ENTJ and INTJ. Compatible?

**EssentiallyGood** · 06-12-2012, 02:46 PM

I would like to read some testimonials of how entj women and intj men get along in the realm of dating.

Recently, I have encountered an entj female who is very clearly interested in me. We are friends, and we get along as friends.

Thoughts?

**Mind Marauder** · 06-12-2012, 03:06 PM

She's interested in you but how interested are you in her?

**EssentiallyGood** · 06-12-2012, 03:15 PM

I am interested. How much? I havent figured that out yet.

We arent extremely close friends, more like the friends that will see each other every 2 weeks or so. Here is what I have gathered so far. More to come, I have dinner plans with her tomorrow.

What I like:
Her extraversion is very refreshing, as I am not very good at just starting a conversation.
She is smart and I find that sexy.
She is attractive.
She likes me.

What I don't like:
She contacts me multiple times a day with no purpose.
She is a bit stubborn and decisive. This combination can be really frustrating for me, I frequently try to fix things with delicately thought out advice; and her stubborness will block my words out.

**ElstonGunn** · 06-12-2012, 03:18 PM

Don't rely too much on type for these kinds of decisions. It tells you next to nothing about a person, let alone that person's compatibility with someone else. I mean, look at all the INTJs here, and think about how different they are from each other. Do you think your ENTJ would be compatible with any randomly-selected one of us, based solely on type, or would you need to know more about the individual?

**EssentiallyGood** · 06-12-2012, 03:28 PM

I believe there are general trends that exist amongst certain personality types. Yes, knowing more about an individual would grant one with better judgement if it is truly a match or not. This isn't astrology.

However, the main purpose of this thread was to gain insight from other intj's and their interactions with entj's. Or, an entj perspective of an intj.

Reading others interactions will give me a better understanding of the general mechanics that an entj exhibits.

I have dated personalities all across the board. So, this usually isnt a hang up for me... Unless, they happen to be xSFx. They're totally not my type. It's like watching a neglected tamagotchi shit all over itself, I find it exhausting to maintain a relationship with that type.

**Boreal** · 06-12-2012, 03:35 PM

Agree with Elston; type doesn't tell you everything. It's just a start. You're more likely to understand someone who's of similar type, and there's some synergy from think-a-like, but that's where it ends. In some cases, being similar can actually backfire.

It doesn't cover chemistry, or beliefs and philosophies, interests/hobbies, etc. So really, don't pay attention to type this time.

**Mind Marauder** · 06-12-2012, 03:36 PM

Originally Posted by EssentiallyGood
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I am interested. How much? I havent figured that out yet.

We arent extremely close friends, more like the friends that will see each other every 2 weeks or so. Here is what I have gathered so far. More to come, I have dinner plans with her tomorrow.

What I like:
Her extraversion is very refreshing, as I am not very good at just starting a conversation.
She is smart and I find that sexy.
She is attractive.
She likes me.

What I don't like:
She contacts me multiple times a day with no purpose.
She is a bit stubborn and decisive. This combination can be really frustrating for me, I frequently try to fix things with delicately thought out advice; and her stubborness will block my words out.

I haven't dated anyone that I knew for a fact was an ENTJ so I can't really help you there. However, I would say go for it. You never know until you try and all that cliche stuff...

**koakuma** · 06-12-2012, 03:39 PM

Originally Posted by EssentiallyGood
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I am interested. How much? I havent figured that out yet.

We arent extremely close friends, more like the friends that will see each other every 2 weeks or so. Here is what I have gathered so far. More to come, I have dinner plans with her tomorrow.

What I like:
Her extraversion is very refreshing, as I am not very good at just starting a conversation.
She is smart and I find that sexy.
She is attractive.
She likes me.

What I don't like:
She contacts me multiple times a day with no purpose.
She is a bit stubborn and decisive. This combination can be really frustrating for me, I frequently try to fix things with delicately thought out advice; and her stubborness will block my words out.

You can turn that into something really good, if you know what I mean.
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I'm an INTJ female with an ENTJ male partner. It's just... rawr! I'd say go for it!

**Distance** · 06-12-2012, 03:47 PM

I wouldn't recommend the INTJ/ENTJ combination unless they're both relatively flexy individuals. Similar but different where the similarities and differences can be staggeringly negative.

INTJs can be so stubborn and defensive, believing themselves to be logical when it's blatantly an emotional reaction.
Many INTJs are too much in their heads, where they believe themselves to be right, regardless of external data.
They think too much before taking action for issues of who cares, don't waste your time on this shit. There's no perfect model to tie shoelaces or part your hair.

**Ghostwheel** · 06-12-2012, 05:09 PM

While in school I was friends with two ENTJ women, both of whom were beautiful, friendly, intelligent individuals. They both had boyfriends, unfortunately. A relationship with either one would probably have been spectacular.

