[maru]

One I heard recently: Boy racers buying cheap, instant-gratification, noisy, show-off cars. An older man was talking to a teenager about how he used to want a nice car, but once he had it, it didn't make him happy. Now he's got a basic car that he's just as happy with and focuses on other things instead. The teenager's reply was "it's just a phase I'm going through, what's wrong with that? Why can't I enjoy it while I'm still able to?"

I can't quite wrap my head around it, but I can see where the older man was coming from. I think it's the part about showing off. Teenagers are always trying to seek approval, get attention, be noticed. A more mature person outgrows those adolescent desires.

Another, more "spiritual" one, but I agree with it nonetheless:

Drugs and alcohol are like toys to yogis. When you outgrow them, they will fall away of their own accord. The path of the yogi is the path of non-addiction. Non-addiction to thoughts, emotions, self, or intoxicants. That doesn’t mean they can’t be enjoyed. But in time, they drop themselves. Intoxicants can be fine. Don’t let them lead you anywhere. Enjoy them. Then, in time, let yourself outgrow them.

[Warrior]

Hopefully we outgrow the notion that there is some object (or lack of some object) that is going to "make" us happy.

[stasis]

Pants.

[thod]

Belts.

[Dancingqueen]

Status items. I outgrew them as soon as I was able to afford them. Back to a basic car for me, as a matter of fact anything considered a material possession is back to basic levels for me. I just don't care about stuff anymore.

[maru]

	Originally Posted by Warrior To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	Hopefully we outgrow the notion that there is some object (or lack of some object) that is going to "make" us happy.

	Originally Posted by Dancingqueen To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	Status items. I outgrew them as soon as I was able to afford them. Back to a basic car for me, as a matter of fact anything considered a material possession is back to basic levels for me. I just don't care about stuff anymore.

This seems to be the reoccurring theme. Immature people haven't yet to grown out of thinking that status items will make them happier. They feel like they must take the $100 given to them now, even though they would get $300 for simply waiting a day. They need that instant gratification, as if their their happiness depends on it.

Some may think I'm extrapolating a bit too much here, but this is why I personally don't like revealing clothes. It's like girls are saying "look! here's everything I've got and you can have it now" as they wear less and less these days. So many things in the modern world are all about "look at me! I want your attention! I can make you happy now!"

A true artist of beauty paints for his on satisfaction, not to show off to others.

You can tell when somebody is making a decision from the heart, when their intentions come from a good place. For whatever reason, we often greet these people with a condescending scowl (you're immature, go away), instead of sympathy (let me show you how to mature).

[FruitLoop]

Underwear. Don't need them.

[Distance]

Haven't outgrown my need for cars that perform. But I have outgrown my need for security.

[stasis]

old new age esoterica and the romanticizing of transcendence

[ModernLit]

thinking our parents are infallible

[Kisai]

Teeth.

[davai]

	Originally Posted by stasis To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	old new age esoterica and the romanticizing of transcendence

Why the line through it?

[zibber]

Being a little bitch.

[imperio]

Friends.

[Apophenia]

The root: an undeveloped prefrontal cortex.

[owly]

	Originally Posted by davai To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	Why the line through it?

More importantly, how to put a line through words?

[maru]

	Originally Posted by Apophenia To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	The root: an undeveloped prefrontal cortex.

Good point, that could be a factor. But why the immature middle-aged people then?

owly: like [u] but an 's' instead.

[Zodd]

trying to outgrow yourself

[Thinker]

I am not sure I have personally outgrown anything.
Perhaps I have outgrown the thought that I know a lot about the world around me.

It is interesting that others say they have outgrown fast cars....Hmmmm.
At 53 I still love driving fast.....I love the adrenaline rush, the need for precise movements to keep the car on the road, rapid acceleration and braking.

So...some would call it childish....I prefer to say that I have learned to have fun at something I enjoy immensely.

Perhaps that is what I have outgrown....the need for acceptance and the stress arising from (small minded) judgement.

[LifesEcstasy]

Giving any attention to what other people think about me. I grew out of that one very peacefully. Other things which have fallen by the wayside....

Career ambitions
Buying McMuffins
Attending family xmas'
Texting my friends

[Haumea]

	old new age esoterica and the romanticizing of transcendence

If a huge chunk of the population outgrows the romanticizing of transcendence, our economy will grind to a screeching halt.

We're no longer in an industrial economy; we're in the romanticizing-transcendence economy.

[davai]

Puppies and kittens. Except a tiger kitten, which then becomes a cub(?), so that doesn't count anyway.

Haumea: can you elaborate on the link between that and economy? Perhaps i'm defining terms differently to some of you.

[Pingo]

Sometimes I feel like I've outgrown my old friends. I don't mean that in a condescending way, just that we've changed over time and don't relate as well anymore.

[Bonamona]

There are lots of things I've outgrown since being really close to my significant other -- he just leads me to a path of feeling more determined and loving at the same time.

[Zhen]

certain associations and behaviours