Which personality type is the Nicest?

**Shoppinggrlxox** · 08-13-2009, 01:59 PM

Which personality type have you discovered to be the nicest, and why?

**DanteFalling** · 08-13-2009, 02:04 PM

INTJ.

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They leave you alone.
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Ok, in all seriousness. . .

NFs are likely the "nicest."
ESFPs on first contact can be sweet and kind as long as certain other things are not expected of them.
NFs seem quite nice, as long as you do not go against their principles.

ENTJs, ISTPs, and ESTPs probably considered the least "nice."
Controller, Loner, and Anti-Loner-Will-Kill-You-To-Keep-Company-Around

EDIT: Dang it! I just screwed up the results by accidentally adding ISFP to the poll. DELETE THAT ONE in your brains. Sorries.

**Quite8the8bell** · 08-13-2009, 02:20 PM

There are types that think they're nice because they are outgoing and say hello to everyone. I see that as totally rude because I don't believe there is any way some one could actually like that many people enough to say hi to all of them. They're fake and I think that is one of the most rude actions one can do. I know when some one is being insincere, I can see right through them: it's just too obvious.

I don't have enough experience with comparing types, which ones are nice and such but I would guess ESXPs are the fake (nice) ones.

**Deadgod** · 08-13-2009, 02:42 PM

ESFJ will be the nicest because of their need to accommodate and care for others. ESFPs may be nice and generous to others but a lot is dependent on their impulsive natures, which can lead them to bits of anger. These bouts of anger may be even further expressed with ISFPs.

ENFJ may the nicest as well but it is because they genuinely care about a person, not that ESFJs don't. It's just that ENFJs will want to catalyze their subjects and maybe have to use brutal methods to make that change.

**Prunesquallor** · 08-13-2009, 03:06 PM

Those that are kinder to me are usually introverts and thinkers. Because they don't think I'm an evil witch quite as often.

**dragonsscout** · 08-13-2009, 03:09 PM

In my experience NFs are the nicest. SFs can also be really nice, but tend to have more of a 'surface niceness' to them. They're nice, but tend to lose the ability to be so over an extended period of time in my experience. NFs tend be be nice over a longer period of time and more 'unconditionally nice' as it's just who they are.

INFJs tend to be a bit more gruff in initial interactions than the average NF it seems, but will be really nice when they open up.
INFPs tend to be really sweet and cute. I have a theory that when they want to be 'not nice' they give a sort of puppy dog face that makes you feel like you just accidentally squished a puppy or kitten.
ENFJs seem a lot like INFJs, just not as initially gruff.
ENFPs tend to be really nice to me. Sweet, but trying to lift the spirits of those who are not having a good time more than other types.

These are just my observations of those that I've typed though. So they aren't exactly definitive (not that the MBTI is ever definitive).

**Mogura** · 08-13-2009, 03:22 PM

For the purpose of the poll/discussion, how are we defining "nice"? Kind-hearted (compassionate)? Friendly (outgoing)? Reliable (pushover), Honest (even if brutal), Integrity (honors committments), Supportive (like a jock strap)?

**demaugustus** · 08-13-2009, 03:44 PM

ENTJ's are the nicest people I've ever met because they tell you exactly what they think.
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**Indubitably** · 08-13-2009, 03:53 PM

It depends on exactly what you mean by "nice". In my experience INFJs have often been some of the most kind, considerate, and sincerely compassionate people I have known, but it would seem that they can just as easily become incredibly self deluded, spiteful, and manipulative individuals if they are forced to cope with an abusive environment from an early age.

ENFJs seem to have a similar natural propensity for compassion and kindness, but it seems to be even more conditional, almost an instinctual reaction to their environment, as opposed to an ideal, like you get with an ENFP. If an ENFJ sees someone suffering they will help them, not merely because it is the right thing to do but because they can barely stand to see someone suffer. Then again an ENFJ also seems to be the first person to throw a diseased man on the pire when the greater good demands it, its as if they are simply overwhelmed by the potential combined suffering of the people as a whole and will do anything to prevent it. An ENFP may initially be less moved by the suffering of others, but will be motivated to help the person where even an ENFJ may not because, "we are all lost if we turn our back on our fellow man in his greatest time of need"; much like an INFP they simply cannot abide the injustice of his suffering.

