How do you cope with being single?

**JackCY** · 10-24-2011, 09:25 AM

How do you cope with being single?
Loneliness, nobody to share your life with, nobody to hug/snuggle/cuddle/...
Anything that comes to your mind.

What do you do, what helps you, how do you deal with it.

If you can please state how long have you been single.
I know there are some of you that are single for a really long time and I would like to know how you survive it
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**Seriously** · 10-24-2011, 09:28 AM

I have a kid, a cat and a fuck buddy. Everything I need.
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**Necrosis** · 10-24-2011, 09:37 AM

You say cope like being single is a bad thing :-D

Just go out and have fun. Meet people.

**Traverser** · 10-24-2011, 09:57 AM

Over three years single. How? I count my blessings and focus on my passions.

What you do in life is what defines you.

**changos** · 10-24-2011, 09:59 AM

How? been busy doing everything every human must do despite being single or not. I have a big fun world inside my head, also in real life but yes sometimes is not enough.

I'm 33, been single for almost 4 years now (the previous longest time was 5). I had a period in between with lots of activity but got bored. My next GF will be the 10th. Had a fuck buddy from time to time but that covered just a part of my needs. Would like to get a new fuck buddy now but women of my age want something more, the younger ones bore me, older perhaps???

There were times being single when I tried to bury my needs practicing more sports than I used to, but I began to get out of control, the sex drive increased a lot.

**cryonox** · 10-24-2011, 10:10 AM

any good plans to get a fuck buddy? never had one and i find the idea of a gf off putting at the moment.

**thesorehead** · 10-24-2011, 10:10 AM

single for ~4 years now. Only ever had one short lived relationship so single life is my baseline. Very easy to live with, although the one thing I do miss is snuggling together. If anything, I think I'd have to develop some sort of coping strategy if I ever pair-bonded! :--P

**INTJV** · 10-24-2011, 11:39 AM

Find an all-consuming hobby and pursue it with every fiber of your being. Then, find more of them. By the time you acquire a few (I'm at four right now and five's just around the corner), your interest will be on partaking in those hobbies rather than on the pursuit of a relationship.

Four and a half years single and I've never been happier!
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**AnaK** · 10-24-2011, 11:50 AM

I don't think it is so horrible. Especially if you have friends you can meet occasionally and a dog to snuggle with.

ManWithNoName · 10-24-2011, 11:53 AM

Originally Posted by INTJV
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Find an all-consuming hobby and pursue it with every fiber of your being. Then, find more of them. By the time you acquire a few (I'm at four right now and five's just around the corner), your interest will be on partaking in those hobbies rather than on the pursuit of a relationship.

Four and a half years single and I've never been happier!
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This bears merit.

You're probably lonely because you're bored. Boredom tends to make anybody lonely, even people in relationships. Try developing some hobbies and different activities to not drive away the boredom, and the loneliness will probably follow.

**paperclip** · 10-24-2011, 11:54 AM

Someone should make a thread "How do you cope with being in a relationship"?

ManWithNoName · 10-24-2011, 11:57 AM

	Originally Posted by paperclip To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	Someone should make a thread "How do you cope with being in a relationship"?

Yeah, after being single for so long and having so many ingrained and developed hobbies and different activities I was just thinking the same thing. It's like fuck, I've got a hell of a lot of stuff that's going to have to be 'meshed' together if I'm going to be in a relationship and I have a feeling it's not going to be easy.

**Polymath20** · 10-24-2011, 12:07 PM

Originally Posted by JackCY
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How do you cope with being single?
Loneliness, nobody to share your life with, nobody to hug/snuggle/cuddle/...
Anything that comes to your mind.

What do you do, what helps you, how do you deal with it.

If you can please state how long have you been single.
I know there are some of you that are single for a really long time and I would like to know how you survive it
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I typically go for about 4 years between relationships, if history is anything to go by. I remember the desperation that was taking over my life just over a year ago.

Anyways, the advice is the same as I just wrote on another thread - get out there and get exposure. Pester all the friends you have to see what they are doing and step outside your comfort zone. You might meet someone or someone might introduce you. But don't got out with the intent of finding your soul mate. Go out with the intent of having a good time and the rest will fall into place.

Oh, and when you do find someone you want nom on, pursue!

Or join an online dating site and be honest and sincere.

**SteppingStone** · 10-24-2011, 12:28 PM

24 years old, 24 years single.
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As others have said, 'hobbies' is the best answer to this question, especially if you include learning under that banner.

Don't forget pure entertainment. The volume is staggering: there are enough books and TV shows and games and movies to keep anyone entertained for a long time, and more is produced every minute.

Just avoid romantic comedies and whatnot, they're depressing.

**AnaK** · 10-24-2011, 12:34 PM

I love romantic comedies!!

**FeralEmployee** · 10-24-2011, 12:35 PM

Almost 24 years old, almost 24 years single. And hell, I've been classified as attractive (I just hardly ever go out).

