Best sex you ever had?

**changos** · 07-09-2012, 10:00 AM

Many threads get lost tyring to figuring out what was wrong on something nodoby has information about, many times not even the OP having the clues, so instead of trying to solve something we actually can't, why not talking about other mysterious things but actually positive???

By now I will only talk about two almost opposite experiences:

1. The woman I wanted as a wife... we both had sexual experience but together... it was like a bomb. Every encounter was amazing, not only the intensity but the quality, besides, 10 out of 10 encounters were great. We had many things in common and loved each other a lot. Great sex. We went diff ways and years later got together and tried, the magic was still there... no clue on what made that work, maybe the love, maybe the emotional compatibilty, maybe some physical compatibility, maybe everything.

2. An open relationship, we are like water and oil, not compatible and (sorry but I will be honest) the more I knew about her the more dumb she appeared tome (she even accepted being dumb and clumsy) no future for a relationship, her conversation was boring, pretty much making the same mistakes over and over. Very strange for an intj to stay near somebody we think is stupid or dumb... There was no compatibility, many things never worked together, even as friends!!!!!! But in bed... wow... a bomb!!!!! we ended up in the middle of huge fights because of her irresponsibility and I want nothing with their, but sometimes we walk near each other and we can notice our eyes wanting to eat each other... shame on us!!!!!

I find no relation between these two extremes, that's why I choosed to share a bit.

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Talk about relationships
One night stands
Marriage
Love relationships
Friendships???
Open relationships
FWB (Friends with benefits)
etc... shoot!!!

**JC22** · 07-09-2012, 10:09 AM

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**24601** · 07-09-2012, 10:13 AM

The love of my life was 20 years older, a musician, and radically different. He was beautiful, though. He was deeply emotional and sensitive, and it definitely came through. He was absolutely gorgeous, good body of a cyclist, masculine but kind face.

The relationship didn't work because it was so hard for me to expose myself emotionally, and by the time I did, someone closer to his age (jealous, bitter woman) had poisoned him against me. Ugh.

**LadySpock** · 07-09-2012, 11:13 AM

Originally Posted by 24601
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The love of my life was 20 years older, a musician, and radically different. He was beautiful, though. He was deeply emotional and sensitive, and it definitely came through. He was absolutely gorgeous, good body of a cyclist, masculine but kind face.

The relationship didn't work because it was so hard for me to expose myself emotionally, and by the time I did, someone closer to his age (jealous, bitter woman) had poisoned him against me. Ugh.

Yes, those older women are usually bitter and jealous.

Hopefully this will not happen to you as you age
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It's amazing though... How was he so EASILY manipulated by that older bitch...

**WhirlsTwirls** · 07-09-2012, 12:27 PM

Some years ago, I met this girl who, together with her family, was staying at one of my parents' house. A tall, beautiful brunette. We started going on long walks every night, enjoying the cool summer nights, talking about this and that. We were definitely quite different, though I think she may have been an introvert also.

Anyhow, at that point, I'd never even kissed a girl. Love? Completely oblivious to it. But all I could think of every day was the late hour that we would go out on another long walk. By fields, through woods, to the beach.

Then, on a bench by thick oak trees and glowing moonlight, she takes my hand. I start shaking. Not the uncomfortable or cold kind of tremble, but a different kind. A new kind that wants more, more, more. Then she takes my hand. It feels good. I'm shaking, but I want more. I hesitate, but then I move my head to face her. Her scent is sweet and intoxicating. Unthinkingly, I pursue her lips, and before I know it, her tongue slips into my mouth.

It went on like that for a few more days. There would be a slow build-up for an hour or so as we go through empty streets and whatnot. Then we would find a place to sit, and it would begin. A bit of kissing. Some touching. Slipping my hand in under her bra, or panties. She was like heroin to me. All I could ever want or need. It was easily the best week of my life, the only time of my life where the prospect of death didn't frighten me one bit. Then one day, she's gone, and I'd never see her again.

If you've read this far, you might be disappointed that there was no real sex. So why did I bring this up, then?

Here's another story: about a year later, I found myself in a hotel room, in a different country, with a completely different girl. Not attractive to me at all (I'm purposefully omitting how I got into this situation in the first place). Sex? All I want, whenever I want. And I do want, but everything about the entire situation is terrible. I can't finish. I feel guilty, completely out of place. I'm miserable, but she clings to me.

