[Bonamona]

How much privacy do you exercise when it comes to details of your personal life? Or do you just leave it out in the open?

I like that most people aren't aware who my true friends are and they don't know what's really going on between me and a certain ex.

I simply like keeping my personal and social life more low profile than what is expected.

[Smokescreen]

	I simply like keeping my personal and social life more low profile than what is expected.

I'm with you there. My family and friends don't interact on any level whatsoever. I employ George Costanza's "Worlds Colliding" theory.

The people at my job don't know too much about me (despite having been there for three years) except what I carefully reveal to them.

I really don't see much point and letting everyone know everything there is to know about me.

[Warrior]

I generally don't talk about personal matters to many people, but on the other hand, I often chat with the people in the office about things I did over the weekend, vacations, and similar stuff. That stuff really isn't a big deal. It isn't that I'm afraid someone is going to find out about some other part of my life. Usually the things I don't discuss are just not appropriate due to other's confidence or similar reasons.

[Judoka]

people outside my family know only a mere fraction about me
and even my family don't know most things about me

[REMwoman]

Many INTJs do this because they're very private. Others do it because they have lots to hide that they don't want other people to know about, because they're ashamed of it or they think it will bounce back on them negatively. Which it might. Personally, I think it's a good idea to keep work and social life separate, and I'm careful about which friends and which family members. I'm not too worried about which friends with which friends, though. They can sort that all out amongst themselves.

[Rotary]

I shared only what was necessary with others when I was younger, but i'm gradually sharing more as time goes by. (Still not very much)

[Hoglet]

I'm keeping everything, with a few exceptions, for myself.

[INTroJect]

Used to be very open with people but found that it often gets used by the malicious for some purpose or another. Have evolved into extreme privacy. Or atleast, very controlled with what get revealed. Not like there is anything that interesting or spectacular going on but things go much smoother this way.

[IcNjThJ]

I enjoy being mysterious, even to my family....The rare times I do reveal anything, I get somewhat upset at myself after.

[LarryL]

For those that are interested, I tell them anything they want to know.
But nobody wants to get to know me, so it's never been an issue.

[emw1981]

	Originally Posted by INTroJect To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	Used to be very open with people but found that it often gets used by the malicious for some purpose or another. Have evolved into extreme privacy. Or atleast, very controlled with what get revealed. Not like there is anything that interesting or spectacular going on but things go much smoother this way.

oh goondess...i overshare BIG time. in a world in which i have always been misunderstood, the more and more misunderstood i have become, the more of an open book i have become. however, i find that it bites me in the ass constantly and continuously. i have always found it odd that the INTJ profile says that i should be a private person-and im so the opposite. thru a deep depression that was correlated with anxiety over the damage that was created over being an over-sharing person-i realized i was trying to be an extrovert! i was trying to fit in! i was trying to be "like everyone else" i WAY overcompensated for my introversion and insecurities. i am slowly learning that i need to embrace my privacy and my introversion. trying to be someone im not has not suited me well, and if anything has caused a partial break in my psyche.
so from someone who over-shared, stay private. open up only to people who are worthy of your trust, and just because they shared-doesnt mean you have to. anyone worth sharing with will stick around.

[ZJ95]

My office is predominantly ESFX so I have to be very careful about how much and what I let out. Too much and they get offended and think I'm a wacko, and too little and they still get offended but think I'm overly moody/depressed. I'm still trying to figure out what the right balance is.

[PRBori]

well, my life is already written down within this forum... that said I guess is not that much private at all for I'm sharing it with millions of people...

I should however stop coming to the forum and documenting my life, but I guess the lack of actual personal life outside of work lets me to this as my way of letting things out...

I do tend to share a bit with some co-workers and sometimes some individuals... depends on who they are and what let me to share part of my life... I guess a lot has to do with the fact that I hope others can learn from the so many mistakes I've made and the sacrifices I've experience thru my life... besides sharing sometimes clears the mind away and allows me to start fresh again... which is important

[Booko]

I'm pretty open even to very personal questions, moreso on forums. In conversations with real people, if you ask me, odds are I'll answer.

As a general safety rule, anything I wouldn't state loudly in public over a microphone, I don't put in print anywhere.

I guard my preferences, activities and personal information from business data mining like a paranoid though.

Good luck finding any info Googling my real name.

I will never "Like" anything on FB.

I subscribe to magazines with fake names...then I know who's sold them to whom and it's even easier to toss junk mail.

I intentionally crap up marketing databases with impossible nonsense.

I make a game out of filling out and signing legally irrelevant things like "Arbitration agreements" and "Grocer Discount Card" forms with ridiculous names like Richard M. Nixon and T.J. Winklebone.

I give out "my" home phone as 555-1212 (for those of you old enough to recognize that as "Information" -- the old version of 411).

No one has noticed...ever.

[True Rune]

Fairly secretive. Which can be a hassle when revealing information. An intense feeling of regret appears. It's also a hassle for a brother who tends to love to reminisce, no matter who appears. -_-;

[InArts]

Much. I've already said too much.

[Ilara]

If asked, I'll generally answer. I don't have much to hide, so I'll try to give an innocuous answer to a personal question. I don't share unless solicited, though.

