[eagleseven]

Ever date someone so extroverted that they wouldn't give you ANY alone time? Even after having sex, at 4 AM, they feel the need to verbally vomit at you until you tell them to stfu and pretend to sleep?

I've never felt the need to run away from my own apartment before. Any of you have extrovert dating horror stories?

[FemSpock]

I've never gotten trapped into dating one but for some reason, they flock to me. Seriously, I seem to attract the most emotionally needy men. I'm talking about the kind that say, "I love you" after two weeks of casually hanging out and then have a nervous breakdown when you tell them you're not interested. They get all butthurt and say we're cruel, but really, we just don't like for there to be room for interpretation when it comes to communication.

My friend Eric says that the reason they're attracted to us is that they want to "break us" in a way. They think they can get past our defenses, but I don't think they realize that we don't have defenses...we're just not emotional people. One guy told me he was going to "crack through my shell." I was like, "Dude, I have nothing to hide. I'm the most honest person you've probably ever known. I'm not being defensive. Behind what you think is my 'shell' is just more shell. I'm not trying to push you away to protect myself, I'm trying to push you away because I don't like you and I prefer to be left alone."

I feel for you. You should get the hell out of that before she starts cutting herself or something, lol.

[Moxiie]

Hmmmm. Not all extroverts are verbal vomiters - I'm hard pressed to talk much and would rather spend time alone most of the time...yet, I'm still an extrovert.

I've known some introverts who verbally vomit and wouldn't leave me the fuck alone...

Maybe it's less about I/E than about obnoxious people who can't read interpersonal social cues?

Also maybe try not to have sex with people you have no desire to talk to?

[ZerroDefex]

	Originally Posted by Moxiie To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	Hmmmm. Not all extroverts are verbal vomiters - I'm hard pressed to talk much and would rather spend time alone most of the time...yet, I'm still an extrovert. I've known some introverts who verbally vomit and wouldn't leave me the fuck alone...

Yep. My girlfriend tests as an introvert, that doesn't stop her from bombarding me with texts out of the blue. On the other hand I know extraverts who will hardly give me the time of day. It really comes down to how interested someone is in talking with you.

[curiousgeorge01]

	Originally Posted by ZerroDefex To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	Yep. My girlfriend tests as an introvert, that doesn't stop her from bombarding me with texts out of the blue. On the other hand I know extraverts who will hardly give me the time of day. It really comes down to how interested someone is in talking with you.

Yea I agree with this. My ex I gf talked a lot more than my E gf. The only difference is that the 'I' only spoke to people close to her, but when she did, she spoke a lot. Meanwhile the 'E' could speak to people not close to her, but when she is with me, she's very quiet.

[Booko]

I've never let someone like that get close enough in the first place.

I like extroverts well enough, but clingy is right out.

[Kryptonite]

Man I am an introvert and I dont speak for most of the day so sometimes when I get around people again I cant shut the fuck up. It's bad. That and strangely I have a lot more to say typing that I would EVER dream of saying so texting can get out of hand. I can get on my own nerves with it.

I dont know. teach them to crochet...it helps with ADD, you never know.

[eagleseven]

	Originally Posted by Moxiie To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	Maybe it's less about I/E than about obnoxious people who can't read interpersonal social cues?

Maybe it's this? All my subtle social cues to STFU just weren't sinking in. Or maybe I was very interesting?

	Originally Posted by Moxiie To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	Also maybe try not to have sex with people you have no desire to talk to?

The initial conversation was fine...some people just don't understand the statement "I need quiet time before I get my sleep needed for work." I don't want to hear about your latest linux hacks, or your rants about DRM, at 4AM.

[LifesEcstasy]

	Originally Posted by eagleseven To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	Ever date someone so extroverted that they wouldn't give you ANY alone time?

No. I don't date stalkers.

[dellai]

You're cracking me up, really. Just tell your Extrovert that you need alone time and he or she will go outside and find a new adventure. Most of the time extroverts want to be assured that you're OK, especially after sexy times and when we trust/like your answer we can go. If your Extroverted partner doesn't allow you to have private time, they are most of the time a bit immature. But sometimes it's really fun to tease you Introverts so that we can one of your honest blunt answers, which cracks us up again.

