[Lexijo]

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I'm wordy. What can I say? 1. Compatible humour - I love to laugh (it’s genuine, bawdy and contagious I’m told) so he should love that sound and aim to make it happen as often as possible. I will gladly oblige and he needs to find my offbeat one-liners equally amusing. 2. Intelligent and interesting - <> intellectual snobbery but I will grow bored if we are not at least on an equal playing field (be superior, I double dog dare you!). I find a lot of things interesting so if he can teach me something new then I will leech onto his enthusiasm like… well like a leech. Sometimes I also like to talk so that needs to run both ways. If he can provide a unique insight into something I’m moaning about then I encourage it (although highlighting my character defects may not be well-received). “Don’t be so feely” may elicit a To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts. . 3. Similar temperament and worldview – I guess I am trying to compress a lot into this last bucket because three traits are simply inadequate. Nonetheless, another introvert is almost certainly a requirement since I can be difficult to coax out and I disappear in groups of > 6. He would have to have similar levels of both kindness and evil genius To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts. to complement my own quirks and similar values on key life issues (such as, no children, gender roles or lack thereof, religion or lack thereof, similar libido and kinks To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts. , etc). Bonus for willingness to feed the Fe on occasion and not resent it.

I agree although I also need to add I like someone with a backbone, someone who has a bit about them who is on the same level as me, its the person I find attractive.

[crystalfall]

To be honest.
I just know it when i meet someone, if they are of interest or not.

But when i am looking into making a list, i would probably end up
making a way to long list of my different preferences...

A gentleman, Intelligent, someone who is able to have long meaningful conversations,
discuss ideas and theories with. Chemistry have to be there. Some one who know who he is
and stand up for that, will be able to make his own opinions, and respect mine at the same
time. Mutual interests , humor and all that. Know's what he want to do with his life, and how
to get there. Someone who is on my level in most things, someone i that i can be myself
around and they are also them self around me.

So basically someone i can talk with, laugh with, have fun with, trust, learn with, explore new things with and love.

[Calii]

I think broadly stating "intelligent" can go wrong in a lot of ways in terms of compatibility, so for me...

1) Insatiably Curious.

That's it.

[Auntie]

1) High intelligence without intellectual arrogance
2)Integrity...not only being honest with others, but being honest with himself about who he is and what he wants from life.
3)A sense of honor and decency, and valor. I know some call it benevolent sexism, but I admire a man who protects those who are weaker than him. I consider that to be something that makes a man, a man.

I know I was only allowed three, but I also really really really need someone sexually well-matched with me, also.

[Madden]

1. I have to go with intelligence first as well. I agree with Auntie's comment about arrogance. Arrogance, vanity/conceit in a man (or a woman, but we're focusing on men here) is an absolute turn-off. Pride is good; self-respect is good. Arrogance is a no-no.

2. Physical strength, manly bearing. I'm not interested in big huge muscle-bound men, but I like the hard, lean muscles of a man who works hard or works out. Sinewy and sturdy.

3. Sexy.

Other things: humour, scepticism, self-knowledge, confidence, etc., etc.

[laoshi]

Insatiable curiosity is ideal as an essence but do you have the willingness and stamina to keep up? Fun, travel, adventure can be exhausting and includes high expectations for companionship even if the adventure is interpersonal. As you design your ideal liaison, please balance your conceptualization with practical implementation. The alchemy of personality and character is nuanced like the pattern changes in fractals. Most importantly the relational dynamic is binary in that output is influenced by both components and you will sustain, change, or expel with your attitude and actions.

[Ktrstevenson]

-strong Christian. my faith is the most important part of my life, and if it isn't the most important part of his, then that would create problems.
-Intelligent. If I couldn't have intellectually stimulating conversation with him, I don't think it could work long term.
-Fun. I can get locked into my seriousness, but the right person can help me enjoy life and relax. He'd have to be able to make me laugh.
-Not easily offended. I'm pretty blunt, and I couldn't be with someone that was often hurt or felt the need to be very sensitive around me.

