Would you prefer ESFP or ENFP? Why? - Page 2

**kwannyl** · 07-19-2010, 03:38 PM

Two very special people turned out to be ENFPs which I found quite satisfying.
This idea that an ENFP can make me act more human and expressive of my emotions is amazing but in the back of my mind, I am hesitant about having a deeper relationship with an ENFP.
When it comes to calling services, paying for bills and finishing small tasks, I have no willpower. I am not certain whether I trust the ENFP to remind me, or even be aware of such things to exist.
In terms of compatibility, I can't go wrong with an ENFP but in practicality, doesn't seem very viable.

**ElstonGunn** · 07-19-2010, 03:54 PM

I haven't known too many of either type, but ESFPs usually strike me as being much more interesting. My guess is that it's related largely to how different they can be from me, in nearly every aspect of their character more so than any inherent qualities about either type of person-- if I weren't an INTJ, ESFPs probably wouldn't seem so fascinating to me.

Of course, there's a line somewhere between "interestingly different" and "incompatible in real life circumstances." But I haven't seen any major influence on the odds of difference turning into incompatibility based solely off of a one-letter difference in type.

**True Rune** · 07-19-2010, 03:57 PM

ENFPs, at least one on one. They tend to have that narcissism we INTJs sometimes have, but if you're not totally boring them they'll listen.

**Amphorian** · 07-19-2010, 04:02 PM

I never met an ESFP that I got along with swimmingly. ENFPs on the other hand I do very well with. They're balls of fun, but not the "norm" fun. Which I think marks the difference. I'm sure there are ESFPs out there that do deviate from social norms, but for the most part they don't. Instead they go along for the ride (like the partying) more so then an ENFP would.

ENFPs for the win.
(And that is stereotypical as I'll get today)

**Cincinnatus** · 07-19-2010, 09:27 PM

The last ESFP I dated was sensory overload: party, party, party. While I understand it's important not to rule out anyone due to their MBTI type, this is a good general rule for me. If I had to choose, I think I'd have better odds with the ENFP. The intuitive common thread makes for better discussions.

**Shagrath** · 07-20-2010, 02:16 AM

ENFPs all the way. I have not met an ESFP so far that understands me or interests me, and although, as has been previously said, choosing partners based on MBTI is illogical, all ENFPs I've met so far (just 3, to my sorrow) have clicked with me marvelously well. Most ESFPs just hate me.
That being said, I'd rather go with a social and outgoing INFP than an ENFP. Being introverted/ambiverted makes it easier to handle a highly introverted person such as myself. An ambivert could both be extroverted when required (as in, dragging my ass to social events) and introverted when required (one on one situation, understanding and respecting the need to be alone, etc).

**Supaslim** · 07-20-2010, 02:27 AM

ENFPs, always. Nothing against ESFPs, but I don't give a rat's ass about fashion or partying or who that famous actor is dating now or if so-and-so put on twenty pounds over the summer (all the ESFPs I've met are like that). Plus, I have never met an ESFP who didn't just tolerate but enjoyed my company and strange sense of humor.

On the other hand, I've never known an ENFP I didn't like, and they tend to be more friendly with me than most other people. Plus, their bubbly, quirky happiness is contagious.

**Yosako** · 07-20-2010, 07:21 AM

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	ENFPs all the way. I have not met an ESFP so far that understands me or interests me, and although, as has been previously said, choosing partners based on MBTI is illogical, all ENFPs I've met so far (just 3, to my sorrow) have clicked with me marvelously well. Most ESFPs just hate me.

Not illogical. Huh. Try pairing an INTP with some SJ - the odds of that "working" are pretty much into lotto territory.

**HereticForLife** · 07-20-2010, 09:36 AM

I can't stand either. Too unpredictable, spontaneous, and shallow. A bit of spontaneity, I enjoy, but nowhere near the amount of it that ExFP's do. My experience with them, especially ESFPs, has shown me that they are generally quite hypocritical and very willing to act on random whims (regardless of how utterly idiotic they are). If I had to choose the lesser of two evils, however, I'd choose the ENFP. I couldn't even conceive of a relationship with any of the female ESFP's I know in real life.