Go for it.

**FruitLoop** · 06-12-2012, 05:17 PM

I have a business acquaintance who is almost certainly ENTJ, and it surprises me just how much bullshit he spreads around and thinks people will just lap up! Of course, INTJ are completely immune to such nonsense, but he doesn't get it at all, and continues to try and emotionally load things like it is some appropriate way to "make me see".
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**ThingInItsSelf** · 06-13-2012, 01:18 AM

I am a ENTx, I dont think its unfair to say I am an ENTJ at work and ENTP in the rest of my life. My SO is an INTJ, we have been together 4 years and I have never felt as happy with anyone.

**MachOne** · 06-13-2012, 01:24 AM

Originally Posted by ElstonGunn
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Don't rely too much on type for these kinds of decisions. It tells you next to nothing about a person, let alone that person's compatibility with someone else. I mean, look at all the INTJs here, and think about how different they are from each other. Do you think your ENTJ would be compatible with any randomly-selected one of us, based solely on type, or would you need to know more about the individual?

I agree. I don't think it's all about a persons MBTI either...

**DrCiao** · 06-13-2012, 11:18 AM

I think this is a great combo. I'm currently in a relationship with an ENTJ and we are on the same exact wavelength.

I have met some ENTJs who are really abrasive however. I suppose it depends on the person and what your exact subset/ strengths and weaknesses are.

**Autumnleaf** · 06-13-2012, 02:31 PM

	Originally Posted by EssentiallyGood To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	I would like to read some testimonials of how entj women and intj men get along in the realm of dating. Recently, I have encountered an entj female who is very clearly interested in me. We are friends, and we get along as friends. Thoughts?

Go for it. ENTJs can be pushy when it comes to making their plans happen, other than that it should be fun.

**Smacknrat** · 06-13-2012, 02:36 PM

I've known a couple of ENTJs as friends and ultimately the egos between us always explode fantastically.

I don't like ENTJs really unless I have no vested interest in them (being my boss, friend's wife, someone I deal with for something I need... Forums and in passing/one offs seems to work fine.), otherwise they become manipulative and mean.

I always thought it would be the opposite, where the INTJ and ENTJ could handle and tackle anything in business and life. But ENTJs are just jerks. They seem to get along with INTPs fairly well. Those marriages work out better.

**EssentiallyGood** · 06-13-2012, 03:24 PM

Welp, plans fell through on her end.

/annoyed and hungry.

**superflax** · 06-13-2012, 04:14 PM

Originally Posted by ElstonGunn
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Don't rely too much on type for these kinds of decisions. It tells you next to nothing about a person, let alone that person's compatibility with someone else. I mean, look at all the INTJs here, and think about how different they are from each other. Do you think your ENTJ would be compatible with any randomly-selected one of us, based solely on type, or would you need to know more about the individual?

	Originally Posted by MachOne To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	I agree. I don't think it's all about a persons MBTI either...

What would be the point of MBTI if it really is as useless as you're trying to make out? :/

And if it really was that useless why would sooooo many people come to this forum, yourself included?

MBTI isn't the be all and end all, but it helps in identifying common disagreements within people of different types. Obviously every couple is different and will thus face different challenges but the challenges will be a helluva lot easier to handle if you learn how to speak each other's language.

Surely.

**Muse09** · 06-14-2012, 03:08 AM

Intj and Entj combinations work well but they both need to be "mature" otherwise it will be a full on power struggle.

