Anyone else an ENTP magnet?

**sunlover** · 05-30-2010, 03:28 PM

Seriously, as a INTJ, I seem to attract any and all ENTP's who happen to work for whatever company I find myself. They seem to target me, and slowly but steadily work their way into a friendship. In my experience they all but push their way in. I'm not complaining as a typical INTJ I don't make friends easily, so their aggressive style is probably needed. I seem to befriend ENTP's and ENFP's almost exclusively. Is this common for our type to hit off with ENTP's?

**shytiger** · 05-30-2010, 03:40 PM

I would say this is very common. I've mostly befriended ENTPs. Besides, we're so insular, who else is bold enough to approach us?

**Kisai** · 05-30-2010, 03:42 PM

No.

I don't really like ENTPs (as a general minor prejudice mind you.. I like the ENTPs on this forum just fine) because they want to get me into meetings and pick at my brain. I don't enjoy spouting off thoughts that are half-finished and the "group brainstorming" activity that ENTPs revel in is noise to me. I like to reserve my ideas or let them come out at their own pace, not be pulled out.

They also never do their homework. They wing it far too often to me and are enamored of gadgetry and new consumables, not because they are useful, but because they are new.

**BellaBianca** · 05-30-2010, 06:57 PM

Actually, I have a similar problem with ENTJ's. And yes, to me it is a problem - they approach everything as if they are on a battlefield and privacy is just another fortress to conquer. These appears in my private life, not at work.

Now, ENTP's on the other hand.... lovely company. Funny and no pressure. No sulking about emotions or ruined schedules. They make me relax.

**sircockburn** · 05-30-2010, 07:32 PM

We'll chat with anyone, don't feel too special.
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Just kidding, I have a LOT of INTJ friends (well, not a lot numerically, but proportionately much more than they exist in the general population). I actually thought I was one myself briefly, which is why I joined this forum due to believing the "birds of a feather flock together" thing.

Perhaps it's because you INTJs have ENTP functions, except inside-out. (That is, Ne vs Ni etc)...

**Elfrun** · 05-30-2010, 07:38 PM

Never befriended an INTJ irl, xSTPs are more likely to gravitate towards me and vice versa, if I knew more iNtuitives I'd say xxTPs.

Irl xxTJs are often too decisive and final in things for my liking, although xNTJs are really cool to debate things with. This forum certainly gives me an appreciation for INTJs though, just gotta be low in that J for me to be comfortable irl.

**Gobbbler** · 05-30-2010, 11:24 PM

I don't know what types of people comprise my friends or even seem drawn to me, but I can pick out a few types. I definitely can say that INTP's seem to be everywhere in my life and we so often hit it off great. They are too I to "target me" or "push" into friendship though. Some kind of extroverts do too, but I don't know their type. I definitely agree with Elfrun that too much J tends to turn me off in some types. INFJ's also tend to like me, although they always seem so guarded that we never get super close. INFJ's seem to find me very amusing (when I'm trying to be). I suppose that is the shared Ni but flipped T and F.

Thinking back to ENTP's, they tend to be brilliant and love debating as well as other people they consider to be brilliant, so it doesn't seem surprising that they would latch onto INTJ's, especially because INTJ's are so rare that they probably are a rare find for the ENTP. Plus in a work setting, I find that P's tend to wish they had J's organization and decisiveness and are sometimes impressed by and drawn to that.

**fwiffo** · 05-31-2010, 09:16 AM

ENTPs are hit or miss for me. Online they are fine, but IRL their tendency for argumentativeness, "flexible" view on reality (*cough*ability to tell what I would consider a "lie"*cough*), and gregariousness while really being cold on the inside puts me on guard.

(I freely admit there is a possibility of confirmation bias and mistyping individuals on my part.)

That said, my partner is an ENTP, and I've never so wholly loved anyone else. Being with him and having the opportunity to pick apart his brain has given me some dizzying insights on how all my bizarro (Ne/Ti/Fe/Si) functions think.

A healthy, developed ENTP is a force to be reckoned with. On top of that, there are some profound differences in our perceptions of the world, communication styles, and the way we react to social situations. Maybe that's why I don't trust them farther than I can throw them at first blush.

**BobbitSneazer** · 05-31-2010, 12:15 PM

Every time I make a new friend they always turn out to be either ENTP or ENFP. I guess I am a magent for them but I also like them myself. I've even thought about various friends I have had in the past, and a great deal of them seem to fit the description of either ENTP or ENFP. I don't know why that is, but there are way too many instances of it in my life for it to be a coincidence.

**fidele** · 05-31-2010, 06:20 PM

My best friend in the entire world is ENTP. We find each other fascinating. He loves me because we both have endless curiosity and interesting world views; plus, I see through all his charades and love him anyway.

About the only thing that I have a hard time with him is his tendency to bail unexpectedly. But he knows it upsets me and tries harder.

He's also one of the few people that can easily brush aside my arrogance and even has had me tongue tied and furious on occasion. He does it for fun though and always ends up making me laugh about it.

