"Does this make me look fat" vs "Is my hairline receding?"

**Syntax** · 03-09-2010, 05:26 PM

Ladies, gentlemen...both these questions have a right answer and a wrong answer. The truth has nothing to do with it. Answering incorrectly is a faux pas. Blurting out the answer without being asked is just cause for homicide. I just thought I'd share that.

Now, if you'll excuse me, I'm going to go mourn my manhood, youth and virility--as they all died today.

**Blse** · 03-09-2010, 05:29 PM

Yes, we know. What happened? What is this thread about?

**ArtistTyrant** · 03-09-2010, 05:30 PM

i don't see what the issue is..both are fixable, the ass one more easily than the receding hairline one...but women that ask questions that fish for compliments are annoying to me :/

**Syntax** · 03-09-2010, 06:13 PM

	Originally Posted by ArtistTyrant To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	i don't see what the issue is..both are fixable, the ass one more easily than the receding hairline one...but women that ask questions that fish for compliments are annoying to me :/

The weird thing is, I had no idea how a negative response to my question would affect me. I ordinarily NEVER ask earnest questions to which I believe there is only one correct answer. Then she said "yeah, it's definitely receding" and I...I...I don't know. My feelings were a COMPLETE surprise to me. It was the first time I've ever asked that question(I cut my hair short the other night and I suspected it...but I wasn't sure). I won't be asking that question anymore, obviously.

Anyway, I never understood the whole "no, those jeans don't make you look fat" social convention until now.

**ArtistTyrant** · 03-09-2010, 06:27 PM

um, the intent of the question matters ^_^ and it was only one persons opinion, do you highly value their opinion on this?

**Thinktress** · 03-09-2010, 06:37 PM

	Originally Posted by Syntax To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	The weird thing is, I had no idea how a negative response to my question would affect me. Anyway, I never understood the whole "no, those jeans don't make you look fat" social convention until now.

Ok, but all of that said, it's really not a big deal if you don't make it a big deal. I swear.

And DO keep your hair short instead of growing it long and trying to hide it. Just boldy make it a non-issue by refusing to focus on it or worry about it. Confidence is very attractive in a guy.

**Syntax** · 03-09-2010, 06:38 PM

	Originally Posted by ArtistTyrant To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	um, the intent of the question matters ^_^ and it was only one persons opinion, do you highly value their opinion on this?

I dare not ask more than once. If I was a masochist I'd post a picture asking for the forum's general consensus.

I'm not entirely sure this thread has a pre-determined point. I just wanted to share my emotional reaction to a run-of-the-mill scenario. I apologize for this. Perhaps "the lounge"?

**ArtistTyrant** · 03-09-2010, 06:43 PM

ah its okay, if it is receding its probably slow, and when you have $ you can deal with it
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and its just a single superficial thing anyways, don't worry about it too much

**Napoleon** · 03-09-2010, 06:46 PM

That is too bad, friend.

I however, am 29 this year and look around 22-24 (or so I've been told by the ladies...), with no receding hair.

Yay genetics.

**Syntax** · 03-09-2010, 06:50 PM

	Originally Posted by ArtistTyrant To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	ah its okay, if it is receding its probably slow, and when you have $ you can deal with it To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts. and its just a single superficial thing anyways, don't worry about it too much

I guess I'm not overly concerned; it's not bad yet. Think
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.

...But I can't shake the feeling that I have X years to find a soul-mate before I'm an old man. Where, given that my hair is going bye-bye, X=3. It's odd--because I'm mostly asexual anyway and I never really equated hair with attractiveness. But now that I KNOW it's going...it's like being reminded of my own mortality. Or--more pertinently--my sexual mortality.

Feel free to call all of this illogical. It is.

**rain** · 03-09-2010, 06:54 PM

	Originally Posted by Thinktress To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	Ok, but all of that said, it's really not a big deal if you don't make it a big deal. I swear. And DO keep your hair short instead of growing it long and trying to hide it. Just boldy make it a non-issue by refusing to focus on it or worry about it. Confidence is very attractive in a guy.

Well maybe not too short, but a little wave and wispy areas here and there can be sexy.

I don't think the hair thing is a big deal either.

**fwiffo** · 03-09-2010, 08:12 PM

In these sorts of situations, I do the naive thing... I tell the truth.

I don't know! I just can't bring myself to lie about it! I try to cushion it and be really nice about what I'm saying, and I think that just makes it worse.

**SeaCzar** · 03-09-2010, 08:45 PM

"Honey, those jeans don't make you ass look fat. You're fat ass makes your ass look fat."

I tend to the brutally honest. This is something I am working on, with little success. If you ask an honest question, you should expect an honest answer.

How old are you? I am in my late 40s with a full mop head of hair (I am overdue for a cut). Just because you are losing your hair does not mean you wont find a "soul-mate". I am sure there are plenty of happily married guys out there with less hair than you have.

