An empty bed is a tragedy - Page 2

**ModernLit** · 04-12-2012, 02:40 AM

yeah, dying alone, blah blah, cuddling is nice. until your partner forgets you're there and smacks you in the face in the middle of the night. almost every single relationship i had ended around the smacking in the night thing happened. i like not getting smacked in the face. just sayin'
the bed is MINE, all mine!! *sprawls*

**holdyourhead** · 04-12-2012, 05:10 AM

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	yeah, dying alone, blah blah, cuddling is nice. until your partner forgets you're there and smacks you in the face in the middle of the night. almost every single relationship i had ended around the smacking in the night thing happened. i like not getting smacked in the face. just sayin' the bed is MINE, all mine!! sprawls

Unfortunately I move around a lot in my sleep, and also have times where I have quite distressing dreams. When I eventually regain partial consciousness during those dreams (towards the end, before regaining full consciousness) I am trapped between worlds and so I may move around physically or lash out or shout things. In my head though I'm still in the dream.

Apparently I have many saving graces though so I am accepted with this particular occasional flaw.
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**drswitchoff** · 04-12-2012, 07:54 AM

That's familiar. I ended up getting a big bed and still had to bail a couple nights a week so I wouldn't keep her awake. Now I sleep on one side of a big bed. I'm thinking of getting a punching bad to occupy the other.

**Selene** · 04-12-2012, 08:02 AM

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	Like some others here I flee from rooms full of people. I've been lucky. Unlikely events transpired to connect me with a couple good partners but now I'm thirty something and if I don't want to die alone I need to get out. Has anyone here started from scratch? Not a co-worker or classmate but a stranger? You met a bunch of strangers and found one that fit?

Sometimes it's as simple as getting a pet. Problem solved.

P.S. I'm serious.

**drswitchoff** · 04-12-2012, 08:19 AM

Yeah. I did. It's one of the best things I've done. I have friends that say they don't need any thing else. I might get there. But the most notable affect is, now that the dog is getting me out of my head the flood gates are opened. I've had two partnerships that covered most of the last 15 years. I made room for a family.

**changos** · 04-12-2012, 08:25 AM

After my last relationship ended, I used to wake up at night, touched around the bed and it was empty. I couldn't help a big smile on my face.

Yes I get the meaning of the OP, just posting near that
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But yes, you mean a nice partner who you won't regret breaking up with.

**drswitchoff** · 04-12-2012, 08:33 AM

Yeah. and how come I can't sleep in any more? What does my body expect to be happening at 6:00 AM?

**holdyourhead** · 04-12-2012, 02:58 PM

	Originally Posted by changos To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	After my last relationship ended, I used to wake up at night, touched around the bed and it was empty. I couldn't help a big smile on my face.

It would have the complete opposite effect for me.

**intjistp** · 04-13-2012, 12:10 AM

	Originally Posted by ModernLit To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	yeah, dying alone, blah blah, cuddling is nice. until your partner forgets you're there and smacks you in the face in the middle of the night. almost every single relationship i had ended around the smacking in the night thing happened. i like not getting smacked in the face. just sayin' the bed is MINE, all mine!! sprawls

I've got black eye from that once.

My honest dating ad "Let's snore together" did not get any answers :D

**jnewton** · 04-13-2012, 12:52 AM

Serendipitous encounters have their charm and excitement, but I wouldn't wait around and bet everything on finding people that way. I strongly agree with what others have said, you have to go out there, put yourself on the market, and pursue as many avenues as you can.

Pursue events and activities that cater to your interests. Don't be too specific either, or you'll narrow your options down significantly. Even a hiking or nature group is a good starting point if it's something you really like to do. Online dating is also an option to consider, but keep all your options open.

And keep working at it, and you'll find the lifelong, enduring partner you desire. But don't make major decisions strictly on emotion.

04-12-2012, 02:40 AM	#26
ModernLit Core Member [181%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Apr 2010 Posts: 7,275	yeah, dying alone, blah blah, cuddling is nice. until your partner forgets you're there and smacks you in the face in the middle of the night. almost every single relationship i had ended around the smacking in the night thing happened. i like not getting smacked in the face. just sayin' the bed is MINE, all mine!! sprawls
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04-12-2012, 07:54 AM	#28
drswitchoff Member [06%] MBTI: intj Join Date: Apr 2012 Posts: 256	That's familiar. I ended up getting a big bed and still had to bail a couple nights a week so I wouldn't keep her awake. Now I sleep on one side of a big bed. I'm thinking of getting a punching bad to occupy the other.
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04-12-2012, 08:19 AM	#30
drswitchoff Member [06%] MBTI: intj Join Date: Apr 2012 Posts: 256	Yeah. I did. It's one of the best things I've done. I have friends that say they don't need any thing else. I might get there. But the most notable affect is, now that the dog is getting me out of my head the flood gates are opened. I've had two partnerships that covered most of the last 15 years. I made room for a family.
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04-12-2012, 08:25 AM	#31
changos Member [48%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Apr 2008 Posts: 1,944	After my last relationship ended, I used to wake up at night, touched around the bed and it was empty. I couldn't help a big smile on my face. Yes I get the meaning of the OP, just posting near that To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts. But yes, you mean a nice partner who you won't regret breaking up with.
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04-12-2012, 08:33 AM	#32
drswitchoff Member [06%] MBTI: intj Join Date: Apr 2012 Posts: 256	Yeah. and how come I can't sleep in any more? What does my body expect to be happening at 6:00 AM?
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04-13-2012, 12:52 AM	#35
jnewton New Member [01%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Mar 2012 Posts: 70	Serendipitous encounters have their charm and excitement, but I wouldn't wait around and bet everything on finding people that way. I strongly agree with what others have said, you have to go out there, put yourself on the market, and pursue as many avenues as you can. Pursue events and activities that cater to your interests. Don't be too specific either, or you'll narrow your options down significantly. Even a hiking or nature group is a good starting point if it's something you really like to do. Online dating is also an option to consider, but keep all your options open. And keep working at it, and you'll find the lifelong, enduring partner you desire. But don't make major decisions strictly on emotion.
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