[Tori]

Hi. My name is Victoria. I'm another new girl on this site I suppose. Sadly, this is the first forum I have ever joined on the internet. I just wanted to mention that for everyone to know in case it becomes very obvious I am a newbie. I do not really know what else to say except that, from what I have read, most of you seem really cool. I can relate to you.

My reason for joining this forum is because recently I have noticed a growing tension with acquaintances and friends. I have known of my INTJ status for about four years now but I never really understood the issues that could arise from it in relationships. To make matters more complicated, my upbringing seems to be contributing to my "weirdness". I have three brothers (no sisters), incredibly overprotective Hispanic parents with no real lives, and was raised by an emotional mother and a judgmental/arrogant father who is antisocial.

In general I am hard to figure out, come off as cold or arrogant at times, and confuse people with my behavior. What bothers me the most is that they attach motives/intent to my action that are completely false. So I came here to see if maybe I could get some insight on why I do what I do and how to manage relationships better. The only one that seems to be going great is the one with my boyfriend of about two years and a few other good friends.

Hope everyone has a good day and I look forward to possibly meeting you on here. I really need to remember to log on often.

Bye.

[JC22]

Welcome.

	Originally Posted by Tori
	most of you seem really cool.

but who is the coolest?

[24601]

Welcome! I'm the only girl in my family, too.

[Cooper]

Welcome to the Alley....

[Tori]

	Originally Posted by JC22
	Welcome. but who is the coolest?

Apparently you for asking. :] No, actually, everyone whose thread I have read seems pretty cool. You all are interesting.

[Yuri]

Hi

[linstiks]

Welcome. I have three brothers and my parents were overprotective growing up also!

[Tori]

	Originally Posted by linstiks
	Welcome. I have three brothers and my parents were overprotective growing up also!

Very interesting coincidence. My brother is always saying I am how I am partly because I had no sisters growing up. I have never met someone with a similar childhood. Did you ever have a longing for a sister while growing up?

[linstiks]

When I was real young. But I outgrew it. Often you hear about sisters not getting along well growing up. (Or at least, I can recall some of my childhood friends complain about theirs) But I always admired my brothers. And often wondered if having only brothers influenced who I am. Everyone's personalities are based off of inherited and environmental factors so I suppose it makes sense.

[The Dan Keizer]

Wazzup

[JohnBGood]

	Originally Posted by Tori
	Hi. My name is Victoria. I'm another new girl on this site I suppose. Sadly, this is the first forum I have ever joined on the internet.

Welcome, Victoria

Originally Posted by Tori

In general I am hard to figure out, come off as cold or arrogant at times, and confuse people with my behavior. What bothers me the most is that they attach motives/intent to my action that are completely false. So I came here to see if maybe I could get some insight on why I do what I do and how to manage relationships better. The only one that seems to be going great is the one with my boyfriend of about two years and a few other good friends.

I've gotten that feedback, too. I'm really not sure if "insight" per se really helps the situation, you have to change the fundamentals of who you are, and that's hard. My suggestion is to just be as clear as possible, as often as possible, and to ask for people you want to relate to to reflect their understanding(s) back to you. We INTJs know what we know, we know we're right, and how come everyone else doesn't see it the way we do?

Congrats on the LTR, we ain't the easiest type to connect with, but loyalty is a long suit, so he's lucky to have you.

[Bevan]

Welcome! It's my first time with an online forum too. The intensity level here is mosh pit. If you enjoy chemical refreshment have at least one before you log in. You have given me another piece of my own puzzle: confusing people with my behaviour. It all makes perfect sense to me. Go figure. You can't really be cool on INTJf. You can't be anything in particular. Keep moving.

[Social Torture]

Don't be so self-conscious. They let me stick around.

[reactivates stealth camouflage] Yeah, I wish.

[deconspire]

Your flattery is most acceptable, lady.

Welcome!