Keeping A Secret - Page 3

**seeyouatx** · 08-29-2012, 01:26 PM

I keep secrets. I've issues trusting people, so I wouldn't turn around and spill the proverbial beans if they've entrusted me with private information.

Now, if the person had told me in confidence that they planned to hurt someone or do something outwardly destructive, I would call the appropriate officials.

**sunitaishot** · 08-30-2012, 10:18 AM

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This.

**Megalomania** · 08-30-2012, 11:06 AM

I've never once failed to keep something to myself that was told to me in confidence. If you can't trust someone, what good are they?

**AltoidaMintera** · 08-30-2012, 07:55 PM

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It would depend on what the secret was. If it was insignificant and there was no impact on anyone by my doing so, I might tell my husband. 'Cause he'd probably not be interested and forget that he knew anyway. And I know with certainty that he wouldn't tell anyone. He doesn't tell me anything if he was told it in confidence. So I know if I tell him not to say anything that he won't.

If it was a 'proper' secret then I wouldn't tell anyone....well, unless it contravened one of my fundamental ethical beliefs. Like child molestation. I would override any ethical belief I have in right to privacy in that case. Murder? Well, I MIGHT stay quiet...depends on how it came about.

I've never been in that position and have kept things I have been told in confidence, confidential for decades.

Agree with this. My opinion is that telling me a secret is also the same as telling a significant other - but that is because of how I view my romantic relationships.. but other than that.. the secret would be on lockdown unless it was something like they were going to cause harm to themself/somebody.

**The Dan Keizer** · 08-30-2012, 08:00 PM

I never consciously blab secrets. But I often forget that things are secrets, or sometimes I will discuss something to a person who I think is a complete irrelevantt stranger regarding the secret which has come back at me before.

**Rationality** · 08-30-2012, 08:11 PM

I never tell secrets, I protect the privacy of anyone who speaks to me
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I once had a friend tell one of my secrets because she was genuinely concerned for my safety, I still wonder sometimes what my life would be like if she'd kept it.

**mieu** · 08-30-2012, 08:14 PM

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**QuantumEnigma** · 08-30-2012, 08:25 PM

My word is my bond.

But secrets from my family feel like a burden, so before giving my word to keep a secret I usually ask whether family is included in the promise. I do not go along with people just announcing that something they've already said is a secret - my position is that one should either get others' agreement up front or trust to their discretion.

**changos** · 08-30-2012, 08:27 PM

I have listened to serious confessions for years
I know the obscure and dark side of several "nice" hypocrit people
unfortunately it would be difficult for others to believe what they told me
I can listen, be quiet and a good confident.

But secrets? secrets are evil. Secrets are meant to be secret, if someone tells you a secret... there is a reason for them wanting you to know that. Pretty often all they want is someone on their side. Secrets are one of the first tools of manipulation because it is info you don't suppose to share or try to confirm. Most people give you a grenade, not a secret... Stay away from secrets

**paperclip** · 08-30-2012, 08:33 PM

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I have listened to serious confessions for years
I know the obscure and dark side of several "nice" hypocrit people
unfortunately it would be difficult for others to believe what they told me
I can listen, be quiet and a good confident.

But secrets? secrets are evil. Secrets are meant to be secret, if someone tells you a secret... there is a reason for them wanting you to know that. Pretty often all they want is someone on their side. Secrets are one of the first tools of manipulation because it is info you don't suppose to share or try to confirm. Most people give you a grenade, not a secret... Stay away from secrets

Yes, 100% agreed. If I really don't want someone to know something evil that I've done...no one ever will...

**Known2Wander** · 08-31-2012, 06:48 AM

Secrets? Easily kept (and sometimes forgotten).

**396chevy** · 08-31-2012, 10:10 PM

I have absolutely no trouble keeping secrets, when I care that is. I also have no problem using secrets against others, especially if I don't like the person.

08-29-2012, 01:26 PM	#51
seeyouatx Member [34%] MBTI: ISTJ Join Date: Feb 2010 Posts: 1,396	I keep secrets. I've issues trusting people, so I wouldn't turn around and spill the proverbial beans if they've entrusted me with private information. Now, if the person had told me in confidence that they planned to hurt someone or do something outwardly destructive, I would call the appropriate officials.
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08-30-2012, 11:06 AM	#53
Megalomania Veteran Member [82%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Jun 2008 Posts: 3,304	I've never once failed to keep something to myself that was told to me in confidence. If you can't trust someone, what good are they?
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08-30-2012, 08:00 PM	#55
The Dan Keizer Core Member [114%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Jun 2012 Posts: 4,597	I never consciously blab secrets. But I often forget that things are secrets, or sometimes I will discuss something to a person who I think is a complete irrelevantt stranger regarding the secret which has come back at me before.
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08-30-2012, 08:11 PM	#56
Rationality Member [30%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Mar 2010 Posts: 1,238	I never tell secrets, I protect the privacy of anyone who speaks to me To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts. I once had a friend tell one of my secrets because she was genuinely concerned for my safety, I still wonder sometimes what my life would be like if she'd kept it.
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08-30-2012, 08:25 PM	#58
QuantumEnigma Member [12%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Mar 2012 Posts: 487	My word is my bond. But secrets from my family feel like a burden, so before giving my word to keep a secret I usually ask whether family is included in the promise. I do not go along with people just announcing that something they've already said is a secret - my position is that one should either get others' agreement up front or trust to their discretion.
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08-30-2012, 08:27 PM	#59
changos Member [48%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Apr 2008 Posts: 1,944	I have listened to serious confessions for years I know the obscure and dark side of several "nice" hypocrit people unfortunately it would be difficult for others to believe what they told me I can listen, be quiet and a good confident. But secrets? secrets are evil. Secrets are meant to be secret, if someone tells you a secret... there is a reason for them wanting you to know that. Pretty often all they want is someone on their side. Secrets are one of the first tools of manipulation because it is info you don't suppose to share or try to confirm. Most people give you a grenade, not a secret... Stay away from secrets
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08-31-2012, 06:48 AM	#61
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08-31-2012, 10:10 PM	#62
396chevy New Member [01%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Jun 2011 Posts: 45	I have absolutely no trouble keeping secrets, when I care that is. I also have no problem using secrets against others, especially if I don't like the person.
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