[darkeldar88]

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	Too much time alone is sad, too much time with others is sad, I need a mix, but more alone time than people time.

I second that. I need interaction with people, just doesn't have to be on a constant basis though. I enjoy my alone time too much

[thatfox]

I like my alone time, I choose to be a loner. Personally I wouldn't want to deal with people on a daily basis if I didn't have to. Typically the more alone time I get the happier I am, I've never felt lonely before and I doubt that I will. (I've spent days at a time without human presence and was perfectly content)

[Jinxu]

I NEED alone time for myself otherwise I'll go crazy. I don't think that it's just because we prefer to be alone. But also has to do with how our brain is wired. We introverts need alone time to recharge our battery.

[Mette]

I'm definitely a loner by choice. While I am often aware of being alone, I don't ever feel lonely.

I could (and do) easily spend long periods alone without taking to anyone and it's bliss.

From time to time I enjoy the company of others, but will always gladly retreat to my own space for recharge and quiet time.

[MrCynical]

Everyone needs time alone, I guess your level of introversion determines how much.

I think many of us are loners because the effort to find fullfilling relationships is too much.

[pocohauntus]

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I never feel alone and I crave isolation more often than not. And not just from people - there are several times a day I need to be away from all stimulation - no noise, no people, nothing but some peace and quiet. I love being around those whom I consider good friends and family, but not all of the time. I hate being around people I am forced to be around (like in work situations or forced social situations).

Most people are astonished when they find out that I spend my days in complete silence. No TV, no noise whatsoever. I need and deeply enjoy silence. However, I love the time I spend with my immediate family, despite any noise that comes about as a result of their enjoyment of such things as television, music, whatever. So, I would say that though silence is necessary for me, the love of family or a good friend or two is always welcome and indeed cherished.

[zibber]

I had trouble with my introversion back when I still thought it was a disorder.

Today, not at all. And I mean not at all. Just go with it.

[Zombicide]

I have what could be described as a purely hate relationship with most or all other people. I'm still looking for someone worth caring about. For the most part, isolation is fine. I don't think I technically need alone time, I just don't want to be around the vast majority of other people because they're cretinous scum and I hope they all die but technically there could be people I wouldn't mind being around without them turning out to be a massive disappointment who I can't trust because they're completely alien to me as they are zombiesque and sub sapient beings. Anyway, it may be that I inherently need alone time but I doubt it. Not a loner by choice or whatever, I'm just figuratively alone.

[schwartzie]

by the end of the holidays I was so emotionally wiped. I've needed a long period to recoup, and am just now beginning to want to socialize again.

[Chain]

Loner by nature and the product of treating people pragmatically: If they don't serve a purpose, or their cost ends up outweighing their benefit, I replace them.

I don't get lonely, though I do get bored of SSDD and I do have cravings that need to be satisfied.

[Odin]

I choose to be alone, and am a loner by nature; I have become sick of the disappointment that the company of other people seems to bring in my life.

[aosteel23]

I am a loner by choice. When call someone to hang out with me, it is usually because I know THEY probably need the interaction.

I don't know if it's a typical INTJ thing, but I tend to analyze every social interaction I have until it's begging for mercy. This tends to be exhausting. So although I enjoy going out, I always need time to myself to recharge before I can try again.

[flyingtoaster]

Same as most of you. (That's why I'm here, I guess.)

It's not that I'm bad at socializing (I'm by no means a butterfly, I even lurk here, but I've improved), and it's not that I don't like people. I just like being alone: reading, thinking, and recharging my batteries.

Analyzing social interactions is probably an INTJ thing. People are hard to figure out, so they present a nice, juicy "problem" for our minds to chew on. I used to analyze each of my social interactions, sometimes pre- and post-. Fortunately I've met more people and interact often enough (and with enough confidence) that I no longer have the time or interest for it. Now I tend to analyze my relationships in a broad sense, on month-ish timescales.

[dissident]

I'm a true loner. Not only am I a strong introvert (77%) but my very high level of intuition (88%) has me seeing the whole forest, rather then individual trees.

I have little in the way of interests that I have a trivial pursuit sort of knowledge of... all the little details don't concern nor interest me, just the broader perspectives. This makes me quite boring to all but the most hardcore intuitives.

Even stuff I am interested in, I have no need to discuss it with anyone in detail. I'd love to just quit my job, take a high intuitive female, and travel to some remote mountain cabin.... with internet access
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... and never return to the realm of the mainstream world again.

[ratlegs]

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I think there's a difference between being alone and being a loner. Certainly, the two can go hand in hand, but being a loner can happen even in the midst of a crowd, even with a network of acquaintances. I think loner goes more to upon whom you can depend. Being a loner implies a focus on independence, especially as to problem solving and carving a path, generally, through life. You can rely on others yet still need time alone, but this does not make you a loner, in my opinion. It makes you an Introvert. Introversion does not necessarily create a loner, though I would imagine there are more loners among the Introverted population than among the Extraverted one. But either end of the spectrum can develop attachments and a strong support system. Loners don't need relationships and don't seek them out. Rather, loners are often sought out by those who are not accustomed to or comfortable with the loner's natural state. People who simply enjoy being alone might be less likely to encounter such people as they will be home or elsewhere, alone. Loners, however, operate in every social sphere and do not require physical solitude. Being a loner is a way in which you make your way through the world. It is separate and distinct from being alone and a need to be alone, though it often results in much alone time. As for myself, I'm a loner. It's not something I chose, it is simply who I am. Life has made me a loner, and it constantly reinforces the notion. Some people are meant to walk alone, though perhaps they'll find one other who complements their lives. Seek not and ye shall find, perhaps.

I totally agree.

[MrLonelyhearts]

Loner by nature; Isolated by choice.

[Fox]

Some people I know say I have no friends. I have plenty of people I know by name and converse with but no true friends. I admit I don't put much effort in making them. Use to when I was younger. I sorta like being me. I hate trying to conform but I honestly like being around people. I just don't like being bothered by some of them. I know it comes off as rude but unless they catch my interest I sorta politely ignore them. I feel like a finicky kid at the dinner table.

[Nemesis]

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Some people I know say I have no friends. I have plenty of people I know by name and converse with but no true friends. I admit I don't put much effort in making them. Use to when I was younger. I sorta like being me. I hate trying to conform but I honestly like being around people. I just don't like being bothered by some of them. I know it comes off as rude but unless they catch my interest I sorta politely ignore them. I feel like a finicky kid at the dinner table.

What he said.

[wendytwtee]

Haha, love-hate relationships...with my normal friends...yes, it's that way, they drain my reserves with vampiric speed. I have to recharge pretty quickly, the only exception is my best friend. She has the honour of constantly being graced with hours of my companionship. With her, it's like she drains subconciously because I'm that happy around her; I don't actually realize how drained I am until she leaves. Yes, I wither even around people I love, it's like an intrinsic part of my INTJ personality.