[spect]

if it were a competition, my mother would have all of yours lapped several times over

[idoj]

All mothers are crazy... It's the oxytocin released by becoming a mom. You just have to account for chemical fluctuations and remember moms are people too
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[JTG]

	Originally Posted by Coralaisly To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	asking if we can empathize

I think this is an important point.

Regardless of whether we can empathize with our parents, the fact remains that they were how they were(are) and their children benefit or suffer accordingly. Recognizing that doesn't (necessarily) mean that we demonize our parents, but it also doesn't diminish the impact that they've had, for better or worse.

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	All mothers are crazy

All mothers are also women.

[Miryr]

Aye! Mine's prone to schizophrenia, depression and is generally unstable. Do I win?

However, it didn't retard my growth, I'd even venture on to say that I had to grow up so fast that I wasn't ever really a child. That's probably why I'm mostly self educated, because I had to rely on myself to survive...

Nowadays, I have the uncanny ability to "read" people and I can generally tell what they'll do and are thinking simply because I had to keep two steps ahead of her. Consequently, compared to my mother, most people are stupidly easy to understand.

[ENFPwife2amathy]

You know, I get angry when people say, "You should be more understanding/you know she's only human/she's sick" etc., because it's 1) a gross understatement and 2) it's inconsistent with how we treat other sick people. If someone had tuberculosis, or heck, even the flu, and refused treatment, we would not be around them, and we sure as heck wouldn't let our *kids* around them. We wouldn't say, "Aw, it's an illness, they can't help it, let's not judge." No, we would understand that being around this sick person is inherently dangerous, and we would stay away until the sick person chose to get treatment.

In the case of "batshit crazy mothers" we often have someone who 1) doesn't admit she has a problem 2) is responsible for the care of another human being, 3) is demanding a certain level of response and interaction from us, and 4) is offering at best NOTHING in return, or at worst harming us down to the core of our soul. No one has the right to pass judgement on those of us who chose to leave this relationship. I do understand that she's sick. But until she gets better, i'm staying the heck away from the sickness, and I'm not letting my kids near it either.

[Staas]

Well, my childhood was rife with dysfunction. My dad committed suicide, my sister is completely unstable (teen pregnancy, child taken away by social services, drug problems), and my mother has always been obsessed with finding a man and has little time for much else. This led to a series of unstable family set-ups with alcoholic step dads and what-not. I have started to realise that she has a lot of serious, deep-rooted issues though. And that's just my immediate family! Hurr-hurr.

Fortunately, I've always been somewhat detached and I've always been focused on my studies. I'm relatively normal.

[chuot]

I've spent many hours of research trying to find out exactly how many dozens of mental illnesses she has, and if there's any possibility that I could pass them on genetically. If so, I opt for adoption.

[MissionPossible]

My mother, like my father had serious emotional problems due to their unique cultural situation and respectively brutal families. Does that make her crazy as in mentally ill? No, I think my mother had the ability to make different choices, to be more responsible for the things she did and the way she did them, but it was easier to blame everyone and everything else.

I do understand that it was hard to be HER in the particular fate she was born into. However, we all have choices and she made hers over and over and over to live life the way she does.

[samsmi]

Originally Posted by Miryr To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.

Aye! Mine's prone to schizophrenia, depression and is generally unstable. Do I win? However, it didn't retard my growth, I'd even venture on to say that I had to grow up so fast that I wasn't ever really a child. That's probably why I'm mostly self educated, because I had to rely on myself to survive... Nowadays, I have the uncanny ability to "read" people and I can generally tell what they'll do and are thinking simply because I had to keep two steps ahead of her. Consequently, compared to my mother, most people are stupidly easy to understand.

Add the fact that my mother is a violent alcoholic...I couldn't have written this much differntly myself....

[Vermillion]

My mother is scum. I will dance at her funeral.

[SarcasticVlad]

My mother is on several medications including antidepressants for more than 20 years. She's awful when she doesn't take her meds, and very boring but kind when she takes them. In her defense, she had a terrible life.