Entj female married to Intj male and it's smooth sailing
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06-12-2012, 02:46 PM	#1
EssentiallyGood New Member [01%] MBTI: INTj Join Date: Jun 2012 Posts: 25	I would like to read some testimonials of how entj women and intj men get along in the realm of dating. Recently, I have encountered an entj female who is very clearly interested in me. We are friends, and we get along as friends. Thoughts?
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06-12-2012, 03:06 PM	#2
Mind Marauder Member [13%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Feb 2010 Posts: 529	She's interested in you but how interested are you in her?
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06-12-2012, 03:15 PM	#3
EssentiallyGood New Member [01%] MBTI: INTj Join Date: Jun 2012 Posts: 25	I am interested. How much? I havent figured that out yet. We arent extremely close friends, more like the friends that will see each other every 2 weeks or so. Here is what I have gathered so far. More to come, I have dinner plans with her tomorrow. What I like: Her extraversion is very refreshing, as I am not very good at just starting a conversation. She is smart and I find that sexy. She is attractive. She likes me. What I don't like: She contacts me multiple times a day with no purpose. She is a bit stubborn and decisive. This combination can be really frustrating for me, I frequently try to fix things with delicately thought out advice; and her stubborness will block my words out.
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06-12-2012, 03:18 PM	#4
ElstonGunn Core Member [152%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Jan 2008 Posts: 6,098	Don't rely too much on type for these kinds of decisions. It tells you next to nothing about a person, let alone that person's compatibility with someone else. I mean, look at all the INTJs here, and think about how different they are from each other. Do you think your ENTJ would be compatible with any randomly-selected one of us, based solely on type, or would you need to know more about the individual?
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06-12-2012, 03:28 PM	#5
EssentiallyGood New Member [01%] MBTI: INTj Join Date: Jun 2012 Posts: 25	I believe there are general trends that exist amongst certain personality types. Yes, knowing more about an individual would grant one with better judgement if it is truly a match or not. This isn't astrology. However, the main purpose of this thread was to gain insight from other intj's and their interactions with entj's. Or, an entj perspective of an intj. Reading others interactions will give me a better understanding of the general mechanics that an entj exhibits. I have dated personalities all across the board. So, this usually isnt a hang up for me... Unless, they happen to be xSFx. They're totally not my type. It's like watching a neglected tamagotchi shit all over itself, I find it exhausting to maintain a relationship with that type.
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06-12-2012, 03:35 PM	#6
Boreal Member [02%] MBTI: xNtx Join Date: May 2012 Posts: 103	Agree with Elston; type doesn't tell you everything. It's just a start. You're more likely to understand someone who's of similar type, and there's some synergy from think-a-like, but that's where it ends. In some cases, being similar can actually backfire. It doesn't cover chemistry, or beliefs and philosophies, interests/hobbies, etc. So really, don't pay attention to type this time.
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06-12-2012, 03:47 PM	#9
Distance Core Member [418%] MBTI: eNTj Join Date: Apr 2010 Posts: 16,731	I wouldn't recommend the INTJ/ENTJ combination unless they're both relatively flexy individuals. Similar but different where the similarities and differences can be staggeringly negative. INTJs can be so stubborn and defensive, believing themselves to be logical when it's blatantly an emotional reaction. Many INTJs are too much in their heads, where they believe themselves to be right, regardless of external data. They think too much before taking action for issues of who cares, don't waste your time on this shit. There's no perfect model to tie shoelaces or part your hair.
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06-12-2012, 05:09 PM	#10
Ghostwheel Member [34%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Sep 2011 Posts: 1,370	While in school I was friends with two ENTJ women, both of whom were beautiful, friendly, intelligent individuals. They both had boyfriends, unfortunately. A relationship with either one would probably have been spectacular. Go for it.
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06-12-2012, 05:17 PM	#11
FruitLoop Member [12%] MBTI: iNTj Join Date: Dec 2011 Posts: 488	I have a business acquaintance who is almost certainly ENTJ, and it surprises me just how much bullshit he spreads around and thinks people will just lap up! Of course, INTJ are completely immune to such nonsense, but he doesn't get it at all, and continues to try and emotionally load things like it is some appropriate way to "make me see". To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
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06-13-2012, 01:18 AM	#12
ThingInItsSelf Member [03%] MBTI: ENTx Join Date: Jun 2012 Posts: 156	I am a ENTx, I dont think its unfair to say I am an ENTJ at work and ENTP in the rest of my life. My SO is an INTJ, we have been together 4 years and I have never felt as happy with anyone.
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06-13-2012, 11:18 AM	#14
DrCiao Member [33%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Aug 2011 Posts: 1,344	I think this is a great combo. I'm currently in a relationship with an ENTJ and we are on the same exact wavelength. I have met some ENTJs who are really abrasive however. I suppose it depends on the person and what your exact subset/ strengths and weaknesses are.
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06-13-2012, 02:36 PM	#16
Smacknrat Member [15%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Oct 2007 Posts: 639	I've known a couple of ENTJs as friends and ultimately the egos between us always explode fantastically. I don't like ENTJs really unless I have no vested interest in them (being my boss, friend's wife, someone I deal with for something I need... Forums and in passing/one offs seems to work fine.), otherwise they become manipulative and mean. I always thought it would be the opposite, where the INTJ and ENTJ could handle and tackle anything in business and life. But ENTJs are just jerks. They seem to get along with INTPs fairly well. Those marriages work out better.
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06-13-2012, 03:24 PM	#17
EssentiallyGood New Member [01%] MBTI: INTj Join Date: Jun 2012 Posts: 25	Welp, plans fell through on her end. /annoyed and hungry.
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06-14-2012, 03:08 AM	#19
Muse09 New Member [01%] MBTI: ENTJ Join Date: Jan 2009 Posts: 75	Intj and Entj combinations work well but they both need to be "mature" otherwise it will be a full on power struggle. Entj female married to Intj male and it's smooth sailing To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
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