**Deliberator** · 07-20-2010, 10:35 AM

ENFP hands down. They're about 8 billion times more interesting.

**katrin** · 07-20-2010, 10:45 AM

I'd probably be more attracted to an ENFP guy than an ESFP, in that, if I had to be with a "P" (*shudder*...I've got enough "P" within myself), I'd prefer he be intuitive.

ENFPs are interesting conversationalists in my experience, and that's important to me. I haven't met many ESFPs of either gender, though, so I could be wrong about them. The one probable ESFP man I dated was a total nightmare, though....

**JulietCapulet** · 07-20-2010, 11:15 AM

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I can't stand either. Too unpredictable, spontaneous, and shallow. A bit of spontaneity, I enjoy, but nowhere near the amount of it that ExFP's do. My experience with them, especially ESFPs, has shown me that they are generally quite hypocritical and very willing to act on random whims (regardless of how utterly idiotic they are). If I had to choose the lesser of two evils, however, I'd choose the ENFP. I couldn't even conceive of a relationship with any of the female ESFP's I know in real life.

Whoah, whoah, whoah.......hold on there. As someone who is Oxford and public ivy educated please be careful calling ENFPs shallow. Thank you. Just take it easy.

**invicta** · 07-20-2010, 11:27 AM

ENFP, no contest.

**cheerbear** · 07-20-2010, 11:35 AM

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	Whoah, whoah, whoah.......hold on there. As someone who is Oxford and public ivy educated please be careful calling ENFPs shallow. Thank you. Just take it easy.

JulietCapulet, do you really not see the irony of this?

*You* asked for stereotypes, not only here but in all your threads pretty much. Yet when someone gives their opinion which you asked for, you tell them to stop when it's something you don't like.

Plus, Oxford and ivy education have absolutely nothing to do with why anyone should consider your opinion over another's. They are all opinions, after all and you just discarded someone else's unjustifiably.

This is an internet discussion forum, and as such, individuals are discussing their experiences and viewpoints. Why you choose to look at what they say and take it so personally, I find confusing. I'm an ENFP as well and I looked at his statement, laughed, and thought "poor guy, he's probably never met a mature ENFP yet, hope he gets to soon!"

The funniest and most ironic thing that I find in this thread is that I absolutely adore [mature] ESFPs and my best friend of 20 years is one. So which would I prefer, ENFP or ESFP? Judging from this thread, ESFP.

**Mahgol** · 07-20-2010, 11:35 AM

I can only have relationships with INTXs and ISTPs, but if I were forced to, I would most probably choose ENFPs over ESFPs, and the reason is simply because I feel ESFPs are too much involved in life while ENFPs are able to look outside the box.

**Shagrath** · 07-20-2010, 11:40 AM

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	Not illogical. Huh. Try pairing an INTP with some SJ - the odds of that "working" are pretty much into lotto territory.

Well, although most ESFPs hate me, I've met one with whom I shared a slight reciprocal "like", and I've gotten along swellingly with types such as ESFJs, ISTJs, and other Ss, given that they were all type mature.

**probity** · 07-20-2010, 05:24 PM

To generalize:

ENFP's. They're just... amazing. I would go one but I might start gushing and then I'd have to shoot myself.

Though I admire, and am sometimes left in awe of, our differences I just don't understand ESFP's. Communication with them does not work properly so I just admire their shininess from afar.

**irini** · 07-22-2010, 02:27 PM

But dear Philantropist that's what is all magic about. There so different from you. That's why they are so... interesting.

**JTG** · 07-22-2010, 03:00 PM

ESFPs throw better parties

**Dru** · 07-22-2010, 06:45 PM

argh, they're both so tiring... i could handle their introverted counterparts with much less strain. having said that, the NFs i know tend to just expect you to know how they feel, while the SFs i know make their feelings pretty apparent, so i'd have to say SF. it's so god damn tiring trying to figure out how someone feels all the time.

**Synamon** · 08-04-2010, 01:25 PM

ESFP, since it's closest to ESPN.