An INFP will help someone who is suffering because it is quite simply "the right thing to do". Its not about what is best for everyone, or the fate of humanity, you just plain don't leave someone suffering if you can help because doing so would be wrong, and the INFP wouldn't be able to live with themselves if they left the person there. Unless of course said INFP's values do not dictate that one help an individual in need. There are times when INFPs have dedicated themselves to what they feel is a higher virtue than compassion, and if need be will see a man suffer if, again, it is "the right thing to do".

Ultimately I think INFPs come off as the most sincere when they are kind, more so than even ENFPs, but neither are as universally compassionate as ENFJs or INFJs. For introverts in general there seems to be a much more reflective, ruminant quality to their kindness, but for an INFP it does seem to be an analytical, almost intellectual, practice. Where as with an INFJ it is driven purely by compassion and an instinctual desire to seek the path to greater harmony where ever they may find it.

I suppose what you think is the most "nice" depends on which of those approaches you are most moved by yourself. I chose INFJ personally, and I'm guessing the fact that xNTPs make use of Fe, however inferior that use may be, has a great deal to do with that decision. INFJs are the only type I have ever found to illicit an instinctual desire to protect and nurture in me; I imagine what makes a person "nice" has as much to do with the manner in which types interact as it does with any characteristic intrinsic to a given type.

**wittykitty** · 08-13-2009, 05:56 PM

I said ISFP but INFP makes sense too.

**angelmarauder** · 08-13-2009, 06:15 PM

I'm gonna have to say that all types are the nicest. It depends on the person no matter their sensitivity, social preferences, or intellectual outlooks.

**llBradll** · 08-13-2009, 06:33 PM

They all have their sour ones. I can't decide what to vote for.

**Josephine1012** · 08-13-2009, 06:50 PM

All I know is, whatever type I am, is definitely not the nicest (in conventional sense)....

Is our OP fishing for compliments, btw
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Just kidding!

Ok, I'll elaborate some more, I think it's a matter of how you define nice. Are we talking intentions or results? I will agree with Quite8the8bell that I don't think being superficially chatty and obliging with everyone is what I consider "nice". It's annoying to the highest degree. Genuinely nice people consider other people's needs and can accept that they aren't necessarily the same as their needs. To me "nice" means "considerate"

**nuloki** · 08-13-2009, 07:12 PM

In my experience, INFP has been the nicest type I've encountered among friends, family, or co-workers. Just my observation..it's not like I go around typifying everyone I meet...
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**ssrprotege** · 08-13-2009, 07:52 PM

OK, I will be generous here, though having been pretty long in this forum I got pretty sick of this type of question. I find NT's make good friends. I am voting for INTJ, INTP and ENTP. I am hanging out with two INT's, one a traditional INT and one typical five-ish INT, and they make wonderful companion. I have another good ENTP friend. He makes remarks without remorse or emotional consideration, but I can tolerate them pretty well. He generates crazy ideas that won't quite work, he is the master of rationalization, but he's so damn fun to be with!

I have a terrible relationship with an INFJ (and she happened to be the needy one, say, an Ennea 4 disintegrating to 2! You won't get how ugly this is unless you experienced it!), but that doesn't prevent me from counting it as a nice one. I also know an INFP who is an excellent, warm listener.

One note, though: in my opinion, FJ's are more prone to "surface nicety" in general.

**Plastikcat** · 08-13-2009, 11:14 PM

Absolutely; ISFJ

**Elfrun** · 08-14-2009, 12:01 AM

Jeeeze. Nice is not a trait attached to a MBTI type, the only way to judge is to think about the nicest person/people you've met in your opinion and vote their type but that does not mean their type is 'nice'.