The best sex I have ever had wasn't sex at all. Isn't that fucked up?

**24601** · 07-09-2012, 12:46 PM

	Originally Posted by LadySpock To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	Yes, those older women are usually bitter and jealous. Hopefully this will not happen to you as you age To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts. It's amazing though... How was he so EASILY manipulated by that older bitch...

It's already been a good long time ago, hunty.
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Do I get my "old bitch badge" yet? No?

It was a combination of what I didn't do and her picking up the slack, but she used the whole schtick of, "Oh, she's young and she doesn't know what she wants," for a year. Combine that with acts I'm less open to, and a lot of people will fall for it.

**katatonic** · 07-09-2012, 12:49 PM

Mine was with someone I had no emotional attachment to. He had no emotions towards me either. We both just wanted sex. No kissing, no hand holding, no romance. Just straight sex.

**The Dan Keizer** · 07-09-2012, 12:52 PM

I don't think I have ever dated somebody that was really like me. I don't think I could say I had the best sex with one particular person.

**Causa Mortis** · 07-09-2012, 12:53 PM

Mine was with a crazy and crazy hot ENFP. It was cosmically good sex. It was in a relationship.

**Jill Hives** · 07-09-2012, 01:05 PM

None of the sex I have ever had has been super life shattering or amazing. A lot has been good, but not...amazing. Unsurprisingly enough, the good sex always happened with people I had chemistry with or a strong emotional attachment to.

I feel like I have been my own worst enemy in this department. I have a lot of insecurities tied up in sex, so my communication there can be somewhat lacking. I've gotten better over the years, but as soon as I get even a whiff of a shortage of understanding or support, it's back into my shell and it takes a long time to get back to where I was.

**Nightmare** · 07-09-2012, 01:12 PM

No sex I've had has been good. Never been able to finish.

**Distance** · 07-09-2012, 01:22 PM

All relationships since I'm not into casual sex. NTP lovers are the best since they're creative, willing to try different things, unpredictable in the sack and with their Fe, don't push you beyond your own comfort zone.

**SarcasticVlad** · 07-09-2012, 02:08 PM

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Funny, because I'm a left handed virgin.

Dancingqueen · 07-09-2012, 03:12 PM

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	All relationships since I'm not into casual sex. NTP lovers are the best since they're creative, willing to try different things, unpredictable in the sack and with their Fe, don't push you beyond your own comfort zone.

I feel like a broken record, but yeah...this. Plus the ones i've dated have managed to have amazing amounts of "control" without amazing amounts of experience.

**Fishism** · 07-10-2012, 05:32 PM

	Originally Posted by Causa Mortis To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	Mine was with a crazy and crazy hot ENFP. It was cosmically good sex. It was in a relationship.

Me too! Probably the same crazy hot ENFP!! It was also in a relationship, except she didn't play by the rules.

Hate her!! But.....ohh...dear.....lord.....so.....hot...*shiv er*

**catzmeow** · 07-10-2012, 05:46 PM

With my husband. I feel more comfortable and uninhibited with him than I've ever felt with anyone.

**peppersasen** · 07-11-2012, 03:48 AM

Mr. Italiano. Tall, dark, handsome, about 15 years older. Hm.
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Angry at women, but mostly because he's hurt (not in a misogynistic way at all, but he hasn't really recovered). Witty, funny, loved his sense of humor. Not very dark, but definitely naughty. Had an oral fixation (to my benefit). But the sexiest thing about us was our witty banters. It was like a clever screenplay, but it was in real life...

---------- Post added 07-11-2012 at 11:52 AM ----------

I don't know how much in common we had, since he never really opened up to me. He didn't let me close. But he told me he "liked" how I wear less make-up compared to the other local girls he's been with, and how I can "hold a conversation". I don't know if he was just playing along, or if we really agreed with each other. But he liked how we could talk. He did mention how brave/fearless I was to meet him. He literally asked me whether it ever crossed my mind if could be a serial killer. But in the end, he is a gentleman. He walked me to my car...

---------- Post added 07-12-2012 at 05:47 AM ----------

after giving this much thought, i've concluded he was very different from me. he was venturing out of his comfort zone, doing something "crazy and out of the ordinary". all the while, he couldn't stop expressing his bewilderment and fascination at just how "normal" the hook up was to me. he even expressed concern and said warned me if i'm not careful i could get hurt and lectured me about a thing or two. so, yes. different.

