[Pinkie]

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	I suppose my physical appearance matches my personality well enough I don't throw anyone off. I'm a brunette with glasses, somewhat plain, but tall and gangly which lends a little bit of goofiness to my appearance. Nobody ever says "When I first met you I thought you were ___!" unless maybe "a lesbian" goes in the blank, though I try to dress a bit less shapelessly than I used to.

Hahaha! Loads of people think I'm a lesbian - although it's usually because I don't play up to men (like a lot of my female friends do) and generally show no interest in romantic relations at all. Even my mum asked me if I was gay. I mean, you'd've thought she knew me a little better, surely?
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[Paul V]

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	Hahaha! Loads of people think I'm a lesbian - although it's usually because I don't play up to men (like a lot of my female friends do) and generally show no interest in romantic relations at all. Even my mum asked me if I was gay. I mean, you'd've thought she knew me a little better, surely? To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.

Join the club. Stop conforming to society's standards and people will start itching to label you. The "gay" cathegory is just the first one that comes to mind for them. And when that isn't it, you can almost hear the gears in their brains turning to find a classification to put you into.

[Diana]

Contribute or retract? Hard to call, but likely- contribute.

I'm tall (5'9") and pretty svelte from dancing. I prefer 'dressing up'/wearing makeup not just for its influence on my own/other peoples' perceptions, but mainly just for the fun I get out of arranging colors, patterns, textures, cuts. I'm an artist...what can I say? To top it all off, I'm the most comfortable in high heels, just because I normally have to sustain my balance up on my metatarsals in ballet. That can kinda make me pretty tall, but I have fun with it..

Kind of strange, but I actually think my posture contributes the most good to the way people find my personality. Years and years of ballet has ingrained standing/sitting up super straight...chin up, shoulders down, arms relaxed, stomach in... It honestly is somewhat uncomfortable for me to slouch.

In middle school, I was always made fun of for sitting up so straight. Now, though, people always comment on what good posture I have, and I often get the sense that I'm being treated with more respect and taken a little more seriously because of it.

So...contribute it is!

[Blacklustre King]

I’ am a 21 year old male who is often confused for a female. I have given a lot of naïve people the "evil eye" for comments like, “Excuse me miss.” And, “What a lovely young lady.”

Let me be very clear, I’ am not lovely or lovable. I’ am a person who wears all black, pieces of medieval armor for the hell of it, and I usually carries a sword wherever I go.

My belt and wallet both have skull and cross bones on them, though I have no piercings, no addictions, and long white blonde hair.
My family has a habit of calling me elf boy for my appearance as a child and even now to some extent. After enough of this constant barrage of belligerency I have come to find these comments more as compliments then offenses to my integrity. Though I will NEVER cross dress or seek a male companion, or any companion for that matter, I can safely say I bring enough confusion to the table to keep people wondering what exactly I’ am.

Honestly I cannot see how people can be confused; I look in the mirror and see a guy, perplexing…

[bucolic_]

I'm sort of big I guess (6'4, ~195 lbs) but I don't know if I really intimidate people often. I know I scare people on occasion when I nearly run them over at work (rounding a corner or something), especially if they're tiny, but that has nothing to do with personality really.

I was watching a movie once, and the woman behind me was running her mouth about how much I was blocking the screen, but said nothing to me. I grew weary of her complaints, and so when I turned around and asked if there was a problem, she sunk back into her seat, saying only no. I had to ask her if I was blocking the screen, and even then she said "well...maybe you could slouch down a little..." while only seconds earlier she was cursing me up and down, so I think it's safe to say she was intimidated.

Normally in public I have a face that is generally serious, but ranges from (I think) somewhat soft to intense. In this case, my face was rather intense, since I was somewhat angry at her, so I'm sure that contributed to her reaction.

Also, I think the way I dress and carry myself may confuse people to some degree. Even if they see me as big and intimidating (which I generally doubt...6'4 gives me a lot of height to distribute 195 lbs) I wear glasses, and often have messy hair. I think my face definitely shows my nerdy side.

Combine that with my clothing, and I don't really know what people think of me, haha. I wear lots of jeans, polos, and t-shirts, so my look ranges from nerdy to somewhat trendy, but never extremely so. Plus I wear nice/classic sweaters a lot in the winter (argyle, stripes, etc), which makes me look like ...uhmm a grad student or something? Maybe a professor? I don't know. I guess people might see these various traits as contradictory.