With some close friends and family, I'm willing to share my personal life.

But even with them, some things are absolutely off-limits. *shrug* Just the way I am, I guess.

[tms1337]

My privacy is held under more security than the gold at Fort Knox. Just the other day, my roommate of one year wanted details of my new girl. He got pissed when I was apparently too vague for his liking.

[rwyatt365]

I share, but no one person knows "everything". As a matter of fact, if everyone that knows me (or, at least thinks they do) got together, they would be surprised at the person they think they know so well. They might even begin to think that they are talking about different people!

I consider myself to be a "diamond" - with many facets, reflecting different "light" depending on how you look at me. No two people looking at me will see the same thing.

[Samoan Corleone]

I've got friends and cousins I'm comfortable disclosing anything to, and they confide in me about everything also. With my immediate family, specifically my parents, they only know what I think they have to. They don't need to know about my past relationships and mishaps with women; they only need to know about the one (hopefully just one) I bring home.

[Rationality]

Unless I'm directly asked, I don't tell people personal matters. Not so much out of a sense of privacy, if someone really wanted to know something I'd likely give a complete and honest answer. It's more a combination of etiquette and a desire for social interactions to go smoothly.

For example my own family doesn't know much about me and I'd just as soon keep it that way, arguing with them is pointless. I'd be more open if we had more in common.

[HoodMasterMIND]

my mother knows me the most...maybe 50%

EVERYBODY else? they're lucky if they get to 10% lol

[paulm]

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	My privacy is held under more security than the gold at Fort Knox. Just the other day, my roommate of one year wanted details of my new girl. He got pissed when I was apparently too vague for his liking.

Umm yeah my close relationships to others are no-one else's business, especially for guys I don't know too well (e.g. colleagues, classmates). It usually ends up with them trying to get me to tell them some of my sexual escapades. Being drawn into a world of machismo and bragging rights. I don't get it so I'd like to stay out of it.

I once bought a really expensive gadget. I'd wanted it for years (an e-ink e-book reader) but the technology simply wasn't ready outside the lab. Once they released a model to the corporate markets, I bought it. Most people do not know I own it. Because it cost an absolute shitload of money that I'll probably not earn back by saving on printing. I don't use it too often, and nowadays such devices are a third of the price.

Similarly with my Nintendo DS. Bought it but was hesitant I'd hardly use it. And indeed, I hardly use it. After a year I admitted I had one, when my friends got one too so we could play games together.

Maybe I'm just not interested in having others point out the mistakes I made in purchasing those things. Since I've realised them myself already (and foreseen them too...). The ones that do know I have an e-reader, and know its price, have often compared it to netbooks. I'm really not interested in explaining, again, they're comparing apples and pears, when they cannot seem to appreciate what I find desirable in those items.

The fact some of my pleasures are secret, I find, has its charm.

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[snip] Good luck finding any info Googling my real name. I will never "Like" anything on FB. I subscribe to magazines with fake names...then I know who's sold them to whom and it's even easier to toss junk mail. I intentionally crap up marketing databases with impossible nonsense. I make a game out of filling out and signing legally irrelevant things like "Arbitration agreements" and "Grocer Discount Card" forms with ridiculous names like Richard M. Nixon and T.J. Winklebone. I give out "my" home phone as 555-1212 (for those of you old enough to recognize that as "Information" -- the old version of 411). No one has noticed...ever.

I'm so much like that. Online, I was born on Jan 1 1970 (I'm actually a lot younger), sometimes in other years. Bonus: when you have to enter it online, the day and month are already correct, just need to set the year.

I like the magazine trick. It reminds me of a friend of mine who has his own internet domain. On every site he has to register, he uses
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. So it's immediately obvious which websites are a source of spam.

I was already online before the internet boom in 2000. I was young and stupid. I can sometimes still find some stuff I did, and if you search hard enough, you can link it to my real name. Nothing really bad, just stupid.

I've also participated in some religious flamewars with my real name...

However google results for my real name are kinda skewed. Once I posted a few lame jokes on a website, with my name under it. Spambots inserted jokes from that website, including names, into spam mail and posts. Keep finding a lot of those if I google myself
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[Vagrant]

I'm like an open book with a false bottom. My actions are transparent, and people can easily find details on me. But most of these details are superficial. Stuff that's important to me lays hidden and you need to be close to me to find these details. (IE, my phone number is readily handed out, but my physical address only a few people know)

[plushbug]

I've always been relatively open about my life, because I've always found it more useful than otherwise, for people to have more rather than less information to help them make sense of my peculiarities. So, asked any question, I'll generally answer--though it's likely to be with a question, if I find the question inappropriately personal, and I was trained early to sidestep any question I sensed might be leading or potentially exploitive of me or mine. I was also taught never to say anything, in any context, that I wouldn't be prepared to face having quoted back at me out of context, by a hostile interpreter. No great limitation on self-expression, given a reasonable vocabulary and an oblique sense of humour!


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And you won't find me through Google, either. I just checked
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and there are actually quite a few people out there with my real name, front and centre a male realtor in the southern U.S. who also uses (his) initials--but none of them are me.