INTJ+ENTJ: Best Friends (and pair)? - Page 2

Kricket · 07-08-2010, 03:40 PM

My SO is borderline-ENTJ apparently, and I wouldn't trade the dynamic for anything. When we get into a good discussion, it can last for hours and hours. It makes me energized in a way that talking rarely does. I also like that he's bolder than me- it's inspiring.

One thing I notice: it startles me when he pushes a topic, just because I'm not used to that. I'll say "Nah, I don't feel like doing that" expecting the subject to drop, but he's ready with "Well why not?" If I'm not careful, I start to feel like I have to justify my every action and my opinions will be nullified if I don't have persuasive bullet points at the ready. He doesn't see it that way at all, just as a natural progression of conversation.

**kazzamunga** · 07-08-2010, 03:53 PM

I seem to meet a lot of ENTJs, mostly male, generally with instant connections. As people have said above, they click with a lot of people, but I appreciate them for understanding me, and they appreciate me for insight and similar thought processes etc. My best friend is ENTJ and she forges friendships in minutes, but doesn't particularly make an effort to hang onto people, except for me, and my INFJ sister really. Think a lot of the time people are wondering why we are friends, because we seem so different on the surface but we're pretty much the same at the core.

In terms of relationships, most of the mini-disasters I've had have been with ENTJs lol. We have a good mental connection, but they expect things to progress quickly, before I've made my mind up, and seem to lose interest quickly too. Their intuition hasn't been that sharp (not to say they're all like that). I defo prefer them as friends, and would pretty much, though not categorically, rule one out for a relationship.

**Blse** · 07-08-2010, 04:26 PM

Oh, ENTJs and INTJs are compatible
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. Trust me, they are.

**InfiniteLoop** · 07-08-2010, 09:29 PM

I had a psych teacher who was an ENTJ. He was very compelling company, to say the least, and I always paid the most attention in his class. I think it was because I felt I could go talk to him and he'd understand me really well. He was very open for discussion. I never got along with him as well as my High School Theater director and English teacher (for two years, but I knew him all four years I attended that high school), but that's probably because I didn't have the pleasure of knowing him that long.

I also had a crush on him... so... um... yeah... >.>

**viajera** · 08-08-2010, 12:52 AM

I'm an INTJ and one of my best friends I've known since high school is an ENTJ. He and I have a great chemistry because we will start chit-chatting and an hour will blow by in the blink of an eye wherein we have shouted at each other a few times, and high-fived even more times. It's great to have someone that you know won't get offended, who's equally as opinionated (albeit louder), and who loves to go deep in conversations. One thing I admire about him is, as people have described in lots of previous posts, his bluntness and boldness. He likes to make me laugh, and we share a biting sarcasm that most people can't keep up with, or might otherwise be hurt by.

However, once we get into group settings, he can become a little bit too...extroverted for my taste. I find myself sometimes actually shushing him, because I'm two steps ahead on how some NTJ thoughts are perceived by others. In other words, he can be so tactless and abrasive that I get embarrassed.

In spite of his quick mouth (and actually because of it), my ENTJ friend is able to tell me what I'm thinking even when I don't feel like sharing, which is good for the INTJ hesitancy to engage. Lofty theoretical conversations can easily turn more emotional because of our common thoughts and reactions, and the ENTJ helps encourage this.

My ENTJ friend recently admitted to me that he sometimes finds my intelligence intimidating. I was shocked, because I've always kind of felt the same way about him! I think the ENTJ admires the INTJ's tendency to achieve their goals on the first try (after painstaking analysis), and the INTJ covets the ENTJ's ability to assert their ideas so quickly and confidently. INTJs and ENTJs can easily learn to admire one another.

**crabnebula** · 08-08-2010, 01:51 AM

I know of only one ENTJ and that too online and we get along great! The conversation flows easily and the topics we are interested in mostly overlaps too. So where do these ENTJs hang out irl? We need more of them.

**SMATF5** · 05-04-2011, 06:07 PM

My best friend is an ENTJ. He's a pretty awesome person in general, but there are a few things that really annoy me about him. He's very bossy, and while I understand that he's just being efficient, I'm not some lazy ass who needs to be talked to that way. He's also hyper-competitive, especially when it comes to women. He likes to brag to me about all of the women he hooks up with, and he has what almost seems like some type of compulsion where he has to try to pick up any woman that I'm trying to talk to, even when there are more attractive and available women around.

