[rasoirviolon]

From what I've seen in the thread on facebook/myspace, quite a few people confess to being terrible at keeping in touch. Why is this so?

Do INTJs seem to care less (or not at all) about maintaining relationships or are we too busy with other more important things in life (i.e. intellectual pursuit)?

[Sevs]

I lost contact with pretty much everyone after i graduated from high school apart from one of my friends there who happens to attend the same uni as me.

I general I couldn't care less about keep in touch with people who I do not consider true friends.

I do have a facebook but im not to active on it.

[elsdfr]

facebook/myspace are way to real life for me. I prefer to use the Internet to indulge in my alter egos. Some say that its not healthy but I beg to differ, for me, commenting to friends on a public "chat"/WOW how popular am I thread bothers the hell out of me. Designing it, joining things etc only for it to die in the arse two years later, seeing those "hay guyz wha you doin2nite!" posts... whats it all about?! Is it just normal social rituals invading the Internet no doubt. Makes sense because I never got half of those either.

I tick real life for friends but not the phone part. I can probably count the number of 30 minute phone calls I've had on one hand.

BTW not sure if its just me but I actually have to look hard to find a friend that isn't connected on the net to some social networking site.

And yes, I've been called a Luddite more than once but each to their own huh?

IRC and ICQ with no people filters are usually good enough for a laugh/chat.

[Drayakir]

I like facebook for that reason- I can keep in touch with acquaintances, just in case. Although I do prefer real communication better. Still, having an alter ego... I do it on anonymous forums like Gaia. I love crushing the hopes on dreams of the little folk that inhabit it.

[Firelie]

If phone conversations and real-life interaction had been seperated, I would've voted for real-life interaction, but I hate phone conversations so much that I couldn't vote for either of them.

[rwyatt365]

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	From what I've seen in the thread on facebook/myspace, quite a few people confess to being terrible at keeping in touch. Why is this so? Do INTJs seem to care less (or not at all) about maintaining relationships or are we too busy with other more important things in life (i.e. intellectual pursuit)?

For myself, I keep in touch, but not with the frequency or regularity that most others find suitable. It's not that I don't care, it's that I don't need to as often.

[Paul V]

I keep in touch with the people I find to be valuable. Everyone else is a rock tied around my neck, and I must break free from their burden.

Hence, I could care less...

[INTJoe]

could NOT care less. end nittiness.
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[Solnath]

I use all three methods, mainly because I like to keep in touch with foreign friends via the internet and because I like physical interaction and body language with local friends. Simple enough and it works for me.

[PortInStorm]

I'm horrible at keeping in touch, hate the phone, and only communicate distances via email/Facebook (I can't tell you how many times I've gotten an email saying only "Get off the net and call me"- plus I have dialup *groan*).

I only initiate "getting back in touch" if I really, really feel a hole in my life resulting from a person's absence. All other times it's a Facebook notification they're looking for me, or nothing.

[robin.]

I used to think I was bad at keeping in touch. Then I realized I just don't care.

The only exception to this is my cousins on my dad's side who live in Ecuador. They're like the sisters I never had (and am glad I never had haha) and I love them. It's just so hard to always keep in touch through email because we're all so busy, just like anyone else. I only get to see them once a year, maybe, so I'd like to talk with them more.

For everyone else, though, I find that if they truly are valuable friends, then keeping in touch in between the times when we see each other really isn't necessary--no matter how much time has passed, we can just pick up the friendship where it left off, so to speak.

[banzai]

Although I am not saying this is a good thing, subconsciously I feel that I do not need to make an effort to show people I care about them and that they should believe that I do regardless of my lack of actions. I show love in action in a high caliber way, but these opportunities can be rare and a lot of people seem to thrive on the little things that I often deem unimportant.

[Antares]

When my best friend left the country in fifth grade, being young and idealistic, we made a vow to be best friends forever, but I found that, after the first couple of weeks (I think she's either INTJ, INTP or INFJ), the communications became farther apart. I was an ISFP then. I was shocked and hurt when she didn't reply my e-mails and accused her of forgetting me (quite stupid, I know). Turns out her internet wasn't working. After that, we still met once a year, but I noticed that our conversations have become quite dull. We didn't share the same circle of friends anymore so even if we discuss the interesting things that happened in school, it wouldn't seem real. I found that our questions became: Do you still...? Do you like...? It's like we don't know each other anymore. Sooner and later we run out of things to ask and had to end our pathetic attempt at a conversation. She still means a lot to me, but I've recently discovered that keeping in touch isn't everything if this is all it achieves. Four years later, we talk only when we happen across each other on MSN and although the conversation is still more strained than I would have hoped, at least it's more real if it's Live. We've recently found more common interests with each other and both of us don't feel the need to correspond very often anymore.

[Danisty]

I mostly don't care. A person has to be pretty damn awesome for me to keep in touch.

[cielo market]

I mostly don't care, I guess. But definitely NOT over the phone.

[DeepPurple]

I couldn't care less.

[edalz]

If I don't see someone on a regular basis I don't even try to keep in touch. It's just not worth it if we don't continue to have shared experiences and interests. I've found that there are some people that I get along with so well that we can start up just where we left off after years of absoutely no communication whatsoever. : )

[Ribcakes]

i couldn't care less
if i don't talk to you every day...who are you again?