What a subjective term anyway. You INTJs should know better than to vote on such a subjective point :violent-head-shake:

**callmemigs** · 08-14-2009, 12:12 AM

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**Solus** · 08-14-2009, 12:33 AM

I voted INFJ and ENFP though the other two NF types would probably fall in the "being (genuinely) nice" category too. As for INTJs, we may be many things, but I don't think "nice" is one of them.

**Bluesea** · 08-14-2009, 01:09 AM

I guessed (as do not know the MBTI of many people I know) INFP - rationale - IN = more sincere (true to themselves) & authentic and understand what it is like to be on the outside not getting automatic positive attention, so will make an effort to 'be nice' to those who are temporarily, or more often than not, on the outside or having a difficult time - F - more sensitive to people's feelings so more likely to bite their tongue and 'be nice' - and P - maybe more likely to notice little signs that let them know someone is struggling with something and consider different angles and ways to respond 'nicely'.

I think 'niceness' is also affected by people's perceptions and the interpretations people make about people's motivations. Also by the way the attempt to 'be nice' is received by others, not just the actual existence of the 'nice' behaviour. So you'd have to also ask, which types are less likely to recognise a nice act as truly nice or receive it as such?

I think if people value relationships with others they tend to be 'nicer' than those who do not and people's niceness can be expressed in ways that are not superficially obvious at times - like if they care about what is happening for another however get angry about that person's choices because of that and express that - appearing 'not very nice' in the face of their struggles. Actually I think value based choices are probably more likely to affect niceness than type.

**Elfrun** · 08-14-2009, 01:49 AM

Originally Posted by Bluesea
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I guessed (as do not know the MBTI of many people I know) INFP - rationale - IN = more sincere (true to themselves) & authentic and understand what it is like to be on the outside not getting automatic positive attention, so will make an effort to 'be nice' to those who are temporarily, or more often than not, on the outside or having a difficult time - F - more sensitive to people's feelings so more likely to bite their tongue and 'be nice' - and P - maybe more likely to notice little signs that let them know someone is struggling with something and consider different angles and ways to respond 'nicely'.

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	Originally Posted by Bluesea To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	IN = more sincere (true to themselves) & authentic and understand what it is like to be on the outside not getting automatic positive attention, so will make an effort to 'be nice' to those who are temporarily, or more often than not, on the outside or having a difficult time.

More sincere? More authentic? Understand what it's like to be on the outside? Seriously? Sincerity and authenticity and so on are introverted intuitive traits? Wow, I'm learning here.

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	F - more sensitive to people's feelings so more likely to bite their tongue and 'be nice'.

Fi and Fe are two very different beasts. INFP types I've met are less sensitive to other people's needs then say an IxFJ as they're basing things off their own internal morals and feelings whereas an IxFJ will consider the group and others and accommodate them first.

	Originally Posted by Bluesea To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	P - maybe more likely to notice little signs that let them know someone is struggling with something and consider different angles and ways to respond 'nicely'.

Huh? Noticing little signs and considering different angles? I could probably accept it if you said they were less likely to judge as they would be more open to receiving additional information and wanted to leave options open but noticing things? Fi-Ne filled INFPs can be very oblivious.

Anyway carry on...

**bethdeth** · 08-14-2009, 02:16 AM

most of my friends are extroverts since I have no idea on how to approach people and have minimal body language....my faves are ENFP since they drag me out of my shell
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**Ace1337** · 08-14-2009, 02:25 AM

In the "nice" department ENFJ and INFJ win by a longshot.

In the true goodness department NFPs win.

I'm always wary of Fe types because I just can't help but feel like they have many faces. They can be supernice and make you feel awesome but I always see through the niceness. Niceness is about lying.

**Hatsumomo1** · 08-15-2009, 08:43 AM

I'm kind of surprised only one person mentioned ISFJ. You'd think niceness comes naturally to them given their profile description.

