All you INTJs! Try to avoid being lonely for the next 6 weeks!

**Coxswain** · 12-01-2009, 01:15 PM

Is it me or has the traffic on the INTJ forum dropped considerably since Thanksgiving?
According to this article loneliness can be contagious:

Staying socially connected may be just as important for public health as washing your hands and covering your cough. A new study suggests that feelings of loneliness can spread through social networks like the common cold.

"People on the edge of the network spread their loneliness to others and then cut their ties," says Nicholas Christakis of Harvard Medical School in Boston, a coauthor of the new study in the December Journal of Personality and Social Psychology. "It's like the edge of a sweater: You start pulling at it and it unravels the network."

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**JCrow** · 12-01-2009, 04:02 PM

Wait, are you saying we should get on the INTJ forum and be social OR get off the INTJ forum and be social?

**Goodday** · 12-01-2009, 04:25 PM

I'm never lonely. Are INTJ's often lonely? I always assumed that I enjoyed being by myself so much (and therefore wasn't ever lonely) because of being an INTJ....what do you think?

**Coxswain** · 12-01-2009, 05:15 PM

I wouldn't know... ENTP myself. At least according to all the MB/DISC tests they've given me.

**Scenery** · 12-01-2009, 05:47 PM

I don't feel lonely very often, in fact, the only time I genuinely feel lonely is when I desire to spend time with a particular person (or group of people) and cannot do so.

That said, I definitely see validity in the whole "spread of loneliness" idea, though it does seem less valid among a board of mostly INTJs.

**reb** · 12-01-2009, 06:09 PM

lone-li-ness. what IS that, anyway? what a concept...being alone, in a world full of other things and creatures.

in all seriousness, Coxswain, i have noted a change in the tenor of the forum, but not a change in volume.

**Vyrokashan** · 12-01-2009, 06:11 PM

I think the study refers less of the state of being alone, and more to the mindset of loneliness, which leads to depression. An INTJ could be alone for a month, and never be sad. An extreme extravert could be alone for a week, and go into chronic depression.

Besides, INTJ's tend not to be noticed on their lonesome, so they do not make others feel lonely. Those who do know that one of us is alone know that we prefer it to be that way, and do not feel bad about.

TL
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R, The loneliness referred to in your article leads to depression. INTJ's are accompanied by their many voices and personalities, and are never alone, even in a 20-by-20 black room.

**Amphorian** · 12-01-2009, 06:19 PM

Actually, I do have plans to be more social during the Winter Break. I get out like once every few months with friends? ^^ Yep, I may post a bit but I sure ain't the socialist INTJ. xD

**Coxswain** · 12-01-2009, 06:25 PM

	Originally Posted by Vyrokashan To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	INTJ's are accompanied by their many voices and personalities, and are never alone, even in a 20-by-20 black room.

Funny thing about that... I was just reading an article about a method of coping with the voices in one's head by accepting them, befriending them, reasoning with them...

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	Originally Posted by reb To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	in all seriousness, Coxswain, i have noted a change in the tenor of the forum, but not a change in volume.

Please forgive my newbie question... how so? How was it different before?

**t3hrubikscube** · 12-01-2009, 07:30 PM

I'm usually not lonely anyway.

Cooper · 12-01-2009, 07:52 PM

	Originally Posted by Coxswain To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	Is it me or has the traffic on the INTJ forum dropped considerably since Thanksgiving? According to this article loneliness can be contagious: To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts. Start posting Coop!

My head doc and I go rounds over this one. She tells me I need to socialize more, I tell her I do. She asks 'How do you socialize?' I told her about this forum and she just looked at me. She informed me that online is not socializing. I begged her pardon and told her she was incorrect.

I think loneliness is contagious. I think people come in, look around, see that "nobody" is around and leave. If enough people do that, then there really is "nobody" here.

But, it could also be a really bad turkey hangover....

**Sk8ordude** · 12-01-2009, 08:11 PM

I find that I am most likely to feel lonely (which I seldom do) when I'm not alone.

**Murky Muse** · 12-02-2009, 10:17 AM

I have finals this week, so I don't have much time to hang out here.

As for actually being lonely, it doesn't happen often but when it does it's usually because one of the people I care about isn't understanding something about me, which causes friction between us and makes me feel cut off from them.

**SeaCzar** · 12-02-2009, 10:39 AM

I am very often (happily) alone, but almost never lonely. As mentioned, the only time I feel alone/lonely is in a crowd.

**Ytterbium** · 12-02-2009, 10:54 AM

I hear voices too! Usually it's my stomach growling to tell me that I should eat something.

