The ideal man - Page 2

**irini** · 10-06-2010, 11:16 PM

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	The ideal man doesn't exist. Or he is me. Point.

A kitten doing water skiing wearing huge boots reminds me a bit the story of the puss in boots. The ideal man!... I don't think so! Potential ideal man.... maybe!

**peachclouds** · 10-06-2010, 11:19 PM

lets just say size matters.

**irini** · 10-07-2010, 04:22 AM

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	lets just say size matters.

Does it? So much?

**Ilara** · 10-07-2010, 11:55 AM

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	Does it? So much?

Magnus vir
"A great [big?] man"

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Nah, the ideal man is a real one, not the ideal one in anybody's head. Real version of imaginary man always trumps imaginary one. Apologies to any imaginary friends.

I love paradoxes. XD

**peachclouds** · 10-07-2010, 01:51 PM

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	Does it? So much?

for me, it does. i was with a guy who i had a lot of feelings for, but when i discovered he didn’t have enough...eh hem, girth, i knew it wasn’t going to be long term. i guess im looking for the total package if you get my drift.

but i guess to be more specific in what i look for in a man, is independence. A man who has his own money and is confident enough in his manhood to not be intimidated by a woman who is succesfful and is financially secure.

some might think im vain, i say i just know what i want and wont settle.

**gabnelson** · 10-07-2010, 06:00 PM

	Originally Posted by irini To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	Does it? So much?

I don't think it has to but it depends on the guy. If the guy is smaller but he is sexy and he can work what he's got then it's all good. Sex starts in the brain and if the dude makes me hot, with the way he carries himself and he's confident the sex can be great. Intercourse isn't the only way to orgasm :-)

But the ideal guy for me would be one that loves & likes me just how I am with a minor tweek here or there. I am open to different personality types I would think because it would seem that having someone just like me would be boring. However, I would like a dude that isn't afraid to talk to me and doesn't feel the need to win arguments or compete with me. I want a man brave enough to tell me when I am wrong. Most of the time I debate because I enjoy the exploration of debate and the different ideas that result. Most people seem to consider debate a bad thing like someone has to win and someone has to lose. I never care about winning or losing, only about coming to a logical rational conclusion that can be used as a basis from which to continue learning. It seems the hang up with me is that men need to feel needed and they don't seem to feel needed around me ;-(

**irini** · 10-09-2010, 08:33 AM

Usually a debate between a man and a woman is like they speak two different languages. A man uses logical arguments while woman prefer emotional tricks.
Whould that made ideal the man that uses emotional tricks as well?

psykhe · 10-09-2010, 08:40 AM

INTP. I am always drawn to INTPs haha

**storm eyes** · 10-09-2010, 08:41 AM

I don't know that I believe in an ideal but I do believe in the "One".

**Zsych** · 10-09-2010, 01:10 PM

The words that came to my mind were: strong and sensitive.

Strong and capable and sensitive to a woman's needs as well. Someone who despite having everything can still cherish her and need her.

...Actually sounds like what an SFJ woman would want on second thought.

**OrangeAppled** · 10-09-2010, 05:28 PM

Ideal for me would mean warm demeanor, kind, intelligent (like BOOK SMART intelligent), witty, cultured / likes the arts, spiritual, high moral integrity, well-dressed, good-looking (but not intimidatingly so), more structured & outgoing than me, responsible with some ambition/goals, is passionate about something, and bonus points for good music taste & interest in travel.

I think this sounds like: ENFJ :P

**INTJoe** · 10-09-2010, 06:57 PM

I don't think it matters for women. Any man with functioning equipment is ideal, since no matter what flaws come with that man... they can change him. lol

**CoMpLiCaTeD** · 10-09-2010, 08:11 PM

Women!

**irini** · 10-10-2010, 06:41 AM

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	Women!

I don't get that comment!

I would say in reply: Men!

**irini** · 10-22-2010, 01:32 AM

But I wonder - what is it more important for women about a man :
His appearance or his intelligence? (I suppose both could make a good match- but in case a woman had to choose? What she would choose?)

**GettingBetter** · 10-22-2010, 03:57 PM

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	Anyway the ideal man for me would be the one who finds me the ideal woman. Who really knows me and finds me the ideal woman I should say.

I would add "Who really knows me and STILL finds me the ideal woman".

	Originally Posted by Zsych To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
	The words that came to my mind were: strong and sensitive. Strong and capable and sensitive to a woman's needs as well. Someone who despite having everything can still cherish her and need her.

These descriptions are perfect. I'll let you know when my angel appears.

**irini** · 10-22-2010, 09:19 PM

Girls, I'm asking about "characteristics" of a person who could have been the ideal man!
Powerful, intelligent, strong, successfull, compasionate, sensitive, talkative... I don't know. Characteristics, so that I can see if there are any characteristics in common that women find ideal in to man.
OK! Let me go first.
1. Intelligence
2. Competence
3. Humour
4. Understanding
5. Persistence
These are the most important characteristics of an ideal man for me. Now is your turn!