**Fox** · 03-09-2010, 08:46 PM

I just throw my hands up in the air and run away. No correct way in answering that question. They want you to lie but if they know you are lying good luck to you.

I'm thinking about answering like an amateur psychologist and answer their question with a question, "Do you think you look fat in it?" Throw it right back to them.

**sms444** · 03-09-2010, 09:23 PM

I would agree that it's best not to put the hair question to INTJs or other honest types...I have a good friend whose hair is beginning to recede, and when he mentions it I just get kind of awkward and try to talk about something else or about how it isn't a big deal, because I don't want to hurt his feelings!

While I am lucky enough to have no history of hair loss in my family, I think you should be comforted by the women who post and say it doesn't make you an ugly person, and by real life examples of people who look fine with slightly less hair...like Donald Trump? Ok, nevermind on that last part...

**Nikita** · 03-09-2010, 09:52 PM

So the correct answers are...?

(a) No, your fat makes you look fat.

(b) No, your forehead's just expanding.

**Syntax** · 03-09-2010, 10:11 PM

	Originally Posted by sms444 To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	...I think you should be comforted by the women who post and say it doesn't make you an ugly person...

You don't have to tell me twice.

....Never underestimate denial. :\

**hola** · 03-10-2010, 12:23 AM

Yeah I never thought about it - or noticed - until onw night at the pub the girl i was drinking with with poked me in the head. Ha ha ha. I never though I'd care so much about it. Man its a rude shock... very rude shock.

As for the question, in my case, I'd rather know about it, lose a few nights sleep, and get over it.

gasp.

**Mikk** · 03-10-2010, 06:05 AM

My hairline IS receding and I couldn't care less. I will never, ever ever ever do hair transplant or anything like that. I just shave my head and stay awesome. True story.

**Howi** · 03-10-2010, 06:14 AM

i'm with mikk, go full monty, chicks dig bald man...i have no receding hairline, because i CHOOSE to not have hair
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(while if i did, i would) but as one negates the other its all good.

**catzmeow** · 03-10-2010, 06:59 AM

Originally Posted by Syntax
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The weird thing is, I had no idea how a negative response to my question would affect me. I ordinarily NEVER ask earnest questions to which I believe there is only one correct answer. Then she said "yeah, it's definitely receding" and I...I...I don't know. My feelings were a COMPLETE surprise to me. It was the first time I've ever asked that question(I cut my hair short the other night and I suspected it...but I wasn't sure). I won't be asking that question anymore, obviously.

Anyway, I never understood the whole "no, those jeans don't make you look fat" social convention until now.

My boyfriend is completely bald on the top with a ring of hair around the outside. He keeps it trimmed very short, and it always looks neat and well-kept. I find it VERY attractive, to be blunt. After dating him, I find myself noticing bald men more than men with hair. It's become sexy to me, and it really focuses my attention on a man's face.

I know that this is probably a difficult transition for you (my guy has been losing his hair since his early 20s). BUT, there are women out there who find this look very sexy.

I love kissing his head right on the top where there is no hair. VERY sensuous.

So...it's like this. Aging is a process of simultaneously losing and gaining. For everything you lose, you get something else in exchange. As you get older, you'll see it.

**Elfrun** · 03-10-2010, 07:01 AM

	Originally Posted by Syntax To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	Ladies, gentlemen...both these questions have a right answer and a wrong answer. The truth has nothing to do with it.

Bull. Some people want the truth, lip service shits me, the truth however does not need to overwrite one's use of tact
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**plotthickens** · 03-10-2010, 07:39 AM

Syn, if you're worried about getting older, worry about that. Try not to be vain. It won't stand you in good stead for very long.

**Silence** · 03-10-2010, 11:20 AM

IMO: The correct answer (by correct, I mean "socially acceotable" and "will keep you in good graces") is a variation of "Honey, you look marvelous."

Most of the time, it's true.

**OhTheHumanity** · 03-10-2010, 12:08 PM

Just put some rogaine on that shit, get it early and it should be fine for a long time.

My boyfriend's hair is thinning, but whatever the rest of him is still good. A little of the top, whatever. Not the most important.