Though I really do think that MBTI type is irrelevant to niceness.

**Bluesea** · 08-15-2009, 05:10 PM

More sincere? More authentic? Understand what it's like to be on the outside? Seriously? Sincerity and authenticity and so on are introverted intuitive traits? Wow, I'm learning here.

Fi and Fe are two very different beasts. INFP types I've met are less sensitive to other people's needs then say an IxFJ as they're basing things off their own internal morals and feelings whereas an IxFJ will consider the group and others and accommodate them first.

To me, basing something on internal morals and feelings is authentic and sincere. At least when they show support they are coming from a place that they genuinely believe in. However you are probably right, in that, if they do not see this connection, they probably won't say or do anything 'nice' at the time for the same reason. They would not be very authentic to what they actually feel and believe and it would be 'nicer' to say nothing for that reason.

As tending to be more loners and individuals themselves I do think they can relate more to those who are being isolated due to their current challenge in a nice way as I think they can both respect that as a place to be, as well as empathise with the consequences of it, so are more likely to be 'nice' as I would define it - sincere about their recognition and understanding at the time, giving the person the space to be where they are at with it, as well as the experience of being understood and therefore a little less alone with it.

Being considerate of the group, although is good for a group and altruistic I am not sure this is necessarily always experienced as 'nice' by the individual. They may just feel the person has just said some platitude for humanity or pulled them back into some socially acceptable way of being in relation to their challenge. I prefer people to be true to how they genuinely feel and if this is also empathic or sensitive to what the person having difficulty with is experiencing, they can feel the person has been 'nice' to them. I was considering 'nice' as a 1:1 exchange more than a person in relation to a group. Something that stands out from the predictable ways people respond and is more connected to the unique nature of what the person is experiencing and needs at the time.

The call for 'niceness' I guess is multiple I was thinking about it in terms of responding to someone who is feeling isolated by the personal response they were having to their difficulties. There is also the polite, well mannered, socially appropriate, 'niceness', that is a reliable and consistent thing about a person. This is 'nice' however to me it is just reinforcing prosocial responses. Which is nice, to be so caring of society that people keep this stuff going as this is what helps a group maintain consideration, less conflict, a good social relations and reinforces the values and principles on which a group is based. I was not thinking of that kind of 'niceness'.

Guess it is how you define it and what you see as 'niceness' that leads to considering the traits involved.


	Huh? Noticing little signs and considering different angles? I could probably accept it if you said they were less likely to judge as they would be more open to receiving additional information and wanted to leave options open but noticing things? Fi-Ne filled INFPs can be very oblivious.

I think this is semantics - being open to receiving additional information and not judging when engaged with relating to another can lead to receiving additional body language information in an open minded place instead of a snap judgement about what is happening and leaving options open is also giving space for the person to have their response and seeing different points of view from their own as valid, which would be nicer than having it and being judged if that judgement was negative or dis-empowering. I guess if you need people to make a judgement on something though, this open space with no clarity about where the person is positioning themselves in relation to what you are experiencing, could be frustrating for someone who wanted that clarity. So perhaps whether something is experienced as 'nice' or not is whether it meets their needs at the time?

