[thod]

	The part you must be wary of is sorting out the decent guys from the creeps.

Wouldn't that imply a relationship? Best not to speak at all and go only on the hotness of the body.

[StoltenStolten]

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I recently hurt a good guy friend of mine by leading him on then dumping him. I feel terrible, but I had to do it because he fell in love with me and I realized that I didn't feel the same for him. But I regret it, too, because he can't stay friends with me and he said so. I am interested in him as a person, and I really want to make love with him, but I still had to let go of him. He is so emotional and he seemed to be getting to attached, and I was afraid I would hurt him worse if I got more involved. I realized all I really want from a relationship is something physical, I guess to put it bluntly I feel like I just want sex. I am so busy all the time pursuing my career and interests. But, I am a healthy young female who has needs. And I don't know what to do about this. It is so hard to find a man that doesn't just disgust me, and the fact that I know this guy and I really want to sleep with him is tortuous. But at the same time I care about him too much and don't want to hurt him. And, he is so emotional and there seems to be so much complicated baggage. So, I'm thinking I need to meet more people and hopefully find an interesting, attractive man who just wants a casual, distant love affair like I do. Are there men out there who are like this? How do I go about meeting guys when I am so introverted and anti-social? I feel like people avoid me because I'm so introverted. I mean, I am an attractive, healthy person and I am highly intelligent and can keep a great conversation. It's just, people don't seem to notice me because I am so withdrawn. I guess I'm just pouring out all my "feelings" into one big essay which the whole point of is I really want this kind of casual relationship but I don't know how to go about doing it...

Just tell him this. He might be fine with it. In fact, I suspect he will.

Breaking up "to protect him" is not your responsibility. Just be honest with him while seeking the kind of relationship you want.

[The Frozen One]

	Originally Posted by thod To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	Wouldn't that imply a relationship? Best not to speak at all and go only on the hotness of the body.

Not necessarily. I am not talking about the person who wants to "Find 'em, fuck 'em and flee". I am referring to rapists and serial killers.

[thod]

Oh, I don't mind doing a bit of raping, provided she is into it but not into hurting women even when asked to. Killing seems like a waste of a perfectly good woman to me.

[curiousgeorge01]

I don't see what the problem is, you're an attractive girl who wants no strings attached sex? I think there are plenty of men willing to sign up, good men as well. I guess the hard part is advertising it without looking desperate?

Being a guy with the same issue I would think is more difficult.

[Necrosis]

	Originally Posted by plotthickens To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	Frankly, N, males that age aren't worth fucking. Experience counts.

Who said anything about them being N? Way to jump to conclusion about my friend base. I have all kinds of friends. I don't live in a box. And Even if they were N, what makes you think they don't have experience? Big generalization there.


This simply comes down to whether or not she wants to reach out to people she isn't friends with. It can be uncomfortable but you can do it and be safe. There are men out there (of all types and experience) who want the same thing. There is absolutely nothing wrong this so long as you are upfront about your intentions.

[zibber]

This might be one the very few situations where "go fuck yourself" is actually pretty good advice.

[Zodd]

Originally Posted by Necrosis To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.

Who said anything about them being N? Way to jump to conclusion about my friend base. I have all kinds of friends. I don't live in a box. And Even if they were N, what makes you think they don't have experience? Big generalization there. This simply comes down to whether or not she wants to reach out to people she isn't friends with. It can be uncomfortable but you can do it and be safe. There are men out there (of all types and experience) who want the same thing. There is absolutely nothing wrong this so long as you are upfront about your intentions.

haha, N didn't stand for intuitive but for your name, Necrosis.

-Z

[Necrosis]

Well I stand corrected... Carry on. Nothing to see here.

[sircockburn]

Look. I was just like you...swore up and down I'd never get married or fall in love. I laughed and scoffed at such an SJ idea.







Now I'm engaged. To a g*ddamn ISTJ.

And you know what? I love him to death. Anybody hurts him will get a spiky boot up their ass.

How it all happened, I don't know. But it happens.

Don't even try to stop yourself, let yourself fall for a cool ENFP or something, or you'll wonder how the fuck you ended up marrying an ESTJ.
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EDIT: I'd like to note that having a life and having a relationship aren't mutually exclusive things. I'm really only ever with my fiance when I come home at night and sleep, but he gets it. He has a life, too.