[Annalee]

Just lost a friend because I'm uncompassionite. I am not! I just do not show my emotions like other people. And would not feel comfortable holding someone when they cry. No one understands me! Even the few whom I thought did.
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[krisl]

In general, I think most people like me but feel like they don't really know me. I guess I come off as nice but sort of distant.

[Looc]

Haters gonna hate, let them go.

[anticlimatic]

"Masterminds" aught to know better-- it doesn't matter if you have feelings on the inside, it's what you do with them that counts. If you offer people cold indifference, don't be shocked when you eventually get it in return...

[Satyagrahi]

Those who know, do not speak. Those who speak, do not know. -Lao Tzu
Silence is a source of great strength. - Lao Tzu
To lead people, walk behind them. - Lao Tzu

[Zikomo7]

Originally Posted by Sumwun To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.

Cold? Yes Heartless? Yes Mean? Sort of... But I never get mistaken for being any of those. Instead, people see me as witty, charming, and kind. Needless to say, putting up that kind of mask is exhausting. I do need alone time to recharge after social interaction. If I were you, I'd just try to look like I was conforming to expectations. Admit that they're right. Mimic social people's behaviors. Do what you can to look like you're a social butterfly. You never know who will benefit you in the future. You won't gain much by being honest and telling everyone to leave you alone. No matter how well you mean, they will look at you as just being a bitch, not as being a perfectly reasonable person who simply doesn't happen to like the masses' entertainment activities. And in the end, perception is reality.

I used to be great at faking it. But now I work as a Barista at a Starbucks in the middle of a university bookstore. It's cramped with other baristas. I'm maxxed out everyday from pretending. I let my new roommate see the real sarcastic me and she called a roommate intervention with our landlord. The problem is that these days I'm too socially stressed to fake it and no one seems interested in seeing my side.

[dubyuh]

Sometimes, I do just want to be left alone.... I am terrible at social interactions, so it is best if I can keep my mouth shut.

[Thinker]

I come from a family of extroverts....they believe I am broken.
The mantra when I was a child was "Come out of yourself".
My reaction was to retreat to my inner world.
These days I still have to work hard at not retreating especially when there is a lot going on in my life.
I am 53
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[Zikomo7]

	Originally Posted by Annalee To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	Just lost a friend because I'm uncompassionite. I am not! I just do not show my emotions like other people. And would not feel comfortable holding someone when they cry. No one understands me! Even the few whom I thought did. To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.

I'm sorry. If it's meant to be, you'll reconnect. I wish I could say it gets better, but I'm in college right now and 80% of the time I feel like a leper. At least you're not alone :D

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	Originally Posted by Thinker To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	I come from a family of extroverts....they believe I am broken. The mantra when I was a child was "Come out of yourself". My reaction was to retreat to my inner world. These days I still have to work hard at not retreating especially when there is a lot going on in my life. I am 53 To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.

Awesome! I was starting to think we were all a bunch of whiney teenagers. Are you a boy or a girl? Man or woman I should say. Are you married? Kids? Pets? Friends? Job? What do you do for funzies?

[JTG]

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[MorgAl]

My family think I'm a delicate hypersensitive flower that protects itself from the difficulties of life by thinking too much. The rest of the world treats me like a stubborn arrogant ice-cold know-it-all that doesn't want to share anything but judgments. uhm

[crowbird213]

My mother always told me "You would forget your head if it wasn't attached. My Elementary teachers said that I was disconnected and stared out the windows alot. It was a relief to know that these are just who I am. There is nothing WRONG with me, in fact I can anylize the crap out of the markets and make more money than they ever thought of. Ha! Ha! to the naysayers.

[holdyourhead]

	Originally Posted by Thinker To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	I come from a family of extroverts....they believe I am broken. The mantra when I was a child was "Come out of yourself". My reaction was to retreat to my inner world. These days I still have to work hard at not retreating especially when there is a lot going on in my life. I am 53 To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.

Sounds familiar. Most of my family are extroverts. But then, we INTJ's make up the minority in the world and there isn't necessarily something wrong with that. We're just a rarer breed. I think I need to remind that to myself sometimes when I feel angry with myself and it gets me down......

[Ferbguy101]

Sometimes my NTJ nature intimidates people, anoyes them, and usually they get emotional or upset with me, but also 45% of the time I'm usually just a **** with an obnoxious attitude, very egotistical so no I don't blame my lack of charisma completely on my hypothetical mbti but just the way I deal with people myself,

[too late]

My family never got mad at me or anything. They know I've always kept to myself and been very quiet in general as a kid. I'm still like that and it doesn't bother them. And even though I was, once upon a time, considered the rude/cold one out of my siblings, they're all used to it by now.

There is, however, one relative that was very (and I mean VERY) persistent on changing me. It drove me up the wall. All I heard from her was "you should be more normal" and "don't you get depressed being by yourself for so long" and "life is about putting up with people", etc. She even tried to force friendships on me with people she KNEW I disliked. She would also take it very personally when I simply didn't feel like watching a movie with her, for instance. It was pretty bad. I can't express my frustrations enough when it comes to this person, even though it doesn't happen anymore. I could seriously write a book on it.

[tomatorawr]

My mom is very extraverted, she always gets upset about my lack of socialization with her. My friends most of the time are fine with it and be around me because I give it more in quality not quantity.

[anisoptera]

	Originally Posted by mllebrie To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	Most people think I'm a bitch until they get to know me, then they find out how sweet I am. To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts. Really, I'm a pretty caring, warm person. But just not with strangers. I do like scaring people, though. It's kind of a hobby.

Same here..i like scarring people too.. I like giving the expressionless face and look deep into their eyes..
Lol..

[Seablue]

	Originally Posted by Zikomo7 To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	Do your friends and family ever get mad at you for not being more social?

The extroverted in the family, yes. But we're about half Is, half Es, so it's okay (two ISTJs, one ES_P, one ENF_, and myself). I've even been accused of going out too much, on rare occasions.

Friends, no. All my friends are Introverted, except for my ENTJ roommate who is low on the E and also likes to spend a lot of time alone. The others mostly complain about the J
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	Originally Posted by Zikomo7 To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	Do you have any friends or family who are completely hurt that you don't want to talk to them?

Not really. Might have a friend who would like me to call more often, but he doesn't call either, so...

	Originally Posted by Zikomo7 To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	Also, are you ever mistaken for cold, heartless, or even mean?

I've been accused of all this by my mother, and by other people, for instance at school. Not by friends though, I wouldn't call someone who thinks I'm cold and heartless a friend.

"Mean" is slightly different. You can be hurtful without meaning too. So you have to learn that not being mean "in your heart" is not always enough if when you open your mouth it comes out badly.

Now I've learned to put on a mask most of the time, so I often feel colder than people think I am. It's strange. I've also been a bit shocked once, when a guy became way too friendly way too fast (borderline creepy stalker) and I thought, "wow, no one would have dared pull this on me a few years ago, I made myself too friendly and approachable". Go figure.

[WindUp]

People get on my case for not being social every now and then. I shrug them off and tell them to let me be.