View Poll Results: Which personality type is the Nicest
ISTJ	4	5.00%
ISFJ	9	11.25%
INFJ	18	22.50%
INTJ	10	12.50%
ISTP	1	1.25%
ISFP	6	7.50%
INFP	18	22.50%
INTP	7	8.75%
ESTP	3	3.75%
ESFP	9	11.25%
ENFP	20	25.00%
ENTP	2	2.50%
ESTJ	1	1.25%
ESFJ	6	7.50%
ENFJ	15	18.75%
ENTJ	2	2.50%
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08-13-2009, 01:59 PM	#1
Shoppinggrlxox New Member [01%] MBTI: ENfP Join Date: Aug 2009 Posts: 5	Which personality type have you discovered to be the nicest, and why?
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08-13-2009, 02:04 PM	#2
DanteFalling Member [28%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Feb 2009 Posts: 1,132	INTJ. To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts. They leave you alone. To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts. Ok, in all seriousness. . . NFs are likely the "nicest." ESFPs on first contact can be sweet and kind as long as certain other things are not expected of them. NFs seem quite nice, as long as you do not go against their principles. ENTJs, ISTPs, and ESTPs probably considered the least "nice." Controller, Loner, and Anti-Loner-Will-Kill-You-To-Keep-Company-Around EDIT: Dang it! I just screwed up the results by accidentally adding ISFP to the poll. DELETE THAT ONE in your brains. Sorries.
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08-13-2009, 02:20 PM	#3
Quite8the8bell Member [30%] MBTI: INTP Join Date: Apr 2009 Posts: 1,226	There are types that think they're nice because they are outgoing and say hello to everyone. I see that as totally rude because I don't believe there is any way some one could actually like that many people enough to say hi to all of them. They're fake and I think that is one of the most rude actions one can do. I know when some one is being insincere, I can see right through them: it's just too obvious. I don't have enough experience with comparing types, which ones are nice and such but I would guess ESXPs are the fake (nice) ones.
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08-13-2009, 02:42 PM	#4
Deadgod Member [28%] MBTI: INXX Join Date: Mar 2008 Posts: 1,144	ESFJ will be the nicest because of their need to accommodate and care for others. ESFPs may be nice and generous to others but a lot is dependent on their impulsive natures, which can lead them to bits of anger. These bouts of anger may be even further expressed with ISFPs. ENFJ may the nicest as well but it is because they genuinely care about a person, not that ESFJs don't. It's just that ENFJs will want to catalyze their subjects and maybe have to use brutal methods to make that change.
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08-13-2009, 03:06 PM	#5
Prunesquallor Veteran Member [66%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Nov 2008 Posts: 2,647	Those that are kinder to me are usually introverts and thinkers. Because they don't think I'm an evil witch quite as often.
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08-13-2009, 03:09 PM	#6
dragonsscout Member [47%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Sep 2008 Posts: 1,886	In my experience NFs are the nicest. SFs can also be really nice, but tend to have more of a 'surface niceness' to them. They're nice, but tend to lose the ability to be so over an extended period of time in my experience. NFs tend be be nice over a longer period of time and more 'unconditionally nice' as it's just who they are. INFJs tend to be a bit more gruff in initial interactions than the average NF it seems, but will be really nice when they open up. INFPs tend to be really sweet and cute. I have a theory that when they want to be 'not nice' they give a sort of puppy dog face that makes you feel like you just accidentally squished a puppy or kitten. ENFJs seem a lot like INFJs, just not as initially gruff. ENFPs tend to be really nice to me. Sweet, but trying to lift the spirits of those who are not having a good time more than other types. These are just my observations of those that I've typed though. So they aren't exactly definitive (not that the MBTI is ever definitive).
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08-13-2009, 03:22 PM	#7
Mogura Core Member [176%] MBTI: INFJ Join Date: Apr 2008 Posts: 7,067	For the purpose of the poll/discussion, how are we defining "nice"? Kind-hearted (compassionate)? Friendly (outgoing)? Reliable (pushover), Honest (even if brutal), Integrity (honors committments), Supportive (like a jock strap)?
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08-13-2009, 03:44 PM	#8
demaugustus Member [31%] MBTI: ENTJ Join Date: Apr 2008 Posts: 1,264	ENTJ's are the nicest people I've ever met because they tell you exactly what they think. To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
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08-13-2009, 03:53 PM	#9
