Do fat chicks need love too?

**Evalis** · 03-16-2010, 06:25 PM

So I'm going to go out on a limb here and say no, no they do not. Rather I'm responding to the idea of the meaning behind this statement; which is: Do fat girls deserve sex?

The reason behind my beliefs is that if someone doesn't want to have sex with someone based on their physical appearance, then they are warranted in holding that opinion. And if the general population does not wish to have sex with obese women, then they do not 'deserve' to have sex until they fix their appearance. Neither is this a 'need' that must be filled, as masturbation can serve these poor obese women just fine.

And yes I'm know I'm evil for saying so.. har. Post your comments and/or arguments to support your oppinion on this matter.

**Mogura** · 03-16-2010, 06:32 PM

Self love, perhaps?

(I'm not talking about mastubatory manoeuvers in the dark; I'm referring to positive self-esteem...)

**Blse** · 03-16-2010, 06:35 PM

Well, this brings us to the question of whether anyone "deserves" to have sex... versus just wanting it. That's a question I can't answer right now.

There is something to your hypothesis in the sense that you shouldn't expect a reward if you don't put in any effort. Men have to face rejection through the approach and need to build confidence. Women have to make themselves attractive in order to be approached. Whether we like it or not these are the rules governing the intitation of romantic engagements (the rules of engagement
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). Don't expect to win if you don't follow the rules. Yes, I agree.

As for being over-weight, I do think genes matter. On the other hand, I think our society is over-sensitive. No, fat ain't pretty. And yes, for many fat folks it's something they could change. I certainly don't think people should have to deny that obesity is a deal breaker and very unattractive. I am also not shallow for not wanting to date people who are over-weight - I can't find such a person sexually attractive and that's that.

**Grimstad** · 03-16-2010, 06:35 PM

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Just because you (or I for that matter) don’t find “fat” attractive doesn’t mean they aren’t appreciated. Hard bodies are just that, hard. I like a little meat on the bones I roll with. But just a little.

**Seriously** · 03-16-2010, 06:36 PM

What about fat dudes? Inquiring minds want to know...

**IrishGuy** · 03-16-2010, 06:36 PM

Originally Posted by Evalis
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So I'm going to go out on a limb here and say no, no they do not. Rather I'm responding to the idea of the meaning behind this statement; which is: Do fat girls deserve sex?

The reason behind my beliefs is that if someone doesn't want to have sex with someone based on their physical appearance, then they are warranted in holding that opinion. And if the general population does not wish to have sex with obese women, then they do not 'deserve' to have sex until they fix their appearance. Neither is this a 'need' that must be filled, as masturbation can serve these poor obese women just fine.

And yes I'm know I'm evil for saying so.. har. Post your comments and/or arguments to support your oppinion on this matter.

I would say that no they do not "deserve" sex. To say so implies that society must give large women sex out of some sort of obligation. The sex you can get is the sex you can get; there is no obligation upon one segment of society to ensure that the other segment has sex. The only thing that matters is mutual will; if both parties want to have sex, all things equal, then they should be able to do so, but if you are unable to find someone to have sex with you, then you will not get to have sex since it is based upon the consent of 2 or more (for the..ahem...adventurous types) individuals.

**Thinktress** · 03-16-2010, 06:40 PM

Look, if any consenting adult of any size can get any number of other adults into the sack with 'em, more power... and all that. I don't have to want to see a video of that particular sex act in order to be happy for said individual(s). It's probably as easy for some fat chicks to get laid as it is for some INTJ's... More power to both of 'em.

**Blse** · 03-16-2010, 06:42 PM

	Originally Posted by Grimstad To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	Have you ever heard of a To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts. Just because you (or I for that matter) don’t find “fat” attractive doesn’t mean they aren’t appreciated. Hard bodies are just that, hard. I like a little meat on the bones I roll with. But just a little.

True, some people like it. There is someone who likes anything somewhere out there. Nonetheless, there is such a thing as a vast majority agreeing on certain things in contemporary society: one these conclusions is that thin > overweight > obese. Feel free to go against what 90% of people agree on. Just don't expect not to face any difficulty because you're defying convention.