**INTroJect** · 10-22-2010, 09:40 PM

Hmmm.
1. Short (but not too much)
2. Stocky (but not fat)
3. Smart (but not brainy)
4. Passionate
5. I seem to only pair up with men who speak a language that I cant speak. Then I pander to their every whim until I have finished absorbing the language. Then its Wham, Bam, see ya Sam.
6. Attractive (but not pretty)
7. Sometimes I find ugly to be attractive but not for a relationship. In spanish its called Morboso but im not sure what the equivalent would be in english.
8. Masculine. He can be somewhat fem but not petty/caddy/childish/pretentious. I had a turkish boyfriend who was somewhat fem but he fit all the other characteristics that I didnt mind. He was a raging bull in bed but his F function was exhausting.
9. But It would be grand if I could just have Leo the Argentinian back. Bastard took my heart, crushed it to peices and tossed it into the gutter.

10-06-2010, 11:19 PM	#27
peachclouds New Member [01%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Oct 2010 Posts: 42	lets just say size matters.
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10-09-2010, 08:33 AM	#32
irini Core Member [183%] MBTI: ENFP Join Date: Jul 2010 Posts: 7,322	Usually a debate between a man and a woman is like they speak two different languages. A man uses logical arguments while woman prefer emotional tricks. Whould that made ideal the man that uses emotional tricks as well?
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10-09-2010, 08:40 AM	#33
psykhe Core Member [236%] MBTI: iNfJ Join Date: Oct 2010 Posts: 9,463	INTP. I am always drawn to INTPs haha
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10-09-2010, 08:41 AM	#34
storm eyes Core Member [146%] MBTI: INFJ Join Date: Aug 2010 Posts: 5,863	I don't know that I believe in an ideal but I do believe in the "One".
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10-09-2010, 01:10 PM	#35
Zsych Core Member [309%] MBTI: XNTX Join Date: Apr 2009 Posts: 12,366	The words that came to my mind were: strong and sensitive. Strong and capable and sensitive to a woman's needs as well. Someone who despite having everything can still cherish her and need her. ...Actually sounds like what an SFJ woman would want on second thought.
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10-09-2010, 05:28 PM	#36
OrangeAppled Member [07%] MBTI: INFP Join Date: Aug 2010 Posts: 284	Ideal for me would mean warm demeanor, kind, intelligent (like BOOK SMART intelligent), witty, cultured / likes the arts, spiritual, high moral integrity, well-dressed, good-looking (but not intimidatingly so), more structured & outgoing than me, responsible with some ambition/goals, is passionate about something, and bonus points for good music taste & interest in travel. I think this sounds like: ENFJ :P
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10-09-2010, 06:57 PM	#37
INTJoe Veteran Member [75%] MBTI: INTj Join Date: Oct 2007 Posts: 3,009	I don't think it matters for women. Any man with functioning equipment is ideal, since no matter what flaws come with that man... they can change him. lol
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10-09-2010, 08:11 PM	#38
CoMpLiCaTeD Member [04%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Oct 2010 Posts: 165	Women!
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10-22-2010, 01:32 AM	#40
irini Core Member [183%] MBTI: ENFP Join Date: Jul 2010 Posts: 7,322	But I wonder - what is it more important for women about a man : His appearance or his intelligence? (I suppose both could make a good match- but in case a woman had to choose? What she would choose?)
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10-22-2010, 09:19 PM	#42
irini Core Member [183%] MBTI: ENFP Join Date: Jul 2010 Posts: 7,322	Girls, I'm asking about "characteristics" of a person who could have been the ideal man! Powerful, intelligent, strong, successfull, compasionate, sensitive, talkative... I don't know. Characteristics, so that I can see if there are any characteristics in common that women find ideal in to man. OK! Let me go first. 1. Intelligence 2. Competence 3. Humour 4. Understanding 5. Persistence These are the most important characteristics of an ideal man for me. Now is your turn!
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10-22-2010, 09:40 PM	#43
INTroJect Core Member [190%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Nov 2007 Posts: 7,622	Hmmm. 1. Short (but not too much) 2. Stocky (but not fat) 3. Smart (but not brainy) 4. Passionate 5. I seem to only pair up with men who speak a language that I cant speak. Then I pander to their every whim until I have finished absorbing the language. Then its Wham, Bam, see ya Sam. 6. Attractive (but not pretty) 7. Sometimes I find ugly to be attractive but not for a relationship. In spanish its called Morboso but im not sure what the equivalent would be in english. 8. Masculine. He can be somewhat fem but not petty/caddy/childish/pretentious. I had a turkish boyfriend who was somewhat fem but he fit all the other characteristics that I didnt mind. He was a raging bull in bed but his F function was exhausting. 9. But It would be grand if I could just have Leo the Argentinian back. Bastard took my heart, crushed it to peices and tossed it into the gutter.
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