**joliee** · 05-04-2011, 08:47 PM

I only know one EntJ and we don't get along very well, at all. It's mostly because this EntJ in particular is extremely arrogant and conceited, but I think it was because of the way she was brought up. If she gets offended or if she doesn't agree with something, as a defense mechanism, she starts throwing words/insults around (that sometimes make no sense and sound completely irrational). When she does this, I have no way of responding because I start getting annoyed and I can't come up with something quickly enough to shut her up.

**NixonKneivel** · 05-06-2011, 03:56 PM

As far as I know, I've only known 2, and they were both conflictful relationships.

One was a boss, who didn't think I had I plan because I didn't talk to him about the plan- led to a lot of weird arguments, partially because I am almost unreadable in terms of body language and facial expression to most extroverts. I wanted space, he wanted communication.

The other was someone who applied for a job and couldn't follow any of my directions for the application process- this person tried to leverage me into a face to face mtg before I had all the data I needed from them to offer a face to face mtg. Once again, a conflict between space and communication.

I admire their ability to lead the troops without being exhausted by constant questions and contact, but I do find them unnecessarily pushy and relationally demaninding. There may be an ENTJ out there I can be friends with, but I haven't figured out how to do that.

**80r** · 05-06-2011, 07:08 PM

I just met an ENTJ girl, and we seem to be getting along handsomely. We have a lot in common and converse easily.

Imperator · 05-06-2011, 09:25 PM

I can't get along with them.

Others certainly can fare better, but without fail I will butt heads with an ENTJ. We see eye to eye on many issues, but that's about it for likenesses.

**Macka** · 05-06-2011, 11:26 PM

I only know one confirmed ENTJ. We hit it off straight away and have been good friends for a few years. We just seem to get each other.

**Fox** · 05-06-2011, 11:43 PM

I found them to be great partners. You can really compliment each other. I've also had problems with them to. They can be attention whores and have large egos.

**MrSoloDolo** · 05-07-2011, 12:11 AM

Originally Posted by sircockburn
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I've had several good INTJ friends. I'm always the one starting the action (read: trouble), but the debate and banter is priceless. We process/provide information in different ways, which sometimes makes work interactions less than efficient. With personal relationships however, and going strictly by the letters (and not cognitive functions, etc) the two types should get along just fine, as long as the INTJ doesn't stifle me or hold me down in anyway, and I shut up every once in a while to leave them to their thoughts.
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INFJs are another story. I seem to get along with them for a while, until I discover that I managed to deeply offend them somehow. I don't think I've met anyone I'd categorize as ENFJ yet...

pshh, how do we really know you're entj... you change your type like 6 times a day. LIAR!!!!!!

**Chosen** · 05-07-2011, 12:12 AM

Originally Posted by BFrost1
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My best friend since 1st grade is an ENTJ. We are really more like brothers than friends, great chemistry when we're on a team together, but bitter rivals when we are against one another. We are both very intelligent and have great conversations. We're very much alike in almost every way; the only difference being that he likes people, and I don't.
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This describes my friendship with an ENTJ also, he was my closest friend for 11 years, unfortunately we're both extremely stubborn and got into a big conflict and ever since haven't spoken(almost a year).

I can definitely say that INTJ and ENTJ match well(at least in male friendship)

**tracemhunter** · 05-08-2011, 01:30 PM

One of my best friends is ENTJ. He is business savvy like I am but is more "fly by the seat of your pants" and loves talking to people.

**meiakrane** · 05-09-2011, 05:39 PM

I know two ENTJ's.

One is one of my most favorite friends, she is completely brilliant and we get on incredibly, enough to say to each other things like 'if we'd known each other in another life we'd probably be together' we've have never mostly cause I'm asexual and she is heterosexual neither feels attracted to each other as to be together even tho we've got a lot of chemistry and enjoy it a lot when together. It's a very nice friendship this one, it's really silly cause when we met I couldn't stand her noisiness and she was always being nosy in order to make me lose my patience, then we started talking and getting on like woah and supporting eachother as the nutcases we are (to people). It's also a good friendship where we talk about life and give each other feedbackand point out one of us is either being to cold or to oblivious to things.

The other is another friend of mine whon I had long incredible talks I've known him recently but he is the really funny guy, also he has a very high S wich make him a bit closed at times, also he's got a super J which makes him really critical. Also he is incredibly competent and reliable. The only problem with it all is that somehow he ended falling for me which has ended in an awkward friendship and avoidance since then which is sad and annoying it was indeed a fun friendship before it went like that.

but yeah ENTJ's are great people to hang around

**MortalWombat** · 05-09-2011, 05:50 PM

I seem to clash with every ENTJ I know. I volunteer with a girl who is an ENTJ, and she seems to be in a constant, one-sided competition to be the 'alpha dog' of the two of us. It comes off as slightly obnoxious to me, but we get a lot of work done together.