**Kryptonite** · 07-12-2012, 12:04 PM

Best sex I have is the next sex I have.... keeps getting better.

**teraczy** · 07-12-2012, 05:27 PM

I'm confused what does it mean by really different or alike? Similar MBTI types? I already voted before I asked though. For me, the best chemistry I've had has been with INT but I don't necessarily see us as similar really. Other than introversion and intuitive thinking styles, I think we had some vast differences in perception.

**wolfyx** · 07-12-2012, 07:25 PM

	Originally Posted by teraczy To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	I'm confused what does it mean by really different or alike? Similar MBTI types? I already voted before I asked though. For me, the best chemistry I've had has been with INT but I don't necessarily see us as similar really. Other than introversion and intuitive thinking styles, I think we had some vast differences in perception.

Why there are so many INTJ women here that say that “the best sex they ever had” or “the best sexual chemistry” was with INTP guys?

I never really thought about it in such terms but I guess it makes sense. Smart girls want a deep thinker guy that can challenge them intellectually but still has enough extroverted feeling to want to please them and to empathize with them at an emotional level.

**Causa Mortis** · 07-12-2012, 07:41 PM

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	Me too! Probably the same crazy hot ENFP!! It was also in a relationship, except she didn't play by the rules. Hate her!! But.....ohh...dear.....lord.....so.....hot...shiv er

I don't hate mine; my emotions simultaneously have the warmest regard for her and want her to get on with her life. I do wish she'd stop the nigh impossible to resist booty calling so I could move on with my life.

**Fishism** · 07-13-2012, 05:08 AM

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	I don't hate mine; my emotions simultaneously have the warmest regard for her and want her to get on with her life. I do wish she'd stop the nigh impossible to resist booty calling so I could move on with my life.

Do you REALLY wish she'd stop booty calling? I mean REALLY? It's addictive like heroin. You know you should give it up because in the big picture your life would improve. But for that hour? Pure bliss.

**Foggers** · 07-13-2012, 06:41 AM

She did the test and got ENTJ. Things ended badly though.

Also every time I've had sex, I've been absolutely shit faced and the vast majority of my lacking experience is a blur of me flopping about. And I've never finished.

So yeah... I don't really know what sex is like but everyone keeps raving about it so it must've been good. My logic is flawless.

**zeroemission** · 07-13-2012, 12:15 PM

i've never really had sex with anyone i'm truly attracted to since discovering passion when a friend of some alleged friends showed me that my nipples weren't merely for decoration. any gal i do feel attraction towards pulls that "you're a nice guy, but..." (you're not a knuckle dragging momma's boy and i think you're a gay wormboy) crap.

20 years ago though, my sister's former high school girlfriend looked me up and we dated briefly and even lived together until she started pushing for an open relationship and decided not to come home one night (with other "warning signs" like, say, sitting in our livingroom in a see through teddy in front of her brother *cringe*) and when i split for a night after an argument i came home to find her and some dude in MY effing bed!

i will say this for her though, she was like an animal in bed and had strong leg muscles.

**changos** · 07-13-2012, 12:29 PM

	Originally Posted by teraczy To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	I'm confused what does it mean by really different or alike? Similar MBTI types? I already voted before I asked though

Well basically I mean different as really different.

Example: some guys are always seen with blondes, others mostly with "nuns", others with hotties, etc. That serves as a strong pattern and makes things less fun.

In my case of course I had / have patterns but there were girls that I would have NEVER dated and still the sex was good, one example is as I posted, one girl I couldn't really stand... but in bed there was this great chemistry. So at the end she was not only REALLY different from the women I like, but also REALLY different from my personality.