There's way too much information out there to feel down, must process it all... Seriously, just reading a scientific article makes my heart rush. When I received my first "Nature" magazine at 23'ish, I almost shed a tear, for it would become, and is a fruitful and deep bond.

Despite that, I admit to reading a lot lately on dating and relationships, etc... out of curiosity. I'd like to know what the sentiments are like, out there. Got dragged into the vast volumes of chitchat when looking at grooming techniques for men.

**Claudus** · 10-24-2011, 12:39 PM

I've always been single.

Get to know yourself and take care of yourself. Explore the world, grow your passions and interests, exercise and lead a healthy lifestyle, improve yourself constantly.

I'd prefer not to be alone, but none is the loneliest number... as long as you have yourself, you're not doing that bad.

**SteppingStone** · 10-24-2011, 12:41 PM

	Originally Posted by AnaK To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	I love romantic comedies!!

Ugh, no thanks. It's like a 90-minute reminder that you're alone as all hell.

**AnaK** · 10-24-2011, 12:44 PM

	Originally Posted by SteppingStone To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	Ugh, no thanks. It's like a 90-minute reminder that you're alone as all hell.

I don't know, it gives me faith that's it just a matter of time until Richard Gere moves next door and falls madly in love with me.
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**Fubudis** · 10-24-2011, 01:01 PM

If you're not happy being single, you won't be happy in a relationship either.

**SteppingStone** · 10-24-2011, 01:13 PM

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	I don't know, it gives me faith that's it just a matter of time until Richard Gere moves next door and falls madly in love with me. To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.

Hey, it's not impossible. The chances are non-zero.
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	If you're not happy being single, you won't be happy in a relationship either.

This is false.
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For some reason, people really dig the "you should to be happy with yourself" canard. I think it's silly. Plenty of lonely, unhappy people would be happier and healthier with compatible significant others.

**Polymath20** · 10-24-2011, 01:18 PM


	If you're not happy being single, you won't be happy in a relationship either.

This sentiment is generally more true of other situations that are comparable, i.e. if you're not happy in one relationship, why would you be happy in another? If you are unhappy with one job, why would be happy with another one just like it? It is not meant to compare different types of circumstances.

**Fubudis** · 10-24-2011, 01:21 PM

	Originally Posted by SteppingStone To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	For some reason, people really dig the "you should to be happy with yourself" canard. I think it's silly. Plenty of lonely, unhappy people would be happier and healthier with compatible significant others.

I misphrased the concept: relying on someone else for happiness is probably not the best idea given the number of ways that can blow up in your face.

**Foggers** · 10-24-2011, 03:41 PM

I have been single all my life. I have gotten used to it and have been thinking recently how since absolutely nothing has happened then it is probably too late.

Since I haven't had a gf or any kind of special relationship with a girl (not even close to thinking "yeah, I want to go out with her") I have no experience so I don't know what I am missing out on. I look at my friends who are in relationships and there are a lot of negatives and other things that don't appeal to me.

How I get through this life? A lot of video games, movies and other hobbies like photography and fitness. I am content with life.

**MisanthropeSias** · 10-24-2011, 05:02 PM

lol single for 17 years now (all my life lool)
Being a misanthrope I really couldn't adjust to having a significant other nor could I actually put any real effort to try and work on the relationship. If anything, to be honest, I'd only be in that kind of relationship for the sex. . . . sounds bad to some I know but whatever
I hardly consider very many people to even be friends, a significant other for me would probably be very hard to find to be honest. . . .but whatever.
I cope by realizing that I'm better off by myself and focusing solely on self-improvement than having to deal with an annoyance (in the form of a SO)

