how often do you come across people

**Zhen** · 06-09-2012, 08:27 AM

that you find intriguing/interesting that can retain or engage your sustained interest to want to know them for the long haul?

**Strange Moon** · 06-09-2012, 08:38 AM

Every couple of years.
Yeah...I know, my standards are pretty high :-/

**Alberto** · 06-09-2012, 08:41 AM

I never want to know anybody for the long haul
I like nearly all the persons I come across anyway - to be sure, this trait developed over years. I would like to help them. But I would never want to associate.

**Shahira** · 06-09-2012, 08:44 AM

I have a lot of friends but few that I am really close with. I do find them interesting. But I haven't met people that I generally found interesting apart from them. I don't find most people interesting really but I can hold conversations with most people.

**Bluestreak** · 06-09-2012, 08:50 AM

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	Every couple of years. Yeah...I know, my standards are pretty high :-/

I'm far pickier. I think there are four people (outside of family) I've known 10+ years, and maintain regular contact with them.

**Zhen** · 06-09-2012, 08:56 AM

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	I'm far pickier. I think there are four people (outside of family) I've known 10+ years, and maintain regular contact with them.

i think i'm super picky. or maybe just bore easily. i feel like i go through new people like tissues(and feel bad about it but feel even worse to get really really bored)...it is just so rare to come across people who can maintain an interesting conversation about a diverse range of topics...that has an interesting or refreshing idea or viewpoint i haven't heard before...hmmm i guess i'm picky AND demanding.

**CrudeHypothesis** · 06-09-2012, 09:02 AM

I can think of 3, but I haven't caught up with any of them in years.

**spect** · 06-09-2012, 09:03 AM

quite a bit online since i've learned how to sense them better, but in person... usually only in certain groups and not that often.

**Strange Moon** · 06-09-2012, 11:38 AM

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	I'm far pickier. I think there are four people (outside of family) I've known 10+ years, and maintain regular contact with them.

My number is 5 for 10+ years. 3 more that I know for nearly 10 years.

**crazyshoots** · 06-09-2012, 12:56 PM

Originally Posted by Zhen
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i think i'm super picky. or maybe just bore easily. i feel like i go through new people like tissues(and feel bad about it but feel even worse to get really really bored)...it is just so rare to come across people who can maintain an interesting conversation about a diverse range of topics...that has an interesting or refreshing idea or viewpoint i haven't heard before...hmmm i guess i'm picky AND demanding.

I can totally relate to you! I seldom meet interesting people who can hold conversations on diverse range of topics as well and I'm always different from them anyways. The usual topics are things I consider a no-brainer and my topics are either too "deep" or "boring".

But I do meet some people who I like to know and maintain contacts for long term. They are generally genuine people who are kind, open to suggestions, humorous and our interests can be very different and we can forget to msg each other at times.. but when we're out, WE'RE HAVING FUN.
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**12ax7** · 06-09-2012, 06:48 PM

One or two that I can think of since my childhood... there are a handful who (I assume by their words/actions) feel that way about me, and in most cases I am glad to reciprocate the friendship to stave off loneliness.

**Archer** · 06-09-2012, 06:54 PM

I have a few close friends that I have kept since childhood and high school. I haven't been able to establish any real friends where I have been living now for over ten years.

**ThingInItsSelf** · 06-09-2012, 06:59 PM

How do you cope with people not knowing you well? When you need help and want to turn to someone that wont reject you, because they know you and love you with all your faults - what happens?

Also (and this is not an accusation) how to you go about creating a long lasting relationship if you are easily bord?

**12ax7** · 06-09-2012, 08:10 PM

Personally, I take steps to avoid needing help as much as possible.

As for creating lasting relationships, I'm not sure I know how... either they 'happened' so long ago I can't recall, or the other person is the one who "creates" the relationship, and I'm more passive. If I talk with somebody enough and there's no boredom, then we have continuing contact.

**Diana08** · 06-10-2012, 05:02 PM

For me it's almost never but when I do it's usually someone who is dramatically older than me. I'm still in college and I tend to find my age group extremely lacking. Most of them have no taste for intellectual discussions and they seem as though they are perpetually bored.