[NemoXXX]

Im pleased to notice that there are so many different women in the world. I've personally dated only ESFP or ESFP or INFJ types, because smart women scare me. Not in the sense that I could't win them over in a debate, but more in a sense that in our alleged future some kind of disagreement would surely occur and then I fear that it would be the end of that relationship. I can't compromise when it comes to values or worldview, and most people just don't agree with me when it comes to that, or then I might change my values and what would happen then? (crysis)

Have seen that quite close that strong willed and intelligent women sort of go there own way which is probably a good thing for them, but Im not willing to marry at 25 and then breakup at 30 (when we have 3 kids) so I rather live single. I know Im a covard, maybe I should someday take the risk, but still kind of freaks me out.

Somebody told me that I should socialize with nt women to understand that they might not be crazy after all (so this is me socializing).

[Klautermauffen]

After the experiences I've had. He must be an NT. Preferably a P. Therefore, I have begun to look for ENTPs and INTPs without terribly realizing it.

I'm now currently dating an INTP. It's one of the best experiences I've had. I am quite grateful.

[NemoXXX]

This is a tricky question. Because the truth is that sf or even some nf are often quite boring in the long run, I kind of need an nt to stimulate me. I guess time takes care of many things, in the sense that I might to begin to look for nt women, well see. It would be easier if there where a bit more of them in the world, maybe Ill have to try and get a date from this forum (LOL).

[jens1136]

Intellect/character
Mental chemistry
Kindness (ie: not a douchebag/tool)
Handsome

[TheVividLife]

Intelligence
Loyalty
Protective

[bonnievalentine]

1. Understanding/open minded
2. Funny
3. Intelligent
4. Around the same music taste

[topquark]

Kindness, patience, affection.

[NemoXXX]

intelligence is a fine quality, but sometimes I wonder why people want it in there partner? Most girls that I've met that want intelligent men, but what they really want is only something to boost there confidence. The same reason why most men want a good looking woman. At first it flatters me to explain important/difficult stuff, but then the women that I've dated really don't have that much opinions of their own and then I get bored. I mean really bored.

Of course I could just keep on writing stuff as I normally do, and keep on with the difficult stuff at work and ignore her in that sense. Still I have the luxury of having an intj mom and she was not satisfied with her companion until she found an entp guy. So Im wondering should I just keep looking or settle in some sense? Im in that age that I meet quite a few girls who want to get married and have kids etc.

[savannahlu]

1. Values logic, can be rational in times of stress and is not dramatic/overly emotional. If he wants to talk about his feelings too much I'm immediately turned off.
2. Capable of engaging and enjoyable conversation (this naturally involves being intelligent, but also just being an interesting person with a good sense of humor).
3. Shares interests with me, or at least is an equally curious person and can express interest in my hobbies.

[nwfn]

Type of man I'm looking for: NullReferenceException.

No offense meant to men. I like you just fine as friends. I just don't need a romantic or sexual relationship.

[INTJNINJA]

Married for 10 years to INTP- the reason it works, the reasons I even wanted it to work:
1) Intelligence,
the reason this may be the most oft quoted for INTJ women as traits they want their man to have is because we cannot actually respect a man that doesn't have it,
no respect=no attraction
2) Humor
We can be too serious and too sarcastic- if you make us laugh and we make you laugh, you can keep us from falling into the stress/anger trap
3) Honesty
We would rather you be blunt than hide because G*d knows we would be and lying is not respectable and violates our strong sense of justice.

Though I have to say having/demonstrating dignity would be on the list if I could have another. But that links back to a respect element. Humor is important but not silliness, wit is preferred. If we find you ridiculous in any way, we will not respect you.

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For Nemoxxx-
Find a girl you can RESPECT first- then see if you actually LIKE her too.
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Good luck!

[Luzare]

Haaaa, I would never be able to list my priorities of what I'd like in a guy. I'm way too picky/specific.

In other words, I have way too many priorities of what I want and can't figure out which are more important than others.

I suck. XD;;;

[rmfields]

Honest, Common sense, and intellectual