[Sherlock Holmes]

I have been working with teenagers who are considered to have aspergers syndrome with very high IQs, they have no social skills, but the can do amazing work academically. Has anyone had any experience working with teenagers who are potentially intjs? Could it be possible to change these kids who have very little social skills? They are in there around there age where they are still pliable.I don't want to change their entire personality, just to the point where they can function in society without being bullied or taken advantage of because they are very intelligent.
One of the parents I spoke with told me about an old television series called the "Pretender." I couldn't believe what kind of human being could exploit or use these kids for their own personal gain.

I am a teacher, private investigator, paralegal, I am studying to be a lawyer for human rights among many other.

[Vagrant]

Don't confuse INTJs with people who have autism/disperger's -- INTJs can recognize social skills and emulate them (or even genuinely do them), whereas autism/disperger's really have to put a lot of conscious thought into emulation of social skills. INTJs are good at balancing things (mentally, not physically), whereas I don't believe people with disperger's are so good at that skill.

I get along with most people who have mild disperger's, the trouble comes is that their methods of expressing emotions are often wildly different from other people's. While after enough time, you can figure it out, it's not really something you can change or try to change.

[MrJibbles]

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I have been working with teenagers who are considered to have aspergers syndrome with very high IQs, they have no social skills, but the can do amazing work academically. Has anyone had any experience working with teenagers who are potentially intjs? Could it be possible to change these kids who have very little social skills? They are in there around there age where they are still pliable.I don't want to change their entire personality, just to the point where they can function in society without being bullied or taken advantage of because they are very intelligent. One of the parents I spoke with told me about an old television series called the "Pretender." I couldn't believe what kind of human being could exploit or use these kids for their own personal gain. I am a teacher, private investigator, paralegal, I am studying to be a lawyer for human rights among many other.

Yes....but it's a lot of work to change them. And when it comes to changing anyone it depends on if they're willing to make that change in the first place.

The guy I knew wasn't as extreme as them, but he was definitely lacking in the social department. He was good at anything academic he decided to do. I convinced him of the potential uses for learning social skills. Pointed him in the right direction of the books. Showed him a few ethics books while I was at it. He ended up reading and reading and reading till he calibrated himself to a level of social skill that would get him by. But he didn't stop, he kept studying and studying and became addicted to it. Learned and learned. Grew angry when he understood that people were taking advantage of him in the past. I figured it must've been like watching a movie for the 2nd time and noticing all the things you missed the first time around. Or watching a foreign film and then reading about things within their culture and then noticing all the things you missed. Accept these were his memories and he noticed all the horrible things people did to him.

He grew to hate people, but still continued to study social skills. What happened next should be obvious.

Needless to say, I've been pretty selective about who I share information like that with since that happened.