[hi5yourface]

	Originally Posted by eagleseven To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	I've never felt the need to run away from my own apartment before. Any of you have extrovert dating horror stories?

Horror stories? Oh yeah!.....don't date megaphones! (This is not my take on all Es however, just the E that EEEEEEEEd onto me)

[Alberto]

Ah dating... dating...

May I know why? :D

I have done that at times, but you know... well say I have pretended I was doing it perhaps. Sort of.

[changos]

	Originally Posted by eagleseven To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	Ever date someone so extroverted that they wouldn't give you ANY alone time? Even after having sex, at 4 AM, they feel the need to verbally vomit at you until you tell them to stfu and pretend to sleep?

Had a GF like that but I could stand her, sometimes it was funny, sometimes exhausting. Most of her conversation were interesting to me, that's it. She holds the maximum record of me sharing my whole day and night over and over. Loved her so much... sometimes I felt a mix of fury and love (I was too tired so don't expect me to make sense there) and I used to hold her head face to face while saying "baby I love you but I need some sleep!" (I had a busier agenda). The problem was the ALONE TIME, I need that, I really do, things got better when she actually got it so we could be together while both doing diff things, I mean, quiet, not talking. That made me very happy, to keep a quiet connection, sorry, too many memories...

	Originally Posted by eagleseven To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	I've never felt the need to run away from my own apartment before.

Been there twice. I never wanted to see one of those girls again. The other one... became a headache... I liked her so much but it was difficult to stand it, there is when some of us realize how important sex is in our life, or not... compared other things.

	Originally Posted by eagleseven To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	Any of you have extrovert dating horror stories?

Does stalking counts? that one made me wanting to LEAVE THE COUNTRY!!!!! not my house. Bitter memories.....

[sunitaishot]

Is it them not understanding social cues, or you not understanding social skills and others having different personalities?

[catzmeow]

	Originally Posted by curiousgeorge01 To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	Yea I agree with this. My ex I gf talked a lot more than my E gf. The only difference is that the 'I' only spoke to people close to her, but when she did, she spoke a lot. Meanwhile the 'E' could speak to people not close to her, but when she is with me, she's very quiet.

This. I do spend probably 15-20 (sometimes, even 30) minutes talking to my husband per day. Other than that, we don't talk all that much, unless there is some issue we need to discuss. When we talk, it's usually when we're in bed, at the end of the day, or right before we both leave in the morning.

It took me a while to realize I didn't need to fill the silence and entertain him the way I feel I have to with other people.

[RedN]

if after sex s/hes still hyper maybe its not a case of being extroverted.

tell the person it was jsut too good that you cant help it youre passing out already, which is true anyway coz of tiredness, then tell the person to hug you or you hug her.

its not offensive and it can be seen as sweet

[Booko]

Originally Posted by dellai To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.

You're cracking me up, really. Just tell your Extrovert that you need alone time and he or she will go outside and find a new adventure. Most of the time extroverts want to be assured that you're OK, especially after sexy times and when we trust/like your answer we can go. If your Extroverted partner doesn't allow you to have private time, they are most of the time a bit immature. But sometimes it's really fun to tease you Introverts so that we can one of your honest blunt answers, which cracks us up again.

Dellai, that works very well with your type, but I haven't found it works so well with other E types like ESTJ.

ESTJs are usually too busy telling me how there's something wrong with me for being introverted and I should just start being extroverted to realize they could find something else fun to do.

This may be the biggest reason why INTJs can get along nicely with ENFPs but ESTJs are *ahem* more like the bane of our existence.

And while I've met my people who don't seem to have any boundaries, being extroverted doesn't imply not having boundaries any more than being introverted means you're antisocial.

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	Originally Posted by changos To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	The problem was the ALONE TIME, I need that, I really do, things got better when she actually got it so we could be together while both doing diff things, I mean, quiet, not talking. That made me very happy, to keep a quiet connection, sorry, too many memories...

Is it any easier to date a woman extrovert? Usually you can send them out to have time with "the girls" and get your alone time that way.

[DrCiao]

Originally Posted by Booko To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.

