[deacon]

this morning my helper fell in the bathroom. she is 70+ years old, took care of my mom and me when we were both children. i found her on the bathroom floor this morning. apparently she had high blood pressure and is recovering now. i noticed i didn't react fast enough. i just stood there for 2 minutes talking to her before getting her to drink water. i then called my other helpers. they carried her out of the bathroom after she dressed and i called a doctor and bought her medicine. i don't love many people but my nanny is one of them so i cried when i had the chance to be alone because i thought she might die. thankfully she did not.

my mom on the other hand who is another intj just stayed in her room and remarked that she hadn't even had her coffee yet. i never thought my mom was intj because she is warm and sociable. i guess i kinda see that side of her now but i still don't know why she was cold and aloof. she doesn't like tubes and hospitals although none of those were present.

i also disliked the feeling of being helpless and not knowing what to do. like taking blood pressure when we have that thingy at home but nobody knows how to use it.

[Feral]

I'm always the uncharacteristically calm one. Sometimes I feel bad for not freaking out like everyone else does, but I just don't have it in me. It's illogical to lose my senses, it causes more problems.
But still, it makes me feel like it seems that I don't care.

[Vagrant]

I pause for a moment and think for a solution, assuming I didn't already have one.

I'm usually the calmest in a "panic" situation. I simply find no reason to panic.

[Gumbercules]

That is unfortunate, I hope things worked out okay.

When the unexpected happens, I assess the situation, necessary items, prioritize actions, and make it so. Meanwhile, everyone else is in a frozen stupor. You can snap them out of hypnosis by calling them by name and give them a task. (this speeds things up)

At times, it feels weird to be the only calm person in such events.

[Antagonist]

Usually for me time slows down while my intuition is in action looking for the safest, most logical solution to accomplishing whatever my immediate needs may be. One situation was an earthquake where it was just my girlfriend and I in the house and she panicked; I instinctively grabbed her, dragged her into a doorway and held on until the shaking ended.

Another situation was when my grandfather had a massive heart attack that killed 60% of his heart tissue. It seemed like my mind shut down and I had the strongest urge to do mindless, repetitive sensory activities. I cleaned the entire house top to bottom with the utmost efficiency; completely out of character for me. It's strange how we act under different situations of crisis.

[Leg]

same for me; in extreme situations I'm really calm;
once I had a car accident; luckly it was just me, I reacted in a calm and cold way. My friends who helped me (they were in an other car) were surprised to see I was so calm.

[Warrior]

I'm typically calm and move to do what I can, but I am also giving orders if there are other people around. I don't want any debate, I become uncharacteristically closed minded to other suggestions, and I expect people to move when I say move.

[seeyouatx]

I, too, stay calm. In my last car accident, (a six car pileup on the highway) I called my parents to tell them I would be late, pulled out my license and registration, and waited for the cops to arrive. I checked the damage, made sure everyone was alright, and then spoke to the cops.

It's just not rational to lose your senses in an emergency. It accomplishes nothing.

[Joboman]

My Se takes over, I totally freeze.

[SuperSmart101]

Me to. When I am in crisis situations, I simply freeze, use my Ni to develop the general concept of the situation and how to fix it, then use my Ti to develop a step by step plan of ensuring that the situation is taken care of. When I make sure my plan is carried out, I always become the leader because everyone else is scared. I simply don't panic because I find it pointless in accomplishing nothing.

[Akzis]

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	My Se takes over, I totally freeze.

That's not Se. Se (if you're talking about negative uses) is the one that results in over-indulging. Overdrinking, sleeping in to the extreme, over-eating, etc...

[nanotube]

	Originally Posted by Feral To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	I'm always the uncharacteristically calm one. Sometimes I feel bad for not freaking out like everyone else does, but I just don't have it in me. It's illogical to lose my senses, it causes more problems. But still, it makes me feel like it seems that I don't care.

I think it's more accurate to say that we instantly stop caring, emotionally, during critical moments. We can become very cold, rational, even ruthless in emergency situations, which is the opposite of most people. It's a drastic, obvious difference everyone can see and after the emergency is over 'normal' people end up looking at us like we're aliens with a third eye and we're like "...uh... greetings, earthling." Right? Anyone else?

[Subtleserpent]

I have a rather typical INTJ reaction to crisis it seems. I always felt it as a reaction to adrenaline. When something goes down I can feel that initial dump of adrenaline into my bloodstream. Eyes dilate and skin tightens. Body temperature jumps and I get a panicky feeling. This is followed almost immediately by a calming sensation and an intense focus. Usually I have to be the one taking initiative. I am usually the one breaking up fights or talking down situations. I remember several times when people have said "Thank God you were here, I don't know what might have happened if you weren't" Also I tend to become lethargic after the event is over, almost like I am still focused on what just happened.

