another lurking ENFP looking to probe...

**Kyi** · 11-18-2009, 08:58 PM

Well, to be honest, I ventured here because I found that the topics that I wanted to read about the most (which happen to be notorious ENFP/INTJ attraction), seemed to be more interesting and well thought out here than my previous forum.

I'm still sort of new to this MBTI thing, but once I found out how accurate it seems to be, I became obsessed and wanted to learn everything I could about it. Except, most of the times, I can't seem to read through the entire thing before I skip to the next topic.

Most of my best friends seem to be NT types, and interestingly enough, my current boyfriend was typed as an INTJ when I made him do the test.

So here is my INTJ story.

We met when I was out with some girlfriends at some bar. They weren't actually chicks I hung out with very often, but I was feeling bored that night and they asked me if I wanted to go drinking so I thought why not. I had never been to that bar before because it was all the way across town, and my girlfriends were acting really drunk and sort of annoying, lost in some superficial blabberfest that didn't interest me.

I was sitting at the bar, feeling slightly bored and contemplating the meaning of my life, when I caught the gaze of a guy sitting alone at the corner of the bar. He gave me a small smirk, and then shyly looked away. I smiled to myself, thinking 'hey, he's pretty cute.' I looked back over at him and caught him looking at me again. He seemed pleased by my reaction of smiling. He looked away again in the opposite direction. I knew he did that so I wouldn't see him smiling. I knew I had to speak to him.

I noticed that he was smoking a cigarette, so I casually walked over with a cigarette in hand. He saw me approaching him and I could tell he was trying to not seem excited. He pulled out the lighter before I even said a word. At that moment, we gazed into each other's eyes and I felt something. I could tell he felt it too. All I could do was stutter "..H-hi. Thanks!" I may have blushed. He chuckled in a subtle, affectionate 'guy admiring something cute' kind of way, which sort of made my heart flutter.

We talked briefly about how bored we were and what we did and how difficult it was to find people to talk to that weren't idiots. I believe we were both fairly inebriated, but somehow still managed to carry on a stimulating conversation even though we both don't really remember what we talked about.

We didn't get to talk for long before my girlfriends came over and dragged me away and said we were leaving. I gave the guy my number and told him we had to hang out sometime. I wouldn't get to see him again for a few months.

The two of us exchanged facebook and screen names and kept in touch mostly through online chatting. He would subtly mention that I should come out to his part of town to hang out, which I would have done, but I was sort of in the process of getting involved with some guy that I had known for a lot longer.

He was a close friend of mine. Sort of. He pursued me, and I wasn't really sure of it because I didn't want to ruin the friendship, but I decided to go along and see what would happen. To make a long story short, I didn't really like this guy but I was bored and lonely (a god awful combination), and I figured since we were good friends, we might be good in a relationship too. I mistook us "getting along" for thinking I actually understood this guy. Turns out, he was in love with some other girl from the beginning and was just bored and lonely himself. He dumped me when he had his chance to get back with her. At that point, I had started to get used to the idea of being with him, and had actually became quite fond of him and thought things were going very well, especially since he pretty much said "I love you" to me everyda. But then, one day, he just dumped me out of the blue with no reason whatsoever.

He then totally shut me out of his life (I had also found out he cheated on me with another ex of his while we were dating and was also talked to the girl he had dumped me for). You couldn't imagine how hurt I was... it was just so sudden, so unexpected, too cruel to be true. I had been helping him out financially as well as loaning him my car to go to work everyday since he wrecked his. I felt totally used. I thought that he could have at least given me an explanation, as a FRIEND, since we had been good friends prior to us dating.

Anyways, I went through a very dark period of self pity, depression, and confusion. I went out every single night and drank heavily, and just generally felt like I was stuck in this endless pit and unable to pull myself out. Nothing I did or thought about could replace that feeling of emptiness I felt inside. I kept reminding myself that this was just one asshole who made some selfish decisions, but I shouldn't tear myself up over him. But I just couldn't let that feeling go. I let it eat me up inside. I couldn't understand how he could tell me he loved me and everyday we had fun and never fought and got along great, and he could just end it just so suddenly for someone who had hurt him in the past. I just didn't get it. I felt like I didn't deserve it.