I'm sure you look fine btw. :3

03-09-2010, 05:26 PM	#1
Syntax Member [21%] MBTI: INTP Join Date: Jan 2010 Posts: 871	Ladies, gentlemen...both these questions have a right answer and a wrong answer. The truth has nothing to do with it. Answering incorrectly is a faux pas. Blurting out the answer without being asked is just cause for homicide. I just thought I'd share that. Now, if you'll excuse me, I'm going to go mourn my manhood, youth and virility--as they all died today.
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03-09-2010, 05:29 PM	#2
Blse Core Member [125%] MBTI: ENTJ Join Date: Jun 2009 Posts: 5,030	Yes, we know. What happened? What is this thread about?
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03-09-2010, 05:30 PM	#3
ArtistTyrant Banned MBTI: INFJ Join Date: Apr 2009 Posts: 4,559	i don't see what the issue is..both are fixable, the ass one more easily than the receding hairline one...but women that ask questions that fish for compliments are annoying to me :/
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03-09-2010, 06:27 PM	#5
ArtistTyrant Banned MBTI: INFJ Join Date: Apr 2009 Posts: 4,559	um, the intent of the question matters ^_^ and it was only one persons opinion, do you highly value their opinion on this?
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ArtistTyrant Banned MBTI: INFJ Join Date: Apr 2009 Posts: 4,559	ah its okay, if it is receding its probably slow, and when you have $ you can deal with it To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts. and its just a single superficial thing anyways, don't worry about it too much
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03-09-2010, 06:46 PM	#9
Napoleon Member [03%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Mar 2010 Posts: 126	That is too bad, friend. I however, am 29 this year and look around 22-24 (or so I've been told by the ladies...), with no receding hair. Yay genetics.
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03-09-2010, 08:12 PM	#12
fwiffo Member [32%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Feb 2010 Posts: 1,284	In these sorts of situations, I do the naive thing... I tell the truth. I don't know! I just can't bring myself to lie about it! I try to cushion it and be really nice about what I'm saying, and I think that just makes it worse.
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03-09-2010, 08:45 PM	#13
SeaCzar Veteran Member [66%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Feb 2008 Posts: 2,668	"Honey, those jeans don't make you ass look fat. You're fat ass makes your ass look fat." I tend to the brutally honest. This is something I am working on, with little success. If you ask an honest question, you should expect an honest answer. How old are you? I am in my late 40s with a full mop head of hair (I am overdue for a cut). Just because you are losing your hair does not mean you wont find a "soul-mate". I am sure there are plenty of happily married guys out there with less hair than you have.
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03-09-2010, 08:46 PM	#14
Fox Member [45%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Jan 2009 Posts: 1,839	I just throw my hands up in the air and run away. No correct way in answering that question. They want you to lie but if they know you are lying good luck to you. I'm thinking about answering like an amateur psychologist and answer their question with a question, "Do you think you look fat in it?" Throw it right back to them.
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03-09-2010, 09:23 PM	#15
sms444 Member [12%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Feb 2010 Posts: 501	I would agree that it's best not to put the hair question to INTJs or other honest types...I have a good friend whose hair is beginning to recede, and when he mentions it I just get kind of awkward and try to talk about something else or about how it isn't a big deal, because I don't want to hurt his feelings! While I am lucky enough to have no history of hair loss in my family, I think you should be comforted by the women who post and say it doesn't make you an ugly person, and by real life examples of people who look fine with slightly less hair...like Donald Trump? Ok, nevermind on that last part...
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03-09-2010, 09:52 PM	#16
Nikita Core Member [555%] MBTI: INTP Join Date: Sep 2008 Posts: 22,213	So the correct answers are...? (a) No, your fat makes you look fat. (b) No, your forehead's just expanding.
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03-10-2010, 12:23 AM	#18
hola New Member [01%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Mar 2010 Posts: 6	Yeah I never thought about it - or noticed - until onw night at the pub the girl i was drinking with with poked me in the head. Ha ha ha. I never though I'd care so much about it. Man its a rude shock... very rude shock. As for the question, in my case, I'd rather know about it, lose a few nights sleep, and get over it. gasp.
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03-10-2010, 06:05 AM	#19
Mikk Member [25%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Mar 2010 Posts: 1,018	My hairline IS receding and I couldn't care less. I will never, ever ever ever do hair transplant or anything like that. I just shave my head and stay awesome. True story.
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Howi New Member [01%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Jan 2010 Posts: 25	i'm with mikk, go full monty, chicks dig bald man...i have no receding hairline, because i CHOOSE to not have hair To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts. (while if i did, i would) but as one negates the other its all good.
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03-10-2010, 07:39 AM	#23
plotthickens Core Member [662%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Nov 2009 Posts: 26,514	Syn, if you're worried about getting older, worry about that. Try not to be vain. It won't stand you in good stead for very long.
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Silence Member [35%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Aug 2008 Posts: 1,404	IMO: The correct answer (by correct, I mean "socially acceotable" and "will keep you in good graces") is a variation of "Honey, you look marvelous." Most of the time, it's true.
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03-10-2010, 12:08 PM	#25
OhTheHumanity Member [02%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Jan 2010 Posts: 113	Just put some rogaine on that shit, get it early and it should be fine for a long time. My boyfriend's hair is thinning, but whatever the rest of him is still good. A little of the top, whatever. Not the most important. I'm sure you look fine btw. :3
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