Are you an arrogant jerk?

**sairakh** · 09-12-2010, 07:52 AM

INTJs commonly get accused of being arrogant, aloof, or antisocial. Has anyone been (wrongly/rightly) accused of this recently? What were you doing that caused the accusation?

Another thing: Does anyone act arrogant on purpose just to get people to go away?

**Silverity** · 09-12-2010, 11:45 AM

No one has come out and accused me of being arrogant, but I am arrogant so I'm sure a few people have thought it. I've been told I'm aloof which... well, I suppose so. I spend a lot of time deep in thought and am a bit disconnected from my surroundings at times so I warrant that title too. Anyone who accuses me of being antisocial clearly doesn't know what antisocial behaviour actually is =P

**vertex** · 09-12-2010, 03:12 PM

	Originally Posted by sairakh To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	INTJs commonly get accused of being arrogant, aloof, or antisocial. Has anyone been (wrongly/rightly) accused of this recently? What were you doing that caused the accusation? Another thing: Does anyone act arrogant on purpose just to get people to go away?

Yeah I've been told I am and yes I have been known to do that. I cannot cope with some peoples company sometimes...it's... easier?

**Sawa Hinuyo** · 09-12-2010, 06:19 PM

- ... Or a perfectionist?
- ... Someone with uncompromising values?
- ... Or a sceptical naïve?

**Briput** · 09-12-2010, 07:09 PM

People have talked behind my back about how arrogant I am (not that I really care, I know I am)
My boss has joked about how aloof I am sometimes,
and I am definitely not antisocial.

**Mohammad** · 09-12-2010, 10:15 PM

one of my former bosses insisted i was arrogant. it was only because i was the only one who stood up to her. she wrote me up because of that.
others see me as clinical and precise. but when i try to remain focused on the task at hand, it gets misconstrued as being arrogant. i'm going to have to learn a work-around, soon.
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**Samoan Corleone** · 09-12-2010, 10:58 PM

I guess NTs tend to be more careful and thus are not as mistake-prone as other people. I've seen others around me fall as a result of their own errors and call me smug for not acting equally moronic, labeling me things like "perfect" (in a mocking tone) and a "goody-good." It doesn't really phase me, which only confirms that I'm an "arrogant jerk" who's "too good" for them.

	Originally Posted by Sawa Hinuyo To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	- ... Someone with uncompromising values?

That's one of the many things that supposedly makes me arrogant, because people who brag about drug-fueled, promiscuous escapades to whoever's within earshot are so much more humble.
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**rickster** · 09-12-2010, 11:06 PM

	Originally Posted by sairakh To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	Another thing: Does anyone act arrogant on purpose just to get people to go away?

No.

I do it as a public service. It's a dirty job but somebody has to do it.

And the bastards rarely say thanks.

**DarkestApathy** · 09-12-2010, 11:21 PM

I get that ALL the time, and I don't think I do anything out of the ordinary to cause that... it could be because I keep to myself, but other than that I don't think I do anything special to be accused of that. Ok ok, I admit it, I probably do eyerolls more often than other people, but it's because stupidity bothers me way more than the average easy going person.

**Commissar** · 09-12-2010, 11:38 PM

Hmm...I don't think I'm that arrogant

**rika** · 09-12-2010, 11:38 PM

My friends who get to see the real me often support my displays of superior attitude which means I need to question my behaviour meyself.

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	Originally Posted by Sawa Hinuyo To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	- ... Or a perfectionist? - ... Someone with uncompromising values? - ... Or a sceptical naïve?

That's not arrogance in itself.
It depends on the attitude with which these valid standpoints are conveyed. And there one has a choice.

**True Rune** · 09-13-2010, 01:02 AM

Too much of a loner to have time to be perceived in that way.

**Zsych** · 09-13-2010, 01:51 AM

No doubt plenty of people think so - even plenty of people here
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Imperator · 09-13-2010, 04:07 AM

I've been told I'm an arrogant ass, and I've been told I lack confidence.

Obviously the former comes from something I know about, and the latter something I don't.

**AutisticCuckoo** · 09-13-2010, 04:40 AM

	Originally Posted by sairakh To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	Has anyone been (wrongly/rightly) accused of this recently?

Who cares?

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**Muse** · 09-13-2010, 04:48 AM

To the less perceptive im arrogant, to the open minded im confident and capable.

I don't really care if people are butthurt because im so damn good at stuff, maybe theyd understand if they actually tried to master something. Im honestly too busy kicking ass in life to care about the emotional egos of the casuals.

