are perfectly capable of getting their own breakfast. (They do generally leave the mess for me to clean up, but that's another thread). I have been making an effort to suggest activities for the 2 of us to get away from the house together. He needs away from his mother as much as I do. It's true that you must work harder on your marriage if there are lots of people in the house.
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