07-08-2010, 03:40 PM	#26
Kricket Veteran Member [83%] MBTI: INfJ Join Date: Jul 2009 Posts: 3,345	My SO is borderline-ENTJ apparently, and I wouldn't trade the dynamic for anything. When we get into a good discussion, it can last for hours and hours. It makes me energized in a way that talking rarely does. I also like that he's bolder than me- it's inspiring. One thing I notice: it startles me when he pushes a topic, just because I'm not used to that. I'll say "Nah, I don't feel like doing that" expecting the subject to drop, but he's ready with "Well why not?" If I'm not careful, I start to feel like I have to justify my every action and my opinions will be nullified if I don't have persuasive bullet points at the ready. He doesn't see it that way at all, just as a natural progression of conversation.
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07-08-2010, 03:53 PM	#27
kazzamunga Member [19%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Dec 2008 Posts: 761	I seem to meet a lot of ENTJs, mostly male, generally with instant connections. As people have said above, they click with a lot of people, but I appreciate them for understanding me, and they appreciate me for insight and similar thought processes etc. My best friend is ENTJ and she forges friendships in minutes, but doesn't particularly make an effort to hang onto people, except for me, and my INFJ sister really. Think a lot of the time people are wondering why we are friends, because we seem so different on the surface but we're pretty much the same at the core. In terms of relationships, most of the mini-disasters I've had have been with ENTJs lol. We have a good mental connection, but they expect things to progress quickly, before I've made my mind up, and seem to lose interest quickly too. Their intuition hasn't been that sharp (not to say they're all like that). I defo prefer them as friends, and would pretty much, though not categorically, rule one out for a relationship.
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07-08-2010, 04:26 PM	#28
Blse Core Member [125%] MBTI: ENTJ Join Date: Jun 2009 Posts: 5,030	Oh, ENTJs and INTJs are compatible To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts. . Trust me, they are.
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07-08-2010, 09:29 PM	#29
InfiniteLoop Member [15%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: May 2010 Posts: 614	I had a psych teacher who was an ENTJ. He was very compelling company, to say the least, and I always paid the most attention in his class. I think it was because I felt I could go talk to him and he'd understand me really well. He was very open for discussion. I never got along with him as well as my High School Theater director and English teacher (for two years, but I knew him all four years I attended that high school), but that's probably because I didn't have the pleasure of knowing him that long. I also had a crush on him... so... um... yeah... >.>
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08-08-2010, 12:52 AM	#30
viajera New Member [01%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Jan 2010 Posts: 13	I'm an INTJ and one of my best friends I've known since high school is an ENTJ. He and I have a great chemistry because we will start chit-chatting and an hour will blow by in the blink of an eye wherein we have shouted at each other a few times, and high-fived even more times. It's great to have someone that you know won't get offended, who's equally as opinionated (albeit louder), and who loves to go deep in conversations. One thing I admire about him is, as people have described in lots of previous posts, his bluntness and boldness. He likes to make me laugh, and we share a biting sarcasm that most people can't keep up with, or might otherwise be hurt by. However, once we get into group settings, he can become a little bit too...extroverted for my taste. I find myself sometimes actually shushing him, because I'm two steps ahead on how some NTJ thoughts are perceived by others. In other words, he can be so tactless and abrasive that I get embarrassed. In spite of his quick mouth (and actually because of it), my ENTJ friend is able to tell me what I'm thinking even when I don't feel like sharing, which is good for the INTJ hesitancy to engage. Lofty theoretical conversations can easily turn more emotional because of our common thoughts and reactions, and the ENTJ helps encourage this. My ENTJ friend recently admitted to me that he sometimes finds my intelligence intimidating. I was shocked, because I've always kind of felt the same way about him! I think the ENTJ admires the INTJ's tendency to achieve their goals on the first try (after painstaking analysis), and the INTJ covets the ENTJ's ability to assert their ideas so quickly and confidently. INTJs and ENTJs can easily learn to admire one another.
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08-08-2010, 01:51 AM	#31
crabnebula Member [15%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Jan 2010 Posts: 606	I know of only one ENTJ and that too online and we get along great! The conversation flows easily and the topics we are interested in mostly overlaps too. So where do these ENTJs hang out irl? We need more of them.
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05-04-2011, 06:07 PM	#32
SMATF5 New Member [01%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Dec 2010 Posts: 19	My best friend is an ENTJ. He's a pretty awesome person in general, but there are a few things that really annoy me about him. He's very bossy, and while I understand that he's just being efficient, I'm not some lazy ass who needs to be talked to that way. He's also hyper-competitive, especially when it comes to women. He likes to brag to me about all of the women he hooks up with, and he has what almost seems like some type of compulsion where he has to try to pick up any woman that I'm trying to talk to, even when there are more attractive and available women around.
