[Lilie]

	Originally Posted by Still Standing To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	^Right. Adult attachment has more to do with commitment than with sex. My own attachment style is fearful-avoidant and I am not asexual.

Changing my attachment style (from dismissing avoidant to secure) was a necessary prerequisite to sexual attraction for me. I still don't have an overly high sex drive though. If demisexual is an option in a poll I take it.

[Silverity]

	Originally Posted by SilasGTBronte To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	There was a point in my life when I did identify myself as asexual, but now I think I am just heterosexual with a low sex drive.

I'm the same.. was asexual for about 6-7 years and am out of that phase now though.. even though I'm sexually active I don't actually derive much pleasure from it, I'm just not interested in sex I guess, I lose focus, start thinking of other things. I enjoy the intimate connection and am sexually attracted to intelligence, but I think it's more the idea of sex than the sex itself. Maybe I'm still working my way out of being asexual. Who knows. Who cares ^^; I don't think I'm hetero or anything... I like the term sapiosexual as it leaves attraction to physical bodies and genders behind. If I could have mind to mind sex I think it'd be explosively amazing. Body to body sex is meh to me. I've never understood the hype, but that applies to most sensory activities.

[deconspire]

eating, shitting, and sex are the 3 things that make me feel more animal than human. I feel asexual at times, but that may not be accurate as I can feel sexual attraction. It can make me very uncomfortable though. Not really sure why.

[drgringo]

Originally Posted by Silverity To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.

I'm the same.. was asexual for about 6-7 years and am out of that phase now though.. even though I'm sexually active I don't actually derive much pleasure from it, I'm just not interested in sex I guess, I lose focus, start thinking of other things. I enjoy the intimate connection and am sexually attracted to intelligence, but I think it's more the idea of sex than the sex itself. Maybe I'm still working my way out of being asexual. Who knows. Who cares ^^; I don't think I'm hetero or anything... I like the term sapiosexual as it leaves attraction to physical bodies and genders behind. If I could have mind to mind sex I think it'd be explosively amazing. Body to body sex is meh to me. I've never understood the hype, but that applies to most sensory activities.

LOL mental sex. and

i do belive , that low testorone is what drive to have low sex drive, . for women, sexual desire is kind of mistery to me, i dont understand a woman mind, so i dont go to tthat realm .

"Testosterone

Another biological trait with widespread ramifications for human personality and behavior is testosterone level, or T. Most notably, T has an effect on several sexual traits; for instance T levels correspond with penis size, muscle growth, and sexual energy, and high amounts encourage earlier puberty. All of these things in turn have powerful psychological ramifications, some better known than others. (Girls seem to adjust better when they go through puberty later, while boys adjust better if they go through puberty earlier.)"

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"T has a variety of other effects, however. T is associated with energy, dominance, persistence, combativeness, and focused attention, and this is manifested in a variety of ways:

In college fraternities, those in which the average T is low are more friendly, pleasant, and well-behaved, and high T fraternities are more wild, unruly, and rambunctious.

There is a positive relationship between T and delinquency.

T is responsible for masculinizing the human face - thus just as g is slightly visible to the naked eye via head size, T is apparent by the size of a person's jaw, cheekbones, and eyebrows.

Boys who are high in T tend to be moodier and less securely attached than their compatriots.

High T levels were associated with lower pitch among males, but not females.

Low T women reported more violence when drinking alcohol than high T women did.

T makes a person less prone to smile.

T gives a person a larger "personal space bubble," meaning that high T individuals prefer to stand or sit farther away from people they are talking to

Members of the upper class tend to be lower on T than members of the lower class.

T relates to visuo-spatial ability, making a person better at driving or reading maps.

T has a well known association with aggression; Among prison inmates, those high in
testosterone had committed more violent crimes and fewer property crimes than those low in testosterone, and they violated more prison rules. Among homicides, high T inmates were more likely to have known their victims and used gratuitous violence on them. Even individuals with high T and no history of aggression tend to be found in “aggressive” jobs and professions at the higher levels. (Also, animals who are the most violent show same pattern; for instance Pit bulls and other “violent” dogs show the highest levels of T ever recorded for their weight.)