Dellai, that works very well with your type, but I haven't found it works so well with other E types like ESTJ. ESTJs are usually too busy telling me how there's something wrong with me for being introverted and I should just start being extroverted to realize they could find something else fun to do. This may be the biggest reason why INTJs can get along nicely with ENFPs but ESTJs are *ahem* more like the bane of our existence. And while I've met my people who don't seem to have any boundaries, being extroverted doesn't imply not having boundaries any more than being introverted means you're antisocial. ---------- Post added 05-25-2012 at 12:18 PM ---------- Is it any easier to date a woman extrovert? Usually you can send them out to have time with "the girls" and get your alone time that way.

When I was younger, I recall ESFJs always giving me bumptious advice. I find ESTJs have more tact and typically more supportive than ESFJs. But that might be due to the difference in our interaction with people I suppose.

[Moxiie]

Originally Posted by Booko To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.

Dellai, that works very well with your type, but I haven't found it works so well with other E types like ESTJ. ESTJs are usually too busy telling me how there's something wrong with me for being introverted and I should just start being extroverted to realize they could find something else fun to do. This may be the biggest reason why INTJs can get along nicely with ENFPs but ESTJs are *ahem* more like the bane of our existence. And while I've met my people who don't seem to have any boundaries, being extroverted doesn't imply not having boundaries any more than being introverted means you're antisocial. ---------- Post added 05-25-2012 at 12:18 PM ---------- Is it any easier to date a woman extrovert? Usually you can send them out to have time with "the girls" and get your alone time that way.

ESTJ's and ESFJ's are both the bane of my existence. 9x out of 10 when I'm having an intense battle of wills with someone, or they have just pissed me the hell off, it's one of those two types.....and I try really hard not to lump all types as "X or Y" and take the individual as is....however, this rule holds fast and true for me. ESFJ's moreso than the TJ's for me...probably because they feel they are right - it takes on a nearly religious fervor for them.

I love ESTP's, ISFP's and ISTP's though!!
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[Jesus]

I had the exact opposite problem with women i've slept with. Since, they almost all of them have been hookers they usually want to leave right away. Although there was this one street hooker in mexico, who was trying to ask me a lot of questions in Spanish after sex, which i don't speak.


However, I have lived with a very extrovert male friend before. How I got him to shut up and sleep was leaving the room. Then he would go to his bedroom and fall asleep. So what you need to do is after sex, is say, "Wait right here, i'll be back." Then go to another room and then go the bathroom. She will pass out then, when you come back. try 10 mins away.

To drain an extrovert you must isolate them.

[zeroemission]

- the clingy desperate gal obsessed with plucking and shaving any body hair she could that didn't know how to give that up that not only followed me onto a bus downtown when i told her to get lost eventually leading to an "i hate your guts and if you follow me on this bus, i'm jumping off in the hood on you and running away" which ended up happening and thus making the wife of the buddy i was staying with temporarily decide she wanted a piece of me after the crazy hooch called looking for me and she gave her a ride home with i'm sure much girl talk about how, um, attentive i am to a woman's needs before i take care of my own

- there was another flake that i literally had to run from too on campus who just couldn't hear the words "i hate your guts! leave me alone!" etc. that also had me hiding in my mother's bedroom when she showed up unexpectedly and creeped my sisters out for an hour or so waiting for me

- the cake though has to go to the crazy B that nearly killed me in my sleep a decade ago by dripping antifreeze in my nostrils 3x when i slept making me nauseous the 1st 2 times and then nearly choked to death on vomit when she decided to drip it instead of smear it and i woke up chainvomiting with little room to breathe

- less intense, then there was the bisexual nymphomaniac that wanted to marry me and bear a child, all the while swinging like a pendulum. she was EXTREMELY extroverted. you KNOW you're an INTJ when you never score with a nympho you're otherwise attracted to in the looks & intellect department if not the monogamy challenged department

- i don't exactly know if you'd call it being an extrovert, but my first love in college that used to ACT all goody goody in her girly pink sweaters was doing bondage porn after getting implants the last time i saw her here on the internet

that's why i'm always saying i'm a magnet for crazy.