**PunkinA** · 12-02-2009, 02:37 PM

I wish I had enough time to feel lonely.

**Seducer** · 12-02-2009, 02:59 PM

I'm only interested in picking up girls. I'm not very desiring of people's company in general, although I somewhat like playing Nazi Zombies with other people on xbox live. I don't get lonely. Many people are a giant, aggravating pain in the ass or they're just totally uninteresting to be around. Why don't all the ENTP's try being nice for the next 6 weeks and not say anything disparaging when you write or speak. That would be totally different from constantly making sarcastic, disparaging remarks. I might like to spend some time with INFP people, because unlike many other people, they say nice things and they don't treat you like a dumbass and a loser and insult you.

**Coxswain** · 12-02-2009, 04:12 PM

	Originally Posted by Ytterbium To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	I hear voices too! Usually it's my stomach growling to tell me that I should eat something.

Uhm... read this item about making peace with the voices in your head:

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So perhaps it's not your stomach after all. It's good to make peace with the voices...

**Ytterbium** · 12-03-2009, 01:35 PM

	Originally Posted by Coxswain To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	Uhm... read this item about making peace with the voices in your head: To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts. So perhaps it's not your stomach after all. It's good to make peace with the voices...

We use to say "Let the food silence your mouth" here. Quite good solution in my case.

**Freedom Geek** · 12-03-2009, 09:37 PM

I don't really feel lonely, I'm just alone. Sure it would be nice to meet some people who I have a personality I could be friends with and very nice to meet a person who I could get into a relationship with but the lack of these thing do not cause an emotion of loneliness but merely a lack of whatever emotions I would experience were I to meet such people.

**Zsych** · 12-04-2009, 10:08 AM

	Originally Posted by Goodday To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	I'm never lonely. Are INTJ's often lonely? I always assumed that I enjoyed being by myself so much (and therefore wasn't ever lonely) because of being an INTJ....what do you think?

LOL. Not quite. Busy with more important things than socialization, and things that interest me more for the most part... but occasionally lonely. Not considering it important enough to put serious effort into doesn't mean I don't want it at all.

**shytiger** · 12-04-2009, 11:28 AM

I have trouble distinguishing being lonely and just wanting a change in venue. For instance, a nice trip to the bookstore/library usually cures any feelings of sadness. There I experience that rare bonhomie of being in a place full of bibliophiles studiously ignoring one another.

**Medicine Man** · 12-04-2009, 09:09 PM

I love being alone...However, these days I would not mind getting laid. Wow its been awhile (thinks back to days when he was if not a pimp, at least a minor player)

**mathogre** · 12-05-2009, 05:46 AM

Lonely? Lol! No joke. One time I thought I was lonely, but then I discovered that it was based on a false assumption of a relationship. I'm alone a lot, though never enough. I'm just never lonely.

**Hoppy** · 12-05-2009, 06:31 AM

I definitely do get lonely. I do not mind being alone, but I do crave good, real conversation and interactions. I feel, recently, that I have lost the two people I felt truly connected to, and, even though I have a lot of other people in my life, I feel an aching absence. I think it is loneliness. An intellectual loneliness instead of a social or physical loneliness.

