[focused4life]

Hi All,

All my life, I've always been slow to get a grasp on a lot of things in life, but when I do get it, it stays with me forever. No learning disabilities either. I have some idea why some people are late bloomers, especially the INTJs and I've searched up and down the forums, but could not find any satisfying answers.

I think a few factors that attribute to late blooming in general is the nurturing and development that comes from the home, school and social environment. Keywords being nurturing and development.

I know with me, I am late to the party on a lot of things because I am too big-pictured thinking and tend to wait to have all the pieces of the puzzle before putting it completely together when I could have put the puzzle together as I went along piece-by-piece. I hope that make sense.

Thoughts?

[Scrotus]

I feel/think that those who are "late bloomers" are people who for some reason haven't fully understood the variables or dynamics of a given system/phenomena.

I too experience the: Slow getting there, but never forget once I've found it. This was me with social interactions: tone, body language, rate of speech, sequence of ideas, why using simple words is important, etc. I didn't pick up on those as a kid and it terrified me into my early "adulthood" (I'm 20, so I'm talking up until 2 months ago). I worked on it now and seriously, I probably come off as an extravert in person. However I don't mean to say that it is a "learned behavior". No, it's more that I understand the theoretical system that seems to govern social interactions and I choose to utilize it to properly convey my thoughts/ideas with people i.e.to not come off as a death glaring killer, etc.

You have to keep in mind the "norm" isn't always correct. Shit, we might not be correct...we could be so dumb for all we know. However, just make note that a lot of people who "get it quick" are merely memorizing and regurgitating (playing copycat). Ask any research professor and you'll come to find that this is NOT the way to make sense of the world around you (the secret is copying but then asking "why does this work?").

If you can afford to take your time and truly sit and understand how something seems to be working, I'd say do it. You can do the same w/ your emotions if you classify yourself as a "poorly developed Fi" person. It's hard because there is no definite reference point, but play detective and figure out why certain events/actions/thoughts evoke certain particular emotional responses out of yourself. It's fun and feels like the INTJ path to enlightenment sans rebirth and that crap (unless I'm blissfully ignorant of the knowledge that is indeed credible data for reincarnation's existence :3).

Summary: What you've stumbled upon is how researches expand the wealth of knowledge contained by humankind. If anything, I'd say keep doing what you're doing unless you find reason to do otherwise.

[Mook]

When I'm in a new situation and I don't know the standard procedures for what new area I am experiencing I will be nervous and 'slow' to pick it up. I will need everything explained to a detail of what happens, and when, because if I don't I will freeze up and be afraid of doing something wrong. Once I see the whole picture, it is very easy for my to extrapolate more efficient ways of structuring the process of whatever I am viewing in my mind.

[Tahiti]

You might have ADD as "slow-processing" is a part of of the description.

Welcome to the club if you are.

[TheWanderer]

I have this a bit. Took me ages to grasp people, and when I did I do it better than most people. Went from being really gullible to great at outing liars in only a few years.
Sometimes I'm slower to get good at games then some people, then I'll quickly surpass MOST people. I'm a dunce at soccer, but once I learned to use basketball marking I made a good defender, despite otherwise being unatheltic, I was clutsy at tae kwon do, even managing to knee myself in the nose on the first session, but by the time I reached red belt I had surpassed nearly all of the black belts (mind it probably wasn't that great a class).

And a few other things like this.

[SeverusSin]

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I have this a bit. Took me ages to grasp people, and when I did I do it better than most people. Went from being really gullible to great at outing liars in only a few years. Sometimes I'm slower to get good at games then some people, then I'll quickly surpass MOST people. I'm a dunce at soccer, but once I learned to use basketball marking I made a good defender, despite otherwise being unatheltic, I was clutsy at tae kwon do, even managing to knee myself in the nose on the first session, but by the time I reached red belt I had surpassed nearly all of the black belts (mind it probably wasn't that great a class). And a few other things like this.

This is much like me, I take long to grasp some basic things but when I have an understanding of its entirety I can usually reproduce results similarly to experts.

[Mauve]

I've been the same way all my life. It takes me longer to learn something, but when I know it, I know it forever.

I didn't even learn how to read or add and subtract until I was six. Doesn't affect me now...