A person once asked me why i seem to be good at everything. I told them its because i only do the things im good at.

**Rachminov** · 09-13-2010, 05:53 AM

I've always been accused of being aloof, antisocial, and arrogant. It doesn't bother me, though. I already know that I'm more intelligent than the majority of people my age and I refuse to acknowledge anyone inferior.

**elizabeth lover** · 09-13-2010, 06:07 AM

compared to everyone else, probably. in my own mind, no.

**Booko** · 09-13-2010, 06:15 AM

	Originally Posted by sairakh To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	INTJs commonly get accused of being arrogant, aloof, or antisocial. Has anyone been (wrongly/rightly) accused of this recently? What were you doing that caused the accusation?

At my age people tend not to actually tell me if they think I'm being arrogant. But yeah, it's been known to happen. Sometimes rightly, mostly not.

When I'm wrongly accused of being arrogant it seems like it's just that I know something about a particular topic and don't see much reason to pretend I don't, particularly if someone else brought up the topic. Probably the "matter of fact" manner of information delivery can make people think I'm arrogant too.

Also I have a vocabulary I'm not going to hide for anyone. I don't usually obfuscate purposely, but I don't assume I have to dumb down everything for everyone either. Often one larger term can replace and entire paragraph of speech, so why not use just the one word?


	Another thing: Does anyone act arrogant on purpose just to get people to go away?

That's my favorite means to get really annoying stupid manipulative people to stfu, yup.

I usually do it with a quieter voice, but no one around seems to miss that I just verbally cut someone's knees off to get them to stand down.

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	Originally Posted by mohammad83 To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	others see me as clinical and precise. but when i try to remain focused on the task at hand, it gets misconstrued as being arrogant. i'm going to have to learn a work-around, soon. To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.

Yeah, start your own business. Then people hire you specifically because they want your expertise, not your unquestioning obedience and adoration.

**rika** · 09-13-2010, 06:24 AM

I fail to see the point why most posters here seem to be so proud of being (perceived as) arrogant.

**Silverity** · 09-13-2010, 06:37 AM

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	I fail to see the point why most posters here seem to be so proud of being (perceived as) arrogant.

I don't think it's pride, I think it is dismissal. People who harbour negative thoughts about me are unlikely to remain around me, if they don't remain around me I don't have a reason to care about their opinion. Even if they do remain around me... so what if I am arrogant? No one needs to like me, and it's perfectly acceptable if they don't. I'm not a rude individual, I'm just confident, I don't see a reason to change.

**BellaBianca** · 09-13-2010, 06:39 AM

Funny thing is that my humility sometimes makes me arrogant.
When I understand something I tend to think of it as obvious, therefore I will be annoyed when someone can't see what I think of as right in front of their noses. I have to remind myself that maybe I just happen to be the clever one and the other person isn't necessarily stupid. The other person understands other things or has other qualities.

Often I find opposite qualities like humility and pride to be very closely related.

**Ytterbium** · 09-13-2010, 12:32 PM

In my newly found favourite reality series, Wife swap. There's a
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who was what I would call arrogant.

I'm not like him. I hardly think anyone here is either.

**sairakh** · 09-13-2010, 03:55 PM

I don't think I am arrogant but I got called arrogant for no reason just because I happened to be concentrating at the time and answering in monosybilic sentences. I was surprised at this accusation because I really wasn't trying to act superior.

**Zsych** · 09-13-2010, 04:25 PM

Ask yourself your real opinion of the people around you. How capable you think they are? What flaws you think they have? Whether you have those flaws or not?

And then see if you don't think you're better than them.