[Colette]

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	I am curious what others' experience with this correlation has been... does your physical appearance contribute or retract from your personality?

In my case my appearance doesn't really match my personality. I am more feminine and attractive looking than my personality would suggest, and my personality comes across as vaguely masculine (or at least I've been told this enough times to believe it). I can be reserved and intimidating in person, but when people look at me they see a "come hither" sort of person. Weird.

[Capt57]

I tend to scare and intimidate people. I'm 6'2" ~250, i've been lifting weights for years and played quite a bit of football. Facially I look quite a bit like Brandon Frazier which I hear very often. Most women find me attractive. Based on my looks most people expect me to be fun and outgoing...you should work in sales! They also expect me to be an idiot. When it becomes obvious I am none of these things they simply become scared.

My best friend said that when he watched the movie American Psycho he could not help but think of me. I would expect that because he is a very strong E but it still upset me. My father is the same way. He is a Taxidermist and looks like Norman Bates...not a great combo. Of course my father is the most kind, intelligent and interesting guy I know.

I do, however, feel pressure to conform to expectations and sometimes do because it is easier then being myself. I find most people at best boring, at the worst, irritating. It helps to have a good sense of humor which I use extensively for better or worse.

[mind_wander]

I'm like 5'2 kinda skinny, my voice is really low, so no one hears my thoughts, if I choosed to say so. People dislikes that, now its kinda rude too, if I accept all your thoughts and problems, or concerns, but do not respect about how I speak too. Man, this sux; I am intellegent at a mature level, but I do lack details, alot; its like my common problem. I find it rather boring and its like the norm to me, rather do something different spiced up in life whats life has to offer, for me
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Because, as an INTJ, life is full of surprises; no kidding. Sometimes you get what you want and sometimes you don't, or the odd stuff keeps on popping by perfection. Yeah, its weird like that.

Anyways, not trailing off here, people likes to hear the calm side of things, "How are you remain so calm?" Even at an intense stress and pressure at a workplace; well, at home its alot of stress, so I managed to deal with it. Personal training ground of real life 101, you mastered it, then welcome to the real world. Can you do it attitude? Do you have what it takes to multi-task? How about some guy or girl yelling at you with full blast? [In your mind thinking, go get a life], Can you create neutrality, wherever you go? [Create peace without conflicts], How well is your listening skills?, Do you cross the lines between morals and principles? Stuff, like this I do think about everyday. Its a mental blueprint of how things should be and works best, if I can create it. All you can do is compromise because thats the way it is.

[Pinkie]

I've been thinking more about this and it reminded me of something I thought when I was sixteen and lamenting my nose (I hated it). I was looking in the mirror, and I thought, 'Yeah, okay - so my face isn't perfect. But then, neither's my mind, and my nose is pointy and so are my eyebrows and so is my mind. So I guess it all works.'

And that pretty much takes care of it.

[Merle]

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	and my nose is pointy and so are my eyebrows and so is my mind. So I guess it all works.'

Hehe... yeah, that's me too...

I'm 5'11'', slim, broad shouldered, angular faced...people find me attractive, but in a I'm just going to sit here and stare at her kind of way...
I have never been approached for a date etc in my life...

I mean, in some ways I suppose it's nice that my appearance isn't doing any false advertising...
But then I also feel that it might be easier for me to overcome some of my natural tendencies towards solitariness, aloofness etc if I looked a bit softer and people weren't afraid to approach me.

[lowbrass]

Based on my observations, my physical characteristics seem to lead people to think I'm the opposite temperament, and it's as if they're let down when I don't appear to perform in the manner they expected. The only exception to this is when someone only reads my face - which tends to be misinterpreted many ways, when, in fact, I'm just content.

I'm 5'8", slender, and pretty youthful looking for my age, and my guess is that people see this and expect me to behave like a kid - i.e. be playful and outgoing.

Adding to the aggravation - I also get the sense that people think that I'm incapable of being serious OR fun, which I really hate. That's sort of fueled me to do a few more "E" type things, like actually joining friends on stage in a band to sing a song, just to prove that I had the talent and was damn well capable of awesome things, in addition to just being respected as (and assumed only to be) a decent photographer.

Edit - and I think this hurts me big time in the dating game, because I might have the appearance, sometimes, of a player or pickup artist, and possibly there's been a lot of expectation on the other party that I never have lived up to.