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Still a virgin so not really much to share YET...	37	37.00%
Ohhh can't talk about it...	10	10.00%
My best sexual encounters were with people alike	29	29.00%
My best sexual encounters were with people really different!	30	30.00%
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07-09-2012, 10:00 AM	#1
changos Member [48%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Apr 2008 Posts: 1,944	Many threads get lost tyring to figuring out what was wrong on something nodoby has information about, many times not even the OP having the clues, so instead of trying to solve something we actually can't, why not talking about other mysterious things but actually positive??? By now I will only talk about two almost opposite experiences: 1. The woman I wanted as a wife... we both had sexual experience but together... it was like a bomb. Every encounter was amazing, not only the intensity but the quality, besides, 10 out of 10 encounters were great. We had many things in common and loved each other a lot. Great sex. We went diff ways and years later got together and tried, the magic was still there... no clue on what made that work, maybe the love, maybe the emotional compatibilty, maybe some physical compatibility, maybe everything. 2. An open relationship, we are like water and oil, not compatible and (sorry but I will be honest) the more I knew about her the more dumb she appeared tome (she even accepted being dumb and clumsy) no future for a relationship, her conversation was boring, pretty much making the same mistakes over and over. Very strange for an intj to stay near somebody we think is stupid or dumb... There was no compatibility, many things never worked together, even as friends!!!!!! But in bed... wow... a bomb!!!!! we ended up in the middle of huge fights because of her irresponsibility and I want nothing with their, but sometimes we walk near each other and we can notice our eyes wanting to eat each other... shame on us!!!!! I find no relation between these two extremes, that's why I choosed to share a bit. - - - - - - - Talk about relationships One night stands Marriage Love relationships Friendships??? Open relationships FWB (Friends with benefits) etc... shoot!!!
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07-09-2012, 10:09 AM	#2
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07-09-2012, 10:13 AM	#3
24601 Member [48%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Jul 2012 Posts: 1,932	The love of my life was 20 years older, a musician, and radically different. He was beautiful, though. He was deeply emotional and sensitive, and it definitely came through. He was absolutely gorgeous, good body of a cyclist, masculine but kind face. The relationship didn't work because it was so hard for me to expose myself emotionally, and by the time I did, someone closer to his age (jealous, bitter woman) had poisoned him against me. Ugh.
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07-09-2012, 12:27 PM	#5
WhirlsTwirls Member [03%] MBTI: INTj Join Date: Oct 2011 Posts: 152	Some years ago, I met this girl who, together with her family, was staying at one of my parents' house. A tall, beautiful brunette. We started going on long walks every night, enjoying the cool summer nights, talking about this and that. We were definitely quite different, though I think she may have been an introvert also. Anyhow, at that point, I'd never even kissed a girl. Love? Completely oblivious to it. But all I could think of every day was the late hour that we would go out on another long walk. By fields, through woods, to the beach. Then, on a bench by thick oak trees and glowing moonlight, she takes my hand. I start shaking. Not the uncomfortable or cold kind of tremble, but a different kind. A new kind that wants more, more, more. Then she takes my hand. It feels good. I'm shaking, but I want more. I hesitate, but then I move my head to face her. Her scent is sweet and intoxicating. Unthinkingly, I pursue her lips, and before I know it, her tongue slips into my mouth. It went on like that for a few more days. There would be a slow build-up for an hour or so as we go through empty streets and whatnot. Then we would find a place to sit, and it would begin. A bit of kissing. Some touching. Slipping my hand in under her bra, or panties. She was like heroin to me. All I could ever want or need. It was easily the best week of my life, the only time of my life where the prospect of death didn't frighten me one bit. Then one day, she's gone, and I'd never see her again. If you've read this far, you might be disappointed that there was no real sex. So why did I bring this up, then? Here's another story: about a year later, I found myself in a hotel room, in a different country, with a completely different girl. Not attractive to me at all (I'm purposefully omitting how I got into this situation in the first place). Sex? All I want, whenever I want. And I do want, but everything about the entire situation is terrible. I can't finish. I feel guilty, completely out of place. I'm miserable, but she clings to me. The best sex I have ever had wasn't sex at all. Isn't that fucked up?
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07-09-2012, 12:49 PM	#7
katatonic Member [26%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Jul 2012 Posts: 1,043	Mine was with someone I had no emotional attachment to. He had no emotions towards me either. We both just wanted sex. No kissing, no hand holding, no romance. Just straight sex.
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07-09-2012, 12:52 PM	#8
The Dan Keizer Core Member [115%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Jun 2012 Posts: 4,613	I don't think I have ever dated somebody that was really like me. I don't think I could say I had the best sex with one particular person.