09-12-2010, 07:52 AM	#1
sairakh New Member [01%] MBTI: IxTx Join Date: Aug 2010 Posts: 29	INTJs commonly get accused of being arrogant, aloof, or antisocial. Has anyone been (wrongly/rightly) accused of this recently? What were you doing that caused the accusation? Another thing: Does anyone act arrogant on purpose just to get people to go away?
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09-12-2010, 11:45 AM	#2
Silverity Core Member [279%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Sep 2009 Posts: 11,163	No one has come out and accused me of being arrogant, but I am arrogant so I'm sure a few people have thought it. I've been told I'm aloof which... well, I suppose so. I spend a lot of time deep in thought and am a bit disconnected from my surroundings at times so I warrant that title too. Anyone who accuses me of being antisocial clearly doesn't know what antisocial behaviour actually is =P
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09-12-2010, 06:19 PM	#4
Sawa Hinuyo Member [04%] MBTI: INTP Join Date: Aug 2009 Posts: 187	- ... Or a perfectionist? - ... Someone with uncompromising values? - ... Or a sceptical naïve?
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Briput New Member [01%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Sep 2010 Posts: 3	People have talked behind my back about how arrogant I am (not that I really care, I know I am) My boss has joked about how aloof I am sometimes, and I am definitely not antisocial.
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Mohammad Veteran Member [61%] MBTI: INxJ Join Date: Mar 2010 Posts: 2,450	one of my former bosses insisted i was arrogant. it was only because i was the only one who stood up to her. she wrote me up because of that. others see me as clinical and precise. but when i try to remain focused on the task at hand, it gets misconstrued as being arrogant. i'm going to have to learn a work-around, soon. To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
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09-12-2010, 11:21 PM	#9
DarkestApathy New Member [01%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Sep 2010 Posts: 35	I get that ALL the time, and I don't think I do anything out of the ordinary to cause that... it could be because I keep to myself, but other than that I don't think I do anything special to be accused of that. Ok ok, I admit it, I probably do eyerolls more often than other people, but it's because stupidity bothers me way more than the average easy going person.
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09-12-2010, 11:38 PM	#10
Commissar Member [12%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Jul 2010 Posts: 514	Hmm...I don't think I'm that arrogant
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True Rune Core Member [201%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Apr 2008 Posts: 8,062	Too much of a loner to have time to be perceived in that way.
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09-13-2010, 01:51 AM	#13
Zsych Core Member [309%] MBTI: XNTX Join Date: Apr 2009 Posts: 12,376	No doubt plenty of people think so - even plenty of people here To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
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Imperator Core Member [115%] MBTI: InTJ Join Date: May 2010 Posts: 4,606	I've been told I'm an arrogant ass, and I've been told I lack confidence. Obviously the former comes from something I know about, and the latter something I don't.
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Muse Veteran Member [84%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Jul 2010 Posts: 3,392	To the less perceptive im arrogant, to the open minded im confident and capable. I don't really care if people are butthurt because im so damn good at stuff, maybe theyd understand if they actually tried to master something. Im honestly too busy kicking ass in life to care about the emotional egos of the casuals. A person once asked me why i seem to be good at everything. I told them its because i only do the things im good at.
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09-13-2010, 05:53 AM	#17
Rachminov Member [08%] MBTI: INFJ Join Date: Sep 2010 Posts: 329	I've always been accused of being aloof, antisocial, and arrogant. It doesn't bother me, though. I already know that I'm more intelligent than the majority of people my age and I refuse to acknowledge anyone inferior.
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elizabeth lover Banned MBTI: intj Join Date: Jan 2010 Posts: 804	compared to everyone else, probably. in my own mind, no.
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09-13-2010, 06:24 AM	#20
rika Member [19%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: May 2010 Posts: 799	I fail to see the point why most posters here seem to be so proud of being (perceived as) arrogant.
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09-13-2010, 06:39 AM	#22
BellaBianca Veteran Member [66%] MBTI: INTP Join Date: May 2010 Posts: 2,675	Funny thing is that my humility sometimes makes me arrogant. When I understand something I tend to think of it as obvious, therefore I will be annoyed when someone can't see what I think of as right in front of their noses. I have to remind myself that maybe I just happen to be the clever one and the other person isn't necessarily stupid. The other person understands other things or has other qualities. Often I find opposite qualities like humility and pride to be very closely related.
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09-13-2010, 12:32 PM	#23
Ytterbium Veteran Member [73%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Dec 2007 Posts: 2,928	In my newly found favourite reality series, Wife swap. There's a To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts. who was what I would call arrogant. I'm not like him. I hardly think anyone here is either.
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09-13-2010, 03:55 PM	#24
sairakh New Member [01%] MBTI: IxTx Join Date: Aug 2010 Posts: 29	I don't think I am arrogant but I got called arrogant for no reason just because I happened to be concentrating at the time and answering in monosybilic sentences. I was surprised at this accusation because I really wasn't trying to act superior.
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09-13-2010, 04:25 PM	#25
Zsych Core Member [309%] MBTI: XNTX Join Date: Apr 2009 Posts: 12,376	Ask yourself your real opinion of the people around you. How capable you think they are? What flaws you think they have? Whether you have those flaws or not? And then see if you don't think you're better than them.
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