[Samoan Corleone]

Within my own family, there's a big one planned next year in the old country to commemorate my granddad who died earlier this year, where we'll meet the wider family, not just those who live here in New Zealand (we see enough of each other anyway
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). Personally, I'm pretty excited, and granddad, a man I had the utmost love and respect for, was always big on family, so he'd have wanted a gathering of this nature.

So, what do the rest of INTJf think of family reunions? Exciting? Daunting? Draining?

[iWonder]

I just actually saw most of my family in Poland for the first time in 16 years last week. I really enjoyed the experience, and I sort of wish I could see them more often. It was a bit tiring being the center of attention, but like I said I enjoyed seeing them all.

[Majom]

I like family reunions however my extended family is very small so they tend to be fairly quiet intimate affairs.

[awalkingcliche]

My family: loud, obnoxious, opinionated southern folk who are still upset over the Civil War.

So, yes, family reunions are very draining to me. I still enjoy them, but I can only take it in small doses. They're full of fun and games, and the occasional beer-pong tournament. The food IS good. I go for the food xD

How would you describe your family?

[Warrior]

I like family reunions. I like to see family members that I have not seen in (sometimes) years and catch up with them. Our reunions are usually just an afternoon thing, so it isn't so much that you get tired of anyone.

Unfortunately, I live half a country away from just about every other family member, so it is difficult for me to get home on relatively short notice. I have not been to a reunion in over five years.

[DKnife]

Our family has a major reunion coming up on October and I'm really wasn't looking forward to it, fortunately my Dad read a copy of "Please Understand Me II" and has thankfully advised people that I'm "working". I am actually taking some time off at the same time, but I'll be spending it alone :-)

[Autumnleaf]

I like them. I catch up with people and go home tired with much to think about. Something about talking with family makes it easier to process than with strangers. I don't know if its a communication thing or an intuition thing or something else.

[stealthfighter]

I'm into it. I have a good relationship with most of my cousins and we haven't been together for quite some time. We did a lot of great things together when we were young and I have always looked forward to family reunions since then.

[omega2]

I don't like it very much, but it's certainly much easier to feel comfortable around family than strangers, so it's not a horrible experience. Very few of my family members share anything in common with me.

My favorite family members are my Uncle (who is intelligent and into politics and electronics like me) and my Grandpa (because he is funny, laid back, and tells interesting stories about his experiences in WWII).

[zibber]

Love the O'Jays song, motherfucking hate the actual thing.

[holdyourhead]

Never experienced, but I imagine I wouldn't be at complete ease as it's intended to be a strictly social exercise, right?

All of my immediate family live pretty close so I see them anything from infrequently to frequently anyway, and the rest of my family I'm mildly familiar with mostly live on the other side of the country, not far off 200 miles away. I haven't seen most of them in well over 10 years though.
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I was still a child when I last saw or spoke or had any interaction with any of them, so I can't imagine I'd have an instant connection or rapport with anyone now.

[JYFly]

I don't have much in common with my family. Both sides are pretty lower class and are highly religious, i.e. they're your typical black family. I don't feel I have much to gain from being with them, so I rarely go to any family reunions.

[Zhen]

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Within my own family, there's a big one planned next year in the old country to commemorate my granddad who died earlier this year, where we'll meet the wider family, not just those who live here in New Zealand (we see enough of each other anyway To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts. ). Personally, I'm pretty excited, and granddad, a man I had the utmost love and respect for, was always big on family, so he'd have wanted a gathering of this nature. So, what do the rest of INTJf think of family reunions? Exciting? Daunting? Draining?

anxiety provoking and i get worked up but usually after i settle in i end up having a good time. I think it's familiarity if I saw them more regularly it would be less anxiety building leading up to it.

[annaelizabeth]

Torture. Plain and simple.

We don't have them often fortunately. I have a small anti-social family so it's not much of an issue. My inlaws have family gatherings fairly often and I go to those. Leading up to it I dread it but it's usually not that bad. Some of the people can be interesting to talk to. However, if I had a choice, I'd still stay home.

[JTG]

Socialize with a hundred hillbillies i've only met at other family reunions and have no interest in knowing or speaking to? Sign me up.

[Coralaisly]

There are quite a few interesting characters in my family, and while I quite like the vast majority of them, I get tired of the spawn circus. Children running around under foot the whole time, always some imaginary crisis. It's tough being the only non-kid-fawner in a group who breeds faster than Starbucks if Starbucks' expansion team was manned by rabbits.

awalkingcliche - if I didn't know there were more families like mine in the South, I'd swear we were related XD My family's the same way, and the more alcohol there is at the party, the thicker the accent. It can be a lot of fun to watch.

I do rather enjoy hanging out with my cousin who lives in Colorado and discussing things that matter to us. He and I seem to be on the same wavelength and it's nice to know I'm not mad :P

[Moxiie]

i have a GINORMOUS family on both sides. Mom is one of 95 first cousins - Dad is one of 67 first cousins. The reunions are so big that I barely know any of my relatives - they just tend to be huge gatherings with lot's of people who haven't met, so it's fun that way to figure out just how you are related. I usually meet one or two new cousins who are very cool and end up just hanging out with them. Or I hang out with the elders and listen to their stories, which is always cool

This is where we gather (about 600 or so of us on Mom's side) - so we get points for gathering in style. And the food is always good - fresh crab, salmon, herring roe, elk, deer and other traditional foods.


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[darniem]

Suppose it would depend on one's family.

My mom's side of the family never has family reunions, and thank God. They're originally all from DC (grandmother was born in NY) and are the stereotypical loud, gesturing, Italian/Irish American Yankee types. My mom and my grandmother are the only ones on that side I even like. The rest are conniving backstabbing con artists.

My dad's side had (has) annual reunions near Camden, SC where the family historically originates. It's basically a very small town right in the middle of nowhere in the sandhills region. They are your stereotypical low-country Southern types...mix of random English/Scots-Irish/French and are uniformly introverted in that calm Southern way. My branch of the family has a touch of Spanish in it by way of Mexico, so we never really fit in nor cared to.

Despite this, I hated the reunions as a child because I had no idea who any of them were, it took 3 hours to get there, it was always in July and hot as hell, and I was usually the only person under the age of 30 there.

My immediate family stopped going about 7-10 years ago, just because, damn, what's the point?

[MikeAZ]

I like big events with lots of interesting people with one condition. I can get off to the side and have a little down time or a one on one conversation.

I have around fifty first cousins, but don’t know any. I would love to go to a reunion.