For example, my father had a severe heart attack when I was at home(he has had others while I was away) When it happened my mother and sister both freaked out. First thing I did was force the both of them out of the house while I called the ambulance and relayed the infomation. I remember knowing just how to handle it and doing so very calmly, although I had never witnessed a medical emergency before.

Afterwards at the hospital when it was clear he wouldn't die I sat around the waiting room doing nothing while my mom handled the paperwork and everything else. Looking back I don't think I was analyzing what had happened at that point, I had just shut off.

The shuting down is weird, because I don't readily know how to explain it, but it has happened to me more than once.

[MortalWombat]

I've always been calm in crisis moments. I grew up with dealing with it, at least once a month, though. You just have to asses the situation, and do what is needed. If you panic, you waste time.

[Falconscraper]

I tend to have stronger feeling against people in crisis situations. For some reason, I think other people are in fault.

[Axel]

Usually I am pretty calm during crisis, any shred of emotion disappears, and is replaced with cold calculation. In general time slows down for me and I get alot of extra energy and initiative, and I start scanning my surroundings for "openings". My mind runs amok and tries to anticipate all outcomes.

[Synapse]

I've always been calm in such situations; I would not say it is "uncharacteristic" as many have noted that I am perpetually calm. I assess the situation and meticulously plot a solution to the crisis, assessing options and then arriving at a solution (unless I've already created one impromptu). I feel no need to waste emotion as emotions do not come to me at all in such situations; an analytical apathy pervades these moments.

[Tito]

I'm usually extremely calm in crisis situations, in fact maybe too calm.

I've noticed how on a few near misses I've had while driving (I swear it wasn't because of me
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) that I simply automatically react to avoid the situation, but I remain extremely calm and composed. No rapid breathing, no stress, no 'oh my God', no panic. It's weird.

However, whenever I've find myself driving with a melodramatic person, let's just say they get on my nerves, literally.

Why?

If a guy is crossing the street a mile ahead of me, trust me, I see him. I will not run him over, I promise.
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[Ryujin]

I'm actually probably more calm and comfortable in most crises. Everything is just so much simpler and straight forward, including interactions with other people. Even my sense of humor is noticeably better. I'm not sure what that means, might just be relative to everyone else.

I also compulsively contingency plan, so sometimes I already have a plan in mind.

I can't handle "social crises" though. I seriously find possible death less unsettling than having to rite something very personal and share it with a bunch of people.

[raimius]

I get tense, then start looking for ways to solve the problem. I'll develop a VERY strong urge to "do something" and "keep moving." Usually, this works out pretty well. It can be extremely frustrating if I actually cannot solve the problem. I'm also pretty tense until solutions are actually implemented.

[INTJoe]

I'm typically very calm and things become very clear to me during a crisis situation.

I think that's why INTJs are often considered "strong, silent types" and "rocks".

I'm grateful that I do not freak out during a major crisis. That would suck.

[Houdini]

Strangely, I'm usually calm in crises, but I lose my cool quickly when more mundane things go awry.

[Iria]

I suspect my reaction depends on the type of crisis. Fortunately I haven't been in many severe ones. Occasionally I will freeze up for about a minute before I am able to even think what to do next. I don't ever remember having an experience where I was in a panicking state. It seems strange though, that the more the amount of panicking by people around me goes on, the less likely I am to have a similar response.


My family has generally said my reaction to be emotionless during times of crisis or tragedy.
An example of this would be, when I was fairly young, My mom was driving us to school (my brother and I, as well as herself) along the highway. The road was icy. A large gust of wind caused the car to slide to the opposite side of the road. Supposedly I calmly asked "Are we going to die"? The car then rolled over maybe four times before hitting a telephone pole.
The car was totaled, but we were all fine aside from a few bumps. I think my mom might of been in shock for a little while until some people stopped to 'rescue us.' We all still went to school that day. Hah.

[Monte314]

Hah! I've been in car wrecks with injuries, explosions with injuries, live gunfire situations, muggings, witnessed death, dealt with attempted suicides, chased down an escapee from a mental institution on foot, been present when sudden heart attacks have occurred, and was criticised by Rudy.

The only one of these in which I lost my cool was the Rudy thing... but I'm over that now.

You want someone like me around when things go terribly wrong.

[INTJoe]

	Originally Posted by Houdini To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	Strangely, I'm usually calm in crises, but I lose my cool quickly when more mundane things go awry.

This is me, too. I lose my cool easily when mundane crap goes wrong like someone on their cell phone not paying attention to the road. But in a legit situation where someone needs to take charge and remain calm I am that dude.

This is actually a rare instance where I think INTJs are valuable, that society rarely gets to see. General public thinks INTJs lack social skills or don't bring enough to the table but during a Black Swan type event I think a lot of these types would see our value. ESFJs might be great at handling common shallow problems but they would be AWFUL in a crisis.