[Oneway]

I know this may seem somewhat 'politically incorrect' to ask, but I'm curious: Would you say that some MBTI types are more likely to cheat on their partners than others? Does anyone have concrete experience with that?

The reason I'm asking is this: As an INTJ, I'm under the impression that when problems in the relationship start to the surface, we INTJs would probably first try to 'analyze' the problem and then do our best to 'fix' it. And then, if we realize it can't be fixed, we'd walk right up to her/him and say something like: "Sorry, this relationship just doesn't work, because [insert elaborate theory here], so let's break up"
In other words, I believe most INTJs are unlikely to cheat on their partners behind their backs, and that they prefer to openly and honestly confront the problem instead.

What do you think?
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---------- Post added 05-13-2010 at 06:58 AM ----------

Or maybe it's just that I'm too self-centered to admit to myself that other types might be capable of at least the same amount of honesty and integrity that I have ;-)

[Kenetics]

Having
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, by what I'm sure is an INFP, that I was terribly in love with (for the first time in my life), I'm going to go with INFPs. Y'know, out of bitterness.

[Samueza]

In an economic sense: those who have the most access to people with whom they would cheat are the most likely to cheat. I think that if MBTI type corresponds at all with cheating it would be in this respect. INTJ's in general have few cheating options (just look at the topics discussing how hard it is for INTJ's to end up in just the one relationship!) and therefore are more bound to their current investment, which may result in an increased desire to perceive it as a fix-up project. I don't know if there is a correlation between MBTI type and experienced relation satisfaction (seems more likely to me than a direct connection between MBTI type and cheating), but I wouldn't be surprised if INTJ's turn out to be relatively content with their relationship and, ironically, are less intent to think outside that particular box.

[Oneway]

Originally Posted by Samueza To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.

In an economic sense: those who have the most access to people with whom they would cheat are the most likely to cheat. I think that if MBTI type corresponds at all with cheating it would be in this respect. INTJ's in general have few cheating options (just look at the topics discussing how hard it is for INTJ's to end up in just the one relationship!) and therefore are more bound to their current investment, which may result in an increased desire to perceive it as a fix-up project. I don't know if there is a correlation between MBTI type and experienced relation satisfaction (seems more likely to me than a direct connection between MBTI type and cheating), but I wouldn't be surprised if INTJ's turn out to be relatively content with their relationship and, ironically, are less intent to think outside that particular box.

That's an interesting theory
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So you're saying that if I was a famous actor (lol), I would be more likely to cheat? Whether this is true or not is not immediately obvious to me: Even if I was a famous actor, I might still have a strong desire to openly confront the problem if I fall in love with someone else.

[Samueza]

Originally Posted by Oneway To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.

That's an interesting theory To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts. So you're saying that if I was a famous actor (lol), I would be more likely to cheat? Whether this is true or not is not immediately obvious to me: Even if I was a famous actor, I might still have a strong desire to openly confront the problem if I fall in love with someone else.

Yes, but there is a difference between being more likely to cheat and being likely to cheat. Perhaps you'd be less unlikely to cheat :D. Of course another factor is the ability to get the women who would sleep with you "just because OMG you're, like, really famous and everything" to actually sleep with you, which may differ between MBTI types.

[rahdam]

Types that do not respect their partner and themselves.

[Dasein]

I know at least one INFJ who is a cheater.

[ArtistTyrant]

i'd say, not INFJs, because we tend to be monogamous and ridiculously committed n stuff...if we want someone else more than the SO, we'll break off the relationship to start a new one, not cheat @_@ just my opinion
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[Gobbbler]

Originally Posted by Oneway To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.

