How different is your real world personality from your forum personality?

**Zsych** · 05-01-2010, 10:19 AM

I notice I come off harsher here on the forum than I would in real life. Normally I do care some about what people around me think and how they feel (even if I mess up handling them from time to time). Here though, I think I speak a little more naturally. Its mostly NTs here and I don't expect most people to be hurt or affected much, if I come off strongly or disagree with them.

**TheBlackKnight** · 05-01-2010, 10:32 AM

I'm more social here than in real life.

If someone comes off harshly to me I have the opportunity to let myself calm down before a response is necessary. I can observe people here without coming off as unsettling, and approach people for friendships without much fear of rejection. If a conversation starts to go in a way I feel hurt by, I can always just leave that thread, and read a more pleasant one.

It's almost entirely about the timing and eye contact issues, really.

**Vagrant** · 05-01-2010, 10:53 AM

I don't have as much chutzpah in real life.
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**Amphorian** · 05-01-2010, 10:54 AM

I'm not different except for the fact I appear to talk more here then to others in the outside world. Most likely because there is posts to engage in that everyone wants to engage in at the moment while in the physical realm it's a bit harder to find many people that interested in discussing such issues.

**Distance** · 05-01-2010, 11:05 AM

Same. There's no reason to be any different since cyberspace is anonymous.

**Stratego** · 05-01-2010, 11:12 AM

Like the majority of those upthread, I'm far more outspoken and critical here on the forum than in "real life," mostly because I can be. Beyond the virtual walls of this forum I cannot; my paycheck depends on it, and I don't want to waste time and energy defending myself to those that take issue with my true, usually less popular opinions and ideas...

**kyle D** · 05-01-2010, 11:19 AM

On the forum I talk a lot more then in real life. That's because I don't have to many people to talk to in real life.

**BFrost1** · 05-01-2010, 11:19 AM

I'm pretty much the same here as in RL. Of course it is easier to be a little more harsh on an internet forum than straight to someone's face, but I rarely ever alter my pimp OG stylez.

**Rationality** · 05-01-2010, 11:22 AM

My public real-life persona is about the same as on the forum, except I keep my opinions to myself there. My private real-world personality is alot different. On forums I do alot of self-censorship, so that people get a taste of my thoughts but not the whole story. But in private with someone who knows everything about me, I have no qualms about saying exactly what I think regardless of how offensive or politically incorrect it is. If I did that here I'd be banned eventually, not to mention everybody would hate me. I'm not quite sure how I come across to other people online, I just can't tell what other people think of my internet persona.

**dogwoodlover** · 05-01-2010, 11:39 AM

Mostly the same, except that I'm perhaps a little colder and more intellectual here, but that's just because I know who I'm speaking to.

**gestalt** · 05-01-2010, 12:32 PM

Far more aggressive in person. I tend to hold back and rewrite here, solidifying thoughts. IRL I am more prone to word stream and dominating a conversation by positioning socratically.

**Anima Mundi** · 05-01-2010, 12:40 PM

Although I haven't been a member of this forum for very long, I find myself speaking up about things that strike a chord with me. Normally I cannot do so in real life since it wouldn't go over too well. I feel I can be more like myself here than anywhere else, online or offline.

**Feral** · 05-01-2010, 03:21 PM

I talk more.
Don't have to worry about offending someone's delicate sensibilities...

**WoodElf4U** · 05-01-2010, 04:00 PM

I am probably more engaging and humorous IRL. And when im in a feisty mood (or drunk) I tend to say more offensive or judgmental things. But in the forums I must take the time to type out my thoughts, so they come out more refined. And unlike the forums, I am in my life everyday.

**Anhedonic Lake** · 05-01-2010, 04:14 PM

More or less the same,I think.

**Barry Allen** · 05-01-2010, 04:16 PM

	Originally Posted by kyle D To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	On the forum I talk a lot more then in real life. That's because I don't have to many people to talk to in real life.

pretty much

this and I couldn't imagine going into detail about myself to the people I know now

**MalachiConstant** · 05-01-2010, 09:54 PM

When speaking casually, I'm the same wherever I am, for better or worse. Professional situations are different.

**catzmeow** · 05-01-2010, 09:58 PM

I use more profanity in real life, but am otherwise the same.

**True Rune** · 05-01-2010, 10:06 PM

I'm warmer, but more distant in real life.

**AliTree** · 05-01-2010, 10:38 PM

this is pretty much me. i used to show my emotions much more on here (on my blog) than i do at all in reality. but besides that, i am pretty much the 'personality' in real life that i am on this forum. especially now that i'm over that crazy emotional roller coaster phase, ha.