I've known a few other ENTPs whom I've really liked, but never gotten past the amusing exterior to the soft squishy interior. I'm keeping my eye out for more
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ENTJs are awesome to work with, but hard to maintain friendships with, since they are just as bad with people as I am. You'd think that would give us something in common, but two wrongs just equal more wrong.

**Zsych** · 05-31-2010, 06:33 PM

Well they are cool, I'll grant that. I also tend to befriend them easily... or used to. I think my Te side is becoming too strong for new ones I meet to be able to handle since I tend to break down and more practically analyze ideas now than I used to.

**Elfrun** · 05-31-2010, 06:36 PM

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	I've known a few other ENTPs whom I've really liked, but never gotten past the amusing exterior to the soft squishy interior. I'm keeping my eye out for more To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.

*gasp* how dare you spread cruel factious rumours about ENTP inners!
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I wish I knew more INxxs irl.

**fwiffo** · 05-31-2010, 08:49 PM

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	I've known a few other ENTPs whom I've really liked, but never gotten past the amusing exterior to the soft squishy interior. I'm keeping my eye out for more To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.

How can one reach what does not exist?
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My ENTP partner is the opposite of me. He is outwardly emotive and inwardly stone-faced. Socially, he plays on a completely different level than me. He's utterly impossible to offend, which is good for being in a relationship with me since I can unintentionally say rather judgmental things without checking my biases first.

**Dasein** · 05-31-2010, 08:55 PM

We have a way of seeking out other NTs.. sort of knowing you aren't going to come to us
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**daydreamer** · 05-31-2010, 09:03 PM

i am the token entp in my group of friends. i'm an intp magnet, but they are one-offs. i know they will enjoy each others' company if they ever get together so i push it. but then i let it happen, whatever happens, happens. (usually they become closer friends with each other than they ever were with me !)

**Vagrant** · 05-31-2010, 09:12 PM

My brother's an ENTP, one of my good friends is an ENTP, one of my coworkers is an ENTP, my boss is an ENTP, and I seem to find ENTPs wherever I go.

So yes, I am an ENTP magnet. They seem to like me for the fact that I can usually keep up with them.

**shytiger** · 06-01-2010, 07:09 AM

I also like ENTPs because they're always pointing me to interesting things that I would never have known about otherwise. They can have a charming arrogance, but I like a certain refinement. Some ENTPs are too raw for me. I get the sense that some find me interesting enough to figure out while others see me as boring or too skeptical or a "worry-wart".