Soo... fast forward a month later (sorry this is becoming a novel), I had generally mostly gotten over that guy, but that sense of hurt had turned to bitterness and I was still unhappy. I didn't talk to the guy I met at the bar during the time I was dating the asshole, but one day, he messaged me online to ask me how I was. I had totally forgotten about him, since I was trying to not let my mind collapse on itself.

We started talking again, but mostly as friends. I didn't really think about that little spark we had at the beginning. He tried to coax me to his side of town every now and then, suggesting that he would give me the honor of his presence and a good time if I did. I thought the subtle arrogance applied with a generous implication was really cute.

I never really wanted to drive to his side of town, and wasn't sure if I was really at all interested in him anymore. I figured I was just drunk and bored that night and my judgement was blurred.

Ok, I'm just gonna start summing shit up because I am running out of that enthusiasm I had at the beginning of this post and falling asleep (god I've been trying to type this for like half an hour now, keep getting distracted). I eventually met him up because I had to drive to his side of town one night to drop a friend off at the airport, and surprise surprise, we hit it off wonderfully, the chemistry was magical, and the rest is history.

One week after that, he gave me the keys to his place. We have been inseperable ever since. Well... except when he's at work. This relationship is still pretty fresh, but we both agree the attraction we have for each other is unlike any relationship we've had in the past. We're totally different, but get each other.

It is amazing.

Ok, I am done. Phew. Now I can go back to eating my curry and watching Top Chef without pausing it every few seconds.

**El Cas** · 11-18-2009, 10:13 PM

Nice detail intro,

Welcome to the forum Kyi

Cooper · 11-18-2009, 11:25 PM

Welcome to the Alley...

That...was the longest bloody intro I have seen....it should count as at least 3 posts!

**Seducer** · 11-19-2009, 03:44 AM

No anal probes please.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1jDcmDAUdnQ

I have a detachable p'ness.