[Sheepo]

I'm fairly, no -- really short.. Measuring around 5'0"/152 CM and around 94 lbs., or so.. I look around five years younger than my actual age, and this is a big difference... Considering that I'm still in my teens if anyone didn't realize. Most would categorize me as "cute" "passive" "innocent" "charming" "stupid" and such. But i guess I wouldn't blame them, I dress in colourful colours, skirts and such too... so... It's just so people wouldn't really feel intimidated, and would forgive me (and they usually do...) if I said something a tad too critical at the wrong circumstance. Whoa ( was that a run-on )?

Anyhow, I get a lot of "Oh, you looked so cute and innocent and [ insert other adj.'s here ]... but.. " But i don't really mind, I'm not doing anything in particular to counteract that first opinion people get from me anyways.

They don't know on first glance that I'm actually not just shy, but bordering anti-social in a new environment. But anyhow, my looks are at my advantage ^^. People treat me as "pets" or "little sister" too, but I bite unless you have permission. But it STILL is [ my physical appearance ] at my advantage.

Because of my looks ( I suppose ) people don't really take me seriously when I criticize ( which is GOOD ). Since i tend to do this impulsively and at an excess sometimes.

A lot of people, mostly obsessed-with-fashion people approach me. And they'll go like "Oh my, you're so cute!" I don't necessarily like the attention, but it's not bad, there might be someone I'm actually interested in becoming friends with within the bunch.

Usually I'm pink, not because I'm blushing and such, though excitement shows on my face easily. But it's because i'm fair-skinned but not bordering vampiric of course = = ( I think i just made that word up )

I cut my hair boyish short, and in a month i'm going to highlight it some funky colours. I will cut it so short that i could style it with wax and etc. This is just so that people will cut out the "passive" part as their first impression of me.

So let those people misunderstand, hahar :D!
( fun, fun. )

[MadmanMSU]

I think personal appearance can definitely have an impact on personality. When I was in high school, I was overweight, so I got all the stigma and whatnot that results from that. Shy/not terribly outgoing/leaning toward intellectual activities. Since then, I've dropped all the weight, and I work out constantly (go me), and now it's a whole different story. I'm far more outgoing, love to be around people, find it much easier to fit in, women find me attractive, etc etc etc.

6'1", 220, currently training for a half-marathon. I've always been tall and muscular, but had to shed the weight for it to come through. Being an INTJ, I've always been more serious looking than other people, so I've always gotten the intimidation factor. Plus, I wear glasses, so I think people naturally assume I'm intelligent (which I am).

What I find interesting about this, is that I tend to judge masculinity by my own standards (as I'm sure everyone does). When I look at other men who are short, or scrawny, or effeminate, I tend to naturally assume they are socially weaker people. A lot of time I'll see a woman at a bar with a guy who is like that, and I'll think to myself "Why is she with that guy? He seems like such a wuss". Anyone else have that happen?

[HarleyQuinn]

This thread popped into mind after an early morning incident today.

I don't know what it is (maybe that I look boyish or younger than 22?) but a lot of people are touchy-feely with me. I dislike being hugged usually because it's a surprise but this came to mind because one of the people who work in the cafeteria rested a hand on my shoulder before walking away after we exchanged greetings.

Anybody else get touched a lot by people you don't know?

Another instance was two semesters ago I was working on a group paper/presentation with two girls. I was smiling (and not "contributing" anything at the moment) and one of the girls playfully slapped me on the shoulder and said, "Help us," when I had spoken to that girl maybe once before our meeting and that was in class in a group discussion. It's the only time I've seen her be physical with anybody that wasn't her BF.

It also seems like whenever I come into contact with an adult woman, they usually take an instant liking to me as if I were their own son and they always give off this "motherly" aura when around me. To be honest, I kinda find it humorous. I'm fairly quiet (but quick to smile) and really frail looking so maybe when they see me there's some automatic protect/soothe reflex?

[Paul V]

Originally Posted by HarleyQuinn To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.

This thread popped into mind after an early morning incident today. I don't know what it is (maybe that I look boyish or younger than 22?) but a lot of people are touchy-feely with me. I dislike being hugged usually because it's a surprise but this came to mind because one of the people who work in the cafeteria rested a hand on my shoulder before walking away after we exchanged greetings. Anybody else get touched a lot by people you don't know? Another instance was two semesters ago I was working on a group paper/presentation with two girls. I was smiling (and not "contributing" anything at the moment) and one of the girls playfully slapped me on the shoulder and said, "Help us," when I had spoken to that girl maybe once before our meeting and that was in class in a group discussion. It's the only time I've seen her be physical with anybody that wasn't her BF. It also seems like whenever I come into contact with an adult woman, they usually take an instant liking to me as if I were their own son and they always give off this "motherly" aura when around me. To be honest, I kinda find it humorous. I'm fairly quiet (but quick to smile) and really frail looking so maybe when they see me there's some automatic protect/soothe reflex?