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	What about fat dudes? Inquiring minds want to know...

Looks are less important to women than men. That's been shows over and over. So, you're right there is a dubble-standard. Being over-weight or obese will hurt the chances of a man less than those of a woman. That's unfair, I agree.

**gestalt** · 03-16-2010, 06:53 PM

I don't think genes have a significant part to do with it. Does anyone know anything about this for real? Besides personal experience.

**Seriously** · 03-16-2010, 07:15 PM


	Looks are less important to women than men. That's been shows over and over. So, you're right there is a dubble-standard. Being over-weight or obese will hurt the chances of a man less than those of a woman. That's unfair, I agree.

I think that used to be the case but nowadays the tables are turning...take a look at the movies and TV...women are wanting a bit of eye candy themselves.

**cmrain** · 03-16-2010, 07:50 PM

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	I don't think genes have a significant part to do with it. Does anyone know anything about this for real? Besides personal experience.

Genes impact somatotype. Pictures of families from all across the world are enough proof of that. Endomorphic type is a genetic proclivity as are the Arnies of the world (mesomorphs).

That said, nutritional science is advanced enough to give almost anyone a shot at attaining a healthy body fat percentage. Disseminating correct guidance on how to accomplish this is another thing and seems to show a lag.

**SeaCzar** · 03-16-2010, 07:53 PM

I had a buddy in college who qualifies as the "chubby chaser" a previous poster referred to. According to him, "fat chicks" were best because they were more freaky in the sack.

**fiver** · 03-16-2010, 07:58 PM

I'm going to go out on a limb here and say that people who discriminate on others based on prejudice and stereotypes don't deserve sex either. This is based on the fact that people with social skills don't enjoy being around them, and social contact on internet boards can serve these social pariahs needs just fine.
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**Thinktress** · 03-16-2010, 08:01 PM

And have you been to Minneapolis lately? SOMEBODY is doing the fat girl. She's getting done. Just sayin' Maybe nobody's doing a fat girl in Montreal, but someone is damn sure doing one in Minneapolis. It's a long winter in Minnesota and there are lots of fat girls to choose from...

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Oh fiver, don't be so sensitive, you're making me look bad. err.. worse.
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**TheLastMohican** · 03-16-2010, 08:19 PM

It is not unheard of for sex to be defined as a human right. In the Netherlands, for example, disabled people can get a monthly allowance for prostitutes.

**Elfrun** · 03-16-2010, 08:20 PM

Love =/= sex. I believe everyone who wants to deserves to experience love, doesn't mean it will happen. No one 'deserves' sex though, unless it was a business transaction and the payment has already been made, guess it's more of a contractual thing then if they don't get it.

**freeeekyyy** · 03-16-2010, 08:25 PM

Nobody deserves sex. You have no right to sex. To be honest, I'd rather be "involved" with someone I loved deeply, regardless of her appearance. Not saying it doesn't matter, but between somebody you share nothing in common with, who's nice to look at, and someone you love with all your heart, who is physically imperfect, where are you going to go?

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	It is not unheard of for sex to be defined as a human right. In the Netherlands, for example, disabled people can get a monthly allowance for prostitutes.

You're kidding...right?

**TheLastMohican** · 03-16-2010, 08:29 PM

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	You're kidding...right?

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**freeeekyyy** · 03-16-2010, 08:39 PM

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I see. So what isn't a right?

**aragorn** · 03-16-2010, 08:41 PM

Originally Posted by Evalis
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So I'm going to go out on a limb here and say no, no they do not. Rather I'm responding to the idea of the meaning behind this statement; which is: Do fat girls deserve sex?

The reason behind my beliefs is that if someone doesn't want to have sex with someone based on their physical appearance, then they are warranted in holding that opinion. And if the general population does not wish to have sex with obese women, then they do not 'deserve' to have sex until they fix their appearance. Neither is this a 'need' that must be filled, as masturbation can serve these poor obese women just fine.

And yes I'm know I'm evil for saying so.. har. Post your comments and/or arguments to support your oppinion on this matter.

