[Yardy]

A few examples:

"I don't get it"

"I'm bored"

"That's stupid"

"You're lying"

"What do I get out of it?"

"He got one, where's mine?"

"Sociologists and psychiatrists don't get along"

"That's against the law, you can't do that"

"Maybe you should find someone else who shares your interests"

"I can't tell if I love them"

"Ever since she 'broke up' with her husband..."

"Men and women are just too different."

"[Any exausted cliche or euphemism]"

"[Most circumstances where the sentence begins with "my ex" "my bf" or "my gf"] (let's hear more names, and let's keep the objectifying labels on the d/l)

"federal aid is why we had our kids"

"I can't trust anyone"

"I give up"


I searched and couldn't find this type thread for infj's. Since there aren't many of us, irony and psuedo-sadistic remarks from other types is allowed.

[divinity8]

My list:

Be honest. If I suspect a lie, your credibility is shot. If I suspect a lie, then find out later that you were actually telling the truth, I'll feel guilty about it for the rest of my life. LOL.

Do NOT start the conversation off with or about sex.

Refrain from generalizations as any sort of stereotype or discrimination (whether clearly stated or simply implied) ruffles my feathers.

Please display a decent level of intelligence.

Avoid any cheesy pick-up line (and there is a tragically significant number of them out there).

Avoid the appearance of being vain or arrogant. Both turn me off immediately.


On a more positive note, things that score points with me are:

Romance, romance, romance.

Toned-down confidence.

Tasteful innuendos.

Being protective, but NOT smothering.

Love coffeehouses and bookstores (preferably because you actually READ the books).

Prefer intimate settings (private, quiet, toned-down) to, say, a loud bar (I would never be in a bar to begin with, so this might be a moot point. LOL)

Sincerely believe in soul connections (I will easily know if you don't...and then we come full circle to the credibility issue)

Looking forward to hearing other INFJ thoughts.
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[Mogura]

INFJs are like snowflakes--no two are alike. Sorry to use the cliche, but the point I'm trying to make is that you have to be tuned into the particular INFJ's personal values to deduce what should and should not be said in the spirit of harmony.
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That said, I'm personally put off by statements or attitudes that sheeple tend to spout off without any thought whatsoever.

Also, illogical statements.

Oh, and my all-time favorite, "because I said so!"

Sometimes it's not what is said, as much as the way it is said, or the tone of delivery. Condescension or arrogance really gets my goat...

[Eye on Earth]

I was having sex in a loud bar one day when she yelled, "that's against the law, you can't do that." Perturbed at the interruption, I shouted back "That's stupid" and proceeded to soulfully connect with her inner concept of righteousness while pondering the basic construction of snowflakes. Wink...hahaha.

[Yardy]

	Originally Posted by Mogura To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	INFJs are like snowflakes--no two are alike. Sorry to use the cliche, but the point I'm trying to make is that you have to be tuned into the particular INFJ's personal values to deduce what should and should not be said in the spirit of harmony. To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.

That's probably accurate. Still, the best way to become accustomed to that problem is to hear it directly from the source =].

	Originally Posted by Eye on Earth To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	I was having sex in a loud bar one day when she yelled, "that's against the law, you can't do that." Perturbed at the interruption, I shouted back "That's stupid" and proceeded to soulfully connect with her inner concept of righteousness while pondering the basic construction of snowflakes. Wink...hahaha.

LOL. <3.


The rant goes something like, 'Law shouldn't be the basis of morality, morality should be the purpose of morality; morals shouldn't be based on premises of punishment and reward, yadda yadda...'

=p

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	Originally Posted by Mogura To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	...That said, I'm personally put off by statements or attitudes that sheeple tend to spout off without any thought whatsoever. Also, illogical statements. Oh, and my all-time favorite, "because I said so!" Sometimes it's not what is said, as much as the way it is said, or the tone of delivery. Condescension or arrogance really gets my goat...

Wouldn't you agree that it's all about intent? The method or means of the communication aren't nearly as important as the spirit, and the result almost totally relies on this as well.

For shallow example: Someone can use a cliche if it's meant with a degree of insincerity from the start, or if it's made plain that the user understands the tiredness of the expression. But when someone tries to pass it off as original, that's just vulgar.

[Cam66]

"You just need to calm down and think this through...."

[QuietConfidence]

"You are too logical"

[Izzy]

I did not understand a thing you just said.

Did you know you are weird?

Are you upset about something? Because you aren't smiling, talking, etc.

You should be friendlier.

And don't ever ask me what I think about you and the loser you are dating, because I definitely will answer, and you will not like my answer.

[Seraphim]

"Prove it!"

[jerkface]

talk like that and someone will martyr you.

[Snowdragon]

Don't have a cow man.

[True Rune]

"There is a such thing as absolute truth and you need to think for yourself."

[BellaBianca]

You're just private because it's your image to be mysterious.

[SelfMadeBum]

Your values don't mean shit.

[Eye on Earth]

Are you in season because I feel like shooting something.

[burt by the sun]

	Originally Posted by Izzy To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	I did not understand a thing you just said. Did you know you are weird? Are you upset about something? Because you aren't smiling, talking, etc. You should be friendlier. And don't ever ask me what I think about you and the loser you are dating, because I definitely will answer, and you will not like my answer.

YES! All of these!
Ugh, "be friendlier." The thing is, that when I'm being friendly, I treat people like we've known each other forever... this candidness scares the shit out most people... so I stay quiet and steely-eyed and wait forever to be talked to or noticed.

[Kmal]

-most anything negative; especially about yourself
-i cant

[dontmesswithme]

"Which girl looks prettier/which guy is more handsome? (I'm not comfortable deciding that, and I pretty much won't decide that.)

"How could you not notice that pile of things on the floor/note I left for you/already opened jar of spaghetti sauce/etc?.......I mean, it's right there in front of your face! It's so obvious!" ( I don't flippin know...don't go on at me with this bullshit)

I guess that's it for now.