I know this may seem somewhat 'politically incorrect' to ask, but I'm curious: Would you say that some MBTI types are more likely to cheat on their partners than others? Does anyone have concrete experience with that? The reason I'm asking is this: As an INTJ, I'm under the impression that when problems in the relationship start to the surface, we INTJs would probably first try to 'analyze' the problem and then do our best to 'fix' it. And then, if we realize it can't be fixed, we'd walk right up to her/him and say something like: "Sorry, this relationship just doesn't work, because [insert elaborate theory here], so let's break up" In other words, I believe most INTJs are unlikely to cheat on their partners behind their backs, and that they prefer to openly and honestly confront the problem instead. What do you think? To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts. ---------- Post added 05-13-2010 at 06:58 AM ---------- Or maybe it's just that I'm too self-centered to admit to myself that other types might be capable of at least the same amount of honesty and integrity that I have ;-)

I definitely see your point and it would definitely hold true for me, but I think that it really comes down to your values and self-centeredness. An INTJ who does not value a long term relationship or is unhealthy in self-esteem may decide that they want the sex of the other person and the benefits of the relationship as well.

Perhaps some types have other traits that are more likely to put them in situations where they are tempted to cheat (e.g. more charismatic types have more options and temptations), but it probably comes down to values and emotional health.

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I could see any type cheating. I know NT's who cheat because they don't see the harm if the other person doesn't find out. I know EF's who cheat because they love the new sensations and excitement. I could see an F cheating because they are responding to unsatisfied emotional needs and emotional impulses, I could see a T cheating because they decide it is worth it and they aren't as emotionally mature/sensitive. S's for the sensation, but N's because they're less adherent to traditional values. And so on...

[LifesEcstasy]

Well I will say as an INTJ I have in my past come awfully close to willful cheating. Shock! Horror! Yes an INTJ was ruled by her libido..I would say type is irrelevant, both opportunity and the perception of something better are more to the point. In the instances were I felt tempted my existing relationship was kinda flat, not bad, just flat. And then I was in proximity to someone who was not only electric to me but also interested to the point that they actively pursued me.

I didn't end up going there at the end of the day because comfort ranks slightly higher than excitement for me, so I opted to stick with what I've got. What did shock me though, was the fact that in those moments it was almost as if my current partner did not exist. I wasn't morally agonising over the decision or thinking about my partner, just 100% focused on me. Would this be better for me....I guess that's the mentality of all cheaters.

Glad I got over that phase...

[BobbitSneazer]

I wouldn't think type is completly unrelated. I'd think SP temperment and Se dominants, who think more about the moment and less about the big picture and long term consequences would be more likely. Not to mention a more than average like for sensory experences. But that's not to say all of them would be like that. I'm just thinking in terms of percentages.

[alycat]

I would say an ESFJ would be more likely to cheat....I have been married to an INTJ for 20 years..never cheated on him...never would...and he not on me, and he travels extensively for his job.

I love the fact that he trusts me ..outgoing...fun..etc...to go out with friends (cuz he doesn't want to socialize) and never questions my antics....He is the love of my life..but I know male friends who are ESFJ's who have big ego's think the world of themselves and need ego stroking from females to make themselves feel better.

That's why I LOVE MY INTJ HUSBAND...He already knows he's better than all of them and doesn't need to find reassurance elsewhere....as long as I find him attractive and give him all the attention and love he needs..and deserves..he's a great man...he need not look elsewhere...

[Nelson]

Stereotypically it would XSTP's... However personality type could not possibly determine such a thing...

[zibber]

Asshole types?

[SelfMadeBum]

	Originally Posted by ArtistTyrant To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	i'd say, not INFJs, because we tend to be monogamous and ridiculously committed n stuff...if we want someone else more than the SO, we'll break off the relationship to start a new one, not cheat @_@ just my opinion To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.

Actually I remember TheMaelstrom saying, and a few other INFJs (like JohnDoe) agreeing that as an INFJ, they find it possible to feel very strongly for two people at the same time. So wanting to be with them both, to feel that pull... hard to deny.

[runoverazebra]

	Originally Posted by rahdam To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	Types that do not respect their partner and themselves.

