[Dover]

Are you lonely?

[Plethora]

Yes and No.

On a rational level, No.
On an emotional level, Yes/Probably.

Luckily rational > emotional.

I expect the same goes for others. We're capable of repressing all that kind of stuff because we know that it doesn't help us in any way.

[Calica]

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	Yes and No.

haha, my thoughts exactly
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there are moments when I am, but mostly I`m just alone and not lonely. I actually haven`t been in a while, too busy to actually think about that other type of loneliness that doesn`t go away after socializing.

[SamDwight]

	Originally Posted by Plethora To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	Yes and No. On a rational level, No. On an emotional level, Yes/Probably. Luckily rational > emotional. I expect the same goes for others. We're capable of repressing all that kind of stuff because we know that it doesn't help us in any way.

My sentiments exactly. Fortunately we don't get caught up in all that emotional garbage.

[Calica]

	Originally Posted by SamDwight To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	Fortunately we don't get caught up in all that emotional garbage.

Don`t know if you meant loneliness=emotional garbage or emotions=garbage, but either way, a healthy individual cannot function only on rationality. A well developed person will know how and when to balance both.

[Leg]

It depends, I have many acquaintances and few good friends. For great part of the year we don't see each other as they study in other cites; but during the holidays we spend a lot of time together.
I don't think I am really lonely, I've also some good acquantannces on the internet as well.

Probably I just need a partner, even if at the moment I'm just fine.

[Anima Mundi]

I'm the opposite - not on an emotional level, but on a rational one.

At this point the only reason I would consider making new friends is for the sake of appearing normal to the world at large, not because I actually feel the need to connect with others.

[Mind Marauder]

	Originally Posted by Plethora To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	Yes and No. On a rational level, No. On an emotional level, Yes/Probably. Luckily rational > emotional. I expect the same goes for others. We're capable of repressing all that kind of stuff because we know that it doesn't help us in any way.

I agree with this statement. Except that repressing, in terms of my personality, always ends up coming back to get me in the end.

[animalcule]

I have no idea what it feels like to be lonely. I've never experienced the feeling as others describe it.

[dandylion]

I wasn't before, but I do feel that way every now and then. I don't connect with people, but I would like to. It would be nice to share cupcakes and experiences with certain individuals who understand me. Not that I want people "all up in my biz" all the time, but it would be nice to spend quality time with people on the same wavelength.

[lioness]

It's summer ∴ I am lonely quite a bit. I am very much an extrovert + a thinker. For me, I need incoming ideas, theories, interaction. Not many people build relationships on this.

College helps - incoming information and intellectual discussions in class - but at home I have to spent time rationally thinking alone on how to deal with other's emotions (not my strong suit). It is quite tiring and it makes me feel quite lonely at times.

However this summer I have a job working at a group home, and that helps me feel less lonely. That may sound like a feeler thing, but for me my job is:

1.) An opportunity to rationalize normal things and apply it to the outside world (which gives me great joy) First, you need settle down. Do you trust me? I would never let you fall. Then we need to stand. Hence the whole studying to be a teacher thing.

2.) I love the opportunity to love others on a professional level - there's not the emotional ups and downs, just the joys of daily living, much how I approach my life.

3.) I get a feeling of accomplishment. This is like an anti-loneliness drug for me.

Even though I feel lonely at times, the rational in me fixes it right away. I find someone or something to occupy my time. It is quite helpful, because the feeling of loneliness is rarely helpful, mostly destructive.

[Dru]

not at the moment.

[dontmesswithme]

Occasionally I feel crushing loneliness that feels like it will never subside. However, it usually goes away after a while and I'm fine and optimistic again (especially after a good cry in the bathroom). When I say "loneliness" I mostly mean in the sense that I have no love life. I'm a Mom and that really helps with not being so isolated. I have no social life except for this forum (which I very much enjoy), and sometimes I think that it would be nice to have one special galpal (supportive and non-judgmental, natch) to go out and do girl stuff with. I'm extremely introverted and, I think, misunderstood by most people I come into contact with. This goes a long way towards explaining my lack of social/love life.

[Adoniax]

Most of the time, I enjoy my solitude. But during the holidays I do feel like I miss having someone around that I can truely connect with on an intellectual, emotional, and spiritual level. Then I ask myself "why do I even try?" Over the holiday weekend was a fine example of "I would rather be alone the rest of my life than waste my time with a bunch of drunk idiots at the bar who just don't get it". I realize this post does not explain much, but ehh...

[Smokescreen]

	Originally Posted by Plethora To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	Yes and No. On a rational level, No. On an emotional level, Yes/Probably. Luckily rational > emotional. I expect the same goes for others. We're capable of repressing all that kind of stuff because we know that it doesn't help us in any way.

This somewhat sums up my sentiment, as well.

Emotionally, I suppose its somewhat my fault for being lonely. I don't connect well with many people my own age for a number of reasons and I find spending a large amount of time with most people to be mentally exhausting, for the most part. I have my groups that I interact with (gamers, amateur writers and groups like this forum, mostly) but these interactions are mostly limited.

Things used to be different when I was a child but I've found that, as I've gotten older, I've had a progressivley more difficult time just identifying with people to the point where I don't even bother trying most of the time anymore.

It doesn't really bother me and it comes with the territory, I suppose *shrugs*

[Stratego]

Yes.

I truly enjoy great company, which for me are thinking, intellectual types with imagination, humor and an easy-going personality. I met loads of these types in college; not as easy now that I'm an 9-5 drone with my soul leeching away every week...

I don't know many people quite like that anymore, and I miss it. I don't want a lot of company, but I would perfer more than one person to talk to and hang out with during the week. Not possible right now as the one friend I do have is up her boyfriend's ass.

[Danisty]

I get lonely sometimes when my husband is deployed, but most of the time I can keep myself sufficiently distracted when he's gone. Going to bed alone isn't fun though.

[Akzis]

Too enamored with life to actually think about it; but when I do, it's a dark, cold place.

[TheBlindSage]

I'm only lonely if I stop to think about it.

[musicaty]

Others consider me a loner but I prefer describing myself as an observer. I like being this way.
There were times when I wanted to be more Extroverted and have more friends. I and really achieved that desire (last summer). But it didn't take long till I realized I had wasted my time...

So now I am lonely just because I always have my head stuck in the clouds and I am not too active in a daily and boring conversation. ( I must recognize that I feel sometimes envy when looking at other E's and their gigantic group of friends)

[AngryGroceries]

I'm pretty lonely in both ways.

I'm starting to embrace that, though.
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[Jasen]

Yes. Very much so.

[kepstein8888]

Personally, no. Existentially, yes.

I am fortunate enough to have people in my life who provide enough support and companionship, and who "get" me well enough that I don't feel alone among them. I can't complain, but I feel the world outside is cold, lonely and impersonal.

I also find it extremely difficult to form solid relationships outside my zone. Everyone is obsessed with themselves and too busy trying to look busy and important to be open to broader, more secure, meaningful community. Lots of cliques with thick walls and hollow insides that don't seem worth breaking into.

I find it unsettling, yet it makes me appreciate what I have.

[Booko]

Sure. Chronic Fatigue Syndrome is very isolating.

[khadi]

Sometimes.