11-18-2009, 08:58 PM	#1
Kyi New Member [01%] MBTI: ENFP Join Date: Nov 2009 Posts: 8	Well, to be honest, I ventured here because I found that the topics that I wanted to read about the most (which happen to be notorious ENFP/INTJ attraction), seemed to be more interesting and well thought out here than my previous forum. I'm still sort of new to this MBTI thing, but once I found out how accurate it seems to be, I became obsessed and wanted to learn everything I could about it. Except, most of the times, I can't seem to read through the entire thing before I skip to the next topic. Most of my best friends seem to be NT types, and interestingly enough, my current boyfriend was typed as an INTJ when I made him do the test. So here is my INTJ story. We met when I was out with some girlfriends at some bar. They weren't actually chicks I hung out with very often, but I was feeling bored that night and they asked me if I wanted to go drinking so I thought why not. I had never been to that bar before because it was all the way across town, and my girlfriends were acting really drunk and sort of annoying, lost in some superficial blabberfest that didn't interest me. I was sitting at the bar, feeling slightly bored and contemplating the meaning of my life, when I caught the gaze of a guy sitting alone at the corner of the bar. He gave me a small smirk, and then shyly looked away. I smiled to myself, thinking 'hey, he's pretty cute.' I looked back over at him and caught him looking at me again. He seemed pleased by my reaction of smiling. He looked away again in the opposite direction. I knew he did that so I wouldn't see him smiling. I knew I had to speak to him. I noticed that he was smoking a cigarette, so I casually walked over with a cigarette in hand. He saw me approaching him and I could tell he was trying to not seem excited. He pulled out the lighter before I even said a word. At that moment, we gazed into each other's eyes and I felt something. I could tell he felt it too. All I could do was stutter "..H-hi. Thanks!" I may have blushed. He chuckled in a subtle, affectionate 'guy admiring something cute' kind of way, which sort of made my heart flutter. We talked briefly about how bored we were and what we did and how difficult it was to find people to talk to that weren't idiots. I believe we were both fairly inebriated, but somehow still managed to carry on a stimulating conversation even though we both don't really remember what we talked about. We didn't get to talk for long before my girlfriends came over and dragged me away and said we were leaving. I gave the guy my number and told him we had to hang out sometime. I wouldn't get to see him again for a few months. The two of us exchanged facebook and screen names and kept in touch mostly through online chatting. He would subtly mention that I should come out to his part of town to hang out, which I would have done, but I was sort of in the process of getting involved with some guy that I had known for a lot longer. He was a close friend of mine. Sort of. He pursued me, and I wasn't really sure of it because I didn't want to ruin the friendship, but I decided to go along and see what would happen. To make a long story short, I didn't really like this guy but I was bored and lonely (a god awful combination), and I figured since we were good friends, we might be good in a relationship too. I mistook us "getting along" for thinking I actually understood this guy. Turns out, he was in love with some other girl from the beginning and was just bored and lonely himself. He dumped me when he had his chance to get back with her. At that point, I had started to get used to the idea of being with him, and had actually became quite fond of him and thought things were going very well, especially since he pretty much said "I love you" to me everyda. But then, one day, he just dumped me out of the blue with no reason whatsoever. He then totally shut me out of his life (I had also found out he cheated on me with another ex of his while we were dating and was also talked to the girl he had dumped me for). You couldn't imagine how hurt I was... it was just so sudden, so unexpected, too cruel to be true. I had been helping him out financially as well as loaning him my car to go to work everyday since he wrecked his. I felt totally used. I thought that he could have at least given me an explanation, as a FRIEND, since we had been good friends prior to us dating. Anyways, I went through a very dark period of self pity, depression, and confusion. I went out every single night and drank heavily, and just generally felt like I was stuck in this endless pit and unable to pull myself out. Nothing I did or thought about could replace that feeling of emptiness I felt inside. I kept reminding myself that this was just one asshole who made some selfish decisions, but I shouldn't tear myself up over him. But I just couldn't let that feeling go. I let it eat me up inside. I couldn't understand how he could tell me he loved me and everyday we had fun and never fought and got along great, and he could just end it just so suddenly for someone who had hurt him in the past. I just didn't get it. I felt like I didn't deserve it. Soo... fast forward a month later (sorry this is becoming a novel), I had generally mostly gotten over that guy, but that sense of hurt had turned to bitterness and I was still unhappy. I didn't talk to the guy I met at the bar during the time I was dating the asshole, but one day, he messaged me online to ask me how I was. I had totally forgotten about him, since I was trying to not let my mind collapse on itself. We started talking again, but mostly as friends. I didn't really think about that little spark we had at the beginning. He tried to coax me to his side of town every now and then, suggesting that he would give me the honor of his presence and a good time if I did. I thought the subtle arrogance applied with a generous implication was really cute. I never really wanted to drive to his side of town, and wasn't sure if I was really at all interested in him anymore. I figured I was just drunk and bored that night and my judgement was blurred. Ok, I'm just gonna start summing shit up because I am running out of that enthusiasm I had at the beginning of this post and falling asleep (god I've been trying to type this for like half an hour now, keep getting distracted). I eventually met him up because I had to drive to his side of town one night to drop a friend off at the airport, and surprise surprise, we hit it off wonderfully, the chemistry was magical, and the rest is history. One week after that, he gave me the keys to his place. We have been inseperable ever since. Well... except when he's at work. This relationship is still pretty fresh, but we both agree the attraction we have for each other is unlike any relationship we've had in the past. We're totally different, but get each other. It is amazing. Ok, I am done. Phew. Now I can go back to eating my curry and watching Top Chef without pausing it every few seconds.
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11-18-2009, 10:13 PM	#2
El Cas Veteran Member [65%] MBTI: InTj Join Date: Oct 2009 Posts: 2,610	Nice detail intro, Welcome to the forum Kyi
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11-18-2009, 11:25 PM	#3
Cooper Core Member [1364%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Oct 2009 Posts: 54,567	Welcome to the Alley... That...was the longest bloody intro I have seen....it should count as at least 3 posts!
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11-19-2009, 03:44 AM	#4
Seducer Banned MBTI: xxxx Join Date: Jul 2009 Posts: 768	No anal probes please. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1jDcmDAUdnQ I have a detachable p'ness.
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