Indubitably Member [34%] MBTI: INTP Join Date: Jun 2008 Posts: 1,382	It depends on exactly what you mean by "nice". In my experience INFJs have often been some of the most kind, considerate, and sincerely compassionate people I have known, but it would seem that they can just as easily become incredibly self deluded, spiteful, and manipulative individuals if they are forced to cope with an abusive environment from an early age. ENFJs seem to have a similar natural propensity for compassion and kindness, but it seems to be even more conditional, almost an instinctual reaction to their environment, as opposed to an ideal, like you get with an ENFP. If an ENFJ sees someone suffering they will help them, not merely because it is the right thing to do but because they can barely stand to see someone suffer. Then again an ENFJ also seems to be the first person to throw a diseased man on the pire when the greater good demands it, its as if they are simply overwhelmed by the potential combined suffering of the people as a whole and will do anything to prevent it. An ENFP may initially be less moved by the suffering of others, but will be motivated to help the person where even an ENFJ may not because, "we are all lost if we turn our back on our fellow man in his greatest time of need"; much like an INFP they simply cannot abide the injustice of his suffering. An INFP will help someone who is suffering because it is quite simply "the right thing to do". Its not about what is best for everyone, or the fate of humanity, you just plain don't leave someone suffering if you can help because doing so would be wrong, and the INFP wouldn't be able to live with themselves if they left the person there. Unless of course said INFP's values do not dictate that one help an individual in need. There are times when INFPs have dedicated themselves to what they feel is a higher virtue than compassion, and if need be will see a man suffer if, again, it is "the right thing to do". Ultimately I think INFPs come off as the most sincere when they are kind, more so than even ENFPs, but neither are as universally compassionate as ENFJs or INFJs. For introverts in general there seems to be a much more reflective, ruminant quality to their kindness, but for an INFP it does seem to be an analytical, almost intellectual, practice. Where as with an INFJ it is driven purely by compassion and an instinctual desire to seek the path to greater harmony where ever they may find it. I suppose what you think is the most "nice" depends on which of those approaches you are most moved by yourself. I chose INFJ personally, and I'm guessing the fact that xNTPs make use of Fe, however inferior that use may be, has a great deal to do with that decision. INFJs are the only type I have ever found to illicit an instinctual desire to protect and nurture in me; I imagine what makes a person "nice" has as much to do with the manner in which types interact as it does with any characteristic intrinsic to a given type.
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08-13-2009, 05:56 PM	#10
wittykitty Member [23%] MBTI: XXXX Join Date: Jan 2009 Posts: 921	I said ISFP but INFP makes sense too.
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08-13-2009, 06:15 PM	#11
angelmarauder Member [02%] MBTI: ENTP Join Date: Aug 2009 Posts: 83	I'm gonna have to say that all types are the nicest. It depends on the person no matter their sensitivity, social preferences, or intellectual outlooks.
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08-13-2009, 06:33 PM	#12
llBradll Veteran Member [73%] MBTI: XNTj Join Date: Jan 2009 Posts: 2,920	They all have their sour ones. I can't decide what to vote for.
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08-13-2009, 06:50 PM	#13
Josephine1012 Veteran Member [78%] MBTI: ENFP Join Date: Sep 2008 Posts: 3,144	All I know is, whatever type I am, is definitely not the nicest (in conventional sense).... Is our OP fishing for compliments, btw To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts. Just kidding! Ok, I'll elaborate some more, I think it's a matter of how you define nice. Are we talking intentions or results? I will agree with Quite8the8bell that I don't think being superficially chatty and obliging with everyone is what I consider "nice". It's annoying to the highest degree. Genuinely nice people consider other people's needs and can accept that they aren't necessarily the same as their needs. To me "nice" means "considerate"
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08-13-2009, 07:12 PM	#14
nuloki Member [02%] MBTI: INxJ Join Date: Jan 2009 Posts: 93	In my experience, INFP has been the nicest type I've encountered among friends, family, or co-workers. Just my observation..it's not like I go around typifying everyone I meet... To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
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08-13-2009, 07:52 PM	#15