This is key. I doubt a 'cheating' personality type can be narrowed down to an MBTI type. It has more to do with whether a person values his/her partner and the relationship that they have. Any one that doesn't appreciate what they have is more likely to cheat than someone that values what they have.

[Distance]

Risk-taking personality types are more likely to cheat.

[Anhedonic Lake]

Es.

[ms infp]

	Originally Posted by Nelson To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	Stereotypically it would XSTP's... However personality type could not possibly determine such a thing...

I have not yet met an ISTP male who is faithful to his mate.

[cannotseethe]

	Originally Posted by ms infp To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	I have not yet met an ISTP male who is faithful to his mate.

Neither have I, but that's because I've never met an ISTP.

Do you have any insight into why?

[ms infp]

	Originally Posted by cannotseethe To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	Neither have I, but that's because I've never met an ISTP. Do you have any insight into why?

Pretty much what BobbitSneazer said:

	Originally Posted by BobbitSneazer To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	I wouldn't think type is completly unrelated. I'd think SP temperment and Se dominants, who think more about the moment and less about the big picture and long term consequences would be more likely. Not to mention a more than average like for sensory experences. But that's not to say all of them would be like that. I'm just thinking in terms of percentages.

The (male) ISTPs I've known tend to regard sexual faithfulness as an "out of sight, out of mind/touch" kind of thing. If the main partner is not present to provide the sex, then another must be sought. It's hidden from the main partner because the ISTP has learned that he will be condemned for the behavior, even though *he* does not regard the unfaithfulness as dishonest (because, to him, it is just another physical experience, not something to make a fuss over). Like, if I wanted to go to the movies with Friend X, but Friend X weren't available, then it wouldn't be disloyal to go to the movies with Friend Y. But if society and my main partner were to sanction (in a negative way) the fact that I went to the movies with Friend Y, then I would hide my actions - to avoid the drama, not because I actually bought into the idea that I did something wrong.

[fadelio]

to cheat is human
monogamy is a social construct.

Everyone cheats - some only allow the cheating to occur in the mind. Emotional cheating happens.

When a person will cross the line to act on the will to cheat could correlate to certain personality types, but this is likely a secondary function. Like the poster said above; economics dictates that greater access will mean greater frequency. And the access may come from the personality etc.

[Distance]

	Originally Posted by fadelio To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	Everyone cheats - some only allow the cheating to occur in the mind. Emotional cheating happens.

Please define emotional cheating.

[cannotseethe]

	Originally Posted by fadelio To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	monogamy is a social construct.

Relationships are a social construct.

[ocean316]

Originally Posted by Oneway To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.

I know this may seem somewhat 'politically incorrect' to ask, but I'm curious: Would you say that some MBTI types are more likely to cheat on their partners than others? Does anyone have concrete experience with that? The reason I'm asking is this: As an INTJ, I'm under the impression that when problems in the relationship start to the surface, we INTJs would probably first try to 'analyze' the problem and then do our best to 'fix' it. And then, if we realize it can't be fixed, we'd walk right up to her/him and say something like: "Sorry, this relationship just doesn't work, because [insert elaborate theory here], so let's break up" In other words, I believe most INTJs are unlikely to cheat on their partners behind their backs, and that they prefer to openly and honestly confront the problem instead. What do you think? To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts. ---------- Post added 05-13-2010 at 06:58 AM ---------- Or maybe it's just that I'm too self-centered to admit to myself that other types might be capable of at least the same amount of honesty and integrity that I have ;-)

Your are 100 percent on point. I never really believed in the necessity of cheating if things can't be "fixed" with honest and truthful diligence the most decent and healthy thing to do is separate. Of course, necessarily marriage gets more complex kids, finances and social relationships in . That's why while dating you have to ask the hard questions and not step over/ignore major disfunctions in the relationship. Cheating ," having your cake and eating it too" as a function of a social construct is not valid unless it is accepted by both parties as a desirable social construct.
Which begs the question: Are social constructs normalized behavior or are there many recognized social constructs were individuals decide to accept or reject with ones are valid for them?