Do people who ask such questions deserve a relationship? I'm going to go out on a limb and say no. The reason behind my beliefs is that if someone doesn't have the emotional maturity to understand how this question is inappropriate then there is a high risk of them not being able to sustain a relationship. They don't deserve to have a relationship until they can fix their emotional maturity. I guess they can have meaningless sex all they want though.

**TheLastMohican** · 03-16-2010, 08:43 PM

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	I see. So what isn't a right?

Hmmm... internet access?

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**Stratego** · 03-16-2010, 09:00 PM

I'm going to go out on a limb and say that all people, regardless of physical appearence, deserve sex.

It's a very powerful drive, it feels fantastic, and having it and having a lot of it keeps a person healthy, sane, and easier to live/work with. Proof is in the pudding...

But on a serious note:

The misogyny and superficiality of this argument is appalling. As a woman it is extremely offensive to me whenever my sex is objectified, or it's implied in any way that all the value a women possesses is in her cunt, and how often she lets a male use it to get off.

And if an attitude like that doesn't strongly suggest that someone isn't "deserving" of sex then I don't know what is.

**Fox** · 03-16-2010, 09:01 PM

As long as birth control is involved.

When ever I see a fat couple I just imagine them doing it. I'm funny that way cause I imagine every couple doing it. What can I say I get bored easily and it is always easy to day dream about sex. I then get physically sick and pray that they don't have any children.

So to all the fat, old, stupid and ugly couple out there please keep a five feet distance from each other.

**Tyrant Soup** · 03-16-2010, 09:26 PM

There are parts of the world where fat women are considered the ideal. So obvious they "deserve" sex as much as anyone else. I think your question is silly. It's like asking if poor people deserves food. What criteria do you use to determine who is deserving?

**Thinktress** · 03-16-2010, 09:31 PM

Yeaahhh... See, I don't necessarily think that sex qualifies as a basic human right. The right to have sex if you're a consenting adult with a willing partner, sure. The right to bear arms. Yes again. The right to have sex with yourself. Down with that one. The right to have someone else do it with ya. Not so much. Just sayin' It's a cruel ol' world.