10-24-2011, 09:25 AM	#1
JackCY Core Member [108%] MBTI: INTj Join Date: Jan 2011 Posts: 4,320	How do you cope with being single? Loneliness, nobody to share your life with, nobody to hug/snuggle/cuddle/... Anything that comes to your mind. What do you do, what helps you, how do you deal with it. If you can please state how long have you been single. I know there are some of you that are single for a really long time and I would like to know how you survive it To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
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10-24-2011, 09:28 AM	#2
Seriously Core Member [496%] MBTI: ISTP Join Date: Apr 2009 Posts: 19,871	I have a kid, a cat and a fuck buddy. Everything I need. To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
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10-24-2011, 09:37 AM	#3
Necrosis Core Member [102%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Feb 2008 Posts: 4,113	You say cope like being single is a bad thing :-D Just go out and have fun. Meet people.
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10-24-2011, 09:57 AM	#4
Traverser Veteran Member [53%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Nov 2010 Posts: 2,143	Over three years single. How? I count my blessings and focus on my passions. What you do in life is what defines you.
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10-24-2011, 09:59 AM	#5
changos Member [48%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Apr 2008 Posts: 1,944	How? been busy doing everything every human must do despite being single or not. I have a big fun world inside my head, also in real life but yes sometimes is not enough. I'm 33, been single for almost 4 years now (the previous longest time was 5). I had a period in between with lots of activity but got bored. My next GF will be the 10th. Had a fuck buddy from time to time but that covered just a part of my needs. Would like to get a new fuck buddy now but women of my age want something more, the younger ones bore me, older perhaps??? There were times being single when I tried to bury my needs practicing more sports than I used to, but I began to get out of control, the sex drive increased a lot.
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10-24-2011, 10:10 AM	#6
cryonox New Member [01%] MBTI: XXXX Join Date: Oct 2011 Posts: 30	any good plans to get a fuck buddy? never had one and i find the idea of a gf off putting at the moment.
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10-24-2011, 10:10 AM	#7
thesorehead Member [20%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Jul 2011 Posts: 829	single for ~4 years now. Only ever had one short lived relationship so single life is my baseline. Very easy to live with, although the one thing I do miss is snuggling together. If anything, I think I'd have to develop some sort of coping strategy if I ever pair-bonded! :--P
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10-24-2011, 11:39 AM	#8
INTJV Member [04%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Sep 2011 Posts: 190	Find an all-consuming hobby and pursue it with every fiber of your being. Then, find more of them. By the time you acquire a few (I'm at four right now and five's just around the corner), your interest will be on partaking in those hobbies rather than on the pursuit of a relationship. Four and a half years single and I've never been happier! To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
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10-24-2011, 11:50 AM	#9
AnaK Core Member [116%] MBTI: XNFP Join Date: Jan 2011 Posts: 4,664	I don't think it is so horrible. Especially if you have friends you can meet occasionally and a dog to snuggle with.
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10-24-2011, 11:54 AM	#11
paperclip Member [37%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Aug 2009 Posts: 1,497	Someone should make a thread "How do you cope with being in a relationship"?
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10-24-2011, 12:28 PM	#14
SteppingStone Member [04%] MBTI: INFJ Join Date: Nov 2010 Posts: 175	24 years old, 24 years single. To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts. As others have said, 'hobbies' is the best answer to this question, especially if you include learning under that banner. Don't forget pure entertainment. The volume is staggering: there are enough books and TV shows and games and movies to keep anyone entertained for a long time, and more is produced every minute. Just avoid romantic comedies and whatnot, they're depressing.
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AnaK Core Member [116%] MBTI: XNFP Join Date: Jan 2011 Posts: 4,664	I love romantic comedies!!
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10-24-2011, 12:35 PM	#16
FeralEmployee Member [03%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Oct 2011 Posts: 149	Almost 24 years old, almost 24 years single. And hell, I've been classified as attractive (I just hardly ever go out). There's way too much information out there to feel down, must process it all... Seriously, just reading a scientific article makes my heart rush. When I received my first "Nature" magazine at 23'ish, I almost shed a tear, for it would become, and is a fruitful and deep bond. Despite that, I admit to reading a lot lately on dating and relationships, etc... out of curiosity. I'd like to know what the sentiments are like, out there. Got dragged into the vast volumes of chitchat when looking at grooming techniques for men.
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10-24-2011, 12:39 PM	#17
Claudus Member [15%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Aug 2009 Posts: 615	I've always been single. Get to know yourself and take care of yourself. Explore the world, grow your passions and interests, exercise and lead a healthy lifestyle, improve yourself constantly. I'd prefer not to be alone, but none is the loneliest number... as long as you have yourself, you're not doing that bad.
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10-24-2011, 01:01 PM	#20
Fubudis Veteran Member [67%] MBTI: iXTp Join Date: Oct 2010 Posts: 2,718	If you're not happy being single, you won't be happy in a relationship either.
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10-24-2011, 03:41 PM	#24
Foggers Member [03%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: May 2011 Posts: 133	I have been single all my life. I have gotten used to it and have been thinking recently how since absolutely nothing has happened then it is probably too late. Since I haven't had a gf or any kind of special relationship with a girl (not even close to thinking "yeah, I want to go out with her") I have no experience so I don't know what I am missing out on. I look at my friends who are in relationships and there are a lot of negatives and other things that don't appeal to me. How I get through this life? A lot of video games, movies and other hobbies like photography and fitness. I am content with life.
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10-24-2011, 05:02 PM	#25
MisanthropeSias Banned MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Oct 2011 Posts: 14	lol single for 17 years now (all my life lool) Being a misanthrope I really couldn't adjust to having a significant other nor could I actually put any real effort to try and work on the relationship. If anything, to be honest, I'd only be in that kind of relationship for the sex. . . . sounds bad to some I know but whatever I hardly consider very many people to even be friends, a significant other for me would probably be very hard to find to be honest. . . .but whatever. I cope by realizing that I'm better off by myself and focusing solely on self-improvement than having to deal with an annoyance (in the form of a SO)
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