12-01-2009, 04:02 PM	#2
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12-01-2009, 04:25 PM	#3
Goodday Member [02%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Sep 2009 Posts: 87	I'm never lonely. Are INTJ's often lonely? I always assumed that I enjoyed being by myself so much (and therefore wasn't ever lonely) because of being an INTJ....what do you think?
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12-01-2009, 05:15 PM	#4
Coxswain Member [49%] MBTI: ENTP Join Date: Oct 2009 Posts: 1,966	I wouldn't know... ENTP myself. At least according to all the MB/DISC tests they've given me.
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12-01-2009, 05:47 PM	#5
Scenery Member [03%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Nov 2009 Posts: 123	I don't feel lonely very often, in fact, the only time I genuinely feel lonely is when I desire to spend time with a particular person (or group of people) and cannot do so. That said, I definitely see validity in the whole "spread of loneliness" idea, though it does seem less valid among a board of mostly INTJs.
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12-01-2009, 06:09 PM	#6
reb Core Member [257%] MBTI: XNTJ Join Date: Aug 2008 Posts: 10,280	lone-li-ness. what IS that, anyway? what a concept...being alone, in a world full of other things and creatures. in all seriousness, Coxswain, i have noted a change in the tenor of the forum, but not a change in volume.
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12-01-2009, 06:11 PM	#7
Vyrokashan Member [02%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Apr 2009 Posts: 103	I think the study refers less of the state of being alone, and more to the mindset of loneliness, which leads to depression. An INTJ could be alone for a month, and never be sad. An extreme extravert could be alone for a week, and go into chronic depression. Besides, INTJ's tend not to be noticed on their lonesome, so they do not make others feel lonely. Those who do know that one of us is alone know that we prefer it to be that way, and do not feel bad about. TL To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts. R, The loneliness referred to in your article leads to depression. INTJ's are accompanied by their many voices and personalities, and are never alone, even in a 20-by-20 black room.
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12-01-2009, 06:19 PM	#8
Amphorian Core Member [311%] MBTI: ISTP Join Date: May 2009 Posts: 12,457	Actually, I do have plans to be more social during the Winter Break. I get out like once every few months with friends? ^^ Yep, I may post a bit but I sure ain't the socialist INTJ. xD
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12-01-2009, 07:30 PM	#10
t3hrubikscube Member [18%] MBTI: IxTJ Join Date: Aug 2009 Posts: 745	I'm usually not lonely anyway.
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12-01-2009, 08:11 PM	#12
Sk8ordude Veteran Member [60%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Oct 2009 Posts: 2,427	I find that I am most likely to feel lonely (which I seldom do) when I'm not alone.
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12-02-2009, 10:17 AM	#13
Murky Muse Member [02%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Oct 2009 Posts: 102	I have finals this week, so I don't have much time to hang out here. As for actually being lonely, it doesn't happen often but when it does it's usually because one of the people I care about isn't understanding something about me, which causes friction between us and makes me feel cut off from them.
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12-02-2009, 10:39 AM	#14
SeaCzar Veteran Member [66%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Feb 2008 Posts: 2,668	I am very often (happily) alone, but almost never lonely. As mentioned, the only time I feel alone/lonely is in a crowd.
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12-02-2009, 10:54 AM	#15
Ytterbium Veteran Member [73%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Dec 2007 Posts: 2,928	I hear voices too! Usually it's my stomach growling to tell me that I should eat something.
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12-02-2009, 02:37 PM	#16
PunkinA Member [11%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Mar 2009 Posts: 469	I wish I had enough time to feel lonely.
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Seducer Banned MBTI: xxxx Join Date: Jul 2009 Posts: 768	I'm only interested in picking up girls. I'm not very desiring of people's company in general, although I somewhat like playing Nazi Zombies with other people on xbox live. I don't get lonely. Many people are a giant, aggravating pain in the ass or they're just totally uninteresting to be around. Why don't all the ENTP's try being nice for the next 6 weeks and not say anything disparaging when you write or speak. That would be totally different from constantly making sarcastic, disparaging remarks. I might like to spend some time with INFP people, because unlike many other people, they say nice things and they don't treat you like a dumbass and a loser and insult you.
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12-03-2009, 09:37 PM	#20
Freedom Geek Member [30%] MBTI: INTx Join Date: Nov 2008 Posts: 1,228	I don't really feel lonely, I'm just alone. Sure it would be nice to meet some people who I have a personality I could be friends with and very nice to meet a person who I could get into a relationship with but the lack of these thing do not cause an emotion of loneliness but merely a lack of whatever emotions I would experience were I to meet such people.
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12-04-2009, 11:28 AM	#22
shytiger Member [22%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Sep 2009 Posts: 895	I have trouble distinguishing being lonely and just wanting a change in venue. For instance, a nice trip to the bookstore/library usually cures any feelings of sadness. There I experience that rare bonhomie of being in a place full of bibliophiles studiously ignoring one another.
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12-04-2009, 09:09 PM	#23
Medicine Man Member [04%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Nov 2008 Posts: 191	I love being alone...However, these days I would not mind getting laid. Wow its been awhile (thinks back to days when he was if not a pimp, at least a minor player)
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12-05-2009, 05:46 AM	#24
mathogre New Member [01%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Nov 2009 Posts: 66	Lonely? Lol! No joke. One time I thought I was lonely, but then I discovered that it was based on a false assumption of a relationship. I'm alone a lot, though never enough. I'm just never lonely.
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12-05-2009, 06:31 AM	#25
Hoppy New Member [01%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Nov 2009 Posts: 5	I definitely do get lonely. I do not mind being alone, but I do crave good, real conversation and interactions. I feel, recently, that I have lost the two people I felt truly connected to, and, even though I have a lot of other people in my life, I feel an aching absence. I think it is loneliness. An intellectual loneliness instead of a social or physical loneliness.
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