**Maedhi** · 05-01-2010, 10:52 PM

I interact more with people in real life. I follow more discussions on the forum, but usually zone out in real life.

**nowt** · 05-01-2010, 11:17 PM

I answer to a better name, ignore about the same amount of nonsense as online, find that the percentages for indifference, disdain, laughter and love to be rather equivalent in both realms, and while slightly less terse here, use my hands more when I do speak, there.

gesticulates madly~

**ArtistTyrant** · 05-01-2010, 11:17 PM

i'm much more assertive on the interwebs than i am in person, in person its hard to get me to say anything, i usually just like to listen, or think about something

**tcp** · 05-01-2010, 11:48 PM

I am very random either way ... but at least online I get to look at what I'm saying before I post it, so I don't say that many cringe-worthy things online!
I think I am also more emo online :embarassed:
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I haven't found my nook/social group on this forum so sometimes I don't feel comfortable posting here ...
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(see the emo is coming out ack ack ack
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Do you think being the same on/offline is a conscious choice? Actually I wonder! Because sometimes I think people have a telephone persona and an irl persona too.

**Trevor Black** · 05-02-2010, 03:07 AM

In real life I barely discuss. Why make the effort there if most people either don't appreciate it or are stupid. I'm quite a quiet and distant lad.

On forums I discuss because that's what forums are for.