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05-04-2011, 08:47 PM	#33
joliee Member [30%] MBTI: isfp Join Date: Jan 2011 Posts: 1,239	I only know one EntJ and we don't get along very well, at all. It's mostly because this EntJ in particular is extremely arrogant and conceited, but I think it was because of the way she was brought up. If she gets offended or if she doesn't agree with something, as a defense mechanism, she starts throwing words/insults around (that sometimes make no sense and sound completely irrational). When she does this, I have no way of responding because I start getting annoyed and I can't come up with something quickly enough to shut her up.
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05-06-2011, 03:56 PM	#34
NixonKneivel Member [05%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Apr 2011 Posts: 213	As far as I know, I've only known 2, and they were both conflictful relationships. One was a boss, who didn't think I had I plan because I didn't talk to him about the plan- led to a lot of weird arguments, partially because I am almost unreadable in terms of body language and facial expression to most extroverts. I wanted space, he wanted communication. The other was someone who applied for a job and couldn't follow any of my directions for the application process- this person tried to leverage me into a face to face mtg before I had all the data I needed from them to offer a face to face mtg. Once again, a conflict between space and communication. I admire their ability to lead the troops without being exhausted by constant questions and contact, but I do find them unnecessarily pushy and relationally demaninding. There may be an ENTJ out there I can be friends with, but I haven't figured out how to do that.
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05-06-2011, 07:08 PM	#35
80r New Member [01%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Apr 2011 Posts: 60	I just met an ENTJ girl, and we seem to be getting along handsomely. We have a lot in common and converse easily.
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05-06-2011, 09:25 PM	#36
Imperator Core Member [115%] MBTI: InTJ Join Date: May 2010 Posts: 4,605	I can't get along with them. Others certainly can fare better, but without fail I will butt heads with an ENTJ. We see eye to eye on many issues, but that's about it for likenesses.
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05-06-2011, 11:26 PM	#37
Macka Member [02%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Mar 2009 Posts: 113	I only know one confirmed ENTJ. We hit it off straight away and have been good friends for a few years. We just seem to get each other.
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05-06-2011, 11:43 PM	#38
Fox Member [46%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Jan 2009 Posts: 1,842	I found them to be great partners. You can really compliment each other. I've also had problems with them to. They can be attention whores and have large egos.
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05-08-2011, 01:30 PM	#41
tracemhunter Member [05%] MBTI: INTX Join Date: Aug 2009 Posts: 217	One of my best friends is ENTJ. He is business savvy like I am but is more "fly by the seat of your pants" and loves talking to people.
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05-09-2011, 05:39 PM	#42
meiakrane New Member [01%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Jan 2009 Posts: 18	I know two ENTJ's. One is one of my most favorite friends, she is completely brilliant and we get on incredibly, enough to say to each other things like 'if we'd known each other in another life we'd probably be together' we've have never mostly cause I'm asexual and she is heterosexual neither feels attracted to each other as to be together even tho we've got a lot of chemistry and enjoy it a lot when together. It's a very nice friendship this one, it's really silly cause when we met I couldn't stand her noisiness and she was always being nosy in order to make me lose my patience, then we started talking and getting on like woah and supporting eachother as the nutcases we are (to people). It's also a good friendship where we talk about life and give each other feedbackand point out one of us is either being to cold or to oblivious to things. The other is another friend of mine whon I had long incredible talks I've known him recently but he is the really funny guy, also he has a very high S wich make him a bit closed at times, also he's got a super J which makes him really critical. Also he is incredibly competent and reliable. The only problem with it all is that somehow he ended falling for me which has ended in an awkward friendship and avoidance since then which is sad and annoying it was indeed a fun friendship before it went like that. but yeah ENTJ's are great people to hang around
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05-09-2011, 05:50 PM	#43
MortalWombat Core Member [857%] MBTI: xxxx Join Date: Apr 2010 Posts: 34,286	I seem to clash with every ENTJ I know. I volunteer with a girl who is an ENTJ, and she seems to be in a constant, one-sided competition to be the 'alpha dog' of the two of us. It comes off as slightly obnoxious to me, but we get a lot of work done together.
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