[FarmlandTension]

Weird, weird people.

I've been approached by and asked out some pretty creepy people before. But there's also been a couple of really nice guys who've shown subtle interest (I'm not crazy conceited and imagining things, I've had suspicions and had them confirmed by mutual friends).

[leslissocool]

Good guys, like the settle down and love me forever kind of guys. I still talk to most of them, I had few sexual partners. And in those few, not many meaningful relationships. I am really easy going, and not care about having strings attached. More of like "let's see where this goes, no hard feelings" kinda person. Some where really romantic, but most weren't really. The ones that were romantic were all out on it.

I got proposed to a lot. I was also with A LOT of virgins but they didn't tell me until afterwards. Actually, many guys were "too afraid" to ask me out which totally bummed me out, and told me AFTER I got married. Apparently I was very intimidating. The ones that weren't virgins, were 15-16 years older than me. I have severe daddy issues, I find older men irresistible. My husband and I are 15 years apart, and our relationship is great.

I had ONE stalker. My sister gets all the good creepy stalkers! *extremely jealous*.

[wolfyx]

Smart, introverted (or extroverted), intuitive girls who want somebody who can understand them. They may also want the challenge of handling a mostly unconventional and complicated guy. When I stop hiding behind my social mask most girls just run away, but some of the N types are intrigued and want to find out more… Classical INTP story?

[Samoan Corleone]

Females with plenty of emotional baggage. Initially they're nice enough, but then they talk about how their parents let them down, or how they constantly have dreams of dying and wake up in cold sweats, or how they composed an emo poem about "being the closed book no one wants to open" (verbatim), or needing me to comment approvingly on social networking pictures of them with hardly anything on, and shit like that. I am sympathetic, but I can't be in a relationship with them.

My first girlfriend was comparatively well-adjusted, but she probably would've turned out like the others given some time, and given my luck.

Where all da sane chicks at?!

[The Dan Keizer]

My girlfriend is sort of a talkative type with an amazing booty.

[wolfyx]

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Females with plenty of emotional baggage. Initially they're nice enough, but then they talk about how their parents let them down, or how they constantly have dreams of dying and wake up in cold sweats, or how they composed an emo poem about "being the closed book no one wants to open" (verbatim), or needing me to comment approvingly on social networking pictures of them with hardly anything on, and shit like that. I am sympathetic, but I can't be in a relationship with them. My first girlfriend was comparatively well-adjusted, but she probably would've turned out like the others given some time, and given my luck. Where all da sane chicks at?!

Same for me. I have been very "in love" at one point with a completely messed up genius girl. Bipolar personality disorder, bulimic, alcoholic, sociopathic, that has spent all her adolescence reading tons of books. She was also writing poetry and was also a math Olympic. I invested myself in that relationship and I tried to help her. The whole campus was laughing behind my back because she was making scenes and everybody considered her crazy. I just didn't care for, until I realize that that girl cannot care for anyone. I break up with her but still wanted to protect her afterwards.

She dropped out of the engineering university because of her messed up lifestyle but she finished a pure math university then a Sommelier (wine tasting) school. Now she is one of the best sommeliers in the world, youngest winner of the sommelier world contest and she is making tons of money. I would have imagined her becoming a total wreck but I guess there is a place for "special" people in this world...

[FarmlandTension]

	Originally Posted by Samoan Corleone To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	Where all da sane chicks at?!

Depends on your definition of sane.

[Mohammad]

I've been approached by models, fat girls, tall girls, liberal girls, conservative girls, etc. There appears to be no predictable pattern.

[samsmi]

I am usually approached by emotionally weaker people, they appear to be attracted to my strong personality with which they see as a crutch to hold them up too. I have my own vulnerabilities which they don't appear to handle.

[SilasGTBronte]

To be honest I never had anyone that I am attractive to them. The farthest anyone has told me that I am attractive in any way is that I am OK in looks or just young-looking for my age. I am almost 29, but I look about 20 or 21.

[DSCH]

If I knew that I wouldn't be here. jk

Real answer:
Girls that are way too extroverted for my tastes.

[stopwinking]

Weaker people, either by their own assessment or others'...the two types are usually one-and-the-same, of course,chicken-or-the-egg as to which comes first ( the public perception or the person's interior assessment).

As someone else posted and as some other on forum have commiserated with me before, it seems these people hone in on me, sometimes it's 'cause they want a 'mommy' but sometimes it's predatory because I am quiet and calm.The first or so slightest impassioned diatribe usually scares them off, though.

I seem to be attracted to the even-keel people who I end up discovering are the 'golden child' everyone likes/admires. Then my passion is squelched, I say to myself " Oh, they're just magnanimous and a good person and I recognized that. We don't have a special connection." Plus, as another person pointed out on this thread, the magnanimous people are usually very out-going and social which is a disconnect for me....then,there are the cynical self -haters who tell themselves it's 'World-hater' and yes, I can often be one of these....the self-haters,the 'weak' people are too introverted for me.

[wolfyx]

	Originally Posted by stopwinking To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	Weaker people, either by their own assessment or others'...the two types are usually one-and-the-same, of course,chicken-or-the-egg as to which comes first ( the public perception or the person's interior assessment).

Who are the “weak people”? Those who show themselves vulnerable? Those who don’t have the “Alpha male attitude”? Who are not extroverted?

I ask because I know that I can very easily be perceived as weak and quiet. I may also come off as vulnerable because I don’t mind spilling my feelings to strangers. But I don’t consider myself a weak person and I have quite a sane introverted confidence.