05-30-2010, 03:28 PM	#1
sunlover Member [23%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Mar 2009 Posts: 959	Seriously, as a INTJ, I seem to attract any and all ENTP's who happen to work for whatever company I find myself. They seem to target me, and slowly but steadily work their way into a friendship. In my experience they all but push their way in. I'm not complaining as a typical INTJ I don't make friends easily, so their aggressive style is probably needed. I seem to befriend ENTP's and ENFP's almost exclusively. Is this common for our type to hit off with ENTP's?
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05-30-2010, 03:40 PM	#2
shytiger Member [22%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Sep 2009 Posts: 895	I would say this is very common. I've mostly befriended ENTPs. Besides, we're so insular, who else is bold enough to approach us?
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05-30-2010, 03:42 PM	#3
Kisai Core Member [356%] MBTI: XXXX Join Date: May 2008 Posts: 14,263	No. I don't really like ENTPs (as a general minor prejudice mind you.. I like the ENTPs on this forum just fine) because they want to get me into meetings and pick at my brain. I don't enjoy spouting off thoughts that are half-finished and the "group brainstorming" activity that ENTPs revel in is noise to me. I like to reserve my ideas or let them come out at their own pace, not be pulled out. They also never do their homework. They wing it far too often to me and are enamored of gadgetry and new consumables, not because they are useful, but because they are new.
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05-30-2010, 06:57 PM	#4
BellaBianca Veteran Member [66%] MBTI: INTP Join Date: May 2010 Posts: 2,675	Actually, I have a similar problem with ENTJ's. And yes, to me it is a problem - they approach everything as if they are on a battlefield and privacy is just another fortress to conquer. These appears in my private life, not at work. Now, ENTP's on the other hand.... lovely company. Funny and no pressure. No sulking about emotions or ruined schedules. They make me relax.
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05-30-2010, 07:32 PM	#5
sircockburn Veteran Member [79%] MBTI: ENTP Join Date: Feb 2010 Posts: 3,171	We'll chat with anyone, don't feel too special. To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts. Just kidding, I have a LOT of INTJ friends (well, not a lot numerically, but proportionately much more than they exist in the general population). I actually thought I was one myself briefly, which is why I joined this forum due to believing the "birds of a feather flock together" thing. Perhaps it's because you INTJs have ENTP functions, except inside-out. (That is, Ne vs Ni etc)...
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05-30-2010, 07:38 PM	#6
Elfrun Core Member [268%] MBTI: entp Join Date: May 2008 Posts: 10,720	Never befriended an INTJ irl, xSTPs are more likely to gravitate towards me and vice versa, if I knew more iNtuitives I'd say xxTPs. Irl xxTJs are often too decisive and final in things for my liking, although xNTJs are really cool to debate things with. This forum certainly gives me an appreciation for INTJs though, just gotta be low in that J for me to be comfortable irl.
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05-30-2010, 11:24 PM	#7
Gobbbler Member [21%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: May 2010 Posts: 867	I don't know what types of people comprise my friends or even seem drawn to me, but I can pick out a few types. I definitely can say that INTP's seem to be everywhere in my life and we so often hit it off great. They are too I to "target me" or "push" into friendship though. Some kind of extroverts do too, but I don't know their type. I definitely agree with Elfrun that too much J tends to turn me off in some types. INFJ's also tend to like me, although they always seem so guarded that we never get super close. INFJ's seem to find me very amusing (when I'm trying to be). I suppose that is the shared Ni but flipped T and F. Thinking back to ENTP's, they tend to be brilliant and love debating as well as other people they consider to be brilliant, so it doesn't seem surprising that they would latch onto INTJ's, especially because INTJ's are so rare that they probably are a rare find for the ENTP. Plus in a work setting, I find that P's tend to wish they had J's organization and decisiveness and are sometimes impressed by and drawn to that.
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05-31-2010, 09:16 AM	#8
fwiffo Member [32%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Feb 2010 Posts: 1,284	ENTPs are hit or miss for me. Online they are fine, but IRL their tendency for argumentativeness, "flexible" view on reality (coughability to tell what I would consider a "lie"cough), and gregariousness while really being cold on the inside puts me on guard. (I freely admit there is a possibility of confirmation bias and mistyping individuals on my part.) That said, my partner is an ENTP, and I've never so wholly loved anyone else. Being with him and having the opportunity to pick apart his brain has given me some dizzying insights on how all my bizarro (Ne/Ti/Fe/Si) functions think. A healthy, developed ENTP is a force to be reckoned with. On top of that, there are some profound differences in our perceptions of the world, communication styles, and the way we react to social situations. Maybe that's why I don't trust them farther than I can throw them at first blush.
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05-31-2010, 12:15 PM	#9
BobbitSneazer Member [05%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Mar 2009 Posts: 237	Every time I make a new friend they always turn out to be either ENTP or ENFP. I guess I am a magent for them but I also like them myself. I've even thought about various friends I have had in the past, and a great deal of them seem to fit the description of either ENTP or ENFP. I don't know why that is, but there are way too many instances of it in my life for it to be a coincidence.
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05-31-2010, 06:20 PM	#10
fidele New Member [01%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: May 2009 Posts: 43	My best friend in the entire world is ENTP. We find each other fascinating. He loves me because we both have endless curiosity and interesting world views; plus, I see through all his charades and love him anyway. About the only thing that I have a hard time with him is his tendency to bail unexpectedly. But he knows it upsets me and tries harder. He's also one of the few people that can easily brush aside my arrogance and even has had me tongue tied and furious on occasion. He does it for fun though and always ends up making me laugh about it. I've known a few other ENTPs whom I've really liked, but never gotten past the amusing exterior to the soft squishy interior. I'm keeping my eye out for more To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts. ENTJs are awesome to work with, but hard to maintain friendships with, since they are just as bad with people as I am. You'd think that would give us something in common, but two wrongs just equal more wrong.
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05-31-2010, 06:33 PM	#11
Zsych Core Member [309%] MBTI: XNTX Join Date: Apr 2009 Posts: 12,376	Well they are cool, I'll grant that. I also tend to befriend them easily... or used to. I think my Te side is becoming too strong for new ones I meet to be able to handle since I tend to break down and more practically analyze ideas now than I used to.
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05-31-2010, 08:55 PM	#14
Dasein Member [41%] MBTI: iNTP Join Date: Apr 2010 Posts: 1,652	We have a way of seeking out other NTs.. sort of knowing you aren't going to come to us To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
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05-31-2010, 09:03 PM	#15
daydreamer Veteran Member [66%] MBTI: xntx Join Date: Jan 2009 Posts: 2,644	i am the token entp in my group of friends. i'm an intp magnet, but they are one-offs. i know they will enjoy each others' company if they ever get together so i push it. but then i let it happen, whatever happens, happens. (usually they become closer friends with each other than they ever were with me !)
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05-31-2010, 09:12 PM	#16
Vagrant Core Member [157%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Oct 2008 Posts: 6,310	My brother's an ENTP, one of my good friends is an ENTP, one of my coworkers is an ENTP, my boss is an ENTP, and I seem to find ENTPs wherever I go. So yes, I am an ENTP magnet. They seem to like me for the fact that I can usually keep up with them.
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06-01-2010, 07:09 AM	#17
shytiger Member [22%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Sep 2009 Posts: 895	I also like ENTPs because they're always pointing me to interesting things that I would never have known about otherwise. They can have a charming arrogance, but I like a certain refinement. Some ENTPs are too raw for me. I get the sense that some find me interesting enough to figure out while others see me as boring or too skeptical or a "worry-wart".
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