Did you ever defriend somebody? And if so, why?

**Coxswain** · 11-29-2009, 03:49 PM

I'm not big on social networking. Actually I abhor the whole thing - I'm sort of old school... I liked the old BBS at 300 baud a lot more as a creative experience. But I got on FB to connect with some old friends. It worked.
It was like casting a net in a pond nobody had fished in. Within three weeks I had about 60 friends. About a third were folks I hadn't spoken to or seen in 30 years. They're fine and they're still part of the roll call. But I've jettisoned over a dozen because they behaved like total dumb-asses. They're coworkers or ex-coworkers with strong "ideology." Now they know that making dumb-ass inappropriate innuendos or crackpot death-panel scares on my wall can be seen by others. And they insist to re-post after I erased it a second or third time.
So... they're out of there. And then they are offended and refuse to talk to me. Wow... so after all this IS a good tool to filter friends.

**Chilibean13** · 11-29-2009, 03:54 PM

Wow, what immature friends! THat would drive me crazy considering not only do I have co-workers on my friends list, but also old friends from school, my parents, and my in-laws. I don't want them to associate me with inappropriate comments.

I have defriended 1 person. It was a girl I went to school with, whom I never really cared for, but I thought, what the heck, we are adults. She was always kind of a passive agressive bully who would make snide pointed comments within earshot of people in school. She continued to do so online--making snide posts that obviously have to do with what I had to say. Finally I sent her a message and told her that its the internet and if she didn't like what I was posting to not read it. Then I just defriended her.

**daydreamer** · 11-29-2009, 05:09 PM

i've only defriended one person, someone from high school who is always going through a self-induced rough time, and tried to pressure me into helping her by appealing to others that we were facebook friends with in common (other high school buddies). usually friendly or silly pressure does not bother me, because everyone knows how i am, but since she did a few things that made me decide eventually to have nothing to do with her, i thought i didn't need to acknowledge her comments online either. thankfully, none of our buddies ask me about it, they probably know better.
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**Liam** · 11-29-2009, 05:09 PM

Yeah, I've defriended some people. People fall apart, it happens. If I haven't talked to someone in forever, I'll remove them from my lists.

**newstyle120** · 12-01-2009, 10:07 AM

I defriended an old high school friend of mine who at long last fulfilled his destiny of being an alchoholic Eskimo in Alaska. (He already was an eskimo in Alaska so really he just became an alchoholic, but that's a huge stereo type there)

**Moxie1** · 12-01-2009, 12:41 PM

Only people who send me repeated requests/events/stupid stuff I don't want to participate in.
But I have a very low tolerance for that, so I usually defriend a few people a week.

**brdmadgrl82** · 12-02-2009, 05:20 PM

I think I have you guys beat. I defriended everyone by deleting my profile...3 times. Not on fb/myspace anymore. I got tired of the drama (ex's, stalkers, people who aren't really your friends but add you because they need to have more than 300 friends).

**realJim** · 12-02-2009, 05:30 PM

Yes, damn it! Shit happens! I had to deFriend a former work associate because they kept posting their astrology of the day. Too annoying to see that every day and knock down significant entries from closer friends. I felt a bit of remorse as I clicked them away from me, but we weren't that close to begin with.

**Scenery** · 12-03-2009, 11:00 AM

I generally only de-friend people when I don't remember why I added them in the first place or if they constantly post annoying quizzes all over the place. Or if "woe is me" status updates are their calling card; I can't stand pity-seekers on Facebook.

11-29-2009, 03:49 PM	#1
Coxswain Member [49%] MBTI: ENTP Join Date: Oct 2009 Posts: 1,966	I'm not big on social networking. Actually I abhor the whole thing - I'm sort of old school... I liked the old BBS at 300 baud a lot more as a creative experience. But I got on FB to connect with some old friends. It worked. It was like casting a net in a pond nobody had fished in. Within three weeks I had about 60 friends. About a third were folks I hadn't spoken to or seen in 30 years. They're fine and they're still part of the roll call. But I've jettisoned over a dozen because they behaved like total dumb-asses. They're coworkers or ex-coworkers with strong "ideology." Now they know that making dumb-ass inappropriate innuendos or crackpot death-panel scares on my wall can be seen by others. And they insist to re-post after I erased it a second or third time. So... they're out of there. And then they are offended and refuse to talk to me. Wow... so after all this IS a good tool to filter friends.
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11-29-2009, 03:54 PM	#2
Chilibean13 New Member [01%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Sep 2008 Posts: 61	Wow, what immature friends! THat would drive me crazy considering not only do I have co-workers on my friends list, but also old friends from school, my parents, and my in-laws. I don't want them to associate me with inappropriate comments. I have defriended 1 person. It was a girl I went to school with, whom I never really cared for, but I thought, what the heck, we are adults. She was always kind of a passive agressive bully who would make snide pointed comments within earshot of people in school. She continued to do so online--making snide posts that obviously have to do with what I had to say. Finally I sent her a message and told her that its the internet and if she didn't like what I was posting to not read it. Then I just defriended her.
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11-29-2009, 05:09 PM	#3
daydreamer Veteran Member [66%] MBTI: xntx Join Date: Jan 2009 Posts: 2,644	i've only defriended one person, someone from high school who is always going through a self-induced rough time, and tried to pressure me into helping her by appealing to others that we were facebook friends with in common (other high school buddies). usually friendly or silly pressure does not bother me, because everyone knows how i am, but since she did a few things that made me decide eventually to have nothing to do with her, i thought i didn't need to acknowledge her comments online either. thankfully, none of our buddies ask me about it, they probably know better. To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
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11-29-2009, 05:09 PM	#4
Liam New Member [01%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Nov 2009 Posts: 2	Yeah, I've defriended some people. People fall apart, it happens. If I haven't talked to someone in forever, I'll remove them from my lists.
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12-01-2009, 10:07 AM	#5
newstyle120 New Member [01%] MBTI: intj Join Date: Nov 2009 Posts: 37	I defriended an old high school friend of mine who at long last fulfilled his destiny of being an alchoholic Eskimo in Alaska. (He already was an eskimo in Alaska so really he just became an alchoholic, but that's a huge stereo type there)
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12-01-2009, 12:41 PM	#6
Moxie1 New Member [01%] MBTI: inTJ Join Date: Dec 2009 Posts: 31	Only people who send me repeated requests/events/stupid stuff I don't want to participate in. But I have a very low tolerance for that, so I usually defriend a few people a week.
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12-02-2009, 05:20 PM	#7
brdmadgrl82 Member [12%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Sep 2009 Posts: 512	I think I have you guys beat. I defriended everyone by deleting my profile...3 times. Not on fb/myspace anymore. I got tired of the drama (ex's, stalkers, people who aren't really your friends but add you because they need to have more than 300 friends).
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12-02-2009, 05:30 PM	#8
realJim Member [37%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Jun 2009 Posts: 1,488	Yes, damn it! Shit happens! I had to deFriend a former work associate because they kept posting their astrology of the day. Too annoying to see that every day and knock down significant entries from closer friends. I felt a bit of remorse as I clicked them away from me, but we weren't that close to begin with.
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12-03-2009, 11:00 AM	#9
Scenery Member [03%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Nov 2009 Posts: 123	I generally only de-friend people when I don't remember why I added them in the first place or if they constantly post annoying quizzes all over the place. Or if "woe is me" status updates are their calling card; I can't stand pity-seekers on Facebook.
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