[INTJlove]

It happens to me quite often, I say something and the person I am talking to is like "What?", and then I have to repeat what I just said. Does it happen to you fellas?
I guess it is because I mutter a lot while talking, though I don't feel like I do.
With my mom, who does that more times then not, I even started muttering even more the first time I say something because I know she's going to tell me to repeat, so I don't even bother saying it clearly the first time.

[darniem]

I get that a lot. Also: I hate repeating stuff. Usually on the second courtesy repetition, I say "never mind" and move on with my next thought.

[Thinker]

Wow
My brother-in-law mutters everything (He is in his late 40's).
The only person who doesn't have to ask him to repeat is his wife.

I think I was probably guilty of this as a child...but I learned that in articulating words properly people started to listen and understand me.

As I keep saying (relentlessly) on this forum....learn to communicate.
Verbal communication is very important. I didn't really learn to speak to people properly until I had to interview clients (as a CPA). I learned very quickly to speak efficiently and precisely in talking to clients.....

Of course the aim is to ensure the client sees value and to ensure you cover all bases and don't get sued. This focus tends to grow your communications skills quickly. You learn to tease an issue out of a client and give thorough and clear advice.

[PhRoST]

that also happens to me all the time, i think its because i already thought out what i was going to say in my head then when its time to say it out loud its comes out fast, and slightly mumbled.

[Shadizar]

All the time. Doesn't matter how clear and concise I say it, may as well be in another language. Be fucked with a jack hammer, sometimes it happens even when I've gotten their full undivided attention; if looks could fucking kill, there'd be a lot dead people in my wake.

[Magda]

I'm often on the other side of this with my mother, for a different reason.

I'll be lost in thought, and she'll start talking to me. By the time I realize she's speaking to me and transfer my attention, I've missed the first part of what she said.

Of course, when I ask her what she said, she invariably then repeats only the end of her sentence. Which is the part that I *did* hear.

[ppu6502]

It happened often in youth -- not much since my early 20s, though.

[dvdhrns]

I do not enjoy repeating myself. I try not to do it. I don't mumble though, either. I think it is more efficient to speak in a way in which I will be understood. I do get the occasional cocked head with silence as if I'd blown a circuit in their head or something. That is usually kind of funny.

It bothers me when others are not clear, either due to garbled speech or meandering, irrational statements. If they can not be understood because of these things I usually wait an appropriate number of seconds and then change the subject or excuse myself.

[CrudeHypothesis]

No, they heard me the first time and knew they didn't understand, so they say "you're random".

[DesertKnight]

I tend to mumble in social situations in which I'm uncomfortable, and in that context I get this all the time. I also hate repeating myself; which usually irks me further making me more uncomfortable and then I just shut up entirely.

[Mr Fibuli]

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	All the time. Doesn't matter how clear and concise I say it, may as well be in another language.

I'm convinced, because of this, that I speak an obscure language unknown to most on this entire planet. I have given that language a name: Flatulese. Because it often makes me feel I may as well be talking out my ass for the attention I get.

That aside, another problem I have is that my voice simply does not project nor carry very far through background noise. It's not deep and masculine, it's not shrill and piercing, it's not loud at all. It just is. "Soft spoken," I suppose you could call it. If I try to strengthen it--even just a little--it's either not enough to make any difference or I get weird looks and people asking me why I'm SHOUTING.


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[Booko]

It used to happen when I was younger, but in between my mother training it out of me and the voice lessons I took and then having to lecture Chemistry in a very long lab, it's not a problem I have anywhere outside the house.

In the house I often talk to the cats or myself as I go through doing things, and there's no need for diction since the cats don't understand a damned thing anyway. My husband does get confused about whether I'm talking to him or not. He was pretty rude about it for a few years, but the marriage counselor suggested there some better ways to deal with it. My kids don't seem to have ever had a problem with it.

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That aside, another problem I have is that my voice simply does not project nor carry very far through background noise. It's not deep and masculine, it's not shrill and piercing, it's not loud at all. It just is. "Soft spoken," I suppose you could call it. If I try to strengthen it--even just a little--it's either not enough to make any difference or I get weird looks and people asking me why I'm SHOUTING.

There are ways to train your voice so it can remain soft and still project. (It's not about raising the volume -- it's about raising your soft palate.)

Often universities have adjunct "fun" courses for the community and they can be free to really cheap. I learned to play bridge and play some guitar and do tai chi that way. There may be an acting class as well.

It's also a good way for us somewhat reclusive INTJs to meet people we might find interesting enough to want to socialize with.

And for all I know, someone has uploaded lessons on YouTube as well. Everything seems to land there eventually. *search* Oh yeah there are plenty. Still, I've found at some point it's good to have a voice coach physically in the room with you.

[Innovate]

Use to happen to me constantly, but now I just force myself to articulate and be more clear.

[Linwenilid]

Happens to me a lot when I talk to my husband. I think it comes from not bothering to articulate well while talking to him because I tend to be quite relaxed at the moment. It doesn't often happen when talking to someone else, when I do bother to speak loud and clear to avoid being thought of as a freak.

[Alu]

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I'm convinced, because of this, that I speak an obscure language unknown to most on this entire planet. I have given that language a name: Flatulese. Because it often makes me feel I may as well be talking out my ass for the attention I get. That aside, another problem I have is that my voice simply does not project nor carry very far through background noise. It's not deep and masculine, it's not shrill and piercing, it's not loud at all. It just is. "Soft spoken," I suppose you could call it. If I try to strengthen it--even just a little--it's either not enough to make any difference or I get weird looks and people asking me why I'm SHOUTING. To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.

I am very soft spoken too... I really understand that lol. I also have crazy sensitive super hearing and I sound way louder to myself than I actually am.

I had to take a public speaking course and apart from wanting to curl up and die, it really did help. The professor took me outside, gave me lines to say, and I had to keep practicing until the rest of the class at the other end of the lot could clearly hear me.

Most people don't have trouble hearing me now, and especially in public it's not an issue anymore. But, then there are the people who are not paying attention and suddenly go "what?". THEN there are the ones who are very clearly not paying attention, and then decide to blame my soft voice so it's suddenly my fault now. Ugh, that makes me so incredibly irate... it's hard enough saying it the first time! Depending on the importance, I won't repeat myself again if it really isn't my fault.

[hi5yourface]

The reason to learn sign language....

[Vagrant]

I'm usually the one asking it, because I tune people out.