Telling others what to do - Page 2

**Tactical Panda** · 07-10-2012, 05:50 AM

Tell? Hopefully not.

Question? Hopefully reasonably.

Explain? Yes, if it helps. Tell seems like a directive, while explain seems like giving them an option they don't need to take, or may take. It thus seems to keep responsibility with them and the appropriate amount with me too, in a sense.

**Newboy** · 07-11-2012, 12:15 PM

I find myself showing them how to do things while explaining in a nice way, very often they "get it" some people resent "looking up the food chain".

**Ender** · 07-11-2012, 01:19 PM

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	Sounds more ENTJ

Was thinking the same.

You sure you're an introvert, ipodboy?

**koakuma** · 07-11-2012, 03:17 PM

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I have something of a paternal nature. I like to give people life advice (which I guess is telling them what to do) and if I think I know something about their job that they don't I will let them know.

I don't think it's because I like being bossy or feeling superior, sometimes I just genuinely feel like I know better and I want to share that technology.

---------- Post added 07-09-2012 at 08:52 PM ----------

Speaking of being bossy, please use the word, "their".

That made me think of the liking of telling people what to do in combination to whether one is the oldest or youngest amongst ones siblings. It's said that the oldest amongst siblings are leaders and the youngest are followers.

Maybe INTJ's that have younger siblings like to lead more than INTJ's that have older siblings?

**Joby** · 07-11-2012, 03:47 PM

I sometimes have the urge to do that when I see that something can be done in a better way, but I try to control it because when I do tell people what I think they should do, I start sounding kind of bossy.

**SoundofSilence** · 07-12-2012, 03:01 AM

Oh yes, but only if I care about what they are / should be doing and I know it's the most efficient / best way. For example if people don't do what I think is the best way to finish a group assignment (only when I'm involved). I see it as an opportunity for others to improve themselves.

**realitycheck** · 07-12-2012, 06:35 PM

assume too much responsiblty.

**Axel** · 07-12-2012, 06:40 PM

- "You tell me when you want me to show you a better way."
- And then I did, and it worked better.

**Human** · 07-18-2012, 05:59 AM

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	Maybe INTJ's that have younger siblings like to lead more than INTJ's that have older siblings?

I would like to hear more on this one

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	I don't run other peoples lives if they won't run mine. Win/win.

Me too. Apparently this is ISFP territory. Nothing wrong with it as far as I am concerned

**Apricots** · 07-18-2012, 07:46 AM

I'd rather lead by gentle coaching than by micromanaging.

**Lintu** · 07-18-2012, 11:27 AM

Constantly. Everyone always does everything wrong. I have to speak up.

**SilasGTBronte** · 07-18-2012, 06:15 PM

If I am the most senior person at work at a particular time and I know from experience, then I do like to take charge. I merely tell my co-workers what they must do, but I never get drunk on power. That's just not my nature.

**chillipilli** · 07-25-2012, 08:07 AM

Unfortunately I am both bossy and completely lacking in subtlety. Therefore, I am abrupt and might appear to be arrogant. Some people appreciate my butting in and helping; some don't. I have tried to learn to tone it down but I wish I had someone around me more often to point it out when I'm being objectionable.

07-10-2012, 05:50 AM	#26
Tactical Panda Core Member [133%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Oct 2009 Posts: 5,328	Tell? Hopefully not. Question? Hopefully reasonably. Explain? Yes, if it helps. Tell seems like a directive, while explain seems like giving them an option they don't need to take, or may take. It thus seems to keep responsibility with them and the appropriate amount with me too, in a sense.
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07-11-2012, 12:15 PM	#27
Newboy New Member [01%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Jul 2012 Posts: 27	I find myself showing them how to do things while explaining in a nice way, very often they "get it" some people resent "looking up the food chain".
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07-11-2012, 03:47 PM	#30
Joby New Member [01%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Jul 2012 Posts: 5	I sometimes have the urge to do that when I see that something can be done in a better way, but I try to control it because when I do tell people what I think they should do, I start sounding kind of bossy.
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SoundofSilence Member [08%] MBTI: INTp Join Date: Mar 2012 Posts: 351	Oh yes, but only if I care about what they are / should be doing and I know it's the most efficient / best way. For example if people don't do what I think is the best way to finish a group assignment (only when I'm involved). I see it as an opportunity for others to improve themselves.
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07-12-2012, 06:35 PM	#32
realitycheck New Member [01%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Jun 2012 Posts: 23	assume too much responsiblty.
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07-12-2012, 06:40 PM	#33
Axel Member [20%] MBTI: XXXX Join Date: Jan 2010 Posts: 826	- "You tell me when you want me to show you a better way." - And then I did, and it worked better.
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Lintu New Member [01%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Jul 2012 Posts: 14	Constantly. Everyone always does everything wrong. I have to speak up.
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07-18-2012, 06:15 PM	#37
SilasGTBronte Member [08%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Jul 2012 Posts: 357	If I am the most senior person at work at a particular time and I know from experience, then I do like to take charge. I merely tell my co-workers what they must do, but I never get drunk on power. That's just not my nature.
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07-25-2012, 08:07 AM	#38
chillipilli New Member [01%] MBTI: INxJ Join Date: Jul 2012 Posts: 17	Unfortunately I am both bossy and completely lacking in subtlety. Therefore, I am abrupt and might appear to be arrogant. Some people appreciate my butting in and helping; some don't. I have tried to learn to tone it down but I wish I had someone around me more often to point it out when I'm being objectionable.
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