T relates to E. (Curiously, Estrogen has the same effect - women score higher on Extroversion after being given estrogen.) T also has an inverse relationship with A and probably also with C, and N, which helps explain why women differ on these levels from men, since women have about 90% less T.

T decreases with age and with marriage (which may explain why A and C rise with age).
Higher levels of T are associated with lower levels of VB.

Different ethnic groups also have different average T; it has been found that blacks have more testosterone than whites (by around 10%), who in turn have more testosterone than East Asians."

[Chaotic Enigma]

	Originally Posted by mosfet To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	To answer your question, I always look forward to sleep well which is the most relaxing. I build a relaxing environment in my home/dorm/flat so I can feel comfortable every morning. I try not to drink coffee on weekends, just tea. And at last but not least, I try to enjoy it.

Then nop, it's not the same. I'm one of those people who naturally has loads of energy to spare, so coffee doesn't really effect me...or at least I don't seem to notice. And, fortunately, as soon as I hit the pillow I fall asleep. So I don't have sleeping problems.

	Originally Posted by mosfet To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	Edit: A hardon and good feelings in the crotch are NOT the same. 2ndEdit: If I don't feel attracted to a person in the first instance I usually try again later by using a different perspective. And no, not horizontal!

1)I don't know what the difference is since I'm not a guy. I thought good feeling were related to a guys hardon or whatever.

2)We're appreciating the irony! It wasn't bad :P

	Originally Posted by mosfet To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	Well, actually I assumed that libido and attraction to others are not the same. Libido I think is a state of the body, attraction to people is a state of mind. If both are somehow disconnected, well, dunno? Sure there is much more to that, but actually I think there is not.

I think I agree, more or less. But my "problem" is that for me libido is very strongly linked to the attraction for somebody. Actually, for me, libido is directly proportional to attraction. Or well, the pleasure I can get out of it is directly proportional to the attraction towards a person.

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	Originally Posted by Arcanist To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	Yes, that's mainly it. I really don't find anyone sexually attractive nor do I want to share a sexual experience with anyone but I still masturbate from time to time. Typically, when I do that I don't really think of anything in particular.

Hmm..Have you ever been in love or felt very deep feelings for someone? I mean, have you ever felt something for someone that you never felt for anybody else?
..Because I usually only feel real sexual attraction for and want to share a sexual experience only with someone who I am in love with.(And that has happened two times in my 23 year long life. I mean to be in love, not to have had a sexual experience!) It's actually very frustrating for me to have to deal with my body and the libido that naturally occurs when my mind is not synchronized and I don't feel anything special for anybody. In those cases, which are most of life's moments, self satisfaction is not satisfying at all, exactly because I don't have anything or anyone to think of in particular. It's just the body demanding something that the mind can't imagine.

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Originally Posted by Silverity To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.

I'm the same.. was asexual for about 6-7 years and am out of that phase now though.. even though I'm sexually active I don't actually derive much pleasure from it, I'm just not interested in sex I guess, I lose focus, start thinking of other things. I enjoy the intimate connection and am sexually attracted to intelligence, but I think it's more the idea of sex than the sex itself. Maybe I'm still working my way out of being asexual. Who knows. Who cares ^^; I don't think I'm hetero or anything... I like the term sapiosexual as it leaves attraction to physical bodies and genders behind. If I could have mind to mind sex I think it'd be explosively amazing. Body to body sex is meh to me. I've never understood the hype, but that applies to most sensory activities.

Reading this was quite interesting. I think you and I could be placed on the antipodes of the sexual universe! : You seem to strictly divide mind from body, whilst I couldn't separate them even if I wanted to.

But I was wondering: Do you think that physical sex is meh for you because imagination, so the idea, is always better than the real thing? Are we not just deceiving ourselves by imagining and therefore expecting something that is not possible in reality?? ...I admit, this is my greatest fear.