**Plethora** · 08-04-2010, 01:34 PM

Always N over S. S people piss me off pretty quickly.

**theroyallynx** · 05-20-2013, 01:58 AM

I'm pretty sure I'm an enfp an I can be pretty calculating when it comes to my emotions which fits with the intuitive feeling thang going on. "we only let on the emotions we want you to see."

**zibber** · 05-20-2013, 03:19 AM

Let on some commas

**scorpiomover** · 05-20-2013, 03:24 AM

I have no idea, personally. I'd have to meet several ENFP women who are interested in dating me, and several ESFP women who are interested in dating me, to decide.

07-19-2010, 03:38 PM	#26
kwannyl New Member [01%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Jul 2010 Posts: 5	Two very special people turned out to be ENFPs which I found quite satisfying. This idea that an ENFP can make me act more human and expressive of my emotions is amazing but in the back of my mind, I am hesitant about having a deeper relationship with an ENFP. When it comes to calling services, paying for bills and finishing small tasks, I have no willpower. I am not certain whether I trust the ENFP to remind me, or even be aware of such things to exist. In terms of compatibility, I can't go wrong with an ENFP but in practicality, doesn't seem very viable.
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07-19-2010, 03:54 PM	#27
ElstonGunn Core Member [152%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Jan 2008 Posts: 6,093	I haven't known too many of either type, but ESFPs usually strike me as being much more interesting. My guess is that it's related largely to how different they can be from me, in nearly every aspect of their character more so than any inherent qualities about either type of person-- if I weren't an INTJ, ESFPs probably wouldn't seem so fascinating to me. Of course, there's a line somewhere between "interestingly different" and "incompatible in real life circumstances." But I haven't seen any major influence on the odds of difference turning into incompatibility based solely off of a one-letter difference in type.
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07-19-2010, 03:57 PM	#28
True Rune Core Member [201%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Apr 2008 Posts: 8,062	ENFPs, at least one on one. They tend to have that narcissism we INTJs sometimes have, but if you're not totally boring them they'll listen.
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07-19-2010, 04:02 PM	#29
Amphorian Core Member [311%] MBTI: ISTP Join Date: May 2009 Posts: 12,457	I never met an ESFP that I got along with swimmingly. ENFPs on the other hand I do very well with. They're balls of fun, but not the "norm" fun. Which I think marks the difference. I'm sure there are ESFPs out there that do deviate from social norms, but for the most part they don't. Instead they go along for the ride (like the partying) more so then an ENFP would. ENFPs for the win. (And that is stereotypical as I'll get today)
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07-19-2010, 09:27 PM	#30
Cincinnatus Core Member [178%] MBTI: ENTJ Join Date: Apr 2009 Posts: 7,144	The last ESFP I dated was sensory overload: party, party, party. While I understand it's important not to rule out anyone due to their MBTI type, this is a good general rule for me. If I had to choose, I think I'd have better odds with the ENFP. The intuitive common thread makes for better discussions.
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07-20-2010, 02:16 AM	#31
Shagrath Banned MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Jul 2010 Posts: 275	ENFPs all the way. I have not met an ESFP so far that understands me or interests me, and although, as has been previously said, choosing partners based on MBTI is illogical, all ENFPs I've met so far (just 3, to my sorrow) have clicked with me marvelously well. Most ESFPs just hate me. That being said, I'd rather go with a social and outgoing INFP than an ENFP. Being introverted/ambiverted makes it easier to handle a highly introverted person such as myself. An ambivert could both be extroverted when required (as in, dragging my ass to social events) and introverted when required (one on one situation, understanding and respecting the need to be alone, etc).
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07-20-2010, 02:27 AM	#32
Supaslim Member [15%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: May 2010 Posts: 627	ENFPs, always. Nothing against ESFPs, but I don't give a rat's ass about fashion or partying or who that famous actor is dating now or if so-and-so put on twenty pounds over the summer (all the ESFPs I've met are like that). Plus, I have never met an ESFP who didn't just tolerate but enjoyed my company and strange sense of humor. On the other hand, I've never known an ENFP I didn't like, and they tend to be more friendly with me than most other people. Plus, their bubbly, quirky happiness is contagious.