03-16-2010, 06:25 PM	#1
Evalis Member [04%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Sep 2007 Posts: 170	So I'm going to go out on a limb here and say no, no they do not. Rather I'm responding to the idea of the meaning behind this statement; which is: Do fat girls deserve sex? The reason behind my beliefs is that if someone doesn't want to have sex with someone based on their physical appearance, then they are warranted in holding that opinion. And if the general population does not wish to have sex with obese women, then they do not 'deserve' to have sex until they fix their appearance. Neither is this a 'need' that must be filled, as masturbation can serve these poor obese women just fine. And yes I'm know I'm evil for saying so.. har. Post your comments and/or arguments to support your oppinion on this matter.
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03-16-2010, 06:32 PM	#2
Mogura Core Member [176%] MBTI: INFJ Join Date: Apr 2008 Posts: 7,067	Self love, perhaps? (I'm not talking about mastubatory manoeuvers in the dark; I'm referring to positive self-esteem...)
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03-16-2010, 06:35 PM	#3
Blse Core Member [125%] MBTI: ENTJ Join Date: Jun 2009 Posts: 5,030	Well, this brings us to the question of whether anyone "deserves" to have sex... versus just wanting it. That's a question I can't answer right now. There is something to your hypothesis in the sense that you shouldn't expect a reward if you don't put in any effort. Men have to face rejection through the approach and need to build confidence. Women have to make themselves attractive in order to be approached. Whether we like it or not these are the rules governing the intitation of romantic engagements (the rules of engagement To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts. ). Don't expect to win if you don't follow the rules. Yes, I agree. As for being over-weight, I do think genes matter. On the other hand, I think our society is over-sensitive. No, fat ain't pretty. And yes, for many fat folks it's something they could change. I certainly don't think people should have to deny that obesity is a deal breaker and very unattractive. I am also not shallow for not wanting to date people who are over-weight - I can't find such a person sexually attractive and that's that.
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Grimstad Member [08%] MBTI: ESTP Join Date: Apr 2009 Posts: 329	Have you ever heard of a To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts. Just because you (or I for that matter) don’t find “fat” attractive doesn’t mean they aren’t appreciated. Hard bodies are just that, hard. I like a little meat on the bones I roll with. But just a little.
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Seriously Core Member [497%] MBTI: ISTP Join Date: Apr 2009 Posts: 19,884	What about fat dudes? Inquiring minds want to know...
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Thinktress Veteran Member [52%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Jan 2010 Posts: 2,112	Look, if any consenting adult of any size can get any number of other adults into the sack with 'em, more power... and all that. I don't have to want to see a video of that particular sex act in order to be happy for said individual(s). It's probably as easy for some fat chicks to get laid as it is for some INTJ's... More power to both of 'em.
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gestalt Veteran Member [84%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Mar 2009 Posts: 3,374	I don't think genes have a significant part to do with it. Does anyone know anything about this for real? Besides personal experience.
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SeaCzar Veteran Member [66%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Feb 2008 Posts: 2,668	I had a buddy in college who qualifies as the "chubby chaser" a previous poster referred to. According to him, "fat chicks" were best because they were more freaky in the sack.
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fiver Member [11%] MBTI: INFJ Join Date: May 2009 Posts: 450	I'm going to go out on a limb here and say that people who discriminate on others based on prejudice and stereotypes don't deserve sex either. This is based on the fact that people with social skills don't enjoy being around them, and social contact on internet boards can serve these social pariahs needs just fine. To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
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Thinktress Veteran Member [52%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Jan 2010 Posts: 2,112	And have you been to Minneapolis lately? SOMEBODY is doing the fat girl. She's getting done. Just sayin' Maybe nobody's doing a fat girl in Montreal, but someone is damn sure doing one in Minneapolis. It's a long winter in Minnesota and there are lots of fat girls to choose from... ---------- Post added 03-16-2010 at 10:02 PM ---------- Oh fiver, don't be so sensitive, you're making me look bad. err.. worse. To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts. ~
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TheLastMohican Core Member [187%] MBTI: ENTJ Join Date: Feb 2008 Posts: 7,498	It is not unheard of for sex to be defined as a human right. In the Netherlands, for example, disabled people can get a monthly allowance for prostitutes.
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Elfrun Core Member [268%] MBTI: entp Join Date: May 2008 Posts: 10,720	Love =/= sex. I believe everyone who wants to deserves to experience love, doesn't mean it will happen. No one 'deserves' sex though, unless it was a business transaction and the payment has already been made, guess it's more of a contractual thing then if they don't get it.
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Stratego Veteran Member [57%] MBTI: InTJ Join Date: Mar 2009 Posts: 2,283	I'm going to go out on a limb and say that all people, regardless of physical appearence, deserve sex. It's a very powerful drive, it feels fantastic, and having it and having a lot of it keeps a person healthy, sane, and easier to live/work with. Proof is in the pudding... But on a serious note: The misogyny and superficiality of this argument is appalling. As a woman it is extremely offensive to me whenever my sex is objectified, or it's implied in any way that all the value a women possesses is in her cunt, and how often she lets a male use it to get off. And if an attitude like that doesn't strongly suggest that someone isn't "deserving" of sex then I don't know what is.
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Fox Member [46%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Jan 2009 Posts: 1,842	As long as birth control is involved. When ever I see a fat couple I just imagine them doing it. I'm funny that way cause I imagine every couple doing it. What can I say I get bored easily and it is always easy to day dream about sex. I then get physically sick and pray that they don't have any children. So to all the fat, old, stupid and ugly couple out there please keep a five feet distance from each other.
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Tyrant Soup Member [40%] MBTI: intj Join Date: Jun 2008 Posts: 1,608	There are parts of the world where fat women are considered the ideal. So obvious they "deserve" sex as much as anyone else. I think your question is silly. It's like asking if poor people deserves food. What criteria do you use to determine who is deserving?
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Thinktress Veteran Member [52%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Jan 2010 Posts: 2,112	Yeaahhh... See, I don't necessarily think that sex qualifies as a basic human right. The right to have sex if you're a consenting adult with a willing partner, sure. The right to bear arms. Yes again. The right to have sex with yourself. Down with that one. The right to have someone else do it with ya. Not so much. Just sayin' It's a cruel ol' world.
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