On this forum I'm particularly cold and aggressive discussing because I love it, and I know I'm in good company for that
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05-01-2010, 10:19 AM	#1
Zsych Core Member [309%] MBTI: XNTX Join Date: Apr 2009 Posts: 12,376	I notice I come off harsher here on the forum than I would in real life. Normally I do care some about what people around me think and how they feel (even if I mess up handling them from time to time). Here though, I think I speak a little more naturally. Its mostly NTs here and I don't expect most people to be hurt or affected much, if I come off strongly or disagree with them.
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05-01-2010, 10:32 AM	#2
TheBlackKnight Member [06%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Oct 2009 Posts: 277	I'm more social here than in real life. If someone comes off harshly to me I have the opportunity to let myself calm down before a response is necessary. I can observe people here without coming off as unsettling, and approach people for friendships without much fear of rejection. If a conversation starts to go in a way I feel hurt by, I can always just leave that thread, and read a more pleasant one. It's almost entirely about the timing and eye contact issues, really.
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05-01-2010, 10:53 AM	#3
Vagrant Core Member [157%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Oct 2008 Posts: 6,302	I don't have as much chutzpah in real life. To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
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05-01-2010, 10:54 AM	#4
Amphorian Core Member [311%] MBTI: ISTP Join Date: May 2009 Posts: 12,457	I'm not different except for the fact I appear to talk more here then to others in the outside world. Most likely because there is posts to engage in that everyone wants to engage in at the moment while in the physical realm it's a bit harder to find many people that interested in discussing such issues.
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05-01-2010, 11:05 AM	#5
Distance Core Member [418%] MBTI: eNTj Join Date: Apr 2010 Posts: 16,729	Same. There's no reason to be any different since cyberspace is anonymous.
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05-01-2010, 11:12 AM	#6
Stratego Veteran Member [57%] MBTI: InTJ Join Date: Mar 2009 Posts: 2,283	Like the majority of those upthread, I'm far more outspoken and critical here on the forum than in "real life," mostly because I can be. Beyond the virtual walls of this forum I cannot; my paycheck depends on it, and I don't want to waste time and energy defending myself to those that take issue with my true, usually less popular opinions and ideas...
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05-01-2010, 11:19 AM	#7
kyle D Member [04%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Apr 2010 Posts: 174	On the forum I talk a lot more then in real life. That's because I don't have to many people to talk to in real life.
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05-01-2010, 11:19 AM	#8
BFrost1 Member [11%] MBTI: INTp Join Date: Mar 2010 Posts: 450	I'm pretty much the same here as in RL. Of course it is easier to be a little more harsh on an internet forum than straight to someone's face, but I rarely ever alter my pimp OG stylez.
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05-01-2010, 11:22 AM	#9
Rationality Member [30%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Mar 2010 Posts: 1,238	My public real-life persona is about the same as on the forum, except I keep my opinions to myself there. My private real-world personality is alot different. On forums I do alot of self-censorship, so that people get a taste of my thoughts but not the whole story. But in private with someone who knows everything about me, I have no qualms about saying exactly what I think regardless of how offensive or politically incorrect it is. If I did that here I'd be banned eventually, not to mention everybody would hate me. I'm not quite sure how I come across to other people online, I just can't tell what other people think of my internet persona.
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05-01-2010, 11:39 AM	#10
dogwoodlover Member [47%] MBTI: ISTP Join Date: Sep 2008 Posts: 1,913	Mostly the same, except that I'm perhaps a little colder and more intellectual here, but that's just because I know who I'm speaking to.
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05-01-2010, 12:32 PM	#11
gestalt Veteran Member [84%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Mar 2009 Posts: 3,374	Far more aggressive in person. I tend to hold back and rewrite here, solidifying thoughts. IRL I am more prone to word stream and dominating a conversation by positioning socratically.
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05-01-2010, 12:40 PM	#12
Anima Mundi Member [18%] MBTI: INXX Join Date: Apr 2010 Posts: 742	Although I haven't been a member of this forum for very long, I find myself speaking up about things that strike a chord with me. Normally I cannot do so in real life since it wouldn't go over too well. I feel I can be more like myself here than anywhere else, online or offline.
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05-01-2010, 03:21 PM	#13
Feral Veteran Member [61%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Mar 2009 Posts: 2,454	I talk more. Don't have to worry about offending someone's delicate sensibilities...
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05-01-2010, 04:00 PM	#14
WoodElf4U Member [07%] MBTI: INxP Join Date: Jan 2009 Posts: 280	I am probably more engaging and humorous IRL. And when im in a feisty mood (or drunk) I tend to say more offensive or judgmental things. But in the forums I must take the time to type out my thoughts, so they come out more refined. And unlike the forums, I am in my life everyday.
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05-01-2010, 04:14 PM	#15
Anhedonic Lake Veteran Member [61%] MBTI: INfP Join Date: Sep 2009 Posts: 2,457	More or less the same,I think.
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05-01-2010, 09:54 PM	#17
MalachiConstant New Member [01%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Apr 2010 Posts: 56	When speaking casually, I'm the same wherever I am, for better or worse. Professional situations are different.
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05-01-2010, 09:58 PM	#18
catzmeow Core Member [148%] MBTI: ENFP Join Date: Jul 2009 Posts: 5,949	I use more profanity in real life, but am otherwise the same.
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05-01-2010, 10:06 PM	#19
True Rune Core Member [201%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Apr 2008 Posts: 8,062	I'm warmer, but more distant in real life.
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05-01-2010, 10:38 PM	#20
AliTree Member [39%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Sep 2008 Posts: 1,573	this is pretty much me. i used to show my emotions much more on here (on my blog) than i do at all in reality. but besides that, i am pretty much the 'personality' in real life that i am on this forum. especially now that i'm over that crazy emotional roller coaster phase, ha.
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05-01-2010, 10:52 PM	#21
Maedhi Member [10%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Feb 2009 Posts: 424	I interact more with people in real life. I follow more discussions on the forum, but usually zone out in real life.
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05-01-2010, 11:17 PM	#22
nowt Suspended MBTI: iNtj Join Date: Jul 2009 Posts: 9,345	I answer to a better name, ignore about the same amount of nonsense as online, find that the percentages for indifference, disdain, laughter and love to be rather equivalent in both realms, and while slightly less terse here, use my hands more when I do speak, there. gesticulates madly~
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05-01-2010, 11:17 PM	#23
ArtistTyrant Banned MBTI: INFJ Join Date: Apr 2009 Posts: 4,559	i'm much more assertive on the interwebs than i am in person, in person its hard to get me to say anything, i usually just like to listen, or think about something
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05-01-2010, 11:48 PM	#24
tcp Member [03%] MBTI: ENFP Join Date: Aug 2009 Posts: 128	I am very random either way ... but at least online I get to look at what I'm saying before I post it, so I don't say that many cringe-worthy things online! I think I am also more emo online :embarassed: To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts. I haven't found my nook/social group on this forum so sometimes I don't feel comfortable posting here ... To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts. (see the emo is coming out ack ack ack To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts. ) Do you think being the same on/offline is a conscious choice? Actually I wonder! Because sometimes I think people have a telephone persona and an irl persona too.
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05-02-2010, 03:07 AM	#25
Trevor Black Member [15%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Apr 2010 Posts: 631	In real life I barely discuss. Why make the effort there if most people either don't appreciate it or are stupid. I'm quite a quiet and distant lad. On forums I discuss because that's what forums are for. On this forum I'm particularly cold and aggressive discussing because I love it, and I know I'm in good company for that To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
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