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07-20-2010, 09:36 AM	#34
HereticForLife Member [06%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Dec 2009 Posts: 277	I can't stand either. Too unpredictable, spontaneous, and shallow. A bit of spontaneity, I enjoy, but nowhere near the amount of it that ExFP's do. My experience with them, especially ESFPs, has shown me that they are generally quite hypocritical and very willing to act on random whims (regardless of how utterly idiotic they are). If I had to choose the lesser of two evils, however, I'd choose the ENFP. I couldn't even conceive of a relationship with any of the female ESFP's I know in real life.
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07-20-2010, 10:35 AM	#35
Deliberator Core Member [122%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Sep 2008 Posts: 4,884	ENFP hands down. They're about 8 billion times more interesting.
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07-20-2010, 10:45 AM	#36
katrin Core Member [191%] MBTI: INFP Join Date: Mar 2010 Posts: 7,668	I'd probably be more attracted to an ENFP guy than an ESFP, in that, if I had to be with a "P" (shudder...I've got enough "P" within myself), I'd prefer he be intuitive. ENFPs are interesting conversationalists in my experience, and that's important to me. I haven't met many ESFPs of either gender, though, so I could be wrong about them. The one probable ESFP man I dated was a total nightmare, though....
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07-20-2010, 11:27 AM	#38
invicta Member [24%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Sep 2008 Posts: 991	ENFP, no contest.
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07-20-2010, 11:35 AM	#40
Mahgol Member [04%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Dec 2009 Posts: 177	I can only have relationships with INTXs and ISTPs, but if I were forced to, I would most probably choose ENFPs over ESFPs, and the reason is simply because I feel ESFPs are too much involved in life while ENFPs are able to look outside the box.
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07-20-2010, 05:24 PM	#42
probity Member [21%] MBTI: ISTP Join Date: Oct 2008 Posts: 857	To generalize: ENFP's. They're just... amazing. I would go one but I might start gushing and then I'd have to shoot myself. Though I admire, and am sometimes left in awe of, our differences I just don't understand ESFP's. Communication with them does not work properly so I just admire their shininess from afar.
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07-22-2010, 02:27 PM	#43
irini Core Member [188%] MBTI: eNFx Join Date: Jul 2010 Posts: 7,526	But dear Philantropist that's what is all magic about. There so different from you. That's why they are so... interesting.
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07-22-2010, 03:00 PM	#44
JTG Core Member [246%] MBTI: INFJ Join Date: Jan 2008 Posts: 9,844	ESFPs throw better parties
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07-22-2010, 06:45 PM	#45
Dru Core Member [251%] MBTI: INTP Join Date: Oct 2009 Posts: 10,069	argh, they're both so tiring... i could handle their introverted counterparts with much less strain. having said that, the NFs i know tend to just expect you to know how they feel, while the SFs i know make their feelings pretty apparent, so i'd have to say SF. it's so god damn tiring trying to figure out how someone feels all the time.
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08-04-2010, 01:25 PM	#46
Synamon Core Member [465%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: May 2008 Posts: 18,616	ESFP, since it's closest to ESPN.
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08-04-2010, 01:34 PM	#47
Plethora Member [05%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Jun 2010 Posts: 217	Always N over S. S people piss me off pretty quickly.
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05-20-2013, 01:58 AM	#48
theroyallynx New Member [01%] MBTI: xnfx Join Date: May 2013 Posts: 2	I'm pretty sure I'm an enfp an I can be pretty calculating when it comes to my emotions which fits with the intuitive feeling thang going on. "we only let on the emotions we want you to see."
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05-20-2013, 03:19 AM	#49
zibber Core Member [408%] MBTI: INTJ Join Date: Mar 2008 Posts: 16,343	Let on some commas
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05-20-2013, 03:24 AM	#50
scorpiomover Core Member [115%] MBTI: INTP Join Date: Jul 2011 Posts: 4,629	I have no idea, personally. I'd have to meet several ENFP women who are interested in dating me, and several ESFP women who are interested in dating me, to decide.
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