Meeting the parents

**Anamalech** · 10-17-2009, 10:16 PM

I'm an INTJ, she's an INTP, her parents: Dad is an INTJ and her mother is an ISFJ. How do I get on their good sides? What does a fellow INTJ dad like? How do I act around them? Advice needed. Thank you.

**Nikita** · 10-17-2009, 10:33 PM

In any "Meet the Parents" situation, my advice would be to be yourself in a way that is still respectful. Most fathers are going to be looking at the boyfriend as someone trying to get into his daughter's pants. It'd be worth keeping that in mind, I think. Honesty is generally the best policy. Don't try to bullshi* the parents.

**Anamalech** · 10-17-2009, 10:46 PM

This dude is exactly like me. He's an INTJ and from what I've heard, I'm like him. He's older, wiser and has more experience, how do I combat that? XD

**Silverity** · 10-17-2009, 11:10 PM

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	This dude is exactly like me. He's an INTJ and from what I've heard, I'm like him. He's older, wiser and has more experience, how do I combat that? XD

My Dad is an INTJ and I think he enjoys the competitions between us, moreso because I acknowledge that I'm not as old/wise/crafty as he is. I think the two of you could easily have a good relationship
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I also notice because we're both INTJs we end up giving each other significant looks when more feely squishy things happen or someone says something completely illogica---we have our own inside jokes.

As to how you combat that...well, if you set it up as a game and try and best each other jovially I think he'll really like you (making lots of assumptions here), if you get on his bad side though....haha, doom. =P

**Pandemonium** · 10-18-2009, 01:19 AM

Just be yourself. If they like you, they like you. If they don't you can do the whole Shakespearean theme.

If you make good impressions the parents will even ask you to marry their daughter. It has happened to myself a few times.

**Night Runner** · 10-18-2009, 02:26 AM

A really good advice I once heard is to treat her parents as ambassadors from an alien species: act very carefully and pay a lot of attention.
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**karenann33** · 10-18-2009, 11:42 AM

	Originally Posted by Anamalech To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	This dude is exactly like me. He's an INTJ and from what I've heard, I'm like him. He's older, wiser and has more experience, how do I combat that? XD

You don't. You listen and respect. Regardless of how smart you think you are experience counts for a lot.

I'm a mom and really all I want from my kids future dates is someone nice with good values, ambition and a great work ethic.

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Anamalech New Member [01%] MBTI: xxxx Join Date: Oct 2009 Posts: 28	I'm an INTJ, she's an INTP, her parents: Dad is an INTJ and her mother is an ISFJ. How do I get on their good sides? What does a fellow INTJ dad like? How do I act around them? Advice needed. Thank you.
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10-17-2009, 10:33 PM	#2
Nikita Core Member [555%] MBTI: INTP Join Date: Sep 2008 Posts: 22,213	In any "Meet the Parents" situation, my advice would be to be yourself in a way that is still respectful. Most fathers are going to be looking at the boyfriend as someone trying to get into his daughter's pants. It'd be worth keeping that in mind, I think. Honesty is generally the best policy. Don't try to bullshi* the parents.
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Anamalech New Member [01%] MBTI: xxxx Join Date: Oct 2009 Posts: 28	This dude is exactly like me. He's an INTJ and from what I've heard, I'm like him. He's older, wiser and has more experience, how do I combat that? XD
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10-18-2009, 01:19 AM	#5
Pandemonium Veteran Member [53%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Oct 2008 Posts: 2,120	Just be yourself. If they like you, they like you. If they don't you can do the whole Shakespearean theme. If you make good impressions the parents will even ask you to marry their daughter. It has happened to myself a few times.
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Night Runner Core Member [148%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Mar 2009 Posts: 5,931	A really good advice I once heard is to treat her parents as ambassadors from an alien species: act very carefully and pay a lot of attention. To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
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