ssrprotege Core Member [113%] MBTI: xxxx Join Date: Apr 2008 Posts: 4,541	OK, I will be generous here, though having been pretty long in this forum I got pretty sick of this type of question. I find NT's make good friends. I am voting for INTJ, INTP and ENTP. I am hanging out with two INT's, one a traditional INT and one typical five-ish INT, and they make wonderful companion. I have another good ENTP friend. He makes remarks without remorse or emotional consideration, but I can tolerate them pretty well. He generates crazy ideas that won't quite work, he is the master of rationalization, but he's so damn fun to be with! I have a terrible relationship with an INFJ (and she happened to be the needy one, say, an Ennea 4 disintegrating to 2! You won't get how ugly this is unless you experienced it!), but that doesn't prevent me from counting it as a nice one. I also know an INFP who is an excellent, warm listener. One note, though: in my opinion, FJ's are more prone to "surface nicety" in general.
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08-13-2009, 11:14 PM	#16
Plastikcat Member [12%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Apr 2009 Posts: 509	Absolutely; ISFJ
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08-14-2009, 12:01 AM	#17
Elfrun Core Member [268%] MBTI: entp Join Date: May 2008 Posts: 10,720	Jeeeze. Nice is not a trait attached to a MBTI type, the only way to judge is to think about the nicest person/people you've met in your opinion and vote their type but that does not mean their type is 'nice'. What a subjective term anyway. You INTJs should know better than to vote on such a subjective point :violent-head-shake:
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08-14-2009, 12:12 AM	#18
callmemigs Member [16%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Feb 2009 Posts: 654	Of course us INTJs! We just delete your post without noticing you!
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08-14-2009, 12:33 AM	#19
Solus Member [16%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Mar 2008 Posts: 676	I voted INFJ and ENFP though the other two NF types would probably fall in the "being (genuinely) nice" category too. As for INTJs, we may be many things, but I don't think "nice" is one of them.
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08-14-2009, 01:09 AM	#20
Bluesea Veteran Member [56%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Jul 2009 Posts: 2,250	I guessed (as do not know the MBTI of many people I know) INFP - rationale - IN = more sincere (true to themselves) & authentic and understand what it is like to be on the outside not getting automatic positive attention, so will make an effort to 'be nice' to those who are temporarily, or more often than not, on the outside or having a difficult time - F - more sensitive to people's feelings so more likely to bite their tongue and 'be nice' - and P - maybe more likely to notice little signs that let them know someone is struggling with something and consider different angles and ways to respond 'nicely'. I think 'niceness' is also affected by people's perceptions and the interpretations people make about people's motivations. Also by the way the attempt to 'be nice' is received by others, not just the actual existence of the 'nice' behaviour. So you'd have to also ask, which types are less likely to recognise a nice act as truly nice or receive it as such? I think if people value relationships with others they tend to be 'nicer' than those who do not and people's niceness can be expressed in ways that are not superficially obvious at times - like if they care about what is happening for another however get angry about that person's choices because of that and express that - appearing 'not very nice' in the face of their struggles. Actually I think value based choices are probably more likely to affect niceness than type.
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08-14-2009, 02:16 AM	#22
bethdeth New Member [01%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Aug 2009 Posts: 7	most of my friends are extroverts since I have no idea on how to approach people and have minimal body language....my faves are ENFP since they drag me out of my shell To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
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08-14-2009, 02:25 AM	#23
Ace1337 Member [10%] MBTI: ENTJ Join Date: Jan 2008 Posts: 402	In the "nice" department ENFJ and INFJ win by a longshot. In the true goodness department NFPs win. I'm always wary of Fe types because I just can't help but feel like they have many faces. They can be supernice and make you feel awesome but I always see through the niceness. Niceness is about lying.
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08-15-2009, 08:43 AM	#24
Hatsumomo1 Member [16%] MBTI: InTj Join Date: Nov 2008 Posts: 657	I'm kind of surprised only one person mentioned ISFJ. You'd think niceness comes naturally to them given their profile description. Though I really do think that MBTI type is irrelevant to niceness.
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