People tend to hug me because I'm big and cuddly. Not only I feel used and disgusted, I also feel invaded and violated. I must use every single ounce of restraint in me to prevent myself from lashing at them. So instead I become tense and uncomfortable.

[MixISTJandINTJ]

I'm tall but have more on the skinny/low body fat side of things. Have big bones though. I don't think it contributes anything.

[Anamorphique]

People sometimes tend to stammer when they talk to me. I think its more to do with my demeanor than my physical appearance. I usually get irritable when people distract me from whatever I'm doing in order to talk and I think it shows. Also, I tend to ask a lot of questions when what they're saying doesn't make sense and that seems to make them uncomfortable. My boss told I should smile more.... Smile when I'm talking about trephination?! Why???

[lancelot]

I think teachers and professors thought I was a better student than I really was. I think because I was dressed nice, and in their mind this equals smart or a good student.
I’m intelligent but unorganized and often don’t do home work.

I don’t think I intimidate anyone, when I walk through a room the crowds don’t part, and the eyes don’t look away. Yet the police often look at me and seem anxious, don’t know why that is.
I’m 5’10” 190 lbs. don’t think I frighten anyone.

One of my coworkers said of me, “If you were an actor you’d be good at playing someone very nice or very mean”.

[crabnebula]

Holy 3 year necro batman...

I'm 5'10, underweight but intimidate most people until they get to know me. It keeps the undesirables away and thus helps somewhat but people looking at you like you were a raging serial killer on loose gets tiresome after a while.

[eagleseven]

Love these zombie threads!

I'm 6'4" 230lbs and lift...which can seem very intimidating, or so I've been told. While my size has definitely improved my confidence, most of the time I find myself attempting to negate the intimidation factor, so I don't repel people. Just my standing up and looking serious can make others visibly nervous, which isn't always beneficial.

[Deliberator]

Interesting question. It might. That is to say I think my appearance has something bearing on the behaviors I've developed, but not my core personality. I'll have to think about this one.

[Fishism]

My appearance and my personality go hand in hand. As my attitude evolves so does my look. I'm average height 5'8" but years of weight training for a multitude of sports has left me athletically built at 175 lbs. My appearance has always been about "function" as how clothes fit were more important than how they looked. I have never wanted to stand out or draw attention as I've always felt that body language and conversation were the keys to first impressions. I wanted to be noticed for not wanting to be noticed.

Now, at 40, I realize that my looks aren't going to pack nearly the punch they used to, so I've gone as far as shaving my head just so I don't get helmet hair from my motorcycle helmet. Function it is.

I'm fine with appearing average on the outside, but having confidence in my personality should someone with substance want to look that far. I have a look of a man who really is just passing through on his way to somewhere else. This is intentional because I truly am heading out.

[karenann33]

When I was working as a CPA my appearance detracted from my work. I'm tall, thin, look much younger than I am and I'm female. If I said I had 10 years of experience people laughed and said "what you started when you were 12?" I was 30 but looked fresh out of college.

[gh0st]

I'm really short(~4'11"), and generally look a lot younger than I am. People who don't know me often treat me like a child, which can be frustrating. I don't think my appearance matches my personality very well. Or rather, I feel like I should look differently to really be "myself", if that makes sense?
I also often think life would be easier if I was a guy. I work in a field dominated by men, which combined with my childlike looks makes me feel like I have to try extra-hard to be respected; even though actually I never had issues with men not taking me seriously once they have talked to me...

Though my looks come in really handy when it comes to socializing; I guess that's the other side of the being-treated-like-a-child medal - most people are friendlier to children. ;P
I can easily befriend almost everyone if I want to.

[cyd0nia]

I'm of average height and my build is neither broad/stocky nor thin. It's just average. For these reasons I don't tend to intimidate people because of my physical appearance. However I noticed that when I'm having a focused day or when I'm thinking deeply (even in public) people tend to feel intimidated - I think it's the look of focus in my eyes.