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07-09-2012, 12:53 PM	#9
Causa Mortis Core Member [118%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Aug 2009 Posts: 4,746	Mine was with a crazy and crazy hot ENFP. It was cosmically good sex. It was in a relationship.
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07-09-2012, 01:05 PM	#10
Jill Hives New Member [01%] MBTI: INxx Join Date: Jun 2012 Posts: 74	None of the sex I have ever had has been super life shattering or amazing. A lot has been good, but not...amazing. Unsurprisingly enough, the good sex always happened with people I had chemistry with or a strong emotional attachment to. I feel like I have been my own worst enemy in this department. I have a lot of insecurities tied up in sex, so my communication there can be somewhat lacking. I've gotten better over the years, but as soon as I get even a whiff of a shortage of understanding or support, it's back into my shell and it takes a long time to get back to where I was.
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07-09-2012, 01:12 PM	#11
Nightmare Member [29%] MBTI: INFP Join Date: Jan 2012 Posts: 1,184	No sex I've had has been good. Never been able to finish.
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07-09-2012, 01:22 PM	#12
Distance Core Member [418%] MBTI: eNTj Join Date: Apr 2010 Posts: 16,735	All relationships since I'm not into casual sex. NTP lovers are the best since they're creative, willing to try different things, unpredictable in the sack and with their Fe, don't push you beyond your own comfort zone.
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07-10-2012, 05:46 PM	#16
catzmeow Core Member [148%] MBTI: ENFP Join Date: Jul 2009 Posts: 5,949	With my husband. I feel more comfortable and uninhibited with him than I've ever felt with anyone.
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07-11-2012, 03:48 AM	#17
peppersasen Veteran Member [63%] MBTI: INxx Join Date: Feb 2011 Posts: 2,555	Mr. Italiano. Tall, dark, handsome, about 15 years older. Hm. To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts. Angry at women, but mostly because he's hurt (not in a misogynistic way at all, but he hasn't really recovered). Witty, funny, loved his sense of humor. Not very dark, but definitely naughty. Had an oral fixation (to my benefit). But the sexiest thing about us was our witty banters. It was like a clever screenplay, but it was in real life... ---------- Post added 07-11-2012 at 11:52 AM ---------- I don't know how much in common we had, since he never really opened up to me. He didn't let me close. But he told me he "liked" how I wear less make-up compared to the other local girls he's been with, and how I can "hold a conversation". I don't know if he was just playing along, or if we really agreed with each other. But he liked how we could talk. He did mention how brave/fearless I was to meet him. He literally asked me whether it ever crossed my mind if could be a serial killer. But in the end, he is a gentleman. He walked me to my car... ---------- Post added 07-12-2012 at 05:47 AM ---------- after giving this much thought, i've concluded he was very different from me. he was venturing out of his comfort zone, doing something "crazy and out of the ordinary". all the while, he couldn't stop expressing his bewilderment and fascination at just how "normal" the hook up was to me. he even expressed concern and said warned me if i'm not careful i could get hurt and lectured me about a thing or two. so, yes. different.
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07-12-2012, 12:04 PM	#18
Kryptonite Member [05%] MBTI: INtP Join Date: May 2012 Posts: 212	Best sex I have is the next sex I have.... keeps getting better.
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07-12-2012, 05:27 PM	#19
teraczy Member [26%] MBTI: iNTJ Join Date: Jul 2011 Posts: 1,063	I'm confused what does it mean by really different or alike? Similar MBTI types? I already voted before I asked though. For me, the best chemistry I've had has been with INT but I don't necessarily see us as similar really. Other than introversion and intuitive thinking styles, I think we had some vast differences in perception.
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07-13-2012, 06:41 AM	#23
Foggers Member [03%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: May 2011 Posts: 133	She did the test and got ENTJ. Things ended badly though. Also every time I've had sex, I've been absolutely shit faced and the vast majority of my lacking experience is a blur of me flopping about. And I've never finished. So yeah... I don't really know what sex is like but everyone keeps raving about it so it must've been good. My logic is flawless.
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07-13-2012, 12:15 PM	#24
zeroemission Core Member [128%] MBTI: intj Join Date: Feb 2012 Posts: 5,136	i've never really had sex with anyone i'm truly attracted to since discovering passion when a friend of some alleged friends showed me that my nipples weren't merely for decoration. any gal i do feel attraction towards pulls that "you're a nice guy, but..." (you're not a knuckle dragging momma's boy and i think you're a gay wormboy) crap. 20 years ago though, my sister's former high school girlfriend looked me up and we dated briefly and even lived together until she started pushing for an open relationship and decided not to come home one night (with other "warning signs" like, say, sitting in our livingroom in a see through teddy in front of her brother cringe) and when i split for a night after an argument i came home to find her and some dude in MY effing bed! i will say this for her though, she was like an animal in bed and had strong leg muscles.
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