Do I really need violent emotional outbursts in social circumstances to erase the impression of weakness? I ask because I had girls being attracted to me after I break a door or something equally crazy. You think quiet, introverted strength cannot be communicated otherwise?

	As someone else posted and as some other on forum have commiserated with me before, it seems these people hone in on me, sometimes it's 'cause they want a 'mommy' but sometimes it's predatory because I am quiet and calm.The first or so slightest impassioned diatribe usually scares them off, though.

Good. Let the diatribe test flow because I can play that kind of game..

I seem to be attracted to the even-keel people who I end up discovering are the 'golden child' everyone likes/admires. Then my passion is squelched, I say to myself " Oh, they're just magnanimous and a good person and I recognized that. We don't have a special connection." Plus, as another person pointed out on this thread, the magnanimous people are usually very out-going and social which is a disconnect for me....then,there are the cynical self -haters who tell themselves it's 'World-hater' and yes, I can often be one of these....the self-haters,the 'weak' people are too introverted for me.

In one word you are attracted to Extroverts. Nothing extraordinary… An extrovert is draining for an introvert. I cannot be in a LTR with them, but I can “play their fun game” for a short time. I think what we call connection is when two people are communicating at the same level of reasoning and are speaking the same emotional language. I discovered the pattern that I will have a much stronger connection with Intuitive because they have the ability to “get me”. The other functions are irrelenvant…

[Apex]

I get a lot of EXFX girls, who find me mysterious and think that I am someone they can "find emotional stability in." Basically I get those girls who have a lot of emotional baggage, I get a lot of dancers (ballet dancer, I when to a Visual and Performing Arts School).

[thehuman]

I think the opposite of my type of women are attracted to me because these are the ones that I don't put on a pedestal. I'm relaxed and could care less when interact with them.

[Brambleshire]

Seems to be way too many needy and emotionally unstable girls with no direction. That, and younger girls. It seems like the younger they are, the more likely they are to be into me. I'll occasionally get hit on by a older girl, but I dont think they actually "like" me.

[ectopic]

All kinds of people; no characteristic really stands out. I can't say I've ever attracted a deliberately brutal person, though.

[JonLum]

I think every kind that's around my height or shorter except white girls with black or red hair. Yr. or two younger ones have been more attractive. My age or yr. older.. weight issues enter the picture.. Being an relatively small Chinaman, can't handle that much.

I don't think I can generalize the type of women that end up showing attraction, but the general scenario usually involves them approaching me or showing interest during a period of my life when I'm feeling good about myself.

[MechanicalSun]

People with good taste and common sense
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... and psychologists lol

[stopwinking]

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	I think the opposite of my type of women are attracted to me because these are the ones that I don't put on a pedestal. I'm relaxed and could care less when interact with them.

I have long theorized the same thing- that the more I feel opposite to someone ,sometimes to the point of an aversion- the more likely they will pursue me.

I've tried a lot of different techniques, trying to focus on learning my unconscious cues and over-compensating for my dislike,but,as with anyone else,of any MBTI or 'type' really,when I do not carefully navigate these very specific types I attract and their very individual subjective interaction, then they*swoop* and, at least the ones I attract, are hard to shake off.

I've gotten better over the years at maintaining an awareness of them and their awareness and misinterpretations of my actions and mannerisms.I can pretty much get them out of my immediate Life but they hover...the kind I attract.

A reader may ask " Well, how are you so aware of them if you do not want to attract them?"

Dunno! I am aware of all the pseudo-intellectual citations you could give me.

It's just the type I attract and there is a common thread, whether they are a jock or a homeless man,a lesbian or an older businessman. The common thread seems to be that they are often 'weak' within their group and/or within their own heads.
It's just a symptom of a cause.
There are many posts on INTJ forum and on the net' about the inescapability of gender and sexual 'type' either genetically or sociologically or pathologically.

It is not surprising or wacky to note that a type attracts a type.

We all have things we feel are weak or unsuccessful about ourselves but for my 'type' they are preoccupied with this inferiority complex.
My types I attract also seem to be people who, in their understanding of the world, seem to have a fine line between feeling bullied and bullying;a fine line between feeling superior and feeling looked down on.
It is as if they feel that one of us has to be the dominant a**hole and if I do not play along with their asininity or prove as weak as they need me to be, they decide I must be perceived as playing the role of 'withholding mommy' 'nurturing disciplinarian' 'ice queen'.

It's just another aspect of Life in another arena in which I hate socializing... the decided rules and norms,imposed upon 'me' as the outsider's definition of 'me'.

[LiamN]

Beautiful + Crazy. They go hand in hand for me. Each and every one of them. I don't know why I ever think its going to be different the next time.

I've given up though... So I don't have to worry about the crazy women anymore, nor any physical interaction. Now I just need to find a reason to go on with my life. haha

[zeroemission]

desperate clingy fatal attraction nutjobs, S&M porn stars and bisexual nymphos that want to bear my child in an open marriage

[HAL 9000]

ESFJ's who don't really know what the hell they want.

[AliceFoster]

People who look up to me/idolize me (their image of who I am) in some way, shape or form.
Coincidentally, the easiest way to make you unattractive in my eyes is to place yourself beneath me.

[Yuri]

All kinds of boys... and girls
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- mostly due to oscillating
self-image. Sometimes I look like a party girl, the next day I'm a hippie,
the third day I'm in skull-prints, the forth day I fashion a conservative A-line dress.
I therefore attract people from all over the spectrum.

Don't get me started on the Japanese fetishists.