**Autumnleaf** · 06-10-2012, 05:07 PM

It happens once every few months. Then after several conversations I tend to reconsider.

**Zhen** · 06-10-2012, 06:54 PM

	Originally Posted by 12ax7 To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	Personally, I take steps to avoid needing help as much as possible. As for creating lasting relationships, I'm not sure I know how... either they 'happened' so long ago I can't recall, or the other person is the one who "creates" the relationship, and I'm more passive. If I talk with somebody enough and there's no boredom, then we have continuing contact.

maybe this reflects the "typical" INTJ mentality/experience...

**SwedenF** · 06-10-2012, 09:15 PM

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	It happens once every few months. Then after several conversations I tend to reconsider.

Exactly this. Maybe 2-3 times a year, but after a while, I realize they were putting on a show, and as they start feeling safer they reveal their true nature and become just as dull as the rest of people. I still talk to them, just with less interest, and they rarely do anything to change that.

People I've actually remained interested in for a long time... 4 total. Only one of which I do actually frequently talk to.

06-09-2012, 08:27 AM	#1
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06-09-2012, 08:38 AM	#2
Strange Moon Member [06%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Oct 2011 Posts: 278	Every couple of years. Yeah...I know, my standards are pretty high :-/
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06-09-2012, 08:41 AM	#3
Alberto Member [11%] MBTI: intj Join Date: May 2012 Posts: 468	I never want to know anybody for the long haul I like nearly all the persons I come across anyway - to be sure, this trait developed over years. I would like to help them. But I would never want to associate.
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06-09-2012, 08:44 AM	#4
Shahira Veteran Member [55%] MBTI: ENFP Join Date: Dec 2011 Posts: 2,229	I have a lot of friends but few that I am really close with. I do find them interesting. But I haven't met people that I generally found interesting apart from them. I don't find most people interesting really but I can hold conversations with most people.
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06-09-2012, 09:02 AM	#7
CrudeHypothesis Veteran Member [75%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Sep 2011 Posts: 3,000	I can think of 3, but I haven't caught up with any of them in years.
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06-09-2012, 09:03 AM	#8
spect Veteran Member [56%] MBTI: inxx Join Date: Sep 2011 Posts: 2,246	quite a bit online since i've learned how to sense them better, but in person... usually only in certain groups and not that often.
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06-09-2012, 06:48 PM	#11
12ax7 Member [02%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Oct 2010 Posts: 115	One or two that I can think of since my childhood... there are a handful who (I assume by their words/actions) feel that way about me, and in most cases I am glad to reciprocate the friendship to stave off loneliness.
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06-09-2012, 06:54 PM	#12
Archer New Member [01%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Apr 2012 Posts: 59	I have a few close friends that I have kept since childhood and high school. I haven't been able to establish any real friends where I have been living now for over ten years.
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06-09-2012, 06:59 PM	#13
ThingInItsSelf Member [03%] MBTI: ENTx Join Date: Jun 2012 Posts: 156	How do you cope with people not knowing you well? When you need help and want to turn to someone that wont reject you, because they know you and love you with all your faults - what happens? Also (and this is not an accusation) how to you go about creating a long lasting relationship if you are easily bord?
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06-09-2012, 08:10 PM	#14
12ax7 Member [02%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Oct 2010 Posts: 115	Personally, I take steps to avoid needing help as much as possible. As for creating lasting relationships, I'm not sure I know how... either they 'happened' so long ago I can't recall, or the other person is the one who "creates" the relationship, and I'm more passive. If I talk with somebody enough and there's no boredom, then we have continuing contact.
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06-10-2012, 05:02 PM	#15
Diana08 New Member [01%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Jun 2012 Posts: 2	For me it's almost never but when I do it's usually someone who is dramatically older than me. I'm still in college and I tend to find my age group extremely lacking. Most of them have no taste for intellectual discussions and they seem as though they are perpetually bored.
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06-10-2012, 05:07 PM	#16
Autumnleaf Core Member [226%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Apr 2010 Posts: 9,061	It happens once every few months. Then after several conversations I tend to reconsider.
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